possessiveness

I'm completely possessive what sign would tolerate
it?
I am a Pisces

I'm controlling & clingy my boyfriends must want to be with me 24/7. Put me over everyone, and put me on a pedestal.

Thats acceptable but thats it

Posted by sharareperez_808
I'm controlling & clingy my boyfriends must want to be with me 24/7. Put me over everyone, and put me on a pedestal.

You're mine! 😉

(You should look for someone with Venus or Moon in Cancer... preferably both!)

I need someone to be able to deal with me.

Is there something particulary un-deal-able with you?

Possessive I'm fine with, I'm that way myself. Clingy and touchy feely, fine too. You can clinge all over as long as you don't leave me behind with a wood. Putting that pussy on a pedestal... *guilty* --it can be very decorative, every home needs one! 🙂

But what does "controlling" mean? How and what exactly do you want to control?

I give the orders. I have issues that will never change so my mate will have to deal with me. I'm highly bossy. When I say with me 24/7 I mean it. Basically someone that has no other life but a life with me.

I have to have them crazy for me because if they don't do exactly that I go nuts. Fights break out because I don't feel cared for. Even if its a day away from me. If you're choosing to be away from me for even a day, I'm psycho. Basically if by your choice your choosing to be away from me don't even try to be with me ever I'm a psycho one. Honest.

No, I prefer them owned

Need for control that's just me

My Scorpio and I won't last he hates my possessiveness. It drives me nuts how I am.

So basically you want a dog...?

My taurus dealt with it fine.

Cancer maybe

Scorpio?No

That's just me

Every time I try to push back doesn't work..

That's just who I am

Cancers I've known weren't into relationships more of fwbs. Yet get very jealous.

Starlover what's you and your partners signs?

Cancer moon girlfriend!

I'm glad everyone else finds their matches lol

The thing with pedestals is that people tend to fall off of them.
What made the Cancer jealous if I may ask?

It's not that hard to find someone that will tolerate the above but I'm afraid you will have zero respect for them. I'm thinking you should try someone that pisses you off, that is not afraid to go head to head with your 'bad' sides.

Otherwise I agree with what someone else said around here. "I'm just me" is the biggest cop-out ever and means you have some.. Ahum, sides to your personality that you have to work on first. 😉

My scorpio & I bang heads because he pisses me off because he does opposite of most everything I say.


The cancers I knew only wanted to be f**k buddies so when I did find someone to be in a relationship with, it made them angry.

Well I'm stubborn so is he. So it's pretty hard telling me I'm wrong.

Well, just in case you didn't get the summary here; you're wrong. 😉

Stop trying to control him and he will actually turn around and listen to you. 🙂
Do you ever listen to him, or is it your way or the highway?

Posted by seraph
You've got daddy issues.

You need the kind of man who will knock you on your ass (in a sexual context) in the bedroom (becuase sex bruises are good bruises), and who will lay down the law for you everywhere else.

You are possessive and controlling becuase the men you're with don't inspire your respect. So you walk all over them and then expect them to cater to you as lap-dogs. You use your looks and sexuality to control them, thinking this is what you actually want, but you actually end up ruining them, becuase YOU are the one who really wants to be controlled. What you actually want is the type of man who will put you in your place and not flinch at the slightest sign of resistance.

wow that's so spot on for women who dont respect "weak" men. The men aren't really "weak" but women like this don't want a pushover or diplomatic guy.

Sadly you're right: these men get RUINED.

The poor NICE guys out there (shakes head) no wonder alot of women don't really want a NICE good man.
And then they complain about not finding a good man.

^^ most men of the ones that she looks for, which you mentioned, are bordering abusive, or mostly very abusive. That's unhealthy though. That's why men get crazy and they will abuse the woman because she is making them crazy.
Too much crazy is NOT good.
Great points though. And hits the mark deeply.

Posted by starlover
...no she needs a clever man that can be more subtle than that
that is too obvious, she will rebel

she needs gentle strength

that will work

not the knocking her on her arse

wont work

kind of reminds me of this couple:

Juliette lewis is gemini/pisces moon cancer venus/merc. Gem/Cancer cusper.
He's a Cancer/Leo cusper. Leo/Sag moon, Virgo Mars/Pluto

Yeah I've seen dynamics like that ALOT. Dominant women with submissive men. Sometimes, the dominant woman is really nagging and mean and cruel, it's painful to watch. And the man acts mousy and hiding.
Sometimes, it's equal.

@OP, your acting childish. Spoiled much when you were younger? 24/7, really? Remember: familiarity breeds contempt! People have jobs, people have lives. YOU ARE NOT EVERYTHING AND YOU NEVER WILL BE!!! From what you have written it is apparent that you have no respect and no boundaries. You want a doormat. You really need to see someone or at least put yourself in check before someone else does!

With your attitude, you will NEVER, and I'll repeat, NEVER, have a successful relationship! Men will leave you, hating you. Unless, of course, you find one who will literally knock you on your ass. Those types ALWAYS put you on a pedestal in the beginning!

Careful what you wish for child.

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Posted by DawnOfDay
I really don't understand the concept of wanting someone in your face 24/7.

It's completely inconceivable to me.

Don't you need your space?

+1

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Posted by filipinoprince
coz life can get boring if you're stable. 🙂

Are you sure you??re a Taurus?

You seem more like a Gemini, in my opinion.

Top-notch trolling skills. 🙂

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not everyone fits the stereotype that all tauruses are boring.

always misconceptions about sun sign alone. (generally speaking)

Cancer; they're clingy anyway--match made in heaven!

Don't even TRY to get with an air sign--you try that shit with them and they'll be *poof*! LOL!

Posted by GemStar05
Don't even TRY to get with an air sign--you try that shit with them and they'll be *poof*! LOL!

hmm that's not really true, but yeah in a "general" sense I agree with you because air = needs space.

I understand deeply where the OP is coming from though.

Posted by sharareperez_808
Every time I try to push back doesn't work..

That's just who I am

Because you're "pushing back" instead of pulling back...

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by GemStar05
Don't even TRY to get with an air sign--you try that shit with them and they'll be *poof*! LOL!

hmm that's not really true, but yeah in a "general" sense I agree with you because air = needs space.

I understand deeply where the OP is coming from though.

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It IS true, I'd NEVER allow anyone to control me and the air signs I know like their space and would NOT stand for anyone to control them. She'd better stick with the water signs. I don't see Caps or Virgos wanting to be controlled either. Controlling someone = issues and I'm not making fun of that. I know folks who want to be controlling because they couldn't be at a time in their life. They grow up and vow to never let anyone control them ever again--they become the controller.

Posted by lildol
From what you have written it is apparent that you have no respect and no boundaries. You want a doormat.

I don't think she's that bad. Obviousely everyone's a product of something so everyone's got their own issues, wants and dislikes. As for myself-- doormat or not, I'd rather be with someone who needs me and isn't afraid to express it than someone who's all "meh, whatevs".

The only real problem here is that she needs to have right ALL THE TIME. No one is ALWAYS right (except for Scorpios of course 😛 ). Picking your battles is the key to any successful relationship!

Personally I am submissive in the sense that most of the time I just don't care. You can take the lead for all I care... but what I do care about is what's for dinner and getting my beauty sleep.

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Posted by GemStar05
Don't even TRY to get with an air sign--you try that shit with them and they'll be *poof*! LOL!

hmm that's not really true, but yeah in a "general" sense I agree with you because air = needs space.

I understand deeply where the OP is coming from though.

It IS true, I'd NEVER allow anyone to control me and the air signs I know like their space and would NOT stand for anyone to control them. She'd better stick with the water signs. I don't see Caps or Virgos wanting to be controlled either. Controlling someone = issues and I'm not making fun of that. I know folks who want to be controlling because they couldn't be at a time in their life. They grow up and vow to never let anyone control them ever again--they become the controller.

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well everyone's "nature" is different. It's a psychological thing to be honest. And sometimes, it is just the ticket to squench her thirst.

*quench I mean

- or to soothe her starving soul. Everyone is different just like the poster(s) said below.

Posted by starlover
Maybe you work on being more independent

Not many men want to be owned??

this
work on yourself

Dominate me in bed. Tell me what you want for dinner. Tell me what to do otherwise. Let's see where that leaves you.

Posted by sharareperez_808
Dominate me in bed. Tell me what you want for dinner. Tell me what to do otherwise. Let's see where that leaves you.

I'd say more like, see where it's left YOU.... advertising for a doormat on an internet forum. LOL

However, if we lived closer I'd definitely "try you" to see what you're all about 😛

I find it hard to be possessive(Gemini). Dishonesty though is a no-no.

The signs I would guess would be Taurus, Scorpio, Leo, Cancer.

Whatever, good discussion.

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish

Posted by sharareperez_808
I'm controlling & clingy my boyfriends must want to be with me 24/7. Put me over everyone, and put me on a pedestal.

Cancer moon will do it. Will stick to you like Velcro. Be careful what you wish for. Why do you need to be put on a pedestal though? Wouldn't it be kind of tiring to have your ass kissed all the time? Or maybe that's just me.

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i have a cancer moon and i definitely don't stick to my gf like glue..it's the opposite..but she's a cancer

she's clingy, but i do the controlling in this relationship.

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Posted by filipinoprince
^do u pee on your territory? 😛

LMAO!! Not in a real sense, but definitely mark my territory as in that's mine. 😛 MINE MINE MINE!!! DO NOT TOUCH, ITS MINE!! LOLOL

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This is me, territorial. Cancer Sun/Venus

You can look all you like but if you try to touch... best start running. I have a very bad temper and have to consciously hold myself back... Aries Moon/Mars Opp Pluto. If looks could kill, haha

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Posted by sharareperez_808
I'm controlling & clingy my boyfriends must want to be with me 24/7. Put me over everyone, and put me on a pedestal.

Cancer moon will do it. Will stick to you like Velcro. Be careful what you wish for. Why do you need to be put on a pedestal though? Wouldn't it be kind of tiring to have your ass kissed all the time? Or maybe that's just me.

i have a cancer moon and i definitely don't stick to my gf like glue..it's the opposite..but she's a cancer

she's clingy, but i do the controlling in this relationship.

You know there should be an exception clause for Pisces with Cancer moons, because you and P-Angel aren't exactly the "soft and sensitive" types. Haha. Y'all must have some strong fire placements or something.

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true, im like 1/3 fire

Its weird because since I've backed off he thinks I'm cheating.

Why do you say that

Wonder what his moon sign is..