What does Sex = in your Relastionship?

I don't mean this to be a —lets brag about sex?? thread, so please don't troll. I'm more interested in —why?? you do/don't do it, not so much —how often??.
I am generally curious when does sex happen/not happen for you? What's your element make up?

I'm mostly fire/water so I relate sex to —feeling??. So it's interesting for me to hear some cause/effects regarding sex from different elements.

1. If you are NOT having sex, does it mean =
you are fighting
you are busy
you communicate more with words and the conversation has been stimulating enough lately
timing hasn't been right

2. If you are having sex, does it mean =
i'm just horny
it's that time of week
feeling very close to each other
sex is sex, who cares when or why

Please list the aspects you think contribute to your sexual views/preference/chemisty

I??ll go first. My Pisces and I use sex as a form of communication to express how we're feeling. Words are used too but this usually happens before/during/ after sex. If we are frustrated or angry with something, anything really...we will vent=then have release sex. If we are lively and excited=playful sex... warm and loving= deep emotional sex. Doesn't have to be about the two of us either, i.e ME: I'm so pissed off!!! I lost my keys. HIM: awww baby, come here...

Contributing Aspects imo:
Synastry: Mars trine Mars; Venus sextile Pluto; Venus/Uranus; Mars trine Neptune
Composite: Moon/Pluto; Venus trine Mars; Venus Opp Neptune; Mars trine Pluto

Mu Pisces says I'm not going to get too many responses to my post. Mainly because people don't want to look at —why?? they do things. They would rather not think about it at all, or to justify said action. —why CAN??T I have sex with this stranger? I'm a liberated female! I'm an Alapha male! that's what we do..
"Wy shouldn't I withhold sex from my husband/wife/gf/bf? They pissed me off!

People are more inclined to only look at results... not so much the motivation in taking the action in the first place.

hmmm...

Usually happens 1-3 times a week when we don't have my son with us.

Every week is different, sometimes we are busy and it's late by the time we get around to it. We also spend a lot of time visiting family so sometimes we don't get the opportunity.

For us it boils down to opportunity. When my son is here its hard because we have to be quiet.

My scorp doesn't like to be quiet or suppress anything. We also both like intensity so if we are not both super into it, then we abstain.

So if we are doing it, we are both really into it and each other, and if not then we don't.

It's just an activity that we share.

Me: sun/ Venus is Capricorn; mars in Sagittarius

Him: sun/Venus in Scorpio; mars in Aquarius

Posted by shellshocker

Mu Pisces says I'm not going to get too many responses to my post. Mainly because people don't want to look at —why?? they do things. They would rather not think about it at all, or to justify said action.

Of all the signs, the evolved Pisces is who I love the best .... they aren't afraid of themselves, at all.

Posted by shellshocker

1. If you are NOT having sex, does it mean =
you are fighting
you are busy
you communicate more with words and the conversation has been stimulating enough lately
timing hasn't been right

My husband and I do not participate in sexual activity, and have not done so since around Thanksgiving 2007.

We aren't fighting, we aren't too busy, nor is communication in the mix.

Our relationship has moved past this need. Our love, alone, is enough to sustain us.

Im not in a relationship but when i am i use it as a sign to express my love for this person. I like it to be passionate and just daze into the eyes of my other half and be one! Dont get me wrong there are time where we are just in heat and its more of a pleasurable thing to do! But to me in a relationship its more about expressing my true feeling for this person!

Me and my husband don't have sex everyday mostly because we tend to be tired by the end of the day......
BUT WHEN WE DO!!!! It's awesome

We are lovers and friends.....we are very passionate together

I'm a Cancer Sun/Leo Venus /Gemini Mars/ Saggi Moon

Hubby is Capricorn Sun/ Saggi Venus/ Leo Mars /Cancer Moon

we are always communicating and flirting with each other throughout the day.

sex is just one part of our emotional connection....

I suppose I consider myself a fairly sexual person. It's not something that I necessarily equate with emotions or love, but it's certainly a perk if that kind of connection is present because it can drive the intensity through the roof. Most of the time I think sex is an activity that I engage in due to biological urges, sometimes influenced by hormonal fluctuations, and other times because of close physical proximity with my partner that puts me in the mood. If they're feeling amorous then I can easily pick up on the vibe and happily play along. Adrenaline rushes and physical activity like exercise can also inspire the drive. But there are also emotionally charged moments where I feel exceptionally close to a person and the bodily aspects of that follow as a part of the bond.

If I'm not having sex it usually means that a) I just don't have an accessible partner at the moment, b) I'm too exhausted from a long stressful day and just want to sleep, or a very rare c) I'm genuinely not in the mood for no particular reason at all other than just not being in that place at the moment. There's also a possibility that I've lost physical interest in someone, probably due to incompatibilities or an irreconcilable lack of natural chemistry. I've never been the type to withhold sex because of anger though. It's not the coitus' fault, there's no reason to punish it. Sometimes angry vent sex can be a great turn-on too.

Air: 34.0%
Fire: 23.5%
Earth: 21.9%
Water: 20.5%

Sun Conjunct Mars
Sun Semi-square Pluto
Moon Sextile Mars
Moon Trine Pluto
Pluto Square (Leo)Lilith
Pluto/Chiron/Asc. Trine
5th house Cancer Moon
7th house Virgo Sun
7th house Libra Venus
7th house Virgo Mars
8th house Scorpio Pluto
7th house Leo
8th house Libra

Juno/Lust Conjunct Asc.
Juno (Lust)/Eros/Dejanira Grand Trine--air
8th house Libra Eros

Sun Conjunct Venus/Mars Midpoint
Eros Conjunct Venus/Pluto Midpoint

Posted by xygeneration
Im not in a relationship, so im not qualified to answer.

Neither am I, and I'm a virgin in every sense of the word!! So I would assume if and when it happens, the reason will be, "To lose my virginity and because I was horny . But mostly because I am horny". 😆

Posted by 2N3R

Posted by xygeneration
Im not in a relationship, so im not qualified to answer.

Neither am I, and I'm a virgin in every sense of the word!! So I would assume if and when it happens, the reason will be, "To lose my virginity and because I was horny . But mostly because I am horny". 😆

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lol

that's pretty much why I lost my virginity. actually, I wasn't even horny! I just thought, "hmmm... haven't done this yet. i think its time."

after I was all... meh

My first time, I was so young, that I didn't even know what a sexual urge was .... I had just turned 12 ... well, it was the first consensual time.


In order for a person to reach Nibbana, they must learn to release themselves from the suffering of humanity. The suffering that holds a person back is sexual desire.


Buddha teaches that all people should refrain from letting sexual desire consume them, and should practice celibacy at all times.

The ultimate goal in life is to STOP reincarnating, in order to STOP karma ... whether you are good or bad in this lifetime, doesn't stop the soul from having to pay debts into the next incarnation.

Releasing the body from suffering, you must be free from kama sutta ....

I truly believe that sex is the root to all evil ....

Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
I gave up on relationships.

Relationships are beautiful if sex isn't apart of the equation .... look at it from this point of view for proof:

When in the beginning stages, when two people are drawn to each other, and they feel those tinglings inside of them that swirls delight in being alive, wanting to be with that person so bad that you can't manage to draw in breath without them .....

... then you have sex ...

... then once this sex is used up, not only do you no longer like the other person very much, you forget all those amazing times you had together when the room was spinning, and you believe that it was all a waste of your time.

how terrible is that, really?

What you experienced BEFORE it was ruined by the suffering of sexual desire was the greatest moments in life that a person could experience ... but, instead, they think that experience was horrible.

And that is the worse thing you can do to yourself .... this telling yourself that what is wonderful, was bad. You damn yourself

Posted by P-Angel

I truly believe that sex is the root to all evil ....

On the assumption that evil exists, then . . .
I truly believe that unconsciousness is the root to all evil.

Sorry, I didn't answer on purpose because I thought I was hijacking this thread enough as it is .. and I love me some Shellshocker and so didn't want to go into details, which could be lengthy.

So, I'll keep it short and sweet ...

Yes, the same energy, and only .... people think reincarnation is a bodily transformation, but, it's not. And there is no place in Buddhism for such a thing ... for instance, you cannot be reincarnated as a cat ... but, your soul can.

There is a separation from the ego consciousness ... there is no YOU, as you understand yourself as a human being.

There is only your energy, everything else belongs to your ego ... therefore, since you are trapped within the confines of your ego, your only choice is to control your thoughts because you will bring to you, and be .. what you think. To protect the soul from incurring debt in this lifetime, so that you can ascend up the ladder of the 10 life stages, to finally reach Nibbana, you must realize that it's only energy, and all energy is paramount.

Cause and effect isn't about what you do ... it's about why you do.

You're not going to fool your spirit, like you will a human, with false praise, compliments or support. If the ego motivates you, then you're fucked, no matter how pretty you might make yourself appear.

People really are very clueless about energy ... just because a person looks good, or sounds good .. doesn't mean they are good, if it comes from the ego, which it does so long as you are enduring kama sutta = emotional suffering from sexual desire.

Ok, that wasn't short and sweet, and maybe I went out on a different path from answering the question.

Sorry, Shell ... I digress now

best thread ever!!!!