Waiting for Taurus

I am an Aquarius woman who has been talking to a Taurus male for 8 months now. I have'nt seen him since January, and only saw him five times before that. He calls me everyday and we spend hours on the phone, but that seems to be all the time he has. He has told me he has a lot on his plate right now and when he takes care of some things he'll have more time for me. He's spends a lot of time with his family(they're very close), and his career comes first. I understand he's very disciplined and stubborn, so I really am trying to be patient.
He always talks of future plans together and seems so genuine. He tells me he has strong feelings for me but his actions don't show it. This is a fact he acknowledges, but just says I have to trust him. I really want to believe him, but seriously in 90 days he can't see me 1 day. Even when he has made plans with me something comes up. Again I tried to understand, but when he called again I couldn't hide my dissapointment.
I told him it seemed to me we were basically nothing more than friends. I also asked him why, if we both have such strong feelings for each other, was it taking him so long to decide where I fit in. He told me that I was over analyzing, but reassured me that he really cares for me and needs to figure out a way to give me the time I deserve(his words not mine).
As the conversation went on he mentioned going to the gym that night. I made a comment about my on weight gain and he said I was fine just the way i was, to which I replied," You must be blind because I'm getting fat. " I said it in a joking way but he really got ticked off.
After that he didn't call me for four days. I called him to see if he was O.K.
He was fine but said he had been busy and just really needed some time to think. He said he just dosn't know about the things I say sometimes, and he took offense to me saying he was blind about my weight. He said that I was being negative and he dosn't like that and I really have to be careful about the things I say to him... WTF!!! Is he really that sensitive or is he making excuses becase I questioned our relationship?
We didn't argue over it, I just told him I didn't mean it the way he took it and I also told him I missed him. He didn't really respond, just told me he needed time.
I don't know what to do now. It's been 4 days since we talked. Should i assume it's over or should I wait it out, and if so how long. I care about him a lot and don't want to let us go easily.

Sorry that post was so long I just want anyone responding to have clear insight.

You're both fixed signs - so you're both stubborn! Once you each set your eyes on a goal, you each have the persistence to attain it. It sounds like your goal is romance and his is his job.

I've always been of the school actions speak louder than words and that people make time for people and things that are a true priority to them. As you note, if he seems he can't make time to see you once within a 3 month period, that's a pretty tell-tale sign your desires differ.

I had a similar experience with a Cancer once - we'd make plans and he'd always have a reason at the last minute why he need to reschedule (like you and your Taurus, our suns square!). The impatient Aries in me put up with it for the first few times but then called him out on it. It made sense not to continue the romance but we remain great friends. Since then, I've seen this Cancer repeatedly prioritize everything else over romance... your Taurus might be doing the same and in which case, there's not much you can do and you'd be better off moving on before suffering greater heartache.

MarKella I gotta back you up a little. Not to defend his behavior but you maust have read something wrong.
1. I don't eat from depression
2. He never said I wasn't sexy. Just the opposite. He was upset over my negative body image. He was pissed that I told him he was blind if he thought I looked good. He said it was a jab at his judgement.That was where the, " You have to be careful what you say." statement came from.

P.S. No need to be so angry

Aquarilove, my dear, you have turned yourself into a doormat. And the worst thing you can do is let yourself be dragged into this waiting game with a male Taurus, who are notorious for taking relationships very SLOW. If he needs time, give it to him. But don't put your life on hold.

MarKella is right, don't make yourself so available. You are in charge of your time, and he doesn't seem to value your time at all right now. So why give it to him?

Men like the chase, whether it's a Taurus or not. And men like women who have their own things going on. Put him on the backburner for a change! If he truly likes you, he'll be calling again before too long.

I think what some people have said on thread are true........When a Taurus is into you...it will be known and he will show it.....I had a Taurus boyfriend....and he pursued me...let it be known he was into me, introduced me to some of his friends...he made time for me....he came over to my house to spend some time...and well we clicked ....we started dating......so he became my boyfriend.....but that all happened within 3 months......they pursue aggressively when interested in someone.....that's just my experience with Taurus but then again he had Venus in Aries....so that could've been the reason
the ex taurus ....once showed up at my job after six years of our breakup...which was a bit weird......but we spoke and looked at eachother ....he still had the same interested in me......he said I looked very pretty and I told him he also looked very nice...so he stared at me and blushed...but he was too possessive and with my aquarius moon is a big no! no! but he is a sweet guy...when I told my friend who that was....cause she noticed I seems spooked...she said WHAT!!! lol...so they do come to you when interested....




It seems strange...that he dedicated no time to you....they are earth signs so they show by action/demonstrate how they feel.......What are your and his Moon Signs?.....it could explain why their seems to be a bit of distance....and no one can be THAT preoccupied with their career......they will have to have some down time....some time to breath....and they usually come running to their love interest for that....to help them relax...but he calls you everyday........I hate to say it.....but you maybe the lady on the side...the one on hold in case things don't work out.....especially when he keeps saying ""when he takes care of some things he'll have more time for you" and keeps saying he needs time.......you might be the one on the string...he calls you everyday, cause he knows that will keep you interested but doesn't make time to see you.......something is up that is strange to me

You're right Starblue, it is very strange. I would think that I was the lady on the side but outside of work the man is available everytime and anytime I call him. Also like I said he calls me everynight and talks to me up to three hours.
What I do know is this. He teaches fourth graders during the day and then works the after school program until 6. He works an internship on Saturdays and just began working on a clothing line. He has plans on where he wants to be in life and is pretty driven to get there.

Hmmm

What are your Moon signs?.......if you don't might me asking 🙂

I honestly don't know our moon signs. He was born April 30th 1975. I was born January 21rst 1971 at 1:05 a.m.

Well I also work monday thru friday( medical profession)....Wed all day (from 8-8).....then Sat as well.....Sunday is my only day off.... and I have classes to attend too....so I can understand the tough schedule......but I would still make some time to see my love interest...to atleast see their face/how they are doing....to see if they still like me/ are ok.....you can tell alot by interacting with someone face to face....they can say anything over the phone......they can promise the moon and stars...say they are ok....but when you see them face to face....it could be a differnt story....

Is he young??....like early twenties that could expalin it.....him not wanting to commit to you...maybe he is too young

Sorry.......I didn't see your last post.....oh he is a Taurus with a Cap Moon......Cap Moon are VERY dedicated to their careers......that they put love LAST on their list of things to do to the detriment of their loved ones....I also see he has Sag in venus...which is all about freedom...so he might have a bit of trouble with commitment...but they Cap Moon will make him dedicated and loyal.....should he commit.

Here some info on this combo
2-10 Sun -Taurus/Moon-Capricorn
The combination of your Sun and Moon signs produces a personality that is gentle and easygoing, unless some way provoked. When you are asked to do something against your will, the nature of both signs is to resist with a great stubbornness. Your makeup is very strong and durable emotionally. You can handle much stress and stain in your life and always emerge from a crisis in good shape. You are stable and decisive, and there is little that is frivolous or whimsical about you. You don't waste time daydreaming because you are just too practical. You may spend a good deal of time planning or putting things together, but you prefer to deal in tangible, matter-of-fact affairs that lend themselves well to your close scrutiny and critical analysis. You are a dependable person to whom others bring problems or projects and count on for help. You actually enjoy a sense of responsibility, perhaps even more than the recognition or power that usually accompanies authority. Security is of the utmost importance to you. You don't necessarily want wealth, but security of home, of position, and of a degree of prestige are all important. You are a proud person, with a strong sense of your own worth, which you like to see manifest in the material things in your world . . .your accomplishments or your surroundings. You have much executive talent because of your down-to-earth way of approaching problems and you keen understanding of human nature. You have an instinct for knowing what people are thinking and what they will be thinking in a little while.

OMG. That describes him pretty much too a tee. For the most part sensitive, always wants to know what I'm thinking and how I feel. He just dosen't make the time. One of his lines that he has repeated to me is, " I have a plan not an agenda and I'm not going to change it. I know what I bring to the table and if the lady I'm with wants that she can have it with me
I have no doubt he is a good man. I don't think he is seeing anyone else.
But his stubborn nature, his little temper that came out of nowhere, and his need to,"Think things over" really bothers me.

No, he actually hasn't been commited to anyone for sometime. Now that you mention it I do remember early on he would tell me that past relationships didn't work out because he didn't have the time to spend. But, I couldn't imagine he meant it quite so literally. Buy the way, he really has no problem letting his desires be known in detail. He's quite romantic and sweet. He's been planning on going on vacation with me in August. He also wants me to go with him across country when he goes to school in the fall.
He makes plans for us. My problem is I got fed up with him not seeing me now. I admit I got impatient but honestly, what normal person waits like this. I understand he's got a plan but I can't see myself following on faith.

P.S. you must be pretty damn cool with a B'day like ours