How do you deal with an Aquarius Man!!!!!
Ok!Im a Capricorn Woman and he is the Aquarius but i don't not understand him. We Have been dating 4 months now and i do not i mean do not understand him. He always wants to break up and say some crazy stuff. I can tell he likes me but it seems like to me he push his self away when he feeling like he gets to close. I don't know how to re act to him when he like that so i will ignore him but it seems like he want me to chase him. SOME PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND HIM
Dating an Aqua is like taking down a bull!
Ok this is really crazy i never ever ever been in a relationship like this if this is what you wanna call it. He break up with me at least once a week, It's like a ongoing joke with my girlfriends and i. I never saw a man go crazy once you ask him a question and then he want to break up with you. I'm a cap so im a strong female myself so i can't see myself dealing with this to much longer nor chasing after any man so we all know THIS RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GONNA WORK!!!!!! He is crazy i thought he was bi polar or a.d.d at first.
OMG! I JUST DO NOT NO WHAT TO SAY at first he made me feel like a queen, then all of a sudden BAM! He is a different person. I just don't know what to do i guess i should have did my research before dating this crazy person. One thing i never showed him emotion you know im a cap.
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Jan 18, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1857 · Topics: 45
Candie.....no huffing or puffing..you simply and with dignity state to him...you wanna be in my world Mister, then be in it!!!...if you don't then that's fine with me:-)
Then you turn on your heel, head held high and walk away from him......watch him scurry back to you!!!!......with the above advice!!!!if he doesn't, he's into somone else, if he does, then you are queen bee and calling the shots!!!! Always, always....."Turn the tables" on the one you fancy....my epitath:-)
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OK! I am going to try that any thing is worth a try at this point.
Girl, You have your hands FULLL... this man will never see EYE tO EYE with you, he will always be right, he loves to act as if he knows everything. He is more than likely not worth the time nor effort, CUT HIM LOSE!!!! RUN, RUN, RUN as fast as you can away from this confused CRAZY man!!! he will turn your world around. And believe he will come back, cause he likes to play games like that. If you make the choose to stay, get prepared for the mental roller coaster.
It could also possibly be you. You say he breaks up with you every week, what are you guys doing to incite this? you never show him emotion? I think guys would like to be shown some emotion regardless of sign
I show him emotion as far as our relationship goes when it's good we both do, but when he goes to acting crazy i don't show him any emotion because i don't know what to do. He has 2 faces i feel like when he see his self getting to close he push his self away.
Yes they are!!! Please dont be fooled by his charm. He has serious issues that he need to deal with first!!! why is it that he keep breaking up with you every other week? because he has mental ISSUES. I have to be honest here, dont try to fix something that you are not licensed to fix. You should not have to deal with a man that breaks up with you on a consistant basis, who has the time or energy for that. mentally it will bring you down. Yes you may even love this GUY, but aren't you deserving of someone that will love you enough to not see you hurt? Candie, move on and remember that you are beautiful deserve MORE!!!!!! keep your head up.. he has the ISSUE not you.
Ok! im glad i got onto this blog! at first i thought it was me not being understanging then i realized he is the crazy one once i knew if i ask a question we would for sure break up. Oh! we are on a break now!!!!! Yeah and i don't care if he come back either. Im so tired of this break up to make up game.
If I don't like something (behavior etc), I will say something. I cannot stand jealousy, possessiveness, unstable behavior
We have talked about him breaking up with me several times before and i can't keep going thru this time and time again an blah! blah!. He always says i didn't break up with you(but what is hanging up in my ear saying don't call me no more?) Or it was a misunderstanding or some crazy mess. I don't even know if he knew he broke up with me. This is my first aquaman and my last. They might make better friends.
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Sep 11, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 263 · Topics: 17
Hello all!
I'm glad I found this place. I am a little astrologially obsessed, and it's nice to see that now have an outlet for it.
I've been seeing an Aqua guy for a little while now... and everything I read on this board is pretty much spot on with regard to his character...
However... there is one question that I haven't stumbled upon an answer for, and I'm hoping you can enlighten me.
I'm a Freedom loving Sagittarius, who may be falling for a much younger aqua guy. (Having never fallen before, this is new to me...)
He's always in my thoughts, (But I never let him know it...)
There is a two hour distance between us, so we only see eachother on weekends... and we rarely speak during the week. We don't even really make plans on weekends, we just have mutual friends and always end up running into eachother, and when we do it's magnetic. He is so affectionate with me, with little regard for the other people around us, and even though we've never discussed our situation, it's no secret that we are an item.
When I travel the distance to see him, it seems he would much rather hold me hand and stare at me, then have sex...and given that I have had some experience in being used for sex.. I see this as a good sign.
I guess my question is this...
If they are so unable of emotional displays, and discussions of feelings and such, then what counts? What are the signs and signals that I should be picking up on without having to have the conversation? I don't want to scare him away, so I won't be asking him what's going on with us anytime soon, (If ever) but I also want to have some idea that this could last... A glimmer of hope that this wonderful situation isn't going to end.
Sorry if that's too long, but I'm excited to hear what you all have to say!
Thanks!
Sadge22 Girl! from my experience they all start off like that, they do all the nice cute things and say things we like to hear. Then they flip the script and the true bipolar side comes out of them and they leave you thinking WHAT THE HELL DID I DO!!!!! beware it is not you. Let me give you some examples: He say one thing and never do it. He acted like he had this and had that then once i got to know him real good realized it was not that serious(but i wasn't with him for that anyway so i didnt care). Big dreamer, workaholic, not alot of sex probably like once a week. not a big phone person, the break up to make up syndrome its alot more but this is some.
All aquarius' I know are notorious for blowing hot and cold!
Girl! your wasting your time, one thing I know about aquaman is that he will not show the type of emotion that you need, they do the opposite, yes they have emotions and a soul, but it's not remotely close to what a women desires from a man. I have been dealing with an aquaman on and off for 2 yrs now, and I have come to this conclusion, he will never be the way I desire him to be, he is not built that way mentally or emotionally. And trust me the man is in mental and emotional pain, and in need of a woman who accepts him the way he is, but that's a tall order and one that I can not full fill. Hell I don't have time for all that dedication to just one cause. If he can not meet me at least a quarter of he way, it's too exhausting, tip toeing, exercising patience and trying to act like you don't care. Fxok it! I need a man who is voluntarily willing to be caring, loving, affectionate, and an attentive person my Leo world. And trust me I would reciprocate ten times fold.
So I take him for what he is worth, an occasional weekend at his place type of guy, so when he comes out of his lonely shell and wants some company for a weekend, go for it! what can you loose, just use condoms every single time your with him (because this man even in his down phases, gets his in with whom ever is available at the time) so enjoy the once and while weekend getaway, then move on.
Everything I have read about Aquarian men here is dead on! Unbelievable! I have "attempted" to date an Aqua for six months now. This is my first and last. At first, we seemed like a perfect match. I'm a Gemini...and wow...what a great connection! I have to say now that this has been the most exhausting...and definitely confusing 6 months of my life. I'm over it. I have spent so much time in just a few months wondering what's wrong with me, did I say something wrong, what the hell is going on, etc.. I certainly appreciate everyone's differences, but come on. This guy has to be the most self absorbed person I've ever met. It's as if he floats through life never considering..or caring how his statements or actions affect people. If I get upset, he wonders what's wrong with me. Huh? It's crazy. Are we dating? Are we not? Why are you so emotionally shut down? You want to see me...you go out on a limb and tell me you really care..then I don't hear from you for a week. Again, huh? It's just too much. If someone wants me, I want it to be a little more obvious. When is it that your Mr. Aqua Man will finally at least meet you half way? I believe it's when hell freezes over. lol Who has the time?
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Aug 20, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 995 · Topics: 34
"Big dreamer, workaholic, not alot of sex probably like once a week. not a big phone person, the break up to make up syndrome..." Yep, that about sums it up.
I hate generalizing and there HAS to be some Aqua's who aren't like this but damn, every relationship I've had with one is a clone of the previous one. How boring. It seems the only people who are willing to be with Aqua's are those who have low self-esteem and are willing to make excuses for their behavior. It's a strange co-dependent, disfunctional arrangement. Not for me, thanks.
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May 21, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
LMAO!
It either works with an Aquarius or it doesn't, no relationship should be uphill all the time, no matter what there sign.
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May 23, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2604 · Topics: 117
(( Ok!Im a Capricorn Woman and he is the Aquarius but i don't not understand him. ))
Its as good as saying I am a car salesman and I dont understand rocket science. Please acknowledge your limitations and find someone whom you can understand. There is nothing wrong with aqua men. They are perfectly ok as long its the same group trying to understand them. It wont work for you or for him. Why take so much of effort and end up hurt? Find someone else.
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May 21, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
THANK YOU thelibran! GO find someone else! Not all aquas are living lonely and unhappily....so that means there is someone out there good enough for a relationship with them. If its not for you...go find something that is.
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May 23, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2604 · Topics: 117
If I have ever come across someone sensible than a libra, it was always an aqua. But then if you dont have the minimum brain power of a libra, you wont get to understand or appreciate the brain of an aqua and will end up assuming they are crazy. Like those minimum marks you need to get into some specialized courses.
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May 23, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2604 · Topics: 117
(( The least peopel can do is give advice and not put people's intelligence down! ))
Give advise and after sometime she will be all hurt, his aqua will be even more hurt and whats the point? If it dont work, it means only one thing - it dont work. Why give more information and advices and push her into further trouble? You think that is fair? There is no issues with intelligence. Its a whole different frequency and you cannot get these two to understand each other. Its not like there is some shortage for men in this world. Why waste your time chasing people whom you dont understand?
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May 23, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2604 · Topics: 117
Kris "That is air sign arrogance for you !" I agree for the most part with you not all but some are so damn stubborn and arogant.
now thats the issue when a fire or water or earth try to evaluate an air sign. If we put it in our ways, it becomes unacceptable and arrogant for others. If I dilute it, it becomes a lie from my perspective. And I dont wish to lie.
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May 04, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 1078 · Topics: 68
This has got to be, without a doubt, the most common topic on these boards.
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May 21, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
Honestly?!!?
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May 23, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2604 · Topics: 117
Intellectual arrogance with some of them .
can u tell me a better way of explaining that situation Kris? To me its the simplest explanation. Bcoz Aqua brain is an upgraded not so balanced version of libra brain.
(( You can explain all day and most people just won't get it. ))
I have explained to some people for months and still no good. I have warned people not to get into something and they were quite stubborn and didn't cared and got into something and got burned. Then once its all messed up, we have to sit back and listen to all the sob stories and bitching. At times we get more accurate explanations after things get worse. And once things go worse, they just dont want to see the other person in question as a normal sensible human being who just failed to look and sound sensible in front of a wrong match. So they label them a loser, idiot and whatever they please and I will end up defending them and go on explaining what went wrong and why it went wrong. Doesnt it look way stupid doing those explanations.
Simplest advise is always the truth if they like it or not. She shouldn't be chasing an aqua man. After 3 months, she might call him a loser and this poor dude might end up becoming homosexual thinking he is incapable for a relationship with women. If it was a cappy man chasing an aqua girl, it would have been a different story.
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May 23, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2604 · Topics: 117
I didnt said they can understand an aqua women.
They understand around 20-30% may be. Compared to the 0-10% of cappy womens idea of aqua men. Bcoz they get to understand this 30% , they end up assuming they know aqua women 100% . They have this hope that if aqua can bend a little towards his dimension of thinking, he can get a better grip at her... thats why i mentioned "whole different story". Signed Up:
May 21, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
It always going o be the woman bending 'a little'. In any pairing/sign relationship.
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May 23, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2604 · Topics: 117
(( It always going o be the woman bending 'a little'. In any pairing/sign relationship ))
air with air - both bends
air with fire - air bends more than fire
air with water - obviously air bends
air with earth - air has once again no choice than to bend.
it doesn't change for man or women.
Please help here> I have read your posts and they are all so enlightining, thank you for contributing to this aqua forum! here is my story. MY ex and I dated for 8 months until roughly a month ago, when he exploded and broke up with me for the sole reason of me asking him what was wrong with him and he just was stressed out and bang he broke up... confusingly enough when we started talking on the phone he said he did not want to break up but at the end of the conversation he did. The following days he was silent then he called to pick up his stuff at my place, but he never actually made it to pick it up, so the stuff is still there. Last time we talked it sounded like he was convincing himself and try to convince me that the relationship is a rollercoaster andhe cannot deal with it right now, but as YOU ALL know by now HE IS THE AQUA creating the rollercoaster
lol!
Anyway I decided to send a text 10 days ago saying that as this was his decision (to be away) to please take his stuff as I would be pleased to give it to him, no anger no regret, I am too rational to beg or tell him anything more regarding teh relationship, and I did even offer my friendship.
I received no reply to my text, his stuff is still at my place, 10 days later still silence and almost a month from the break up... How crazy is this? I mean, if you want to move on, you should pick up your pieces first, correct?
I want to add it is not the first time he breaks up. and he does it right when we get closer, and when his family puts pressure on him to do things or to be with them and blabla (yeah they are pretty obsessive and he feels obliged all the time, like a martyr).
I am a very patient person, the past times he came back pretty easily, but I also helped the communciation a lot, this time round I would like to keep my silence and see what happens.... do you think he will realize sooner or later that I m not communicating?
what is the best way to deal with a silent aqua, call? ignore? wait?
Please share with me A Leo complaining about arrogance. The very thought.
how my god why me i regret the day i meet my aquarius man we were friends at first but he was sweet an nice loving caring respect me in the begining i fall for is charm now am stuck loving an wanting what we had togehter i love him because he was there for me when i need someone the most thats why its hard to jus forget him indeed aquarius is f...ing crazy he do stuff to make me upset especial when i ignore him plus he always lie about simple stuff like i am dumd or something worst thing is he constantly upset me an when i rebel an speak my mind he turn cold ignore my call so i call him from work he answer an reply oh stop calling me an hang up in my ears he is wrong but yet still he act like i started the drama am a scorpio so revenge is on my mind i want to mess with his mind like he did mines lol pray for me aquarius man is the worst of all man
I'm a sag and i had been dating my foreign aqua man for a year now. We first became friends, i thought he was the sweetest
guy on earth. He would always listen to me stories of the day, give me advice etc. he was like a best friend then... Then having
the characteristic of falling in love easily, i fell so deeply in love with him especially when he did not attempt to have make love
with me until i insisted lol. (i like guys that don't ask for it, i tend to be the one to insist but i run away from guys that are
obviously just after sex), so moving on, him being able to control himself with that really turned me on.
Just like any relationship everything was so so good at first, he was so sweet and he tells me all the sweetest words
in the world. Until one i was in his apartment, when i went home i did not hear from him in a week and when i would text
him he was just so cold.He became started becoming a totally different man. There are times that he's very sweet before
we go to sleep and when we wake up he becomes so rude and would ask me to go and wouldn't even kiss me good bye.
And same things kept on happening over and over ... hot and cold... then i finally started forgetting about him
and dated other guys but we never really lost contacts. After few months he started calling, and texting and i just kept on
ignoring ( not intentionally tho). And so he started saying how much he misses me and admitted that he dated some other girls
and i did not show any anger nor jealousy because i wasn't really feeling that way probably because i fell outta love but we
started dating again and i was actually surprised that he was even the one who demanded us being exclusive and serious bf/gf.
So i thought hhmmm why not lets give it a try..
I told him the things that i dont like about him and he promised he'll try to change for the better and luckily i can really
feel his efforts now, like before he wouldn't really text much nor tell me he's plans, but now he does and when im busy he
demands for my time. I think what made him like me more now is because im not so clingy with him.And yes they love socializing.
He now introduces me his friends which he doesn't really do before he actually wanna meet my family and he wants me to meet his fam.
as well.
Patience and lots of understanding is what it takes to make him fall for you, and oh they are great in bed too 
based on the stories here i think they all are the same at first ,will do the nicest things and be there when you needed someone the most till you fall in love with them and once you do , yo will start to try to spend more time with him like call or send him messages which he finds annoying... Based on experience , i let him be and started acting just a like a friend, would even tell him im dating someone and he ended up being crazy about me....
But yeah its really hard to argue with them even if it wasnt your fault like if you tell him things that he did that you did not like he will get mad and make it look like it was your fault and this is something that i need to know how to deal with also, i dont wanna be just sitting there and just nod on everything that he says or ignore the things that he does even if it hurts me... but what can i do i don't wanna argue with him he will never give way nor accept that he is wrong...
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May 17, 2008Comments: 10 · Posts: 1963 · Topics: 279
One of my good male friends is an Aqua. He is my movie & coffee buddy. We go to coffee shops and have philisophical conversations. OR we go to the movies and watch a few and go somewhere after for a drink and discuss. He is kind of a "I Know it all tyvm" type. So i dont hang out with him alot, he is better in small doses. LOL.. Not sure what to tell you, but good luck!
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Aug 20, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 995 · Topics: 34
"But yeah its really hard to argue with them even if it wasnt your fault like if you tell him things that he did that you did not like he will get mad and make it look like it was your fault and this is something that i need to know how to deal with also, i dont wanna be just sitting there and just nod on everything that he says or ignore the things that he does even if it hurts me... but what can i do i don't wanna argue with him he will never give way nor accept that he is wrong..."
It's like being with a mental patient. Just do what Libras do. Put a blanky around them, pat them while looking at something shiny in the grass, and say, "There, there.... distractedly"
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Apr 03, 2012Comments: 12 · Posts: 642 · Topics: 27
omg Im so glad I found this. now everything makes a little more sense.
damn, who knew aquas were so crazy haha 
Hey, Im a Leo woman dating an aqua man and let me tell you...i tired of the roller coaster ride. The sex is great and one day he treats me like a queen, the next, he doesn't know who I am. As a Leo woman, I require lots of attention all the time. I have given my all to him. I'm done. I don't deserve this. I'm not chasing him anymore with text messages inquiring why I'm getting the cold shoulder. He even blocked my number this time. We were together Weds. nite and had an awesome time together...Thursday morning, I'm the enemy...really??? I'm so done with aqua men. Bipolar, bipolar, bipolar!!!
Aqua men are bipolar...one day they love you, the next day they don't know who you are, uggghhhh. Can't take it anymore, these 2 months dating an Aqua feel like 2 freaking centuries, enough.