venus in air, how do you cope?

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by bloodflood on Tuesday, January 14, 2014 and has 13 replies.
hi. i've asked this question somewhere but i wanted to expand it a bit more. how do you venus in gems/aquarius/libras deal with the end of a relationship? (platonic or romantic). i'm a venus in libra and i feel the only thing airy about me is that i generally need space throughout the relationship. however when it comes to the end of a relationship, i cannot just go cold turkey. i have this freudian consciousness about repression, wherein for me the conscious effort to not contact the other will eventually explode in an overly emotional, pathetic mess (usually drunkenly)... so i don't think the no contact rule works for me. i've also obviously done the "higher road" involving working out, busying yourself with friends, preoccupying your time but again that still ends with eventually involving the other in some way. as time goes on i do find myself better with the drunken contacts.. and contacts in general, but it's SO overwhelmingly painful to abruptly stop talking to someone you've allowed into your heart.
basically my mind can't wrap around how you must heal by yourself post-relationship when it took two people to build the relationship in happier times. (not including family and friends in this context). but from experience (at least what i can see) i think the other venus in air signs fare a bit better no? how do you all cope with the end of things?
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ah time. time trips me out. my fascination with time began with faulkner... but anyway!
yes i definitely acknowledge the fact that there isn't a shortcut and surely if there were one i wouldn't be inquiring Winking
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you nailed it for me when you said that during a relationship you require a lot of space throughout (i have aqua venus) - and this goes for my friendships too. this is hard for a lot of people to understand, and i feel is often taken personally by the other party. both of my parents share aqua venus, so maybe that is why they are successful, i don't know.
and really for me, my post break up behavior has to do with if i was expecting it or not - or if i'm on the same page or not. i was once dumped and had no idea it was coming at all by someone i loved deeply and it completely broke me. i felt like i was mourning the death of a loved one, it was crazy. i am however, very water-y. anyway for me in that situation, i relied heavily on my best friend and talked to her every single day. fortunately for me, she was also going through a life trauma so we were each others support system. like you it was very hard for me to not contact him. in fact, i contacted him all the time??_ Big Grin
all the best to you! so sorry you are going through it! wish there was some quick fix - though i think daily cardio is definitely beneficial!
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Posted by belugablues
you nailed it for me when you said that during a relationship you require a lot of space throughout (i have aqua venus) - and this goes for my friendships too. this is hard for a lot of people to understand, and i feel is often taken personally by the other party. both of my parents share aqua venus, so maybe that is why they are successful, i don't know.
and really for me, my post break up behavior has to do with if i was expecting it or not - or if i'm on the same page or not. i was once dumped and had no idea it was coming at all by someone i loved deeply and it completely broke me. i felt like i was mourning the death of a loved one, it was crazy. i am however, very water-y. anyway for me in that situation, i relied heavily on my best friend and talked to her every single day. fortunately for me, she was also going through a life trauma so we were each others support system. like you it was very hard for me to not contact him. in fact, i contacted him all the time??_ Big Grin
all the best to you! so sorry you are going through it! wish there was some quick fix - though i think daily cardio is definitely beneficial!


yeah after growing up in an environment where i was so accustomed to being alone, it's hard not to need space now. with my first relationship, i definitely also felt that i was grieving a death, which seems pretty dramatic in retrospect but that's truly how i felt. which is why i could never grieve that away again. i need contact and to know that they are still alive and well... and eventually be happy that they are happy.
the guy actually also has an air venus sign.... now our contact has been withered down to "likes" on each other's fb. a shame really... but anyway, THANK YOU sweetcheeks smile probably SHOULD hit the gym and work out my post-vacation fat Big Grin
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Posted by JustALeo
I just start flirting with new girls and boost my ego, eventually it'll help me to realize that I'm worth more than what the person (who broke up with me/vice versa) thought of me and I move on. PLus being a Gem Venus, I get bored easily with the same girl, haven't found one that has kept me interested for too long yet :/


maybe the issue is you not being able to hold the initial interest and develop that into something more substantial.. rather than the other growing uninteresting as time goes on. just a thought
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Venus in Aquarius is the only air venus I have experience with. It helped me tremendously with my Cancer Venus.
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"So Venus in Gemini teaches us that when the storm hits, we should feel what we need to, but not get too attached to those feelings. Because they too, shall pass."
i like this. i should try to remember this too.
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Posted by Lucciferi
Did I really care about you? I'm devastated. We'll see who makes out better in the long run though.
We're you just someone I was biding my time with? Kick rocks, you weren't useful as anything more than a placeholder for someone who actually deserves the spot. I must not have wanted to be a productive person at that point.
Friends? I can be cold and let you go without ever talking to you again if I feel like it. If you get me to the point of dropping you, you deserve the cold shoulder. Don't sweat it.



Absolutely spot on... But you've got a T-Moon as well am I right?
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Venus in Gemini here,
I find with the ending of romantic relationships I fall straight away into friend-mode with the person. Fun, light, flirty without having to worry about all the emotional drama of a relationship but i do distance myself. So i guess its actually more acquaintance than friendship.
When a platonic relationship ends i remember there are always new and old friends to take the place of this ended one.
I fill my life with other things too, study, art etc. Just have fun.
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Posted by PVandJelleh
I hear all these air Venuses say how they just move on and forget about the other person. Well fuck me I must have some shit aspects in my natal. I have no issue with leaving a relationship if I'm treated badly. However, I may continue to have feelings for that person for a while after the relationship ends. Fixed dominant for the lose. Sad Eventually those feelings fade, or I meet someone new that I feel stronger for. If the relationship ended on a good note, I don't even mind keeping in touch....after I've had some time to heal emotionally.
How do I cope? For starters one long cry. And I mean that ugly cry too, the one you can only do in private. Haha. Then I pull it together. Find something productive to do. Spend time with friends. Meet new and interesting people. And yes I flirt. Winking


oh no honey, if they meant something I absolutely dwell and obsess and whatnot... then I write a pro's and con's list... then sometimes cut them out if they've been really naughty... then I find someone spunkalicious to flirt with!!!
And I'm currently not speaking to my venus aspects- they are being a pain in the proverbial! Big Grin
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Posted by DonJohnson
and we never know what we truly want, but we can justify our own feelings to us very well.


^^ This is the air venus curse for sure!
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When a break-up is on the horizon, I feel caged, trapped, kidnapped, imprisoned, with no way to get out. There's an exit but I'm blinded and cuffed. I feel tremendous anxiety and I OCD think.
As a result, and like a stereotypical Venus in Aqua, I just disappear. I try to do better but, anxiety and feeling of suffocation is too much. It's like I become allergic to the other person. I fear seeing the person again. I've tried to practice "exit strategy" but, I didn't get much better... The longer the relationship, the better I was at breaking up.
I have Venus in the 1st (self) and Mars in Gemini in the 5th (pleasure, recreation).
Even with my husband, he came home and I was gone. He has Venus in Libra and describes the process much like you do... but, tenfold, as he has Venus in Libra in the 7th (relationships) with Mars in Taurus in the 4th (home).
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All break-ups take time. I've left the door open many times after and now I've realized it's caused me nothing but trouble mostly.
I think it may better to just close the door as hard as that may be. I don't know.
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