VENUS IN CANCER

hello all!

i have my venus in cancer and i would like to hear from others who share this placement or who have had experience with such people.

i am especially interested in hearing from the male perspective of what it's like to have your venus in cancer.
do you find you are easily hurt and how do you heal from events that hurt you?
do you find yourself to develop a distant shell at times?
are you emotionally available? does it take you a while to warm up to a person?

i must admit i am interested in someone who has their venus in cancer, and while i also i find myself having a hard time to find that nurturing or emotional part of him.

i am a very nurturing person, with my friends and family and i am also very affectionate, always giving hugs and kisses to the people i care about (i also have my sun in leo, which may play a part in that)
i like to take care of people, and make sure the ones i care about are okay and comfortable.
i also am emotionally charged and often feel very strongly towards people that i crush on, i get those heavy gut feelings in my chest alot when i'm in love. it's always a very intense experience for me to have a crush, and because of my leo i often just throw it out there and wear my heart on my sleeve, as they say.
and because of that i often get my heart broken, and it usually takes me a while to get over it.


but enough about me!
spill the beans, already!

I to do have Venus is Cancer and what you wrote describes to almost to a tee.
I am a Taurus.
I do also wear my emotions and my heart on my sleeve and most of the time they are stepped on.
Most of the time it takes time for me to allow me to get my feelings develop for someone but I do care deeply for them after they have captured my heart.
I get easily hurt and takes me a long time to get over it.

thank you for answering. 🙂
i really find it hard not to be emotional with people and show how i feel.
also i tend to feel SO much. two things which make it easy to have a broken heart in the end.


no one else?!

interesting stuff.
yeah i can see how being a gemini and having your moon in sag would help you keep light-heartedness in situations, especially when it comes to letting go.

it's true, i do hold on to people for much longer than i probably should.
throw in a pisces moon in the equation, and that doesn't help either.


i've read that for females, our mars dictates what kind of man we are attracted to.
for me, it would be taurus.
a strong, tough kind who can also be sensuous and gentle.
which is pretty accurate.

and it is a somewhat unfortunate placement at times, but i think the right person would definitely appreciate our soft and concerned nature. some people just need to be loved and taken care of, and we're good for that.
except.. we might end up with the kind of people who need TOO much help.. and that's just no fun either.

Currently seeing a Leo with his Venus in Cancer, very moody indeed.

Both of my parents have/had Venus in Cancer (I put it that way as my mother died three years ago and my 88-year-old father is pretty much on his way out now). My mother was a Cancer (Sun conjunct Venus) and my father is a Taurus. Of course, they have both been rather family-minded, but in fact my father more so (in fact he is the original family man). Underneath I think he is very sensitive and has been known to get quite emotional at times. Another thing I read about men with Venus in Cancer is that they are embarrassed by pornography which he does seem to be. Venus must be particularly strong in his case as he is a Taurus with Libra rising. He is basically a very kind person but the worst thing about him is that despite having been successful in life he is also something of a slob and my mother used to have to keep him in line (which she resented).

Posted by laurathealien

i must admit i am interested in someone who has their venus in cancer, and while i also i find myself having a hard time to find that nurturing or emotional part of him.

i have venus in cancer and can assure you i have a very strong nurturing/emotional part to me, but it practically never shows. i think it's probably that hard crab shell protecting my squidgy innards.

personally speaking i love to be shown care and attention, but i don't like to be hassled - and sometimes there's a fine line. as for what i give back, i'm afraid it always seems cold and detached and i don't know why - because it's certainly not representative of what i feel.

and yeah, it takes me ages to warm up to someone, but i usually have an idea from the start whom i going to like. they have to be very special people to persevere with me through those initial stages - because what's waiting at the end just ain't that great!

sometimes i feel like i have so many feelings and that i am a constant ball of emotion.
i'm constantly thinking to myself things i would like to say to people about how i feel but i am not very good at actually getting that out unless i am very close with the person (basically my mom, dad and brother would be the only people)

the way i have always been able to voice my emotions is through writing notes to people, sometimes not ever giving it to them at all.

does anyone else here feel like they have that problem?




*fionaapplefan: interesting that we both write a whole bunch and both have venus in cancer.