The line between freinds and lovers
This topic was created in the Astrology forum by mikeandhisdreams on Saturday, April 1, 2006 and has 5 replies.
When is it ever clear!
i want it to be said.
OKAY, I THINK WE SHOULD ADVANCE OR******* I DONT WANT TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND !
Maybe its capricorn venus speaking, but why cant it be said aloud and clear at all times where people stand!
SAY SOMTHING !
sheesh.
Elaborate~
i want it to be said.
OKAY, I THINK WE SHOULD ADVANCE OR******* I DONT WANT TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND !
Maybe its capricorn venus speaking, but why cant it be said aloud and clear at all times where people stand!
SAY SOMTHING !
sheesh.
Elaborate~
Well, what's the problem? Give us the deets.
Cause women are annoying and self oriented 99.9% of the time.If they say it,they can't turn around and get what they want out of you when they decide your good for something
Tiamat:
"Cause women are annoying and self oriented 99.9% of the time.If they say it,they can't turn around and get what they want out of you when they decide your good for something"
Janey you are so right there! Uncannily so...............my little story is I've had this attraction goin awn (trying to sound like an american brother) with this Italian guy for nearly 2 years. We were physical in the beginning but that stopped over a year ago, now we just email and meet up socially very occasionally. We had this kind of showdown about where we were going/what did we want. I'm not sure what he wanted and I wouldn't like him to feel that I was putting a clamp on him or anything. He did ask me once kinda quietly what did I want and it sort of flummuxed me. It was a bit because if I told him what I really wanted, he'd see how much I was into him and this might freak him out. It was also partly because I didn't know exactly what I wanted in terms of what I wanted him to do differently or more cos this would be wanting to control him.
If I were to have taken a "Say It Like It Is" pill, I would have said that I liked him a lot, I didn't want to smother him or trap him, that I was often confused and unsure about whether he was interedted in me at all, wanted him to let me know that he was seeing me because he wanted it, and not be so evasive. Even reading it seems like a lot of rambling and this is probably cos I'm pretty insecure when it comes to guys I dig.
So the way it is now, I email him, he emails me back, otherwise he rarely initiates contact with me. I find this pretty hurtful but I guess I've contributed to the way this "relationship" has petered out.
I guess the best way for both sexes to not get into confusing situations is to try to communicate as best they can, try to express as accurately as they can their feelings without projecting their assumptions or delusions into it. And also not to let their insecurities prevent them from saying how they feel.
"Cause women are annoying and self oriented 99.9% of the time.If they say it,they can't turn around and get what they want out of you when they decide your good for something"
Janey you are so right there! Uncannily so...............my little story is I've had this attraction goin awn (trying to sound like an american brother) with this Italian guy for nearly 2 years. We were physical in the beginning but that stopped over a year ago, now we just email and meet up socially very occasionally. We had this kind of showdown about where we were going/what did we want. I'm not sure what he wanted and I wouldn't like him to feel that I was putting a clamp on him or anything. He did ask me once kinda quietly what did I want and it sort of flummuxed me. It was a bit because if I told him what I really wanted, he'd see how much I was into him and this might freak him out. It was also partly because I didn't know exactly what I wanted in terms of what I wanted him to do differently or more cos this would be wanting to control him.
If I were to have taken a "Say It Like It Is" pill, I would have said that I liked him a lot, I didn't want to smother him or trap him, that I was often confused and unsure about whether he was interedted in me at all, wanted him to let me know that he was seeing me because he wanted it, and not be so evasive. Even reading it seems like a lot of rambling and this is probably cos I'm pretty insecure when it comes to guys I dig.
So the way it is now, I email him, he emails me back, otherwise he rarely initiates contact with me. I find this pretty hurtful but I guess I've contributed to the way this "relationship" has petered out.
I guess the best way for both sexes to not get into confusing situations is to try to communicate as best they can, try to express as accurately as they can their feelings without projecting their assumptions or delusions into it. And also not to let their insecurities prevent them from saying how they feel.
What line? If I have a romantic and/or sexual interest, this line does not exist. You're either down, or you're not.
I can't be platonic with someone I want to get with. My brain just doesn't work that way.
I can't be platonic with someone I want to get with. My brain just doesn't work that way.
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