Overcoming hard aspects?

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by fauxfuchsia on Monday, March 21, 2016 and has 8 replies.
Any tips, advice, stories?

How have you/are you dealing with your harder aspects?

What advice would you give to others in how to go about it, in general, or for your particular aspect/s?
Right now I'm concerned about my neptune sq asc & merc opp asc. Not really sure what to do now I'm aware of it. "Unsure of ability" and "Fear of rejection" yay just what i've always wanted smile smile
Hard aspects aren't necessarily bad. They don't make a person a certain way. IMO, hard aspects just point towards challenges. You can find ways to either accept or overcome now that you know smile .. Other aspects can overshadow too.



On Neptune square asc and mercury opp asc..i dont know :p

For mercury square ascendant, I think what you have in your head is opposite to how to act in social situation? It eats you in your head but your surroundings affect you in a completely different way and you end up acting different. Your mind gets caught up "wtf did i just do"??? And hence self doubt? Hmmm... This may not be correct.. Big Grin
Posted by RumiL
Hard aspects aren't necessarily bad. They don't make a person a certain way. IMO, hard aspects just point towards challenges. You can find ways to either accept or overcome now that you know smile .. Other aspects can overshadow too.



On Neptune square asc and mercury opp asc..i dont know :p

For mercury square ascendant, I think what you have in your head is opposite to how to act in social situation? It eats you in your head but your surroundings affect you in a completely different way and you end up acting different. Your mind gets caught up "wtf did i just do"??? And hence self doubt? Hmmm... This may not be correct.. Big Grin

Yeah that does happen a lot. I just don't know what to do about these 'challenges' now that I'm aware of them. I'd like to work through them or move past them but I just don't know quite what to do.

Sometimes I feel like my chart is lying and I'm actually a water moon. I feel like a sensitive baby.
Imo, don't over analyse it. But be very aware and feel it!

Risk is to even aquire bad traits that you didn't even have before. For instance, I have several hard aspects that I don't even notice day-to-day because they are over shadowed by other hard and tighter aspects or because of other influences in general. Those less prominent ones, I will probably never actively work on - just live through them.

Talk to people you are close to - ask them for an honest(!) opinion and description of yourself, because sometimes, you(as in, we humans) just can't see yourself and what you project to others from the inside.

Right now, there is a specific aspect that I'm working on - I even bought a book about it. I don't thiiink I'm over analysing it; it's just an especially prominent one that I have a real problem with, so it needs to be actively taken care of. I also feel it's a gateway to two other aspects that need attention. I think my method of doing this is working, but there's no way to know for sure as of yet, so we'll see.

Gl!smile
Posted by HappyCapper
Imo, don't over analyse it. But be very aware and feel it!

Risk is to even aquire bad traits that you didn't even have before. For instance, I have several hard aspects that I don't even notice day-to-day because they are over shadowed by other hard and tighter aspects or because of other influences in general. Those less prominent ones, I will probably never actively work on - just live through them.

Talk to people you are close to - ask them for an honest(!) opinion and description of yourself, because sometimes, you(as in, we humans) just can't see yourself and what you project to others from the inside.

Right now, there is a specific aspect that I'm working on - I even bought a book about it. I don't thiiink I'm over analysing it; it's just an especially prominent one that I have a real problem with, so it needs to be actively taken care of. I also feel it's a gateway to two other aspects that need attention. I think my method of doing this is working, but there's no way to know for sure as of yet, so we'll see.

Gl!smile

Thank you for your answer smile I think I will just ask people I'm close to, because I can end up beating myself up abut stuff unnecessarily and think things are there that aren't really. I have noticed these two aspects throughout my life though, long before I knew about them astrologically.

I hope everything turns out well for you and your specific aspect!
Posted by fauxfuchsia
Posted by HappyCapper
Imo, don't over analyse it. But be very aware and feel it!

Risk is to even aquire bad traits that you didn't even have before. For instance, I have several hard aspects that I don't even notice day-to-day because they are over shadowed by other hard and tighter aspects or because of other influences in general. Those less prominent ones, I will probably never actively work on - just live through them.

Talk to people you are close to - ask them for an honest(!) opinion and description of yourself, because sometimes, you(as in, we humans) just can't see yourself and what you project to others from the inside.

Right now, there is a specific aspect that I'm working on - I even bought a book about it. I don't thiiink I'm over analysing it; it's just an especially prominent one that I have a real problem with, so it needs to be actively taken care of. I also feel it's a gateway to two other aspects that need attention. I think my method of doing this is working, but there's no way to know for sure as of yet, so we'll see.

Gl!smile

Thank you for your answer smile I think I will just ask people I'm close to, because I can end up beating myself up abut stuff unnecessarily and think things are there that aren't really. I have noticed these two aspects throughout my life though, long before I knew about them astrologically.

I hope everything turns out well for you and your specific aspect!
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Thank you!smile

I should probably add that I have read somewhere that the hard aspects to the ASC are the ones that you will learn to manage faster than the others and you may not even need to work on them actively at all, since you get constant feedback. This is just something I've read somewhere that may not be applicable to you, but it sounded logical. I do have a square to my own ASC, but in a wide orb(7degrees), that I had a slight issue with in the past, but you live and learn.smile In other words, what I read may have been consistent with my own experience.
Posted by fauxfuchsia
Any tips, advice, stories?

How have you/are you dealing with your harder aspects?

What advice would you give to others in how to go about it, in general, or for your particular aspect/s?

Hard aspects = great potential. Sure, there are challenges, but I´ve seen it assotiated with power. My example is a mars SQ pluto can lead to a short temper, all sort of conflict, but Bruce Lee had that too, and it helped him a great deal with martial arts, which is a for of confrontation/combat.

Use what you were born into as fuel for positive results and it will pay off Big Grin