did i react well? aries + virgo
This topic was created in the Astrology forum by joanne_p on Tuesday, December 13, 2016 and has 6 replies.
This is the question that i have been asking myself for about 1.5 year now.
There have been posts that I wrote about this situation but still for me is very weird.
So, about 3 years ago I met a Virgo man in the same circle of friends.
2 years ago i saw him being interested in me and being shy? I didnt understand this because i was being 'normal' i didnt have a mask, i wasnt a show off.
He was in the other hand a show off, was nice to me, but he was different - was so laid back, lot of friends, very popular among girls and so one. but had a crush on me because i was different.
he wanted to help me get into some art industry. but i think it was so weird.
he started seeing and hooking up with me and then he was offering me some jobs. it was so weird and i felt so awkward because i didnt know he would have done that. and i personally had never slept with anyone to get a job - he is only 1 year older...- or party and sniff sth to be in a circle who runs the business..
so i backed off. i pushed him away because i was so scared and i went through this business by myself working with his friends. and they thought i was his 'pupil' but i wasnt. i was working for my 'name' by myself and he didnt help me.
after 6 months when people started telling that i was new and good in the industry he tried to reach me. he tried to aske me out again and i FELT HE FELT GUILTY. BECAUSE I WASNT liek the other 'innocent girls' asking for jobs and attention but i did sth by myself. and even his close friends started hanging out with me and started being professional to me because they saw the potential in me...
our common private friends probably dont know anything about this situation. and EVEN WHEN WE WERE MEETING IN A PRIVATE CIRCLE he didnt even look into my eyes and was awkward to me- like he would know the situation or felt the guilt or idk/...
because before i trusted him. i thought were friends and even when we started seeing each other i would totally continue it but not being ignored by him and not being only seen for sex. and he was only seeing me on parties and for sex and then he would offer me new jobs and i totally freaked out because ive known him 2 years before as a private friend.
so i started to ignore him. and i saw him 'crawling' to me and begging for my 'private attention' even in september or october this year on a party he would accidentally hug me or be jealous when i was with someone else.
so i asked him even out and he told me he would totally do it again and we started a conversation why i t happened like this because i felt unfair. like betrayed by a friend because i thought we would see each other normally and he wouldnt have to offer me jobs- and i felt so 'naked emotionally' in front of him.
he said we could continue he was eager to do so and actually he ignored me again. like pulled away, backed off and went away to the us.
so he was away in the us.i ignored his photos, comments i didnt 'like' anything. i deleted him from my instagram, i was/ am being silent. and actually i see that he doesnt care.
like even now and then i was one of THOSE. but still curious why even 1 month ago he would act jealous or like a dog in a manger to me... really.
i think its the most complicated relation in my life because we both have problems with communication but when i always reach his vournelable side he is ok to me then he backs off and pushes away... i dont know why. but when i am ok with his male friends having fun he was always getting jealous.
so this is my story. but tell me. did i act /react in a normal way? maybe i was being paranoied? maybe i was being too idealistic? or it was ok that i reacted that way? reacted liek he 'used me only to get new offers'? i felt like that.
and after i did a great job in his business with his friends I FELT LIKE HE CHANGED HIS MIND and saw i am totally different and wanted to get to know me better.
but i was cold and frozen inside. because i felt so weird.
maybe i misinterpreted his intentions? maybe i was too idealistic? what do you think? maybe its like this ? i was then 25 he was 26 . maybe he was ok to me? and i pulled back in fear?
what do you think?
There have been posts that I wrote about this situation but still for me is very weird.
So, about 3 years ago I met a Virgo man in the same circle of friends.
2 years ago i saw him being interested in me and being shy? I didnt understand this because i was being 'normal' i didnt have a mask, i wasnt a show off.
He was in the other hand a show off, was nice to me, but he was different - was so laid back, lot of friends, very popular among girls and so one. but had a crush on me because i was different.
he wanted to help me get into some art industry. but i think it was so weird.
he started seeing and hooking up with me and then he was offering me some jobs. it was so weird and i felt so awkward because i didnt know he would have done that. and i personally had never slept with anyone to get a job - he is only 1 year older...- or party and sniff sth to be in a circle who runs the business..
so i backed off. i pushed him away because i was so scared and i went through this business by myself working with his friends. and they thought i was his 'pupil' but i wasnt. i was working for my 'name' by myself and he didnt help me.
after 6 months when people started telling that i was new and good in the industry he tried to reach me. he tried to aske me out again and i FELT HE FELT GUILTY. BECAUSE I WASNT liek the other 'innocent girls' asking for jobs and attention but i did sth by myself. and even his close friends started hanging out with me and started being professional to me because they saw the potential in me...
our common private friends probably dont know anything about this situation. and EVEN WHEN WE WERE MEETING IN A PRIVATE CIRCLE he didnt even look into my eyes and was awkward to me- like he would know the situation or felt the guilt or idk/...
because before i trusted him. i thought were friends and even when we started seeing each other i would totally continue it but not being ignored by him and not being only seen for sex. and he was only seeing me on parties and for sex and then he would offer me new jobs and i totally freaked out because ive known him 2 years before as a private friend.
so i started to ignore him. and i saw him 'crawling' to me and begging for my 'private attention' even in september or october this year on a party he would accidentally hug me or be jealous when i was with someone else.
so i asked him even out and he told me he would totally do it again and we started a conversation why i t happened like this because i felt unfair. like betrayed by a friend because i thought we would see each other normally and he wouldnt have to offer me jobs- and i felt so 'naked emotionally' in front of him.
he said we could continue he was eager to do so and actually he ignored me again. like pulled away, backed off and went away to the us.
so he was away in the us.i ignored his photos, comments i didnt 'like' anything. i deleted him from my instagram, i was/ am being silent. and actually i see that he doesnt care.
like even now and then i was one of THOSE. but still curious why even 1 month ago he would act jealous or like a dog in a manger to me... really.
i think its the most complicated relation in my life because we both have problems with communication but when i always reach his vournelable side he is ok to me then he backs off and pushes away... i dont know why. but when i am ok with his male friends having fun he was always getting jealous.
so this is my story. but tell me. did i act /react in a normal way? maybe i was being paranoied? maybe i was being too idealistic? or it was ok that i reacted that way? reacted liek he 'used me only to get new offers'? i felt like that.
and after i did a great job in his business with his friends I FELT LIKE HE CHANGED HIS MIND and saw i am totally different and wanted to get to know me better.
but i was cold and frozen inside. because i felt so weird.
maybe i misinterpreted his intentions? maybe i was too idealistic? what do you think? maybe its like this ? i was then 25 he was 26 . maybe he was ok to me? and i pulled back in fear?
what do you think?
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Your instincts are on point fellow Aries. Do not second guess. What you experienced was a power struggle... and rightfully so. He thought or is used to sex (and perhaps money) being power over people.
He met the wrong one... an Aries female... independent... and sex, sex is what Aries/Mars represents so, no power there either.
I like to read Aries woman experiences like this. You did good, you did you.
He met the wrong one... an Aries female... independent... and sex, sex is what Aries/Mars represents so, no power there either.
I like to read Aries woman experiences like this. You did good, you did you.
What type of job was he offering and why did it offend you? From the post not real clear what issues you two had other than maybe communication issues? Virgos can keep it all in their head and hold on to their thoughts without actually sharing with the person they are thinking about. And why would he feel guilty about offering you a job, maybe there is more to the story, or more to the type of job? All in all it sounds like you are hurt about something, he is guilty about something, but you two have not talked that out.
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Posted by puhleezeSex was followed by quasi job offers... and, games. She said she was not like "other 'innocent girls' asking for jobs and attention but i did sth by myself."
What type of job was he offering and why did it offend you? From the post not real clear what issues you two had other than maybe communication issues? Virgos can keep it all in their head and hold on to their thoughts without actually sharing with the person they are thinking about. And why would he feel guilty about offering you a job, maybe there is more to the story, or more to the type of job? All in all it sounds like you are hurt about something, he is guilty about something, but you two have not talked that out.
She is not hurt. She is second guessing her instincts. Self doubt. Aries have very strong instincts, so strong and clear, it seems unbelievable even to ourselves.
She keeps cutting him off cold but, he keeps coming back. He doesn't come back for anything other than the attraction of curiosity and rejection.
Can't believe she had sex and could keep it moving with taking bait.
i study art but i didnt know how to 'fix into ' the industry in a more professional way. i mean i wanted to do something connected with film, movies- which is very popular in my city- one of the european capitals of the cinema. so a lot of filmmakers move here to work.
and for me, now. he is a person who has a big professional and party background and he chooses his chicks like innocent girls that doesnt know how to get in the industry. and he can help them by hooking up or taking pills, doing drugs and party with him.
he likes arty girls because his mother was an artist and usually chooses the same type of girls.
right now he hangs out with 19-y o people including girls ( that i know) and they told me they already took pills with him.
for me its a catastrophy . and for them its nothing because they are so laid back...
maybe im not as laid back as them..... because for me when i know someone in a more deeper way or someone is my bf he can offer me a job or help - not a guy with a harem.
really thats why i pulled back because i was so scared and my intuition told me to make my career by MYSELF not on his back. because he would help me but instead of hooking up and taking pills.
its not the way i even start any relationship.
i know for 19 y o girls he is like a good dad. he is nice THEY DO NOT MAKE DRAMA . . i already saw they- girls that moved to my city- dont know anyone- so he is the one to help. like a older brother
and create a big family with drugs, sex and pills. and parties.
and then he would offer jobs at his friend's projects and so one..
i didnt agree on his terms and i pulled back and ignored him.
and i didnt know if i did ok or not because since almost 2 years i have mixed feeling because i mixed private and professional life.
and for me, now. he is a person who has a big professional and party background and he chooses his chicks like innocent girls that doesnt know how to get in the industry. and he can help them by hooking up or taking pills, doing drugs and party with him.
he likes arty girls because his mother was an artist and usually chooses the same type of girls.
right now he hangs out with 19-y o people including girls ( that i know) and they told me they already took pills with him.
for me its a catastrophy . and for them its nothing because they are so laid back...
maybe im not as laid back as them..... because for me when i know someone in a more deeper way or someone is my bf he can offer me a job or help - not a guy with a harem.
really thats why i pulled back because i was so scared and my intuition told me to make my career by MYSELF not on his back. because he would help me but instead of hooking up and taking pills.
its not the way i even start any relationship.
i know for 19 y o girls he is like a good dad. he is nice THEY DO NOT MAKE DRAMA . . i already saw they- girls that moved to my city- dont know anyone- so he is the one to help. like a older brother
and create a big family
with drugs, sex and pills. and parties. and then he would offer jobs at his friend's projects and so one..
i didnt agree on his terms and i pulled back and ignored him.
and i didnt know if i did ok or not because since almost 2 years i have mixed feeling because i mixed private and professional life.
yes and you were right it was a 'power' struggle.
i couldnt stand that he would have been more powerful that i was.
i couldnt stand his power over me.
his parents are very known in the city- worked in a city council- if you ask them, you can have anything you want. they are powerful.
and he wanted to do the same for me. he wanted to make his power over me. it was not a 'nice' power- like a man can have a power over a woman in a relationship.
it was a toxic, big cloud of a unbelievably difficult and heavy power that was stricking my ego. and i said STOP.
i didnt agree on his terms.
of course he is a gut that everyone likes. he is a very social, familiar and so one. everyone likes him.
i thought that maybe a guy with that power would like a girl with the 'same ego' power - as me- but i see he is very weak. and it must be only him to have a power over someone.
i couldnt stand that he would have been more powerful that i was.
i couldnt stand his power over me.
his parents are very known in the city- worked in a city council- if you ask them, you can have anything you want. they are powerful.
and he wanted to do the same for me. he wanted to make his power over me. it was not a 'nice' power- like a man can have a power over a woman in a relationship.
it was a toxic, big cloud of a unbelievably difficult and heavy power that was stricking my ego. and i said STOP.
i didnt agree on his terms.
of course he is a gut that everyone likes. he is a very social, familiar and so one. everyone likes him.
i thought that maybe a guy with that power would like a girl with the 'same ego' power - as me- but i see he is very weak. and it must be only him to have a power over someone.
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