deluca247
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Aqua Man - Stay or Go
Water an air placements right away is going to be hot and cold with steam. One person is going to detach do their own thing while the other one wants to be close almost all the time.
Not don't get to close after he told you not to in his way. See I've heard things like that before in my time and I would brush it off because it seemed to be a actually the truth which sometimes the good times over look so we continue to be doing things as if it was never said. But words are just as important seriously. So yeah in order for you not to get played or manipulated he told you. So you got to listen to him.
Agree, as much as I like him and the fact that he makes me feel so special when we're together isn't enough,especially when someone has made it that clear to you, I think it's time to move on.... 😢
You can find some one when it's time that will be the right one once again. Trial and error..
Error is keep doing it and it's going to hurt, so yeah it would not hurt if you actually move on and do something like find what it is you need in life.
Posted by deluca247One thing about it, aquas are honest.
First message on here but one of many on the subject of the intriguing aqua man!
I know that there is more to life choices and decisions than astrology but wanted some advice via this route as I think it's important that take into account the challenges of dating an Aqua guy. I'm a cancer girl so I know we're not an ideal match
Story is we've been dating for about 6 weeks, we met online and because of distance only initially seeing eachother once a week, after a couple of weeks and through his initiation he started spending longer periods of time with me 2/3/4 days at a time, we get on really well and things seemed to be going well aside from a couple of throwaway comments from him about not wanting anything too serious which I brushed over as his actions weren't really supporting that.
So the switch happened last week when he said that he needed time out to focus on work as he was too distracted with us, whilst I heard from him everyday it was the first weekend we hadn't spent together since meeting so just kinda caught me off balance being he needy cancerian that I am 🙂
To cut to the current issue, we spent a couple of days together after the weekend and the subject of dating came up, we talked about the fact that neither of us were using our online dating sites anymore, though he then said to me that although he liked me a lot he was keeping his options open, and that he would be Ok with me dating others...
I appreciate that this is still in it's infancy at only 6 weeks, albeit we have spent a lot of time together, is this a usual Aqua thing, or is this just a simple case of someone keeping me as an option until something better comes along? I don't feel comfortable now and I am doing everything in my power to keep my inner clinginess under control as I worry about what he's doing when he's not with me.... Should I stay and see it out for a few more weeks or break it off before I get in any deeper?
Thanks guys x
It's only six weeks. That's not very long. You should be keeping options open for at least three months. It takes time to learn enough about someone to decide if they're the one or not. It takes that amount of time generally to determine whether this is someone worthy of giving up everyone else for. It also takes time to build a foundation.
So, within that three month period, no pressure, no expectations, just getting to know each other. Don't be upset or discouraged by his statement. This works in your favor, too. He said he wasn't on the dating site, so that is good.
Who knows, after three months, you may be the one winning out over all the other options. Ya never know.
At the three month mark, if he's still wanting to keep options open, then you have a problem.
Keep your option
Keep your options open, too!
Posted by truecapPosted by deluca247One thing about it, aquas are honest.
First message on here but one of many on the subject of the intriguing aqua man!
I know that there is more to life choices and decisions than astrology but wanted some advice via this route as I think it's important that take into account the challenges of dating an Aqua guy. I'm a cancer girl so I know we're not an ideal match
Story is we've been dating for about 6 weeks, we met online and because of distance only initially seeing eachother once a week, after a couple of weeks and through his initiation he started spending longer periods of time with me 2/3/4 days at a time, we get on really well and things seemed to be going well aside from a couple of throwaway comments from him about not wanting anything too serious which I brushed over as his actions weren't really supporting that.
So the switch happened last week when he said that he needed time out to focus on work as he was too distracted with us, whilst I heard from him everyday it was the first weekend we hadn't spent together since meeting so just kinda caught me off balance being he needy cancerian that I am 🙂
To cut to the current issue, we spent a couple of days together after the weekend and the subject of dating came up, we talked about the fact that neither of us were using our online dating sites anymore, though he then said to me that although he liked me a lot he was keeping his options open, and that he would be Ok with me dating others...
I appreciate that this is still in it's infancy at only 6 weeks, albeit we have spent a lot of time together, is this a usual Aqua thing, or is this just a simple case of someone keeping me as an option until something better comes along? I don't feel comfortable now and I am doing everything in my power to keep my inner clinginess under control as I worry about what he's doing when he's not with me.... Should I stay and see it out for a few more weeks or break it off before I get in any deeper?
Thanks guys xclick to expand
It's only six weeks. That's not very long. You should be keeping options open for at least three months. It takes time to learn enough about someone to decide if they're the one or not. It takes that amount of time generally to determine whether this is someone worthy of giving up everyone else for. It also takes time to build a foundation.
So, within that three month period, no pressure, no expectations, just getting to know each other. Don't be upset or discouraged by his statement. This works in your favor, too. He said he wasn't on the dating site, so that is good.
Who knows, after three months, you may be the one winning out over all the other option
^^^^^
Agreed.
I'm also going through this with an aqua rn. Just give it time and the space he needs, I know its hard, but when he comes back you'll know even more how your feeling. Take advantage of the time apart and do your thing too=)
You can figure out if this is just initial excitement or if you really like him.
(Sorry I'm not perfect with the boxes)
Agreed.
I'm also going through this with an aqua rn. Just give it time and the space he needs, I know its hard, but when he comes back you'll know even more how your feeling. Take advantage of the time apart and do your thing too=)
You can figure out if this is just initial excitement or if you really like him.
(Sorry I'm not perfect with the boxes)
Posted by deluca247I've dated a cancer and an aqua.
Agree, as much as I like him and the fact that he makes me feel so special when we're together isn't enough,especially when someone has made it that clear to you, I think it's time to move on.... 😢
They're completely different.
Cancer was like a full time job.
Aqua is more like a part time job.
Don't take the distance personally.
Posted by sparkle11uh what if he was aqua moon?Posted by deluca247I've dated a cancer and an aqua.
Agree, as much as I like him and the fact that he makes me feel so special when we're together isn't enough,especially when someone has made it that clear to you, I think it's time to move on.... 😢
They're completely different.
Cancer was like a full time job.
Aqua is more like a part time job.
Don't take the distance personally.click to expand
like this guy?? married to a sag sun, like you.
she's really cute in this photo!!
Posted by truecapPosted by deluca247One thing about it, aquas are honest.
First message on here but one of many on the subject of the intriguing aqua man!
I know that there is more to life choices and decisions than astrology but wanted some advice via this route as I think it's important that take into account the challenges of dating an Aqua guy. I'm a cancer girl so I know we're not an ideal match
Story is we've been dating for about 6 weeks, we met online and because of distance only initially seeing eachother once a week, after a couple of weeks and through his initiation he started spending longer periods of time with me 2/3/4 days at a time, we get on really well and things seemed to be going well aside from a couple of throwaway comments from him about not wanting anything too serious which I brushed over as his actions weren't really supporting that.
So the switch happened last week when he said that he needed time out to focus on work as he was too distracted with us, whilst I heard from him everyday it was the first weekend we hadn't spent together since meeting so just kinda caught me off balance being he needy cancerian that I am 🙂
To cut to the current issue, we spent a couple of days together after the weekend and the subject of dating came up, we talked about the fact that neither of us were using our online dating sites anymore, though he then said to me that although he liked me a lot he was keeping his options open, and that he would be Ok with me dating others...
I appreciate that this is still in it's infancy at only 6 weeks, albeit we have spent a lot of time together, is this a usual Aqua thing, or is this just a simple case of someone keeping me as an option until something better comes along? I don't feel comfortable now and I am doing everything in my power to keep my inner clinginess under control as I worry about what he's doing when he's not with me.... Should I stay and see it out for a few more weeks or break it off before I get in any deeper?
Thanks guys xclick to expand
It's only six weeks. That's not very long. You should be keeping options open for at least three months. It takes time to learn enough about someone to decide if they're the one or not. It takes that amount of time generally to determine whether this is someone worthy of giving up everyone else for. It also takes time to build a foundation.
So, within that three month period, no pressure, no expectations, just getting to know each other. Don't be upset or discouraged by his statement. This works in your favor, too. He said he wasn't on the dating site, so that is good.
Who knows, after three months, you may be the one winning out over all the other option
Stay.
Posted by lisabethur8Ahaha. Good call. My best relationship was a Cancer sun & aqua moon. Lasted 5 years. Only looked up his placements like a week ago 😉Posted by sparkle11uh what if he was aqua moon?Posted by deluca247I've dated a cancer and an aqua.
Agree, as much as I like him and the fact that he makes me feel so special when we're together isn't enough,especially when someone has made it that clear to you, I think it's time to move on.... 😢
They're completely different.
Cancer was like a full time job.
Aqua is more like a part time job.
Don't take the distance personally.
like this guy?? married to a sag sun, like you.
she's really cute in this photo!!
click to expand
I've dated straight cancer and they were upright scary to me... stage 5 clinger and so jealous. Okay as friends but no thank you for boyfriend.
When I found out my ex had an aqua moon it all made sense. Ha
Thanks for all the advice , this site is fabulous! My initial time period was going to be 3 months but this talk we had just caught me off guard. Because we speak and see each other so much (all his initiation) I didn't think of myself as option because of the way that he is around me but now that he's said it I guess I need to take it on board and maybe actually keep my options open a little.
I love that he's so upfront and honest, it makes me laugh that he can initiate everything as often as he likes with no problem, and yet I hold back with contact as I don't want to appear needy...
I will give it a bit longer, the key is to know whether it's an aqua space thing (which I can deal with) or if it's that I'm not good enough so just an goodish option for now (not so easy to deal with) x
I love that he's so upfront and honest, it makes me laugh that he can initiate everything as often as he likes with no problem, and yet I hold back with contact as I don't want to appear needy...
I will give it a bit longer, the key is to know whether it's an aqua space thing (which I can deal with) or if it's that I'm not good enough so just an goodish option for now (not so easy to deal with) x
Posted by deluca247Time will tell.
T I will give it a bit longer, the key is to know whether it's an aqua space thing (which I can deal with) or if it's that I'm not good enough so just an goodish option for now (not so easy to deal with) x
At least you know where you stand. 🙂
Great advice throughout truecap, thank you x
From an Aqua lady, I told the guy I'm seeing that he could date other people while we were dating and offered to help him fluff his online profile pictures. So yeah I said, keep our options open, but around the 2 month mark, I decided that the Scorpio was a keeper. Listen to Truecap, shes got the Aqua in lock down.
OK so I need some more help please, Aquas what's my best move now so I don't look like an emotional needy crazy ass woman?
to summarize.... things going well for 6 weeks up until last week when we had a talk about our situation and the fact that he is keeping his options open... anyway I hear from him almost everyday and he called on Thursday night after we'd spent a couple of days together... Heard nothing from him over the weekend so sent him a little message on Saturday to say Hi, nothing all weekend and after checking his Instagram on Sunday he posted a pic of himself overseas for the weekend with his friends... he hadn;t mentioned anything but that's not a huge deal I was just relieved that he wasn't with one of his open options, so far I've no reason to believe that he is seeing other people.
Anyway he just replied to my message to see how I was... what do I do, I want to sulk and ignore him for a couple of days, I find it hard to understand how his can be all up in my space for days on end by his initiation and then when he feels like just not contact me for days let alone not tell me he was going away then that's OK.
As I am writing this, I know it's not a big deal to not contact someone for a few days it's the switch from one extreme to another, I don't want the boundaries I have for acceptable behaviours for me to be too compromised
Thanks x
to summarize.... things going well for 6 weeks up until last week when we had a talk about our situation and the fact that he is keeping his options open... anyway I hear from him almost everyday and he called on Thursday night after we'd spent a couple of days together... Heard nothing from him over the weekend so sent him a little message on Saturday to say Hi, nothing all weekend and after checking his Instagram on Sunday he posted a pic of himself overseas for the weekend with his friends... he hadn;t mentioned anything but that's not a huge deal I was just relieved that he wasn't with one of his open options, so far I've no reason to believe that he is seeing other people.
Anyway he just replied to my message to see how I was... what do I do, I want to sulk and ignore him for a couple of days, I find it hard to understand how his can be all up in my space for days on end by his initiation and then when he feels like just not contact me for days let alone not tell me he was going away then that's OK.
As I am writing this, I know it's not a big deal to not contact someone for a few days it's the switch from one extreme to another, I don't want the boundaries I have for acceptable behaviours for me to be too compromised
Thanks x
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I appreciate that this is still in it's infancy at only 6 weeks, albeit we have spent a lot of time together, is this a usual Aqua thing, or is this just a simple case of someone keeping me as an option until something better comes along? I don't feel comfortable now and I am doing everything in my power to keep my inner clinginess under control as I worry about what he's doing when he's not with me.... Should I stay and see it out for a few more weeks or break it off before I get in any deeper?
Thanks guys x