Why he acts like that and any hope on exbf back?
This topic was created in the Aries forum by 948158 on Tuesday, February 25, 2014 and has 4 replies.
i was with my boyfriend for more then a year and 7 months. We had a huge argument near the end of december, because i said no to sex. The he got super mad, said all these mean things, then wanted to rethink the relationship, he usually does that alot when i say no to something physical, but he never means it, then goes back to normal, for the first time, he got so angry that he made me walk home in the night, cold, told me to get out of the house, after i said no to that, said im a great girlfriend, but he needs time to figure things about regarding on a descion to make between us. Anyways a week later after that argument, he broke up with me because his feelings changed and his love for me is not as strong as before through a friend first, then texted me that, which made me mad, but he agreed to explain to me in person, since he does want to be friends with me after this. He still loves me and cares about me alot, and wants me in his life plus remain friends for now to see what happens. We both tried our hardest on eachother,and longest relationship. A week later after that,on my birthday, he texted me saying he loves me, telling me lovey dovey stuff, complimenting me, then says he wants to have sex with me.I asked him is that all he wants from me, he said yes and no. He then said he was joking about wanting to have sex with me and hes fine with none of that extra stuff happening, inorder for us to stay friends.
2 weeks later, I saw him, since we have mutual friends, i was really mad and was ignoring him. He kept trying to mess with me, then when I wasn??t giving him any attention, the next day, he said, hes sorry for everything and he misses and loves me. Then he came over next to me, I continued to ignore him and push him away because he was trying to kiss me, plus hold my hand, and cuddle. Then I asked him what does he want and he got mad and went away from me. Then after that, when I said well try to be friends considering his feelings for me are not as strong, he didn??t say anything. I said we can try to be friends considering hes the one that wanted this, and no extra stuff would happen, he agreed, .Then while i was walking back with him, he was holding my hand, hugging me, putting his arm around me, said he wanted to kiss me, was kissing on my neck and face, i pushed him away because he shouldn??t be doing that considering hes the one that wanted to be friends. He was then saying that he loves me and he wants me plus saying alot of lovey dov
2 weeks later, I saw him, since we have mutual friends, i was really mad and was ignoring him. He kept trying to mess with me, then when I wasn??t giving him any attention, the next day, he said, hes sorry for everything and he misses and loves me. Then he came over next to me, I continued to ignore him and push him away because he was trying to kiss me, plus hold my hand, and cuddle. Then I asked him what does he want and he got mad and went away from me. Then after that, when I said well try to be friends considering his feelings for me are not as strong, he didn??t say anything. I said we can try to be friends considering hes the one that wanted this, and no extra stuff would happen, he agreed, .Then while i was walking back with him, he was holding my hand, hugging me, putting his arm around me, said he wanted to kiss me, was kissing on my neck and face, i pushed him away because he shouldn??t be doing that considering hes the one that wanted to be friends. He was then saying that he loves me and he wants me plus saying alot of lovey dov
Posted by 948158
...but he agreed to explain to me in person, since he does want to be friends with me after this. He still loves me and cares about me alot, and wants me in his life plus remain friends for now to see what happens.
... to see if he's gonna get laid eventually, as in eat the cake and have it too, because obviousely he can't seem to get it anywhere else.
So any specific reason you decided to go on a sex-strike? Are you a Gem?
The Aries I used to write about used to get mad at me when I refused sex too. However the difference between my situation and yours is we were NOT in a relationship and I didn??t give it to him and stop; to me that is playing games with him. I was holding out period from the beginning because I didn??t want to get my feelings hurt, because I had already fallen in love with him and he was not ready for a relationship, we had been friends since we were kids and I felt I really needed to think things through before crossing the line with him AND I told him my reasons.
In your case, you were asking to get dumped. Unless there is something wrong with your ???V??, if you??re not burning, pregnant, or unless sex hurts you on health level you CANNOT deny a fire sign sex in a relationship without a valuable explanation. They WILL think you are either cheating or playing games. I mean really? Who doesn??t want to have sex with the person they are in a relationship with and love? Something else was going on, had to be. The Aries may be young minded but he is not stupid, none of them are, they see right through bull every time because Aries are most of the time so black and white there is no in between with them. In my opinion you started the mixed signals when you denied him sex without an explanation, all he did was follow suit.
In your case, you were asking to get dumped. Unless there is something wrong with your ???V??, if you??re not burning, pregnant, or unless sex hurts you on health level you CANNOT deny a fire sign sex in a relationship without a valuable explanation. They WILL think you are either cheating or playing games. I mean really? Who doesn??t want to have sex with the person they are in a relationship with and love? Something else was going on, had to be. The Aries may be young minded but he is not stupid, none of them are, they see right through bull every time because Aries are most of the time so black and white there is no in between with them. In my opinion you started the mixed signals when you denied him sex without an explanation, all he did was follow suit.
Posted by tiziani
I denied a fire sign sex in our relationship for many a time. Denied for lack of a better word. It wasn't games either. We just genuinely had bigger priorities to focus on at the time.
You said "WE" which sounds mutual. I'm talking they want and you dont, you'd need to explain. Honestly now that i think about that goes for all couples. If i had a man and he didn't want sex with me he'd better explain and it better be a good reason.
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