Frustrated with Aquarius Male ....

Okay ...brief history about me (libra) and my aqua. About 4 years ago, a wonderfully mysterious man entered my life. I was so fascinated by him, however I picked up a strong "friends only" vibe, so i thought nothing much of him except as a friend. Being that we both live in different countries, I'm in Canada and he is in the US, it was always easy to keep things light and airy haha. We always kept in contact with eachother and whenever I was in the US visiting, we always made time to see eachother.

In the last 2 years, my aqua was been making an effort to let me know he is thinking of me and has very vocal about how much he misses me, also dropping subtle hints about me being in his life. At first, I didn't quite believe him, but my guard has come down since then ....man is he good with his words. All talk, no action though.

So, last year during my visit, we spent a lot of time together - i even got to meet some of his family which I thought was a good sign. I tried to discuss if we had a future together and being that I was finishing up school, he told me to focus on school because he felt he had the potential to be a distraction. A part of me believed him, but the other part thought it was just a good excuse to avoid commitment. So I took his advice and strictly focused on school.

So during this years visit, I was so excited to see him, but I came home feeling little excitement. Basically we didn't spend a lot of time together, it was me who was iniatiating everything and I felt like he was putting me on the back burner.

I've been reflecting a lot on this whole situation Bc technically we aren't an item, but the way he acts towards me its hard to not feel/think/act like we are. I feel like he is taking me for granted though. I feel that I am the only one putting effort into whatever it is we are. What happened to relationship equality? I guess my frustrations stem from all the time and effort I have invested into him, yet I have no idea what we are. I am one who likes my space as much as him, but recently he has been SO distant with me. I am such a patient person, but I do not know how much more I can take. Somebody tell me I am not over reacting and its all him ...

Aqua men are irritating. we al know

Posted by AriesLady8
You guys are friends who sometimes get curious of the hidden potential you might have as lovers but you are still just friends.

Are you affectionate with each other? Do you kiss? Embrace with loving hugs? Do you hold each other?

Even though you are apart of each others lives, you still live separate lives. A phone friendship is not enough to sustain a person for four years. I'm sure he has had women or a woman in his life. Have you? Are you putting all your eggs in one basket? Are you living your life as well?

This is not me being snarky. These are real questions

AriesLady8, you are definetly right about that hidden potential.

Whenever we are together, he is so affectionate towards me (its always quite reassuring). We can't ever seem to keep our hands and lips off eachother. I also failed to mention that we've been intimate in the last 2 years. As much as I dont like to think about it, i know he could be/is seeing other women when I'm not around. Especially after he told me women are his weakness ugh.

I have been living my life, work and school keep me busy, so that doesn't leave much time to date. It's not that I am putting all my eggs on one basket, but I really have no interest seeking out anybody unless its him.