Calling all stellium in the 8th house folks...

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by AQ0206 on Wednesday, June 29, 2016 and has 26 replies.
Calling all stellium in the 8th house folks... What has your dating/general relationship experience been like?
Interesting and chaotic when I was younger. Wrong guys picked, drama central. Always sexual, rarely meaningful. But definitely instructive.

Venus, Jupiter, Uranus.
I can count 4 relationships. I've lived with 3 of them (Aires , Leo and sag). I did have a period in time I had casual relationships. I still feel like I haven't met The One.

Mars,moon, sun, Mercury , and Chiron (Taurus)
Posted by sultrykitty
Interesting and chaotic when I was younger. Wrong guys picked, drama central. Always sexual, rarely meaningful. But definitely instructive.

Venus, Jupiter, Uranus.
Thanks for the insight. How about since you've gotten older?
Posted by Pnmee
I can count 4 relationships. I've lived with 3 of them (Aires , Leo and sag). I did have a period in time I had casual relationships. I still feel like I haven't met The One.

Mars,moon, sun, Mercury , and Chiron (Taurus)
Thanks. Is there a prevailing theme as to why they didn't work out? Or like--did you feel like you brought a certain something to the table (or vice versa) that wasn't reciprocated?

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Posted by sultrykitty
Interesting and chaotic when I was younger. Wrong guys picked, drama central. Always sexual, rarely meaningful. But definitely instructive.

Venus, Jupiter, Uranus.
Thanks for the insight. How about since you've gotten older?
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I found "the one" and he managed to wrangle me into submission (lol).

We have all the naughty we need and I don't have to wonder if it's real love or not. It's the stability I need and a little of the drama that I used to crave.

I haven't inherited any money and no one in my family has died yet so the only 8th house stuff I've ever dealt with is on the seedy sexy side.

I also have 4 planets in the 7th house and the two sort of amplify each other and so it's hard to say which one has more influence.
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Posted by Pnmee
I can count 4 relationships. I've lived with 3 of them (Aires , Leo and sag). I did have a period in time I had casual relationships. I still feel like I haven't met The One.

Mars,moon, sun, Mercury , and Chiron (Taurus)
Thanks. Is there a prevailing theme as to why they didn't work out? Or like--did you feel like you brought a certain something to the table (or vice versa) that wasn't reciprocated?

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I also dated a Virgo and Gemini but they weren't the right fit for me. They were immature or at least not ready for me.

Leo: got up and left me one day with 2 babies (I was 20yo)

Airies: mutually agreed we weren't meant for each other (early mid 20s)

Sag: currently with (9 years. Longest relationship)... Have a child with him but I feel we're together for the sake of the kids and being a family. I'm currently unhappy

Like I say I feel like I haven't met the one. Idk there was a thing with 8th house stellium. I just figured out I had a stellium
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Posted by sultrykitty
Interesting and chaotic when I was younger. Wrong guys picked, drama central. Always sexual, rarely meaningful. But definitely instructive.

Venus, Jupiter, Uranus.
Thanks for the insight. How about since you've gotten older?
I found "the one" and he managed to wrangle me into submission (lol).

We have all the naughty we need and I don't have to wonder if it's real love or not. It's the stability I need and a little of the drama that I used to crave.

I haven't inherited any money and no one in my family has died yet so the only 8th house stuff I've ever dealt with is on the seedy sexy side.

I also have 4 planets in the 7th house and the two sort of amplify each other and so it's hard to say which one has more influence.
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That 7th house/8th house combination is crazy! Did you make an effort to find the one who ultimately wrangled you down ;D, or did he find his way to you?

Here's to hoping the inheritance piece comes your way at the right time and only under the best of circumstances all-around.
I am currently reading about the inheritance thing. My dad died of cancer died a few years ago. Didn't really inherit money because he blew it all during the 2 years of treatment. I inherited an old tow truck, a van that needs work and a storage locker with all his clothes and shoes. My sag I am currently with has a life insurance policy in case anything happens to him. He thought it was a good idea since he has been the bread winner for the past 6 years and I've been staying home with the kids.
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Posted by Pnmee
I can count 4 relationships. I've lived with 3 of them (Aires , Leo and sag). I did have a period in time I had casual relationships. I still feel like I haven't met The One.

Mars,moon, sun, Mercury , and Chiron (Taurus)
Thanks. Is there a prevailing theme as to why they didn't work out? Or like--did you feel like you brought a certain something to the table (or vice versa) that wasn't reciprocated?

I also dated a Virgo and Gemini but they weren't the right fit for me. They were immature or at least not ready for me.

Leo: got up and left me one day with 2 babies (I was 20yo)

Airies: mutually agreed we weren't meant for each other (early mid 20s)

Sag: currently with (9 years. Longest relationship)... Have a child with him but I feel we're together for the sake of the kids and being a family. I'm currently unhappy

Like I say I feel like I haven't met the one. Idk there was a thing with 8th house stellium. I just figured out I had a stellium
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Yeah, I'm not really sure that there is "a thing" with 8th house stelliums either, but I figured it was worth reaching out for the sake of investigating relationship patterns.

Mostly, I just have a complicated relationship history (I'm not boo-hoo'ing, but I thought I may be able to see a constant death-rebirth through relationships, possibly).

9 years is a long time. I was in a relationship for 8 years and ultimately married the man (Aries), only to divorce. It's still tough for me. I've had 2-3 year relationships with others aside from that primary relationship. None of them have been "the one" on my end, either--though some have come close to feeling right.

I'm sorry things aren't well with your Sag. The children factor complicates things, though I'm sure you love them with your whole heart.

I appreciate your insight and hope that things take a turn for the better--however that may be.
Posted by Pnmee
I am currently reading about the inheritance thing. My dad died of cancer died a few years ago. Didn't really inherit money because he blew it all during the 2 years of treatment. I inherited an old tow truck, a van that needs work and a storage locker with all his clothes and shoes. My sag I am currently with has a life insurance policy in case anything happens to him. He thought it was a good idea since he has been the bread winner for the past 6 years and I've been staying home with the kids.
Oh man. My dad was diagnosed with lung/kidney cancer 7 weeks ago and has been in the hospital. It's stage 4 cancer, so it's not looking good for him. You could probably turn-around your inheritance if you wanted, though I'm not sure how you feel personally in terms of letting-go of those items. I'm sorry about your dad. Cancer is a beast.

I haven't seen much by-way of inheritance at this point, aside from the generosity of my parents over the past 10 years or so since I've graduated college (small sums of money via odd jobs, things like that). Who knows?..
Posted by hollyhock
I don't know if it is my 8th house stellium or my Saturn in 7th. Or my Uranus conjunct NN and venus. I have a lot of difficulties with relationships. I don't know if I will ever find anyone.
Twins! My Saturn is in the 7th house, in Capricorn. I have an 8th house stellium in Aquarius. What kinds of difficulties do you face? Is it communicative, physical, emotional, social...?

I always have this feeling that there's a lack of depth of feeling and understanding (to the point where I feel crazy).. Even Scorpios have been no match.

What's the deal, here?
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Posted by sultrykitty
Interesting and chaotic when I was younger. Wrong guys picked, drama central. Always sexual, rarely meaningful. But definitely instructive.

Venus, Jupiter, Uranus.
Thanks for the insight. How about since you've gotten older?
I found "the one" and he managed to wrangle me into submission (lol).

We have all the naughty we need and I don't have to wonder if it's real love or not. It's the stability I need and a little of the drama that I used to crave.

I haven't inherited any money and no one in my family has died yet so the only 8th house stuff I've ever dealt with is on the seedy sexy side.

I also have 4 planets in the 7th house and the two sort of amplify each other and so it's hard to say which one has more influence.
That 7th house/8th house combination is crazy! Did you make an effort to find the one who ultimately wrangled you down ;D, or did he find his way to you?

Here's to hoping the inheritance piece comes your way at the right time and only under the best of circumstances all-around.
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Well thank you. smile

Every guy I became involved with was (I thought) "the one"; this one just happened to accept the invitation. That sounds callous but it was quite a bit deeper than that. We had an understanding of each other very early on. He was a friend of a friend and we all hung out in the same group when we met. It really happened organically, until I latched on. Then it got dramatic and we just couldn't stay away from each other. I don't know who noticed who first but I do remember the day I decided that I wanted him.

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Posted by Pnmee
I am currently reading about the inheritance thing. My dad died of cancer died a few years ago. Didn't really inherit money because he blew it all during the 2 years of treatment. I inherited an old tow truck, a van that needs work and a storage locker with all his clothes and shoes. My sag I am currently with has a life insurance policy in case anything happens to him. He thought it was a good idea since he has been the bread winner for the past 6 years and I've been staying home with the kids.
Oh man. My dad was diagnosed with lung/kidney cancer 7 weeks ago and has been in the hospital. It's stage 4 cancer, so it's not looking good for him. You could probably turn-around your inheritance if you wanted, though I'm not sure how you feel personally in terms of letting-go of those items. I'm sorry about your dad. Cancer is a beast.

I haven't seen much by-way of inheritance at this point, aside from the generosity of my parents over the past 10 years or so since I've graduated college (small sums of money via odd jobs, things like that). Who knows?..
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Yes . slowly I've been selling things but it's a little money here and there. Making it easy to keep my head above water financially. My sons father got life insurance because his mother died young from lupus so he feels he has the same genes. My dad had stage 4 cancer and had a couple surgeries. He toughed it out for 2 years surprisingly.
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Interesting and chaotic when I was younger. Wrong guys picked, drama central. Always sexual, rarely meaningful. But definitely instructive.

Venus, Jupiter, Uranus.
Thanks for the insight. How about since you've gotten older?
I found "the one" and he managed to wrangle me into submission (lol).

We have all the naughty we need and I don't have to wonder if it's real love or not. It's the stability I need and a little of the drama that I used to crave.

I haven't inherited any money and no one in my family has died yet so the only 8th house stuff I've ever dealt with is on the seedy sexy side.

I also have 4 planets in the 7th house and the two sort of amplify each other and so it's hard to say which one has more influence.
That 7th house/8th house combination is crazy! Did you make an effort to find the one who ultimately wrangled you down ;D, or did he find his way to you?

Here's to hoping the inheritance piece comes your way at the right time and only under the best of circumstances all-around.
Well thank you. smile

Every guy I became involved with was (I thought) "the one"; this one just happened to accept the invitation. That sounds callous but it was quite a bit deeper than that. We had an understanding of each other very early on. He was a friend of a friend and we all hung out in the same group when we met. It really happened organically, until I latched on. Then it got dramatic and we just couldn't stay away from each other. I don't know who noticed who first but I do remember the day I decided that I wanted him.

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That's awesome! Organically is the best way, for sure--no doubts about that.
@AQ0206

Wirh regards to 8th house and money,

Same here. I've always been "lucky" with money in the sense that I've never had a windfall but money always seems to come right when I need it and exactly as much as I need.

I've had some terrible financial situations hit me but I always seem to keep my head above water. Either an unexpected gift, or a suprise deferment, or something like that.
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Posted by Pnmee
I am currently reading about the inheritance thing. My dad died of cancer died a few years ago. Didn't really inherit money because he blew it all during the 2 years of treatment. I inherited an old tow truck, a van that needs work and a storage locker with all his clothes and shoes. My sag I am currently with has a life insurance policy in case anything happens to him. He thought it was a good idea since he has been the bread winner for the past 6 years and I've been staying home with the kids.
Oh man. My dad was diagnosed with lung/kidney cancer 7 weeks ago and has been in the hospital. It's stage 4 cancer, so it's not looking good for him. You could probably turn-around your inheritance if you wanted, though I'm not sure how you feel personally in terms of letting-go of those items. I'm sorry about your dad. Cancer is a beast.

I haven't seen much by-way of inheritance at this point, aside from the generosity of my parents over the past 10 years or so since I've graduated college (small sums of money via odd jobs, things like that). Who knows?..
Yes . slowly I've been selling things but it's a little money here and there. Making it easy to keep my head above water financially. My sons father got life insurance because his mother died young from lupus so he feels he has the same genes. My dad had stage 4 cancer and had a couple surgeries. He toughed it out for 2 years surprisingly.
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Oh wow! 2 years feels like a long time compared to what we've been up against as a family. 7 months feels about like that long, honestly--the roller-coaster ride from hell. On the other hand, a long death presents a lot of opportunities a swift death doesn't.

It's good the financial gains have helped during tough times.
Posted by sultrykitty
@AQ0206

Wirh regards to 8th house and money,

Same here. I've always been "lucky" with money in the sense that I've never had a windfall but money always seems to come right when I need it and exactly as much as I need.

I've had some terrible financial situations hit me but I always seem to keep my head above water. Either an unexpected gift, or a suprise deferment, or something like that.
That's for sure been the case with me, in terms of money arriving when I needed it most. My natal chart indicates an unstable financial situation over the years, so I've learned to save money during times of surplus. Learning to be resourceful with the little things has proven to be a huge money-saving tactic in my world.. it works wonders for long-term/high-cost to-do's. I have good number of money-saving tricks up my sleeve should you ever need them! Pinterest recycle/reuse/re-purpose is where it's at.
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@AQ0206

Wirh regards to 8th house and money,

Same here. I've always been "lucky" with money in the sense that I've never had a windfall but money always seems to come right when I need it and exactly as much as I need.

I've had some terrible financial situations hit me but I always seem to keep my head above water. Either an unexpected gift, or a suprise deferment, or something like that.
That's for sure been the case with me, in terms of money arriving when I needed it most. My natal chart indicates an unstable financial situation over the years, so I've learned to save money during times of surplus. Learning to be resourceful with the little things has proven to be a huge money-saving tactic in my world.. it works wonders for long-term/high-cost to-do's. I have good number of money-saving tricks up my sleeve should you ever need them! Pinterest recycle/reuse/re-purpose is where it's at.
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That's sums me up lately. I would need money to pay some bills and all of the sudden I would sell some of my dads stuff online. I like to think that my dad is watching over me in a way. With my son starting school soon I started looking for a job. Hoping I start soon and make some money :-)
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@AQ0206

Wirh regards to 8th house and money,

Same here. I've always been "lucky" with money in the sense that I've never had a windfall but money always seems to come right when I need it and exactly as much as I need.

I've had some terrible financial situations hit me but I always seem to keep my head above water. Either an unexpected gift, or a suprise deferment, or something like that.
That's for sure been the case with me, in terms of money arriving when I needed it most. My natal chart indicates an unstable financial situation over the years, so I've learned to save money during times of surplus. Learning to be resourceful with the little things has proven to be a huge money-saving tactic in my world.. it works wonders for long-term/high-cost to-do's. I have good number of money-saving tricks up my sleeve should you ever need them! Pinterest recycle/reuse/re-purpose is where it's at.
That's sums me up lately. I would need money to pay some bills and all of the sudden I would sell some of my dads stuff online. I like to think that my dad is watching over me in a way. With my son starting school soon I started looking for a job. Hoping I start soon and make some money :-)
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That'd be awesome! I'll send positive vibes you way. I hope everything works out.
8th houser here. I received a pretty good lump sum when my grandparents passed away, both my parents own properties and yes I'm a trust fund kid. My parents said they're going to give me power of attorney when he goes senile.

Of course I don't want that to happen to them, I want them to live a long life. So if that's an 8th house thing, then there you go. I've loved and lost too, it's very hard to find a deep soul connection that's true. A lot of people are so superficial and selfish these days it seems, i feel that it's so hard to find.
Posted by blackphase
I'm a constant insecure mess. Suspicious and paranoid, never feel good enough.

Pity the fool who dates me!


Suspicion, though. Whew. I feel you. I have my fair share of insecurities, too, but what do you bring to the table, in terms of positive attributes?

Thanks for responding. (Try to) Rest easy, my friend.
Posted by Greentea
8th houser here. I received a pretty good lump sum when my grandparents passed away, both my parents own properties and yes I'm a trust fund kid. My parents said they're going to give me power of attorney when he goes senile.

Of course I don't want that to happen to them, I want them to live a long life. So if that's an 8th house thing, then there you go. I've loved and lost too, it's very hard to find a deep soul connection that's true. A lot of people are so superficial and selfish these days it seems, i feel that it's so hard to find.
Interesting. Where is your 8th house energy? You seem (IMO) grounded despite the circumstances you mentioned (or perhaps made more secure, by way of them?) What's your birth chart like? I agree with the difficulty in finding a soul connection based upon truth and personal conviction.

Your response resonated with me. I was born with a degree of privilege (mostly via education/community access, rather than financial backing).

How does one penetrate superficiality and the surface-level? Aye.
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8th houser here. I received a pretty good lump sum when my grandparents passed away, both my parents own properties and yes I'm a trust fund kid. My parents said they're going to give me power of attorney when he goes senile.

Of course I don't want that to happen to them, I want them to live a long life. So if that's an 8th house thing, then there you go. I've loved and lost too, it's very hard to find a deep soul connection that's true. A lot of people are so superficial and selfish these days it seems, i feel that it's so hard to find.
Interesting. Where is your 8th house energy? You seem (IMO) grounded despite the circumstances you mentioned (or perhaps made more secure, by way of them?) What's your birth chart like? I agree with the difficulty in finding a soul connection based upon truth and personal conviction.

Your response resonated with me. I was born with a degree of privilege (mostly via education/community access, rather than financial backing).

How does one penetrate superficiality and the surface-level? Aye.
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Cap sun, aqua venus, sag uranus and neptune (I haven't looked at my chart in about a week or so but that's what I remember) all in the 8th scorpio.

My parents are very well off, but they didn't spoil us like one would think. They taught us to work for our dreams and towards our own goals in life. They didn't want us to be leaches like many of their friends children were, and still are as full grown adults.

I cant imagine myself being that way anyway. I put myself through school for the most part. I was offered a car at graduation, but I turned it down. I moved back in with my parents after college to save up money and bought my own in cash. I dont know why, but I just felt bad asking my parents for those things or accepting it.

Maybe it's bcuz I felt like I had something to prove to them. My siblings on the other hand, didn't feel as bad in taking them up on some of their offers. Lol.




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I'm a constant insecure mess. Suspicious and paranoid, never feel good enough.

Pity the fool who dates me!


Suspicion, though. Whew. I feel you. I have my fair share of insecurities, too, but what do you bring to the table, in terms of positive attributes?

Thanks for responding. (Try to) Rest easy, my friend.
Positive attributes... I am very stable and dependable. Extremely honest and loyal. I am a very nurturing person who puts those I love before myself.. I'm sure there is more but I don't really like to toot my own horn too much Tongue
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What is there beyond honesty and loyalty? I act upon the same values, and yet.. there is nothing (yet?) This post is very boo-hoo in nature, yet honest. Aye.

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Posted by blackphase
I'm a constant insecure mess. Suspicious and paranoid, never feel good enough.

Pity the fool who dates me!


Suspicion, though. Whew. I feel you. I have my fair share of insecurities, too, but what do you bring to the table, in terms of positive attributes?

Thanks for responding. (Try to) Rest easy, my friend.
Positive attributes... I am very stable and dependable. Extremely honest and loyal. I am a very nurturing person who puts those I love before myself.. I'm sure there is more but I don't really like to toot my own horn too much Tongue
What is there beyond honesty and loyalty? I act upon the same values, and yet.. there is nothing (yet?) This post is very boo-hoo in nature, yet honest. Aye.

What do you mean there is nothing? And what do you mean what is there beyond honesty and loyalty? I need examples as to what you mean so I can accurately respond.. Lol
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I feel like honesty and loyalty are the foundation of every great relationship, friendship, family-tie, care-taker, etc. I just meant that I agree fully with you regarding those as strengths and believe them to be altogether necessary in order to create a positive relationship. Without those things, relationships IMO just crumble.

To ask a question.. In the past, if ever someone has lied to you or been deceitful, how have you generally approached that.. or if they were to do it in the future, how would you respond (in a general sense)?