How to reconcile with a Cappy man? Cappy guys plz!

Please help me to reconcile with my Cappy man!?
I'm a scorpio woman aged 33 and I'm in love with a cappy man aged 36. He's never been married. I'd had a divorce years ago and I have 2 kids.We knew each other from a dating web. He asked me my email address and then he sent me his picture and asked me to send him a picture in return. We chatted and texted each other a lot and he fell in love with me on the day I sent him my picture. He loves me and intended to introduce me to his family. He had told his mother about me and that he really want to marry me. He's kind of traditional, charming, caring, hard working man. He's 100% cappy and I'm 100% scorpio (based on our personalities and on our birthday chart). Everything went smoothly until a month ago. He's got disappointed with me because of a misunderstanding. at first I didn't even realize it. But when I realized, I made even a bigger mistake: I called him and texted him a lot, which made him angry with me, telling him that I was so sorry for my mistake and and would like to apology. when he refused to answer the phone, I thought he wanted to end the relationship because I wasn't suitable for him and I told him so and that I would stay single if we broke up, and that the present I preprared for him on our wedding day I would keep for myselft as a reminder of him. after that I realized that this hurt him so much. He told me that he was deeply hurt and that I really didn't understand him, and "as a wife, I should think every thing over before saying it to him". I realized my mistake and I apologied him in my long emails. But he just keep silence since then. It's nearly a month now. Please adv me whether I should be patient for him to forgive me and contact me back (if ever) or should I find a suitable present for him and go to his place and apology for my mistakes. I'm deeply in love with him and I know he still loves me too. I don't want to lose this man. Cappy guys, please help me.

Posted by cowpuncher
A few questions... please use paragraph breaks when answering too:

1) How long were you guys talking before he "fell in love?"

2) How long have you guys been talking/together total?

3) What was the big mistake/misunderstanding? Details please.

4) Did you guys have a date set to get married?

All of this sounds like the guy was moving at warp speed for a Capricorn, jumping into a serious relationship. That's not something we normally do. I won't say it's impossible and NEVER happens, but I think when it does happen like that more often than not you have a desperate Cap on your hands. Caps make great partners for those who have the patience to stick with most of us when we're moving slow initially. Desperate Caps do NOT make good partners, just like any other desperate person probably won't.

We need more details here, but it's entirely possible that you may have just dodged a bullet, and don't even realize it.

Likewise it's possible he suddenly woke up, found himself moving at warp speed... and flipped out. *shrug*

+1

Cowpuncher! Thank you for your help. I'm very aprreciate.
I would like to give the details of my relationship with my Cappy man:
We are both Vietnamese, very traditional and have highly ethic attitude. We both love family life and very loyal, very serious.
I didn't know astrology before. Sometime after I have met my Cappy man, I knew astrology by chance. To my surprise, our birthchart fit us perfectly. And the knowledge of astrology helps me understand myself and my Cappy man better.
I was born on 31 of October, 1979.
He was born on 1 of January, 1976.
Firstly, I would like to give some information about my Cappy man:
- He's well-educated, intelligent, serious, sincere, ambitious, hardworking, honest, kind-hearted, helpful, home-caring, calm, charming, humble. Whenever I praised him, he alsways takes a humble reaction. He's somehow melancholy. He's good looking, well-built body. I like the way he dresses. He loves his mother so much that he never made her worry about him. He would always tell her everything and he would always live as her adv.He took her adv on marriage seriously. He didn't date anyone for almost 15 years and he stays single until now for he was afraid of breaking up (he thought that he wasn't lucky in marriage and that a breaking up in marriage would make him and his mother sorrowful). When he was young and still poor, he fell in love with a girl, whose family is very rich. They loved each other so much. But her family humiliated him. For that reason, he decided to break up with her. She remains single since then. He knew it but he told me that he would never come back to her. I knew this one month after we fell in love. He just told me that, I've never asked for details. It's up to him to tell me. This stroke me. I felt very sorry for that woman and I knew that she still loves him and that he's so special that she would never love anyone else. How determined he is! and maybe so harsh, so cold! I've never seen anyone behave like this. (we haven't discussed this so I cannot conclude)
- He's now a manager mechanic engineer. He works very hard and always busy. But he always tries to give me his time. I understand and appreciate this.
- He always keeps his words. Everything he does must have a good result. He's so determined.
- He's very good at logic, has a good view for future. He always expresses good will for family security.
In short, everything in his birthchart fits his personality perfectly. And as a scorp

In short, everything in his birthchart fits his personality perfectly. And as a scorpio, I'm very good at figuring out a person??s personality throught facts. But sometimes it's just assumption. I know.
1) How long were you guys talking before he "fell in love?"
- With his very limitted time, we all struggled to find time to chat and text. We have chatted as friends for 3 weeks. He asked me about my situation, my personalities, my children, my current job, my plan for future, the reason why my first marriage broken up... We amused each other and I find it very peaceful when chatting with him. I knew he'd carefully considered the case. Then he tell me that he would like to send me his photo and asked me for my email address and a recent photo of me. He also informed me his full name and asked for my full name too (which both fully contained in our email addresses)
When he received my photo, he found me very charming; and he found my personalities interesting. He told me that he missed me. And after that he loves me. I knew he's moving fast in the relationship. But we??re always on the same page. I felt the same and I love him too. We??re both so passionate. I know we both cannot so easily fall in love with anyone. So if he chose me, I'm fitted with his expectations.
He then went abroad for a month (for training in his career). This made it much more difficult for communication. We only exchanged emails. He didn't have much time. We always missed each other, thought about each other every minute, even when we slept. The hunger for love burned both of us. He looked at my photo every day and he dreamt of me each night. He told me about his dreams. Our love grew so fast in this time, like a storm. I knew this.

When he was still abroad, he told his foreign friend about me, and he called his mother at home and told her everything about us and that he would marry me. I knew he was very serious. This not —fair?? for his family cause his family is so feudalistic. People would blame him for marrying me (as I was once married). His mother didn't oppose but adv him to consider the case with the utmost care. He told her that he loves me and that it would take a very long time to get married. And his mother agreed. He even asked me if I would wait for him to establish his own business (4 years) and then he would go to my hometown to live with me. This sounds strange but I know he had calculated the situation carefully and he has his own reason. He likes peaceful place and he didn't want to bring so much changes to my life. He told me he would tell me the detail of his plan after he has consider everything.
2) How long have you guys been talking/together total?
We've talking together about 2 months. After that he got dissapointed with me and besides 2 very short emails blaming me getting him agry and that he was so deeply hurted, he remains silent since then.

3) What was the big mistake/misunderstanding? Details please.
On July 6th, he texted me, asking me what I was doing then. I replied that I went out with some of my friends. He didn't like going out, I know. He worried about my children at home and that it would be dangerous if going out at that time (it was just 7pm and I live in a very peacful town, and my friends are so good and we behave well). It didn't seem appropriate. I replied that I took my children with me and that it couldn't be anything dangerous. I told him that —it's whether dangerous or not depending on where you go, with whom, and what you do, and you can't tell whether anything is dangerous if someone goes out or whether it's better if someone stays at home?? This hurted him cause he is the one who always stays at home after work. I didn't mean it. I was so sturborn then and I didn't explain the situation. He stopped texting me and when I went home (about 30 minutes later) and after I had wished my children to bed, I realized the problem. I asked him whether he was disappointed with me, he replied that he wasn't deserved being treated like that. And that he didn't want me to text him anymore, I should send him emails instead. I sent him an email the following day, anaylyzing the different in our personalities and that we need so much understanding and love to fill the gaps. I??d underestimated the problem then.
Days went by and he just kept silent. I was so worry that I thought he found me unsuitable and I re-examined my situation, and I found myself unsuitable too: I have children to take care for, I wasn't the woman he expects, I didn't understand him??_
Therefore, when I called him and he ignored me, I thought he wouldn't forgive my mistake and he would let go the relationship. In desperation, I called and texted him a lot, telling him that I was so sorry, that I would like to apology, I would like to talk to him, and that I wasn't suitalbe for him, that I would stay single if we break up, and the present I??d prepared for him (a self-made crossstitch piece which represents our marriage in the future) I would kept for myselft. I just expressed what I felt. And I didn't even realized that this would hurt him so deeply. I had let go my relationship so easily! This is my very big mistake.

He then sent me an email telling me that I made him angry. And he cannot understand the way I love him!
I replied him that I didn't intended to make him angry. Just because I didn't get his reply and that like emailing, texting and calling is also the way to remain contact. I was sorry if I made him angry. And I asked him —what am I to you—
He replied that he was so deeply hurted, that I didn't understand him, and —as a wife, you should think everything over when you say it with your husband??. This is the first time he called me his wife.
I sent him 2 long email after that, apologied for my mistake, explaining the situation why I said so, telling him about my past??_ and asked him to forgive me or give me the answer whether he wants to keep the relationship with me or not. I know I was somehow clinggy. It's not good. It would push him far away from me. And that telling him too much would spoil the relationship too. I??d made so many mistakes! And I really didn't understand his behaviour. I wish I would knew it sooner. I blamed myselft for the mistakes and my unthoughtful deeds! I knew I was so impulsive. This made everything worse!

4) Did you guys have a date set to get married?
At first, he told me that he would like to get married soon.
Then after he had told his mother about us, he asked me if I would wait for him for 4 years because he wants to live with me in my hometown, and he had to establish his own business in 4 years. He needs time to fullfil his dream. I was so shocked then. It was so harsh. But I know he's reasonalbe and when I thought everything over, I replied that I would wait and that I have my own plan too, I also want to give my kids good care. (He wanted my kids to stay with us and he promised to love them as his own children. I trusted him)
But I considered the request later and I sent him an email telling him that I was worry about our future, what would happen to us if I wouldn't give birth to a healthy child at that age, everything would happen in such a long time and no one can tells. And I really don't want to live far away from him for such a long time.
He then told me that he's considering the situation and would tell me when he finds the best solution for us, and he was wishing that I was his wife then and that I should be prepared to give birth to his child soon.

I was so confused by his behaviour and his answer. I don't know if he would remain silent forever or he could contact me in the future. cause I know once he had mentioned marriage, it would be very serious to consider the relationship. I wouldn't end so easily. Or if he didn't want to hurt me so he would keep silent and this would be the answer for me.
So please adv me:
- Should I keep silent and wait for him to contact me first(if ever)?
- Should I go to his place and apology once more time (it doesn't seem right) and ask for a specific answer?
- Should I ask him to keep friendship? should I sent him good stories or quotes to make him feel better?
I know I should keep myself happy and take good care of my kids in any situation. And I know I would still love this man no matter what his answer is. I know he wouldn't change his love for me and I wouldn't change my love for him.

Thank you for considering my case!

I think maybe you should try to find someone else. If he is going to get this mad and not even want to discuss things with you after only two months than what can you expect spending the rest of your life with him will be like?

You shouldn't contact him. Either a) he knows you'll be there for him if he needs it and he'll contact you when he's ready, or b) he's unsure of how much you care about him and if that is the case than wanting to marry you seems totally irrational so you should probably find someone else.

It sounds like he is really desperately looking to fill that want for family and stability that cappys have.