Understanding Cancer women

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by Aquanet on Wednesday, June 29, 2016 and has 8 replies.
I'm trying to understand this Cancer woman that I am head over heals for... No idea if she cares or is interested in me in any way ... trying to understand this scene.. We were sitting next to each other.. she barely talked to me.. was up in her phone the whole time.. so I decided to pull my phone out and msg somebody to se if they were coming or not.. (same time she was in her phone) .. when I put my phone away.. she asked me if the person wasn't coming.. The whole time I thought she wasn't even looking in my direction.. she was talking to the person next to her also and briefly talking to me but all in all she didn't seem to care what I did... so my question is .. if you don't seem interested.. why care or bother with what I'm doing...

She does this in other scenarios too .. I think she isn't looking or hearing because I think she doesn't give a d*#m about me .. but turns out she follows my every step..

So please tell me .. Cancer women.. what does that mean?

We have had a bit of a history together ... this Cancer and I .. but I have always loved her.. I fell for her from day 1 .. but she is kind of hot and cold . I feel like she kind of toys with me.. one day loving and one day not even look my way...
Posted by Aquanet
I'm trying to understand this Cancer woman that I am head over heals for... No idea if she cares or is interested in me in any way ... trying to understand this scene.. We were sitting next to each other.. she barely talked to me.. was up in her phone the whole time.. so I decided to pull my phone out and msg somebody to se if they were coming or not.. (same time she was in her phone) .. when I put my phone away.. she asked me if the person wasn't coming.. The whole time I thought she wasn't even looking in my direction.. she was talking to the person next to her also and briefly talking to me but all in all she didn't seem to care what I did... so my question is .. if you don't seem interested.. why care or bother with what I'm doing...

She does this in other scenarios too .. I think she isn't looking or hearing because I think she doesn't give a d*#m about me .. but turns out she follows my every step..

So please tell me .. Cancer women.. what does that mean?

We have had a bit of a history together ... this Cancer and I .. but I have always loved her.. I fell for her from day 1 .. but she is kind of hot and cold . I feel like she kind of toys with me.. one day loving and one day not even look my way...
The cautious and observant we crabs are! I will speak for myself - everyone is different and handles situations differently. If she asked if they were coming (unless she knew about the other person) she just wanted to know that's all. I mean I ask people questions to just ask. However if I get a vibe of you hiding or withholding info I'll ask to whether or not you'll tell the truth. The way you answer and your body language will give it away. Now I don't know how old both you are but maturity does play as well. Now, you can always ask (if she is not the sensitive kind - bc I would, in a kind manner of course) "why do you ask if the person is coming?" you'll get your answer.

Toying with you???? In what sense?
Hi Celestial.. thanks for your answer! Well let me elaborate a little.. on the situation .. what I described earlier is just one of the million of scenes that happen between us.. and I'm kind of tired of the back and forth.. I am 28 years old and she is younger.. I'm also an Aquarius. The history is .. I have let her down.. I have treated her badly.. I wasn't there when she needed me.. etc. And I may have given her false hope i guess.. none of the above was intentional I swear.. all are the product of how she treats me .. hot and cold.. one day she misses me.. then the next she acts like she doesn't care. What I wrote earlier was not about why she asked if the person was coming or not.. It's the way she asked and the way it happened.. She was in her mood that she wasn't talking to me.. (not caring about what I do.. right?) So why look at my screen if you've been ignoring me .. that simple act of interested or not .. she does this constantly.. it drives me nuts.. I really love her.. but I give her her space when i feel she isn't up for it. Also .. she does this al the time.. when I talk to her etc. She acts like she isn't interested.. so I back off and do my thing..but then she comes back to me and tries to pull my attention in every way possible.. it's like she's chasing me.. I'm sorry I just don't get it..
what a tiring thing to experience. I say find yourself a girl who pays you more attention. The On and Off thing happens when they like you (talks to you) but aint that into you yet (ignores you). they just like to keep you round and stalk you (typical) in case they change their mind bout you.
Hi everyone! Thank you all for taking the time to help me with this. Uhm truth is I know I hurt her in some ways or more.. I apologized to her more than I can remember and they were all heart felt .. I never meant to hurt her. She was kind of hurting me in a way and I got frustrated and it ended up with us hurting each other. I have been thinking and I feel that she likes/loves me in a way. It's hard to explain .. I feel this chemistry between us.. and the way she looks at me ..the way she touches me.. she pays attention to every thing I do and the time we spend together is sweet and intimate.. all of that to me seems like she does have feelings or I might just be crazy. To me it feels like something is stopping her from falling for me ... maybe she is afraid of me.. Since I sincerely apologized I haven't mistreated her in any way.. I try my best every day to show her that I truly care about her.. Bottom line.. I need to know if I should just give up.. I won't stop loving her but I will just let her be..
Posted by Aquanet
Hi everyone! Thank you all for taking the time to help me with this. Uhm truth is I know I hurt her in some ways or more.. I apologized to her more than I can remember and they were all heart felt .. I never meant to hurt her. She was kind of hurting me in a way and I got frustrated and it ended up with us hurting each other. I have been thinking and I feel that she likes/loves me in a way. It's hard to explain .. I feel this chemistry between us.. and the way she looks at me ..the way she touches me.. she pays attention to every thing I do and the time we spend together is sweet and intimate.. all of that to me seems like she does have feelings or I might just be crazy. To me it feels like something is stopping her from falling for me ... maybe she is afraid of me.. Since I sincerely apologized I haven't mistreated her in any way.. I try my best every day to show her that I truly care about her.. Bottom line.. I need to know if I should just give up.. I won't stop loving her but I will just let her be..
Just let her be and just be there for her. She is probably protecting herself from you and not ready to trust her heart to you yet.

Posted by Aquanet
Hi Celestial.. thanks for your answer! Well let me elaborate a little.. on the situation .. what I described earlier is just one of the million of scenes that happen between us.. and I'm kind of tired of the back and forth.. I am 28 years old and she is younger.. I'm also an Aquarius. The history is .. I have let her down.. I have treated her badly.. I wasn't there when she needed me.. etc. And I may have given her false hope i guess.. none of the above was intentional I swear.. all are the product of how she treats me .. hot and cold.. one day she misses me.. then the next she acts like she doesn't care. What I wrote earlier was not about why she asked if the person was coming or not.. It's the way she asked and the way it happened.. She was in her mood that she wasn't talking to me.. (not caring about what I do.. right?) So why look at my screen if you've been ignoring me .. that simple act of interested or not .. she does this constantly.. it drives me nuts.. I really love her.. but I give her her space when i feel she isn't up for it. Also .. she does this al the time.. when I talk to her etc. She acts like she isn't interested.. so I back off and do my thing..but then she comes back to me and tries to pull my attention in every way possible.. it's like she's chasing me.. I'm sorry I just don't get it..
SensitiveBlue and Moonbutter nailed it on the nose! From reading what you just posted: "I have let her down.. I have treated her badly.. I wasn't there when she needed me.. etc. And I may have given her false hope i guess" that right there is not a good thing for anybody male or female. That can cause for a emotional roller coaster for her internally (the crab dance starts to begin - wanting you in but too afraid for the trust is falling apart) and there may be a moment where she might not control her behavior and lash out. We need assurance - it makes us feel good, really good knowing you have our back. Some crabs are afraid to communicate what's going on inside - some believe you can't handle what we will say and sometimes its harsh! Communicate and work it out! Sometimes really good friends are to come by now and days! I wish the best for you both!!!

Hey everyone! I'm taking the advice from each and everyone of you because I see that most of your answers are on point about how she is. I will just do what I am doing now which is just relax and be her friend and treat her like a queen. She does lash out in good ways and bad. She also throws things in my face when I don't expect it but it's okay.. I just let her vent and reassure her about how I feel. That's the insecurity. She starts to talk about what she is feeling and then goes silent and goes into her shell.. like some of you described, that's the trust. When she let's go and forgets for a second about what happened between us.. she is all over me. I see hints of jealousy eventhough she won't admit it. But I had it all coming anyway.. I don't care what she does to me as long as she let's me make her feel better. Thank you ladies for helping me out.. I'm kind of naive in these matters. A friend told me that I would never know when a woman is into me untill she literally throws herself at me. So I was unsure about what this woman feels.