Friends from the Past

I know that people come and go but have you ever had a fall out with a friend who just always stays on your mind? Is it an astrological aspect? I mean what else can be the reason for such an out-of-character attachment?

Tell me about your experience ... did you overcome it independently or were able to workout your friendship?

Posted by xghy
Gradual fallout. No grudges but we grew apart, different paths.

Memories that we shared fade each day.

The feeling is pretty mutual.

Weirdly, i've had dreams about her over the past few years we were slowly growing apart.

I think the maturity level determines compatibility and interests.

I somewhat feel bitter about it but I can't say I made efforts to keep it glued. So we both let it go. I let it go.

This reminds me, I have to delete and throw out pictures.

So you're actively trying to move on? Is this recent?

See, I've already gone through that stage. That was years ago but I've find myself through these years still thinking about those memories and it hadn't quite lessened. I'm just starting to think why and if I should try to work it out.

Posted by TomSawyer
Not always, once in a while.

Both Scorpios too

What about your mars/moon aspect to theirs ? I heard that's an obsessive kind of aspect.

Posted by edgelord
i have on again off again things with a few friends. one of us will think a little too much about the other one and reach out and start all over again.

i've never had that feeling with someone who i didn't reconnect with eventually.

So you always just reach out?

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Posted by xghy
Gradual fallout. No grudges but we grew apart, different paths.

Memories that we shared fade each day.

The feeling is pretty mutual.

Weirdly, i've had dreams about her over the past few years we were slowly growing apart.

I think the maturity level determines compatibility and interests.

I somewhat feel bitter about it but I can't say I made efforts to keep it glued. So we both let it go. I let it go.

This reminds me, I have to delete and throw out pictures.

So you're actively trying to move on? Is this recent?

See, I've already gone through that stage. That was years ago but I've find myself through these years still thinking about those memories and it hadn't quite lessened. I'm just starting to think why and if I should try to work it out.

Now I am. The slow pull was painful, sometimes you just have to rip it off.

My cap friend told me not to do that because people are just in different stages in theirbloves right now and we might cross paths again with the same interests.

I thought about it for a few years while barely making efforts (on both sides). I don't want to feel any negativity, so I decided it's time to just let it go. Our choice of friend depends on our life style . I guess.

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That's very true about people being in different stages and sometimes years after that changes and you find value in each other again, I suppose.

If you're my friend, you're my FRIEND. People go through different things in life, the relationship ebbs and flows. I love catching up with them.

Yes. Same, sun, mercury, venus and mars. All conjunct the other's. His moon is Aries though. We had been friends since 6th grade. This year he told me he's been in love with me since high school and eventually blocked me. He's been in a relationship since highschool and is engaged. I assume things got too messy but I always wonder how he is all the time but I resent the fact that I was never told why we stopped talking after years of friendship. We've always been upfront with eachother, I'm equal parts pissed off and depressed about it.

Posted by xghy

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by xghy

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by xghy
Gradual fallout. No grudges but we grew apart, different paths.

Memories that we shared fade each day.

The feeling is pretty mutual.

Weirdly, i've had dreams about her over the past few years we were slowly growing apart.

I think the maturity level determines compatibility and interests.

I somewhat feel bitter about it but I can't say I made efforts to keep it glued. So we both let it go. I let it go.

This reminds me, I have to delete and throw out pictures.

So you're actively trying to move on? Is this recent?

See, I've already gone through that stage. That was years ago but I've find myself through these years still thinking about those memories and it hadn't quite lessened. I'm just starting to think why and if I should try to work it out.

Now I am. The slow pull was painful, sometimes you just have to rip it off.

My cap friend told me not to do that because people are just in different stages in theirbloves right now and we might cross paths again with the same interests.

I thought about it for a few years while barely making efforts (on both sides). I don't want to feel any negativity, so I decided it's time to just let it go. Our choice of friend depends on our life style . I guess.

That's very true about people being in different stages and sometimes years after that changes and you find value in each other again, I suppose.

I don't think I want to rekindle our friendship. I had a revolving door policy before but too many accidents.

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Accidents? Like what?

Posted by Nixx
Yes. Same, sun, mercury, venus and mars. All conjunct the other's. His moon is Aries though. We had been friends since 6th grade. This year he told me he's been in love with me since high school and eventually blocked me. He's been in a relationship since highschool and is engaged. I assume things got too messy but I always wonder how he is all the time but I resent the fact that I was never told why we stopped talking after years of friendship. We've always been upfront with eachother, I'm equal parts pissed off and depressed about it.

Did you try to reach out and find out? I'm sorry that you went through that. 😢

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Posted by Nixx
Yes. Same, sun, mercury, venus and mars. All conjunct the other's. His moon is Aries though. We had been friends since 6th grade. This year he told me he's been in love with me since high school and eventually blocked me. He's been in a relationship since highschool and is engaged. I assume things got too messy but I always wonder how he is all the time but I resent the fact that I was never told why we stopped talking after years of friendship. We've always been upfront with eachother, I'm equal parts pissed off and depressed about it.

Did you try to reach out and find out? I'm sorry that you went through that. 😢

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I sent him a couple messages and his partner too. I almost went over to their house but I had a full on panic attack before getting in my car. I'm doing better now, I hope that someday I'll find out what happened. Hopefully we can talk about it and patch things up, even if I don't agree with how he handled things, I know he's going through a rough time too.

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Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by Nixx
Yes. Same, sun, mercury, venus and mars. All conjunct the other's. His moon is Aries though. We had been friends since 6th grade. This year he told me he's been in love with me since high school and eventually blocked me. He's been in a relationship since highschool and is engaged. I assume things got too messy but I always wonder how he is all the time but I resent the fact that I was never told why we stopped talking after years of friendship. We've always been upfront with eachother, I'm equal parts pissed off and depressed about it.

Did you try to reach out and find out? I'm sorry that you went through that. 😢

I sent him a couple messages and his partner too. I almost went over to their house but I had a full on panic attack before getting in my car. I'm doing better now, I hope that someday I'll find out what happened. Hopefully we can talk about it and patch things up, even if I don't agree with how he handled things, I know he's going through a rough time too.

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So no response from them?

This is how I feel about most of my friends that have been really close to me. It's now to the point where I just accept things and move forward with out hard feelings, I almost expect I'll lose them as a friend. For whatever reason they may have betrayed me I still forgive them yet don't reach out or try to mend the friendship. In every case (about 3 past friendships) the old friend reached out to me after some time to apologize and say they miss having me as a friend, something in me doesn't let them back in. It always feels off after their absence if we talk like we used to. This is completely different than just a friend I lost touch with for a few months and we pick up like it was no time at all. Most of my friends are like that. I'm not even a grudge holder, I just feel like it's not genuine anymore? Very hard to explain it. But I've never been able to accept them again. The one friend of 11 years I still think about all the time, same with the friend I met through her. I weirdly run into her in public all the time and it's like we don't know each other. just always lost interest even though we made up.