Cheating: Forgive or Move on???

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by AL4813 on Tuesday, July 14, 2015 and has 18 replies.
Good Morning ladies and gentlemen.... I hope everyone is having a pleasant day so far. Today I wanted to talk about cheating.... Yup the taboo art of going behind your significant others back and destroying their trust. Hell its even widely accepted in some cultures.

I was talking with a friend of mine and we discussed how the two of us would react if we were cheated on. I said I would simply and cordially end it and walk away and never ever look back. She said she would forgive and that people deserve second chances. I also found interesting that she said that her mind is already in the mindset that a man would cheat and that early on in the relationship he sort of gets that one freebie and yes, she has been cheated on.

I feel like if you get cheated on and you begin forgiving then you're only setting yourself up to get cheated on more. I don't see why people allow it.. you have all the power in the world to stop it.

What's your take on it folks?


Oh and I know this topic should be on the relationships forum but i'm too damn lazy rightnow.

Posted by Oct29Scorpio
To be honest I would forgive too...I see the good in everybody.

My best friend (who is also a Leo) thinks the same way as you.

my friend is a scorp..... is this something accepted among scorpios?
Being of the mindset that a man would cheat is a tad unfair, imo. As far as I know, I have never been cheated on and you never know what you would do in real life when you're actually in the situation, but I'm pretty darn sure I would leave. I have left for a lot less than that in the past - my sag venus provides the canon and all I gotta do is grab my stuff and jump in.
I understand that people can slip up and I would forgive them, I'm a pretty forgiving person, but I'd end it and would never look back... even if you have forgiven them the relationship is never going to be the same again and I don't think I would have the patience to hang around and try to mend it.
If I found out I was cheated on, I would throw all their shit into the street, change the locks, block their number, and laugh evilly because I'm awesome.
I've been cheated on by my ex-husband (he was a Leo) and I stayed with him. After his second affair is when we separated and I divorced him. If we had been boyfriend/girlfriend, I would have left him after the first time.
My answer is likely to be unpopular but here goes..

If you do not have children together End It. Over. Take your respective lessons and walk away. There are lots of other fish in the sea.

But. If you have children together and you think there is a chance you can both be honest and open to regenerating your relationship in new and healthier ways then it is definitely worth a shot.

This coming from someone who's parents had a cheating situation and attempted to stay together and were highly unsuccessful (because my parents are literally crazy.) I still think it's worth a shot (IF you can be evolved enough to really face your issues and compromise.)
I have been through that. Forgive and move on. It took some time to forgive but I will never forget.. The more I forgave the more he did shit. But due to our ages back then I believe you're going to explore your options like he did. and I am going to sit at home, work doubles, cook, and stay loyal. Double standards and I won't do it anymore as I am older now. No tolerance for bullshit like that... I can totally be into second chances though but not cheating, or drugs ...no way Jose..
Nope, i dont do cheating. Thats detrimental to my health and theirs.

Just leave my stankin ass if you wanna go and do your own thing.

Im well aware that men dont become blind in a relationship. People will always be attracted to one another.

Its the lack of respect and self control that i cant get with.

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Posted by YellowSubmarine
Posted by AL4813
Posted by Oct29Scorpio
To be honest I would forgive too...I see the good in everybody.

My best friend (who is also a Leo) thinks the same way as you.

my friend is a scorp..... is this something accepted among scorpios?

Highly unusual for a scorpio, especially a female - they are insanely possessive once they love you... your friend may forgive, but Scorpios never forget, and will absolutely even out the playing field somehow, whether by cheating back or torturing you until they feel you've had enough - it can be so subtle, you won't even know when it's happening

Depends on the moon and Venus sign too - I'd be interested in knowing your friends moon and venus..

Personally, I'd forgive.. people fuck up, and sex really can just be sex - it's an entirely different experience to love someone and want to live your life with them, versus some hot piece of ass you regret fucking

Now if someone had a full on affair, where emotions got involved and it wasn't just sex, that would be a hell of a lot worse than one stupid mistake - that would be tough to forgive

Are you a sag? What is your sun sign?? I feel 'mutables' will find it easier to forgive. But me.... No way!!
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some fixed signs wouldnt leave their mate. they would stay regardless of alot of things.
Posted by YellowSubmarine
Posted by AL4813
Posted by Oct29Scorpio
To be honest I would forgive too...I see the good in everybody.

My best friend (who is also a Leo) thinks the same way as you.

my friend is a scorp..... is this something accepted among scorpios?

Highly unusual for a scorpio, especially a female - they are insanely possessive once they love you... your friend may forgive, but Scorpios never forget, and will absolutely even out the playing field somehow, whether by cheating back or torturing you until they feel you've had enough - it can be so subtle, you won't even know when it's happening

Depends on the moon and Venus sign too - I'd be interested in knowing your friends moon and venus..

Personally, I'd forgive.. people fuck up, and sex really can just be sex - it's an entirely different experience to love someone and want to live your life with them, versus some hot piece of ass you regret fucking

Now if someone had a full on affair, where emotions got involved and it wasn't just sex, that would be a hell of a lot worse than one stupid mistake - that would be tough to forgive
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unless said scorpio has a motive.
Eh, it's hard. I've always walked away, in my current situation a little different as it wasn't physical.. And it took two to tango and cause something like that to happen to us but some things can be fixed which Is why we're working on improving our relationship. In a sense it's made us stronger, at the same time it's aggravated my paranoia lol.. But feeling some pretty fucked up stuff and dealing with it has led me to be able to overcome and shrug certain things off as well.

My cousins wife a Scorpio confided in me yesterday about him, now he's an Aries with a history of cheating just like his sag brother. Sex. Porn. Girls. Sex. They've got a 3 yr old together and a baby on the way. He's cheated on her throughout their relationship, they were split up for a year and decided to work on things. In this situation she should walk away, because they've been together long long before their son was even born and he still is fuckin other girls. Gave her STD's before too! Craigslist whores and strippers he stays with even women with other kids. He's got no limit!

Seen yesterday he told her he's gonna do better on FB hope so, I love him he's family but my goodness stop thinking with your big ol dick.

That's when you walk away.
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@BusyEyes

I'm a Pisces Sun, Aqua Moon, Aries Venus, Gem Rising... but I'm Fixed dominant, not mutable Big Grin

Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't forgive so quickly... I feel like dropping the person is too easy a move - they need to do their time for the crime (I'm a Scorp/Aqua dominant, so yeah, you don't get to get off so easy (no pun intended lol) )

Pisces - mutable
Aries - cardinal
Aqua - fixed
Gem - mutable

Which part is fixed dominant?

You are good to even consider forgiveness!! Lol lol

Not me!!

When I do the Water Pullen chart, I'm Fixed dominant - I've got a lotta Scorp and Aqua influence in my chart
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its probably your house placements.
Posted by DMV
Nope, i dont do cheating. Thats detrimental to my health and theirs.

Just leave my stankin ass if you wanna go and do your own thing.

Im well aware that men dont become blind in a relationship. People will always be attracted to one another.

Its the lack of respect and self control that i cant get with.



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Posted by 4ND5
i don't even allow flirting. oh u want to flirt eh? lemme take you to a french vineyard and let the farmers bukkake you.

lol

My ex (Taurus) and I were going to see Man of Steel, and I had made some vague comment about his good looks.

All I know is we ended up staying home, ordering take-out, and watching Argo instead. -.-
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Absolute epitome of male Taurean jealousy; my god lol my best friend's boyfriend is exactly like this. And also has supreme double-standards for it, too!
Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Posted by AL4813
Good Morning ladies and gentlemen.... I hope everyone is having a pleasant day so far. Today I wanted to talk about cheating.... Yup the taboo art of going behind your significant others back and destroying their trust. Hell its even widely accepted in some cultures.

I was talking with a friend of mine and we discussed how the two of us would react if we were cheated on. I said I would simply and cordially end it and walk away and never ever look back. She said she would forgive and that people deserve second chances. I also found interesting that she said that her mind is already in the mindset that a man would cheat and that early on in the relationship he sort of gets that one freebie and yes, she has been cheated on.

I feel like if you get cheated on and you begin forgiving then you're only setting yourself up to get cheated on more. I don't see why people allow it.. you have all the power in the world to stop it.

What's your take on it folks?


Oh and I know this topic should be on the relationships forum but i'm too damn lazy rightnow.



.. But it's okay to help someone cheat, right?


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wrong
Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Posted by AL4813
Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Posted by AL4813
Good Morning ladies and gentlemen.... I hope everyone is having a pleasant day so far. Today I wanted to talk about cheating.... Yup the taboo art of going behind your significant others back and destroying their trust. Hell its even widely accepted in some cultures.

I was talking with a friend of mine and we discussed how the two of us would react if we were cheated on. I said I would simply and cordially end it and walk away and never ever look back. She said she would forgive and that people deserve second chances. I also found interesting that she said that her mind is already in the mindset that a man would cheat and that early on in the relationship he sort of gets that one freebie and yes, she has been cheated on.

I feel like if you get cheated on and you begin forgiving then you're only setting yourself up to get cheated on more. I don't see why people allow it.. you have all the power in the world to stop it.

What's your take on it folks?


Oh and I know this topic should be on the relationships forum but i'm too damn lazy rightnow.



.. But it's okay to help someone cheat, right?




wrong

And yet you did just that.

I find this thread quite rich coming someone that not to long ago gloated how he was fucking a married women.



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You're right... and that was long ago.... it was wrong of myself. but gloat?? lol nah.. dont give yourself too much credit. I've since cut ties with my past and moved forward... Im in a relationship now and things are going great.. and as you can see there are many opinions on the matter.

Im sorry I couldnt be perect like yourself.... I truly truly am.... please forgive me oh perfect one
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Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Posted by AL4813
Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Posted by AL4813
Good Morning ladies and gentlemen.... I hope everyone is having a pleasant day so far. Today I wanted to talk about cheating.... Yup the taboo art of going behind your significant others back and destroying their trust. Hell its even widely accepted in some cultures.

I was talking with a friend of mine and we discussed how the two of us would react if we were cheated on. I said I would simply and cordially end it and walk away and never ever look back. She said she would forgive and that people deserve second chances. I also found interesting that she said that her mind is already in the mindset that a man would cheat and that early on in the relationship he sort of gets that one freebie and yes, she has been cheated on.

I feel like if you get cheated on and you begin forgiving then you're only setting yourself up to get cheated on more. I don't see why people allow it.. you have all the power in the world to stop it.

What's your take on it folks?


Oh and I know this topic should be on the relationships forum but i'm too damn lazy rightnow.



.. But it's okay to help someone cheat, right?




wrong

And yet you did just that.

I find this thread quite rich coming someone that not to long ago gloated how he was fucking a married women.





You're right... and that was long ago.... it was wrong of myself. but gloat?? lol nah.. dont give yourself too much credit. I've since cut ties with my past and moved forward... Im in a relationship now and things are going great.. and as you can see there are many opinions on the matter.

Im sorry I couldnt be perect like yourself.... I truly truly am.... please forgive me oh perfect one
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no one is perfect, and it's good you moved forward. smile