What town should I choose for a pregnancy?

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by Anyta on Wednesday, January 6, 2016 and has 23 replies.
Hello! I'm new here, and a little bit lost. I tried to study the astrology for the last 12 month, but I feel I can't find out in time what I am interesting for.
So.... I'm in a long distance relationship for more than one year, an I want to know where should I spent my birthday for having a baby, or at least for consolidate this relation, because the distance is killing me...
I'm 40 years old, and I've met my boyfriend, in December 2014, one month after I divorced [November] by the first husband.

If I stay in my town I'll have : AC in Scorpio, in 12 th house and.. AS Conjunction AS Orb 6°53' , AS square natal Moon, AS trine natal Saturn

Sun House 5
Moon House 4
Mercury House 6 Mercury Opposite natal Uranus
Venus House 5 Conjunct natal Mercury
Conjunct natal Jupiter
Mars House 1 Conjunct natal Neptune
Jupiter House 10 RETROGRADE
Saturn House 2 Conjunct natal Neptune
Uranus House 6 Conjunct natal Sun
Neptune House 4
Pluto House 3
Kiron House 5
Ceres House 5
Juno House 1
Vesta House 7
Node House 11
Lilith House 12 RETROGRADE conjunct natal Uranus [does it mean abortion???]
Fortune House 2
Venus and Moon in Pisces.

If I'l spend my birthday in may boyfrend town, I'll have: AS in Libra, in 11th house. AS conjunct natal Pluto, AC opposite Mercury, Ac oposite Jupiter,AS Square natal Saturn, AS Trine natal Moon,AS Sextile natal Neptune

Sun House 7
Moon House 5
Mercury House 7
Venus House 6
Mars House 3
Jupiter House 11
Saturn House 3
Uranus House 7
Neptune House 5
Pluto House 4
Chiron House 6
Ceres House 6
Pallas House 5
Juno House 2
Node House 12
Lilith House 1
Fortune House 11
Venus and Moon in Pisces.

.... and my question is which solar return is more positive for this relationship, and/or a pregnancy.... In which town should I spent my birthday?
Since I learned so far in astrology, I have the feeling I won't find love[or marriage] and pregnancy, to, in the same solar return from these two,or maybe I am wrong...Hope so...I'm also scared by an unexpected abortion , because I have a lot of problems in my first pregnancy...
So , please... can you tell me which one of thees maps is better for making a family ???
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Hm what?
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Posted by starlover
You are thinking of getting pregnant with a man you have known for one year and it is long distance?

Really?

Have you thought this through?


Straight Face

@OP. Listen to this, imo.^^^
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Yes,Starlover, I did and it's may personal choise.
I said I am 40 years old, how many time do you think I need to decide?? Beside, we see each over a few days every month. He's not exactly a stranger after 1 year.
My question wasn't if I am doing right or wrong... I didn't ask it on a psychology forum. Right?
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Posted by YourMajesty
First of all this is absolutely stupid question. Do you know ascendant changes every 2 hours ??? You think you can predict exact time of the birth for which you are moving here and there ???

Why don't you read the questions first, just to look less stupid yourself?
Is about SOLAR RETURN TOWN on my birthday, which can increase or not a chance to get pregnant, not to predicting the time of birth ...
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Either this is a troll thread, or OP has major issues.

OP, you're over analyzing this to the extreme. If you need astrology and a specific place to make the most of a relationship and/or pregnancy then it's not much of a relationship and you might want to invest in fertility treatments. One year of seeing someone several days a month really isn't long enough to know someone well. Even if you see a person every day for a year it would still not be enough to know them well. You have to live with someone, share responsibilities, see each other while sick, in a bad mood, etc. before you can know someone, and even then there are those who are very good at hiding their true selves.
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I'll also add that meeting someone during or right after a divorce usually means they're your rebound person, and that's not recipe for a good relationship, either, because you haven't had time to heal and grow from the ending of the other relationship.
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I guess I'm confused by your question - does he know you are wanting to get pregnant? Is this a couples goal or is this just your desire to make sure he now has to be with you forever, your way of trying to force a commitment? Since your saying relationship and/or pregnancy, I guess I'm not sure what you are really looking for?
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I'm sorry to hear it. I already have a child from my first marriage, so I know how is to grow up a children alone. I can't give more personal details, sorry, but how I said, he [my boyfriend] will come back, in 10-12 month.

I answer here for CUTEBOY, to.
I didn't say I will change the town, I answer just if I have to travel on my birthday. I travel on that town once a month anyway. And the environment for my child it is safe. Believe me! What makes you think that the man doesn't want it, anyway? Because if you so that aspect in some of my SR aspects, it would be a huge surprise, since we decide it together.


And for both of you, ...I am in a big hurry because he was very clear that if I don't get pregnant in one year, will better let it go, because I already have an age...

Anyway, I don't give up yet. smile
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Posted by MoonArtist
I'll also add that meeting someone during or right after a divorce usually means they're your rebound person, and that's not recipe for a good relationship, either, because you haven't had time to heal and grow from the ending of the other relationship.

Yes ma'am

And aren't we supposed to become wiser with age?


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"Supposed to" is the key...and too often it doesn't happen. Maybe some like to do the trail of tears version of life, with divorce after divorce after divorce after divorce after divorce (think Liz Taylor) in their quest for the perfect relationship? What I think it really is, isn't so much a quest for the perfect relationship, it's running away from inner self so they can avoid dealing with things that make them uncomfortable. They can't handle being alone for any length of time, and the partners are just props to help avoid at all costs being alone with self.
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For Moon artist, now... I was separeted 5 years before divorce. That was just a piece of paper, I took...that's why I said to starlover, that I know how is to grow up a child all alone. And yes, I invested in fertility treatment already. We both did..
I guess I answered to TurusinTexas ,to... No there is no one way relationship... We both invested something, and it may be the distance but we still talk 1 to 3 hours on Skipe every day... I think is enough to know somebody, even he is far...
But I also said , I am not interesting in psyhological support, assistance or what ever you think you are doing... Is this a astrological forum or not?
I got 10 answer all critical ... Is this making you feel better with your own lives? To judge my own decision?
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Posted by starlover
Posted by MoonArtist
I'll also add that meeting someone during or right after a divorce usually means they're your rebound person, and that's not recipe for a good relationship, either, because you haven't had time to heal and grow from the ending of the other relationship.

Yes ma'am

And aren't we supposed to become wiser with age?


Lol

"Supposed to" is the key...and too often it doesn't happen. Maybe some like to do the trail of tears version of life, with divorce after divorce after divorce after divorce after divorce (think Liz Taylor) in their quest for the perfect relationship? What I think it really is, isn't so much a quest for the perfect relationship, it's running away from inner self so they can avoid dealing with things that make them uncomfortable. They can't handle being alone for any length of time, and the partners are just props to help avoid at all costs being alone with self.
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I already answer on this, but if you are stochk in your opinion, this is your problem..do you have anything useful to say , or just spit your venin?
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Well, it's your life, and if you bring another child into the picture then that's on you and this guy. Personally, I still disagree that that's enough time to truly know someone, and I'll add that I see his behavior as a huge RED FLAG: he's setting a time limit for you to get pregnant, and that translates as a way for him to hook you and make you trapped/dependent on him, and once THAT happens, that's usually when the abusive side of a person shows up. How do I know? Because my ex husband waited until I had kids with him to show that side of himself....he waited until I wasn't working, had kids and he thought I had no other options but to stay with him, and that's when the true abuse started. It took 7 yrs of marriage for him to show me that side of him, and you think dating someone long distance while skyping is enough to know someone? Good luck, you've been warned!

As for the astrology part, it's your life, you obviously don't want input on your life, even though you asked on a public forum, so do whatever you feel is best for you. Astrology can't give you that answer any better than a forum full of strangers can.
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Posted by Anyta
For Moon artist, now... I was separeted 5 years before divorce. That was just a piece of paper, I took...that's why I said to starlover, that I know how is to grow up a child all alone. And yes, I invested in fertility treatment already. We both did..
I guess I answered to TurusinTexas ,to... No there is no one way relationship... We both invested something, and it may be the distance but we still talk 1 to 3 hours on Skipe every day... I think is enough to know somebody, even he is far...
But I also said , I am not interesting in psyhological support, assistance or what ever you think you are doing... Is this a astrological forum or not?
I got 10 answer all critical ... Is this making you feel better with your own lives? To judge my own decision?


You consider these answers critical - you might want to take a peak at what others have to say on some of the other forums - anyway, you did ask on a public forum, be happy you actually got people that were trying to help you. SMH
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Well I explain one more time, and than I leave this site for good.
I separated by my first husband 6 years ago. Last year, after I took at last, the divorced, I've met somebody. He is still working out of country and he will come back when he's contract is finished, in 12 month for now, or in ten if we are lucky to take his holiday right before the end.
We decided to make a children, I already make a treatment for it, and I want to use everything I can, even a Solar return , to if it helps, just to make it happen .
I'm sorry if this is bothering you, and I.m personal disgusted about you, all of you, who didn't help at all, but criticise our wish, and our hopes and our decision ... You all made a comparation with your own misery experience... well ... with this attitude, I'm not surprise at all that you had only negative experience in your past. And you dear to call it help!
Shame on you!
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Taurus, she considers them critical because she doesn't like honest answers, she wants to be told what she wants to hear. This is how she wants people to answer: Yes dear, pick the town that gives you the baby with the sign you like best, and then you and your long distance man you hardly ever see but who you know so well will live happily ever after because he gave you an ultimatum on when to get pregnant because you're almost too old to have another baby, and that's the bestest, most wonderfulest way to bring a child into the world, and everything will shit rainbows and be happy happy joy joy for you.
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The answers were not meant as critical, they're meant to give you a warning on what we're all seeing based on the info you provided, and since none of us are emotionally invested or blinded by the situation, we can see it from a different perspective than you can. Take them as critical, however, because you didn't hear what you wanted to hear. It's your life, do what you feel is best! You don't need strangers to tell you what is best for you. Go get pregnant, do what you want, pick whichever astrological set up makes you feel warm and fuzzy about the situation.
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Posted by Anyta
Well I explain one more time, and than I leave this site for good.
I separated by my first husband 6 years ago. Last year, after I took at last, the divorced, I've met somebody. He is still working out of country and he will come back when he's contract is finished, in 12 month for now, or in ten if we are lucky to take his holiday right before the end.
We decided to make a children, I already make a treatment for it, and I want to use everything I can, even a Solar return , to if it helps, just to make it happen .
I'm sorry if this is bothering you, and I.m personal disgusted about you, all of you, who didn't help at all, but criticise our wish, and our hopes and our decision ... You all made a comparation with your own misery experience... well ... with this attitude, I'm not surprise at all that you had only negative experience in your past. And you dear to call it help!
Shame on you!

Well thanks for stopping by - goodbye! Tongue
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Posted by Anyta
For Moon artist, now... I was separeted 5 years before divorce. That was just a piece of paper, I took...that's why I said to starlover, that I know how is to grow up a child all alone. And yes, I invested in fertility treatment already. We both did..
I guess I answered to TurusinTexas ,to... No there is no one way relationship... We both invested something, and it may be the distance but we still talk 1 to 3 hours on Skipe every day... I think is enough to know somebody, even he is far...
But I also said , I am not interesting in psyhological support, assistance or what ever you think you are doing... Is this a astrological forum or not?
I got 10 answer all critical ... Is this making you feel better with your own lives? To judge my own decision?


You consider these answers critical - you might want to take a peak at what others have to say on some of the other forums - anyway, you did ask on a public forum, be happy you actually got people that were trying to help you. SMH
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Exactly! It's an open forum - you get what you get, and in this case you got advice from people who want to help you in the best way we can, and seeing as we all seem to agree that your problem is unrelated to astrology, that's the kind of answer you are going to recieve, like it or not.

Good luck, you're gonna need it!

And an extra good luck to your child - he or she is d-e-s-p-e-r-a-t-e-l-y going to need it!
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Posted by MoonArtist
The answers were not meant as critical, they're meant to give you a warning on what we're all seeing based on the info you provided, and since none of us are emotionally invested or blinded by the situation, we can see it from a different perspective than you can. Take them as critical, however, because you didn't hear what you wanted to hear. It's your life, do what you feel is best! You don't need strangers to tell you what is best for you. Go get pregnant, do what you want, pick whichever astrological set up makes you feel warm and fuzzy about the situation.

I think it is called being supportive Moonie......but it seems some don't want that?


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Gotta laugh at how many people turn something into "critical" when they don't like the answer. Apparently we're supposed to give the rainbow and fluff version.
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I'm 22 and even I wouldn't do this... NOT rational.

it doesn't matter where you give birth. what matters is the child's well-being. a fatherless youth- being filled in with Skype? a lot of my friends didn't have fathers growing up... some were long distance. not only did they never see their father, but they grew up with heavy animosity towards their father(s) for not being there for so long. it's not psychology. it's common sense. your child will suffer. it's too bad you don't see it too.

who cares if age isn't on your side? so this loser is gonna have you get pregnant because you're not good enough for him if you don't get pregnant after one year? YEAH RIGHT. I would've had so much to say to a guy who EVER said that to me and kicked his sorry ass to the curb. no WAY would I carry a mans child for nine months and be okay with him not being there for it. "oh yeah babe lets just skype once in awhile for an hour or two. that will show our child you really care."

I won't even say that I'm not being critical because I am. because it makes no logical SENSE and I have strong opinions about separated families. I've had friends GROW UP in broken/separated families. it does NOT always WORK. I can't believe people's rationality during these circumstances!!!! I've seen my friends suffer. I can't stand here without being critical after seeing what they've gone through growing up. some of them STILL have harbored hatred for their father who said they'd be there but NEVER WERE. the suffering PSYCHOLOGICALLY/EMOTIONALLY for the child.

you're having a kid because you've been ORDERED to. you're having a kid so a man won't leave you. WHAT ABOUT THE CHILD?
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I would pick a town with minimal pollution, with lots of greenery everywhere.
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Posted by starlover
Posted by MoonArtist
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Posted by MoonArtist
The answers were not meant as critical, they're meant to give you a warning on what we're all seeing based on the info you provided, and since none of us are emotionally invested or blinded by the situation, we can see it from a different perspective than you can. Take them as critical, however, because you didn't hear what you wanted to hear. It's your life, do what you feel is best! You don't need strangers to tell you what is best for you. Go get pregnant, do what you want, pick whichever astrological set up makes you feel warm and fuzzy about the situation.

I think it is called being supportive Moonie......but it seems some don't want that?


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Gotta laugh at how many people turn something into "critical" when they don't like the answer. Apparently we're supposed to give the rainbow and fluff version.

Oh i know....crazy stuff, Moonie!
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I wish people would just state that they want affirmation, not advice. Tongue
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