Someone please help analyze my Cancer man?

I am a Virgo sun with moon and rising both in cancer so I'm more like Cancer than a Virgo (or at least at first glance). I actually behave very much like your Cancer guy when I'm dating and also when I'm in a relationship. My Cappy boyfriend always wonder why I never call him and how I can go for days without texting, talking on the phone, or seeing him. He thinks it's the most bizarre thing ever because he enjoys talking on the phone and keeping in close contact when we're not together. I don't understand it really because my venus is in Libra (conjunct Pluto at that!) so everything in my chart points to this need to be in close contact with those I care about. What I do know is that I still think about my boyfriend when I'm not with him but I don't feel this "need" to be constantly in contact with him via phone calls and text messages. I work at home so my work keeps me pretty busy and I read a lot which kills a lot of free time. I'm not really a phone person either and I usually don't answer most incoming phone calls unless I think they may be important. Like your Cancer guy, I do answer all of my boyfriend's phone calls and text messages but I rarely initiate contact first. Maybe because he has always done it so I never feel the need to.

From my experience, I don't think your Cancer guy behaves like that because he doesn't care. Maybe he just doesn't feel the need to be in contact all the time or it could be that he enjoys being pursued. What I do know is that they are extremely sensitive and if they feel like you have somehow rejected them then they will retreat into their shell and not come out until they feel safe. He's probably behaving the way he does because he's hurt by your action. But then again I think I would've done the same thing you did and ignored him if he stood me up. What was his reason for forgetting the date night?

Trust me, he's into you. Very strongly in fact, you shouldn't feel like his feelings are weak regarding you. He's not the one to contact you though since he doesn't want to appear clingy or needy, and show himself vulnerable to rejection. You are on his mind though, likely all the time if he's anything like me. He won't be the type that contacts you and be aggressive and straightforward until you've been together for a while and he's sure of your affections though. I'm the same as him in that I could go without days without calling/texting a girl even if my feelings for her are very strong; I would rather the girl contact me (which is something I would look forward to and enjoy) because that's my (and apparently your guy's) style . It would only be after a while together that I'd start contacting her, once I'm sure of her. We just operate differently in that sense from you. And yes we can take our sweet time indeed.

However let me tell you this, you screwed up with the freezing him out. That doesn't work with us. Even if I feel very strongly for a girl, if she resorts to punishing me with silence, there's no way in hell that I'd be the one to fold and try contacting her again after the first initial attempt; I'd just say "well, that's how it is." Even if it's eating me up inside and I wanna talk to her more than anything, there is that pride which won't allow me to be like a supplicant. So in other words (for future reference) don't do that since you wouldn't have heard from him again.

Oh, and you ARE a priority, don't think otherwise. It's just that you're confused to how we operate which is understandable. If you wanna be with him and be sure of where he stands, just be consistent with your love, affection, and attention with him, and you'll see him eventually starting to open up and starting to be more proactive with you and starting to be more open. Notice how happy and content he is when he's with you, and how he gives you his full attention when you're together? He's not faking that or playing games at those times. You just gotta learn to understand his M.O better.

*Speaking as a Cancer guy with Venus in Leo himself*

Pisces in Venus isnt possible with a Virgo sun. Sry jus noticed, maybe it was a typo but thought I'd point that out incase your chart has misled you!

Venus in Pisces I mean.

#mercuryinretrograde

Posted by LouLore
Pisces in Venus isnt possible with a Virgo sun. Sry jus noticed, maybe it was a typo but thought I'd point that out incase your chart has misled you!

I'm not with a Virgo Sun.

@sunnydiamond,

Trust me, he doesn't see it as the negative you do that you're the one contacting him, and wouldn't see it as annoying. Indeed, it confirms to him that you provide that consistency and security of affection that we all crave in a relationship.

Posted by wineaux

omg darkcancerian...i have tears in my eyes right now because i NEEDED to hear this. thank you.

Awww wineaux, you're making me embarrassed...you're very sweet🙂 Hehe it's actually your threads and perspective which everyone needs to read; you have consistently the best insight and advice regarding Cancer males that I've read, and I'm a Cancer male myself!😛 Everyone with questions regarding us should be taking required courses from your posts first 😉

Ohhh I'm sorry I Was thinking the poster that said they were a Virgo sun was you. My bad.

Posted by LouLore
Ohhh I'm sorry I Was thinking the poster that said they were a Virgo sun was you. My bad.

haha no problem 🙂 I can see where it got confusing, even I was at first.