Can you please give me advice?
This topic was created in the Astrology forum by dreamer18 on Monday, July 16, 2018 and has 19 replies.
I have self-esteem issues. I try to be more comfortable with myself, but I can't.
I also ...I don't know who to explain it..I will probably sound horrible, but I always try to avoid people. I constantly think, that they are looking at me and talking behind my back. I am always super nervous around people, I even say things that are really stupid, and I feel embarrassed.
I always had these problems, but now it became worst. Because I feel like that even around my friends, which is nightmare.
I had only 2 friends and I love them, but after we finished school everything change...We went to different cities and we do not see each other often.
Recently I met them, but it felt soo uncomfortable for me, I have tried not to show it, but I was feeling so bad.
Now, I just don't have friends. And I am reallyyy alone. I haven't went out for days.
I just sit and cry 24/7.
..I was gonna write more, but it was going to be really long message.
I know I am pathetic, but please give me advice. Btw I am Aqua with Scorpio moon.
I also ...I don't know who to explain it..I will probably sound horrible, but I always try to avoid people. I constantly think, that they are looking at me and talking behind my back. I am always super nervous around people, I even say things that are really stupid, and I feel embarrassed.
I always had these problems, but now it became worst. Because I feel like that even around my friends, which is nightmare.
I had only 2 friends and I love them, but after we finished school everything change...We went to different cities and we do not see each other often.
Recently I met them, but it felt soo uncomfortable for me, I have tried not to show it, but I was feeling so bad.
Now, I just don't have friends. And I am reallyyy alone. I haven't went out for days.
I just sit and cry 24/7.
..I was gonna write more, but it was going to be really long message.
I know I am pathetic, but please give me advice. Btw I am Aqua with Scorpio moon.
Posted by Timon
Have you talked to your friends about your problems? If they are your friends and care about you they will understand.
Before I was scared to talk about my problems to anyone. But, two months ago I told my mum about some of my issues, but she did not even cared.
I actually never talked to my friends about these dark feelings. But I think they kinda know how I feel.
I just do not wanna people to worry about me.
I desperately need a new real friend.
And right now I need a hug.
Posted by nanobot
Okay, I read the whole thing and identified this as a social anxiety issue, which I would say most people have some form of. But why is it that you are crying every day?
Because I think my dreams will never come true and I will never meet a new friend or even a boyfriend.
I cry for many reasons.
Yesterday I spend an one hour on my bathroom floor crying. It was horrible.
Posted by TimonPosted by dreamer18Aww if I knew how to make the hug emoticon I would make one now. Be honest with your friends. Maybe they will react like your mom. Sometimes our problems seem bigger than they are. If you want you can DM me.Posted by Timon
Have you talked to your friends about your problems? If they are your friends and care about you they will understand.
Before I was scared to talk about my problems to anyone. But, two months ago I told my mum about some of my issues, but she did not even cared.
I actually never talked to my friends about these dark feelings. But I think they kinda know how I feel.
I just do not wanna people to worry about me.
I desperately need a new real friend.
And right now I need a hug.
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Thank you soo much. I appreciate your help
Posted by nanobotPosted by dreamer18If it is so bad that you cannot function and are going through frequent anxiety attacks and bad bouts of depression, do you ever consider to seek therapy or antidepressants/anti anxiety meds, or both?Posted by nanobot
Okay, I read the whole thing and identified this as a social anxiety issue, which I would say most people have some form of. But why is it that you are crying every day?
Because I think my dreams will never come true and I will never meet a new friend or even a boyfriend.
I cry for many reasons.
Yesterday I spend an one and a half on my bathroom floor crying. It was horrible.click to expand
No
Posted by GemCurio
Sometimes families are worst than strangers. Just understand that you are not alone and we all go through periods of our lives where we don't feel comfortable talking to the people around us. Pick some random people online to share with that you think are decent people. You are pretty awesome in my opinion @dreamer18.
It's difficult going through periods where we are uncertain of our absolute North. By that I mean is which direction our hearts truly desire to lead us. Do yourself a huge favor, stop overthinking and over feeling. Believe me when I say, the longer you go over something in your mind, the more depression and negativity that surrounds it, and it never produces positive results. Message me anytime if you want to chat. That way it's like having a pen pal it's judgment free.
omg thank you very much. You are such a nice and positive person. I wish I knew people like you.
Nobody ever told me that I am awesome..Thank you
I hope with all my heart, that everybody feel loved and supported.
I love you all
I love you all
Posted by Ariqua
I’m not judging, just trying to get an honest assessment of what you’re going through.
How is it that you’re able to just not get out for days? Do you not work or go to school?
When I was 19 I went through a period of depression when I was unemployed for a while and I barely left my house. I forced myself to get a job as a kind of “exposure therapy”.
The more you stay stuck inside the worse it will get. Force yourself to go outside, even if only for 20-30mins at a time
No, right now I am on a summer break.
Posted by GemCurio
omg thank you very much. You are such a nice and positive person. I wish I knew people like you.
Nobody ever told me that I am awesome..Thank you
Well, to be honest I'm more antisocial than you. I can entertain people, inquire for information, lead meetings, throw parties, etc. however that's just the necessary show to exist in society. I have read many of your posts and you are awesome. I'd be honored just to be your friend. Also, know that you are bolder and stronger than you know. It takes courage to tell anyone that something is bothering us. Most people try to endure it alone. If it were meant to be that way there wouldn't be 7 billion other people on earth. You're amongst friends (and a few weirdos) on here. Just choose a couple of people to DM & know at the end of the day, we are all the same. Most people are not as honest as you. That's why you wouldn't hear about it.
Besides, I do not know many people that would turn down a charming, insightful, witty friend to add to their lives...
Smile... @dreamer18 We fall down to learn how to pick ourselves back up again..
You are the most sweet person
I send you lots of kisses and hugs. Thank you very much Posted by GemCurio
@dreamer18
It's strange how life works out and I am going to share with you a true event which happened in my life with an Aquarius girl when she was around your age.
I was in a relationship with an Aqua girl from 15 until 30 years old, and she went through the exact same flutter of emotions, self doubt, fears, and lowering of self esteem between the ages of 17-20.I MET HER WITH NO FORM OF IDENTIFICATION!!! Her mother was so wicked she kept it from her and threw her out on the streets. She didn't have much money so she had started in a local community college and worked in the mall as a survey girl for a marketing research company. When she had told my mom that she was going to be a lawyer, my mother snickered at her and said, "How do you plan on doing that from that college??"
She had cried often and seemed to be an emotional basket case over everything. I stood by her side and continually assured her that all her thoughts and feelings were just for this particular moment in time. If she moves forward simply one inch today, one day she would wake up very far from this moment and place in time. All she had to do was not lose heart.
I am proud to tell you that today she has a two Bachelors Degrees and a Masters Degree working towards her Doctorates. She had lived most of her dreams beyond her wildest imaginations by the age of 27. That Aqua girl achieved all she had dreamed and more by accepting day by day one inch at a time towards those dreams. She participated in charities like habitats for humanities, and was the college tour guides during her summers.
Keep yourself surrounded by positive people and keep courage to continue towards the truest desires of your heart. I know for a fact that you can achieve anything because no one in my life had ever started in a worst situation than this Aqua girl. She achieved all her dreams and desires she whispered to me at your age... It's in you to do it also...
Such an emotional story. I am glad you share it.
Posted by GemCurioPosted by dreamer18For some reasons when you Aquarians doubt yourselves, it's like you're literally dying. You have the strength within you to strive towards your happy endings. NEVER lose the courage to pursue it... DREAM BIG!!! REACH FOR THE MOON.. AND SHOULD YOU MISS< YOU STILL HAVE THE STARS!!!!Posted by GemCurio
omg thank you very much. You are such a nice and positive person. I wish I knew people like you.
Nobody ever told me that I am awesome..Thank you
Well, to be honest I'm more antisocial than you. I can entertain people, inquire for information, lead meetings, throw parties, etc. however that's just the necessary show to exist in society. I have read many of your posts and you are awesome. I'd be honored just to be your friend. Also, know that you are bolder and stronger than you know. It takes courage to tell anyone that something is bothering us. Most people try to endure it alone. If it were meant to be that way there wouldn't be 7 billion other people on earth. You're amongst friends (and a few weirdos) on here. Just choose a couple of people to DM & know at the end of the day, we are all the same. Most people are not as honest as you. That's why you wouldn't hear about it.
Besides, I do not know many people that would turn down a charming, insightful, witty friend to add to their lives...
Smile... @dreamer18 We fall down to learn how to pick ourselves back up again..
You are the most sweet personclick to expand
Yess, its really like I am dying.
I hope I reach my goals. Thanks for your support
Posted by TheRabbit
I am a Scorpio moon and I feel this way at times.
Your best bet is to come to the realization that most people are aren't judging you simply because they don't actually care about you.
It sounds cold, but it's true.
yeah, you are right
Posted by Sagicorn
Well, when you get to a point that you no longer have friends for whatever reason there is, it's time to start making new ones. How do you do that? Well first of all start dealing with your trust issues and thinking people are talking behind your back. Cause they probably aren't. Then learn to socialize more. Be it online or at job, school, whatever you have in life. Did you ever think with your anxiety you might not even be realizing that people are trying to be friendly with you or that you're being unapproachable? The key is to start from yourself. Because it's not the problem with world, it's with you. And I don't mean it in bad way. I mean, you have to learn how to be more comfortable around people and learn to trust more.
You are right. I have trust issues, which cause me so much problems. I am always suspicious.
But at least I am not naive.
Posted by TheRabbitPosted by dreamer18The vast majority of people don't know the difference between you and any other random person they pass on the street. There's no sense in worrying about what they think.Posted by TheRabbit
I am a Scorpio moon and I feel this way at times.
Your best bet is to come to the realization that most people are aren't judging you simply because they don't actually care about you.
It sounds cold, but it's true.
yeah, you are rightclick to expand
I know. But I am just really paranoid.
Posted by exsqueezemePosted by GemCurioIs it a man and will he date mePosted by exsqueezemeNice @exsqueezeme You and @dreamer18 should get along great...Posted by GemCurioYou’re my new bestiePosted by dreamer18For some reasons when you Aquarians doubt yourselves, it's like you're literally dying. You have the strength within you to strive towards your happy endings. NEVER lose the courage to pursue it... DREAM BIG!!! REACH FOR THE MOON.. AND SHOULD YOU MISS< YOU STILL HAVE THE STARS!!!!Posted by GemCurio
omg thank you very much. You are such a nice and positive person. I wish I knew people like you.
Nobody ever told me that I am awesome..Thank you
Well, to be honest I'm more antisocial than you. I can entertain people, inquire for information, lead meetings, throw parties, etc. however that's just the necessary show to exist in society. I have read many of your posts and you are awesome. I'd be honored just to be your friend. Also, know that you are bolder and stronger than you know. It takes courage to tell anyone that something is bothering us. Most people try to endure it alone. If it were meant to be that way there wouldn't be 7 billion other people on earth. You're amongst friends (and a few weirdos) on here. Just choose a couple of people to DM & know at the end of the day, we are all the same. Most people are not as honest as you. That's why you wouldn't hear about it.
Besides, I do not know many people that would turn down a charming, insightful, witty friend to add to their lives...
Smile... @dreamer18 We fall down to learn how to pick ourselves back up again..
You are the most sweet personclick to expand
No haha
But I also wanna try to find a boyfriend
Posted by exsqueezemePosted by GemCurioThus what I said was highly inappropriate and my comment must be revoked effective immediately. I can adopt her though. Would she like to live amongst the chanclas?Posted by exsqueezemeUhhh @dreamer18 is a college girl...Posted by GemCurioIs it a man and will he date mePosted by exsqueezemeNice @exsqueezeme You and @dreamer18 should get along great...Posted by GemCurioYou’re my new bestiePosted by dreamer18For some reasons when you Aquarians doubt yourselves, it's like you're literally dying. You have the strength within you to strive towards your happy endings. NEVER lose the courage to pursue it... DREAM BIG!!! REACH FOR THE MOON.. AND SHOULD YOU MISS< YOU STILL HAVE THE STARS!!!!Posted by GemCurio
omg thank you very much. You are such a nice and positive person. I wish I knew people like you.
Nobody ever told me that I am awesome..Thank you
Well, to be honest I'm more antisocial than you. I can entertain people, inquire for information, lead meetings, throw parties, etc. however that's just the necessary show to exist in society. I have read many of your posts and you are awesome. I'd be honored just to be your friend. Also, know that you are bolder and stronger than you know. It takes courage to tell anyone that something is bothering us. Most people try to endure it alone. If it were meant to be that way there wouldn't be 7 billion other people on earth. You're amongst friends (and a few weirdos) on here. Just choose a couple of people to DM & know at the end of the day, we are all the same. Most people are not as honest as you. That's why you wouldn't hear about it.
Besides, I do not know many people that would turn down a charming, insightful, witty friend to add to their lives...
Smile... @dreamer18 We fall down to learn how to pick ourselves back up again..
You are the most sweet personclick to expand
haha yeah, why not
Thank you guys
The weird thing is that I always try to help people, but no one is helping me. Probably I sound selfish.
I have been trying to solve my problems alone, but I struggle so much.
Now, after many years, I feel like I am important too. Cause most of my life I was thinking that I am worthless and that I am just a little bug in this world. But I was wrong.
After many days in my home, today I went out. I felt anxious so thats why I decided to go to a park, to be more relaxed and I really felt better.
I have been trying to solve my problems alone, but I struggle so much.
Now, after many years, I feel like I am important too. Cause most of my life I was thinking that I am worthless and that I am just a little bug in this world. But I was wrong.
After many days in my home, today I went out. I felt anxious so thats why I decided to go to a park, to be more relaxed and I really felt better.
You need to go see a psychologist. I have been there and I have friends that have it worse like you.
You can find one for free at social care departments. Make some research on this.
Also you need to find out why exactly you feel like that and to know that at some point you will have to get out and face the fear step by step to gain a normal life again. Wish you the best and don't give up. Unfortunately you are the only person that can take care of yourself sometimes. You need to take care of you as even your own mother doesn't care about this.
You can find one for free at social care departments. Make some research on this.
Also you need to find out why exactly you feel like that and to know that at some point you will have to get out and face the fear step by step to gain a normal life again. Wish you the best and don't give up. Unfortunately you are the only person that can take care of yourself sometimes. You need to take care of you as even your own mother doesn't care about this.
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