Aquarius help please message number two

This topic was created in the Astrology How-To forum by Adescentguy on Thursday, August 4, 2016 and has 7 replies.
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So the morning of the day he goes away I ask him what time he's going. He responds and I leave it, then he says why? So I said well, sort of thinking of saying goodbye. He said how would you do that? After my response he says he feels horn with two weeks abstinence ahead. Anyway I go to his house. Again we chat cuddle and its very passionate before and after.

While we are cuddling he says a few times that he is glad I came round and that he feels safe and it heels natural. I said I would never heart him and he cuddled and said good. So we chatted about stuff and it all seemed great. He said why choose him and he pleased with my answer and I jokingly asked him and he told me...

Anyway as I leave he says that signal isn't great at his parents place so he'll text me when he gets back. So we part on a good note.

Two weeks later I level it a bot then I text him, evening. He responds..Hi sorry but not had a good holiday, my coming out didn't go as planned, so I don't have a place in France to go to and doesn't want to bother me with this, and thinks it best if we end it here, sorry lovely, take care.

Obviously shocked and wanting to understand and help I responded.

So sorry to hear that. Didn't know you weren't out etc. You wouldn't be bothering me with anything. To the contrary you can talk to me all you like about anything that concerns you. And so I can understand and perhaps help as a friend?

He responds..Please don't insist. I need to find myself and move forward, sorry for being selfish.

I said ok and ill always be here for you.


So after all that all my hidden feelings of many years came to the surface as I got close to him and obviously now devastated.

I fully understand space and wanting to deal with issues himself. I'm the same. But sort of wished he just said he needs a little space to deal with these new issues and that would be less upsetting rather than completely pushing me away. As genuinely I like to understand and help if I can.

Anyway, advice please.

Do I fully pull away, no communication and leave it for a couple of months and then just message him for sex, which would allow him to see me again and remind him what he misses.

Or wait for months until he texts me, somehow I think he might have thought I would have forgotten about him and not text me by then.

Or after a month just say hi?

I know that Aquarius men prefer actions to back up words. But how do I action without annoying him t be constructive?


Thanks all, Mark. 42
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Yes am a Cancer with Scorpio moon. I have learnt the heard way to be more distant and aloof. He did say that I haven't been heavy or pushed him but obviously he has had some recent issues on his plate which he needs to deal with.
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Posted by bumboklatt
Sounds like he saw right through you.


It sounds like you were not sure of the relationship and neither was he.


When you told him you might leave him, he made up his mind. Emotionally detached himself from the relationship.


We dont care who pays most attention to us or gives us more sex. We just want honesty, trust, freedom, and simplicity


Sex and affection isnt everything to Aquarius so just be honest with him, no games.
Hi, I didn't say I might leave him? Maybe spelling mistake or mis read something?

I've been very honest and upfront with him all the way, couldn't be more genuine.

After meeting, obviously my feelings started to develop and I wanted to be careful, give space but show interest at the same time.

I offered my friendship and help, discussion to understand as I feel communication is important to get to know each other. But I respected his space and suggested stuff and left it rather than push.
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Posted by bumboklatt
Posted by Adescentguy
Posted by bumboklatt
Sounds like he saw right through you.


It sounds like you were not sure of the relationship and neither was he.


When you told him you might leave him, he made up his mind. Emotionally detached himself from the relationship.


We dont care who pays most attention to us or gives us more sex. We just want honesty, trust, freedom, and simplicity


Sex and affection isnt everything to Aquarius so just be honest with him, no games.





Hi, I didn't say I might leave him? Maybe spelling mistake or mis read something?

I've been very honest and upfront with him all the way, couldn't be more genuine.

After meeting, obviously my feelings started to develop and I wanted to be careful, give space but show interest at the same time.

I offered my friendship and help, discussion to understand as I feel communication is important to get to know each other. But I respected his space and suggested stuff and left it rather than push.
He probably likes you but is afraid of commitment. Not rare for aquarius.


Dont get hurt tho cause Aquas love to have sex and not commit


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He made it very clear his feelings for me and his intentions.

I can understand his issues he is going through with his parents.


But obviously I'm now a little confused as to what to do. I'll give much more space for him to sort things out but do I hint at sex after a month or two and leave it as that, perhaps seeing me will stir his feelings again for me, basically let him make all the moves and then ill genuinely respond accordingly


Or see how he is after a couple of months, again keeping it light hearted.

Or say nothing at all until he messages me? But then feel he would put me to far deep and forget?



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Posted by bumboklatt
Posted by Adescentguy
Posted by bumboklatt
Posted by Adescentguy
Posted by bumboklatt
Sounds like he saw right through you.


It sounds like you were not sure of the relationship and neither was he.


When you told him you might leave him, he made up his mind. Emotionally detached himself from the relationship.


We dont care who pays most attention to us or gives us more sex. We just want honesty, trust, freedom, and simplicity


Sex and affection isnt everything to Aquarius so just be honest with him, no games.





Hi, I didn't say I might leave him? Maybe spelling mistake or mis read something?

I've been very honest and upfront with him all the way, couldn't be more genuine.

After meeting, obviously my feelings started to develop and I wanted to be careful, give space but show interest at the same time.

I offered my friendship and help, discussion to understand as I feel communication is important to get to know each other. But I respected his space and suggested stuff and left it rather than push.
He probably likes you but is afraid of commitment. Not rare for aquarius.


Dont get hurt tho cause Aquas love to have sex and not commit




He made it very clear his feelings for me and his intentions.

I can understand his issues he is going through with his parents.


But obviously I'm now a little confused as to what to do. I'll give much more space for him to sort things out but do I hint at sex after a month or two and leave it as that, perhaps seeing me will stir his feelings again for me, basically let him make all the moves and then ill genuinely respond accordingly


Or see how he is after a couple of months, again keeping it light hearted.

Or say nothing at all until he messages me? But then feel he would put me to far deep and forget?







Just give him all the time he needs and stop worrying too much

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I shall. Thanks.
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Aww Hun! Coming out isnt that easy for all people. Some families don't accept it right away at all!! When my brother first told me, I was emotional and confused. We actually didn't talk for days after he told me. I think he was afraid and uncomfortable too. It took me awhile to be completely comfortable with it because it wasn't something I was used to. Now I have more gay friends than straight ones! I love them all!! So basically what I'm saying is that him and his family need time to feel comfortable with the situation. Then after everything gets better, I think he will reach out to you! Until then, keep moving forward.
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Posted by pinkbird03
Aww Hun! Coming out isnt that easy for all people. Some families don't accept it right away at all!! When my brother first told me, I was emotional and confused. We actually didn't talk for days after he told me. I think he was afraid and uncomfortable too. It took me awhile to be completely comfortable with it because it wasn't something I was used to. Now I have more gay friends than straight ones! I love them all!! So basically what I'm saying is that him and his family need time to feel comfortable with the situation. Then after everything gets better, I think he will reach out to you! Until then, keep moving forward.
Aw thank you x
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