WILL HE BE DOWN?
This topic was created in the Aries forum by bornagain on Friday, March 13, 2009 and has 19 replies.
Hi am new here and i have a question for aries men, there is a guy at work "aries" who I know really likes me "pieces" , and i just KNOW that we would have some GREAT passionate sex, I do not want a serious relationship with him because I already have found "the one" only problem with that is that his "away" and will be for at lest another couple YEARS,
while am on my own burning in lust every-time i think about the aries,
my question is, are aries down for friends with benefits? would he think am a hoe, or lose respect for me cheating on my man or would he understand that am desperately lonely for male companionship and passionate sex?
am sure this will spoil the ideal he had of me in his head, I ve caught him staring at me with absolute love in his eyes!
while am on my own burning in lust every-time i think about the aries,
my question is, are aries down for friends with benefits? would he think am a hoe, or lose respect for me cheating on my man or would he understand that am desperately lonely for male companionship and passionate sex?
am sure this will spoil the ideal he had of me in his head, I ve caught him staring at me with absolute love in his eyes!
HAHA...I don't think he would think less of you. He of all people should understand how someone can get caught in the lust of the moment. Just be clear that you aren't going to leave "the one" and see if he just wants to have fun. In other words. Be direct and Ask!
Be direct and Ask!
Yes I think your right just be direct, only I dont want him to think low of me, how can I be certain that he wont?!
Yes I think your right just be direct, only I dont want him to think low of me, how can I be certain that he wont?!
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How much assurance do you need? He won't...the end. Your questioning speaks more about you than him...if you would rather carry this on in the dreamy world in your head, no one will judge you for it. If you want to blend reality with that dream, you are going to have to face the risk that it won't match. Thats all. How much is your risk tolerance?
hmmm...good point coveredinscars
though she is a pisces, her form of being "upfront" is going to be almost like a whisper to an aries...i wouldn't worry about her appearing too domineering...she just needs to flirt more obviously and talk to him...he'll do the rest as any red-blooded aries will!
though she is a pisces, her form of being "upfront" is going to be almost like a whisper to an aries...i wouldn't worry about her appearing too domineering...she just needs to flirt more obviously and talk to him...he'll do the rest as any red-blooded aries will!
i think you should totally hook up with the aries dude, i just think you should let him win you, just play pretend at least, you be the girl and let him be the dude,
thanks a lot for your input ,I really appreciate it, but am thinking wont he be hurt and not trust me again if he chases me down, only to find out that i already have a man? aint that leading him on?
I know if that were me i would be very hurt and angry with him. or do you think that i should let him know i have a man but his away from now,
he already knows i like him too theres a definite vibe between us
Posted by xonsie
hmmm...good point coveredinscars
though she is a pisces, her form of being "upfront" is going to be almost like a whisper to an aries...i wouldn't worry about her appearing too domineering...she just needs to flirt more obviously and talk to him...he'll do the rest as any red-blooded aries will!
thanks xonsie, actually he is shy around me sometimes, its me that does most of the talking, and your right I could NEVER be so raw and straight up ask to treetrunk of whatever u lot call it,
I know i can seduce him and make him think his in charge though under the right circumstances, but my biggest fear is losing his respect.
he was soo sweet today at work he was introducing me to another manager an he said "look after her or i will kill you!" i felt soo protected and cared for.
Will Aries regard you highly; not likely. But you don't want him to really; you just want to use him as a living sex toy. Why should he? You don't want him to get feelings and wreck your position with the one now do you?
not just sex actually I love him as a person too he makes me laugh and feel alive like no man ever before.
Why not find someone away from work to have the rendezvous if it is purely sex. They do not know you or where you work so is easier to disappear.
I wasnt going around LOOKING for someone to sleep with and I never will,
its a new job, we meet there is a very strong attraction, i have been waiting for my man FAITHFULLY for nearly 7 years,and still have a couple more to go,
no other man has tempted me like this.
Posted by coverdinscars
oh shit, i did not even notice that part, "you love him as a person" and he makes you laugh and feal like no other man before,
the reason i said that i love him as a person too, is because someone previously said that i just want him as a sex toy, i do love his personality I really ment to say,
theres pleanty of men i could call right now if it was just sex i wanted, but i find myself wanting him.
you have fallen for this dude, get real,and your woried about what he thinks of you and stuff and your woried about this "one" you have been holding in your mind for so long, just let all of this shit go and feal good,you cannot stop life from happening to you.
true, but i dont want to be hurt or hurt anyone either.
you like like this aries guy and it is OK ,it is good,it is wonderful,do something good for your self,and be honest about it,bring all of you to the table if you want to have good sex,
I sure do need to do something good for me, before aries i wasnt really living to my full potential, now i feel like with him by my side i can achieve anything,
Oh an my love life is far from shity i have a man whos in love with me and another who if not loves me then is REALLY feeling me, sexless yes in no way shity.
oh butter, i did not even notice that part, "you love him as a person" and he makes you laugh and feal like no other man before,
the reason i said that i love him as a person too, is because someone previously said that i just want him as a sex toy, i do love his personality I really ment to say,
theres pleanty of men i could call right now if it was just sex i wanted, but i find myself wanting him.
you have fallen for this dude, get real,and your woried about what he thinks of you and stuff and your woried about this "one" you have been holding in your mind for so long, just let all of this butter go and feal good,you cannot stop life from happening to you.
true, but i dont want to be hurt or hurt anyone either.
you like like this aries guy and it is OK ,it is good,it is wonderful,do something good for your self,and be honest about it,bring all of you to the table if you want to have good sex,
I sure do need to do something good for me, before aries i wasnt really living to my full potential, now i feel like with him by my side i can achieve anything,
Oh an my love life is far from buttery i have a man whos in love with me and another who if not loves me then is REALLY feeling me, sexless yes in no way buttery.
the reason i said that i love him as a person too, is because someone previously said that i just want him as a sex toy, i do love his personality I really ment to say,
theres pleanty of men i could call right now if it was just sex i wanted, but i find myself wanting him.
you have fallen for this dude, get real,and your woried about what he thinks of you and stuff and your woried about this "one" you have been holding in your mind for so long, just let all of this butter go and feal good,you cannot stop life from happening to you.
true, but i dont want to be hurt or hurt anyone either.
you like like this aries guy and it is OK ,it is good,it is wonderful,do something good for your self,and be honest about it,bring all of you to the table if you want to have good sex,
I sure do need to do something good for me, before aries i wasnt really living to my full potential, now i feel like with him by my side i can achieve anything,
Oh an my love life is far from buttery i have a man whos in love with me and another who if not loves me then is REALLY feeling me, sexless yes in no way buttery.
Hmmm...just caution from me...most guys don't mind if you are clear you are not interested in a relationship and just want to have fun if you tell them. What would be really cruel is if you flirted and made him fall for you without informing him that you have another. That I can see would make an Aries upset...being deceived and made to feel for someone already taken.
Be careful and either tell him upfront or don't proceed to flirt and draw out his feelings for you...he will be upset about the latter
Be careful and either tell him upfront or don't proceed to flirt and draw out his feelings for you...he will be upset about the latter
are aries down for friends with benefits?
hell yeah! Generally, Aries cares more that you're honest with them and you intentions rather than your sex life...
anywho, someone made the point I had in mind... if he's not the one, why do you care how he sees you? how did you recognise the absolute love in his eyes if you are not reciprocating?
I guess the 'one' has become 'two' ?
hell yeah! Generally, Aries cares more that you're honest with them and you intentions rather than your sex life...
anywho, someone made the point I had in mind... if he's not the one, why do you care how he sees you? how did you recognise the absolute love in his eyes if you are not reciprocating?
I guess the 'one' has become 'two' ?
zenalchemy ;if he's not the one, why do you care how he sees you?
bornagain; I care because i respect him, and when you see someone who looks at you the way he does, I dont want to disappoint him, I never want to see a look of disappointment in his eyes, that would crush me.
honestly a part of me right now is thinking not to tell him anything about my man, he properly wont find out anyway , why disappoint him?
anyway from what i been reading on aries men, he will properly get bored of me soon anyway, might as-well make the short time we will have drama free.
bornagain; I care because i respect him, and when you see someone who looks at you the way he does, I dont want to disappoint him, I never want to see a look of disappointment in his eyes, that would crush me.
honestly a part of me right now is thinking not to tell him anything about my man, he properly wont find out anyway , why disappoint him?
anyway from what i been reading on aries men, he will properly get bored of me soon anyway, might as-well make the short time we will have drama free.
hahahaha - you're taking this astro babble literarily it seems...
And you sound long gone in 'like' or whatever the term is, with this aries and you're trying to talk yourself out of it? hate to disappoint him? that sounds like parent/child relationship... you're having sex without commitment and wondering how he'll perceive you outside of the bedroom? and you don't want to disappoint him? seems like perception is your main worry here but you're greatly underestimating the after-effects of your actions... frankly, the whole thing sounds like you're patronising him... why? sounds like it's all about you to be honest, not such a bad thing for females this day and age i guess...
hoping he'll get bored of you because of his star sign? not bloody likely...
why do you think he won't find out about your man? you give the impression there's no one else?
oh it'll defo get drama-filled when he finds out if that's the case...
And you sound long gone in 'like' or whatever the term is, with this aries and you're trying to talk yourself out of it? hate to disappoint him? that sounds like parent/child relationship... you're having sex without commitment and wondering how he'll perceive you outside of the bedroom? and you don't want to disappoint him? seems like perception is your main worry here but you're greatly underestimating the after-effects of your actions... frankly, the whole thing sounds like you're patronising him... why? sounds like it's all about you to be honest, not such a bad thing for females this day and age i guess...
hoping he'll get bored of you because of his star sign? not bloody likely...
why do you think he won't find out about your man? you give the impression there's no one else?
oh it'll defo get drama-filled when he finds out if that's the case...
If the other guy is "The One" there she wouldn't be jumping in the sack with Aries. I couldn't think of another man touching me if there was "the one".
ANywho.. Zen is right. If Aries finds out there is "the One" you are in for it. LOL
ANywho.. Zen is right. If Aries finds out there is "the One" you are in for it. LOL
I suggest you stop fucking him.
If you have a boyfriend and flirt with an aries while your boyfirend is away, he willl be piussed
You have to be honest with him about having a boyfriend and this is not a serious relationship.
aries usually demand absolute loyalty in terms of relationship, and it is a form of cheating if he knows you have another partner.
you should tell him this. And if you don't have thge courage to tell him and want to continue on, be prepared for the consequences.
If you have a boyfriend and flirt with an aries while your boyfirend is away, he willl be piussed
You have to be honest with him about having a boyfriend and this is not a serious relationship.
aries usually demand absolute loyalty in terms of relationship, and it is a form of cheating if he knows you have another partner.
you should tell him this. And if you don't have thge courage to tell him and want to continue on, be prepared for the consequences.
well, i won't hit the girl or have her to have forced sex with me. I'll just walk away and do nothing.But I'll be really pissed about it.
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