What's with the girls born in 1954-55—

My mom was born May 3, 1955.And I swear to myself that if I'm going to marry a woman, she should be just like her. I love my mum and I have to admit that I'm attracted to her (unfortunately). I'm setting my mum as my standard for some reasons. At 58, she still looks beautiful, blooming, elegant and very womanly. She may have flabs now but she still looks gorgeous. She's not the usual hot momma but her looks are very appealing... especially whenever she smiles. Her skin still looks like porcelain... soft and smooth... and with light caramel complexion. She's beyond perfect. 🙂 My dad's very very lucky to have married a woman anyone would want to settle with.

Anyway, why am I posting this? That's coz I just realized that a lot of my mum's high school classmates are just like her! They look beautiful, blooming, elegant and very womanly! And whenever they smile, they just give that wonderful assurance that everything will go out fine. They smile so tenderly, I feel like I'm in heaven whenever I see them. And their hair! They're not having their hair cut like most old women do! They still retain that natural womanly hair style with the finesse and elegance I rarely see in women these days.

I wonder how they look when they were younger. All I can say is, if I were born the same year as theirs, I wouldn't have a hard time looking for the right girl/woman. I would like to meet someone who has their characteristics. I don't like girls with spunk, masculine attitude, fierce character, and all those characteristics some weird commercials insist women must have! I want women who are womanly, feminine, elegant and tender!!!

^^MY mum's one year advanced so most of her classmates must have been born in 1954. But then again, a lot of them were born in 1955. I think my mum once said that most children those days enter school one year early, if I'm not mistaken.

^^Thanks Nina (🙂) but I don't get what you mean by that comment. Heheh...

Posted by firebunny
My mom was born May 3, 1955.And I swear to myself that if I'm going to marry a woman, she should be just like her. I love my mum and I have to admit that I'm attracted to her (unfortunately). I'm setting my mum as my standard for some reasons. At 58, she still looks beautiful, blooming, elegant and very womanly. She may have flabs now but she still looks gorgeous. She's not the usual hot momma but her looks are very appealing... especially whenever she smiles. Her skin still looks like porcelain... soft and smooth... and with light caramel complexion. She's beyond perfect. 🙂 My dad's very very lucky to have married a woman anyone would want to settle with.

Anyway, why am I posting this? That's coz I just realized that a lot of my mum's high school classmates are just like her! They look beautiful, blooming, elegant and very womanly! And whenever they smile, they just give that wonderful assurance that everything will go out fine. They smile so tenderly, I feel like I'm in heaven whenever I see them. And their hair! They're not having their hair cut like most old women do! They still retain that natural womanly hair style with the finesse and elegance I rarely see in women these days.

I wonder how they look when they were younger. All I can say is, if I were born the same year as theirs, I wouldn't have a hard time looking for the right girl/woman. I would like to meet someone who has their characteristics. I don't like girls with spunk, masculine attitude, fierce character, and all those characteristics some weird commercials insist women must have! I want women who are womanly, feminine, elegant and tender!!!

Your mum must be a wonderful person to have raised such a perceptive, articulate young man. Mums rule.

Your Mom, like many others born in the 1950's, was raised by parents who survived WWII and are commonly referred to as The Greatest Generation.

Filipino people had to unfortunately suffer a lot of hardships by the marauding Japanese during this time, so I can only imagine the stories, discipline and standards in place for the household/neighborhood during your mother's upbringing.

Absent were the days of F-bombs, tattoos, disrespect, and ignorance (that's today's generation). The Korean War kicked off in 1950, but ended in 1953. Other than that period of war, this is why so many people look to the 1950s as an era of prosperity.

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Posted by firebunny
I love my mum and I have to admit that I'm attracted to her (unfortunately). !

Your mum must be a wonderful person to have raised such a perceptive, articulate young man. Mums rule.

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So now momma's boys are 'in'? I have such a hard time keeping up with these new trends.

Posted by enfant_terrible

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Posted by firebunny
I love my mum and I have to admit that I'm attracted to her (unfortunately). !

Your mum must be a wonderful person to have raised such a perceptive, articulate young man. Mums rule.

So now momma's boys are 'in'? I have such a hard time keeping up with these new trends.

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Men who respect their mothers, YAAAA 🙂

Respect is one thing, being "attracted to (unfortunately)" is something else. That "unfortunately" sounds moderately unhealthy, me thinks.

But hey, as long as he's not hurting anyone, lol.

dude, you should totally try. who knows, maybe she will be okay with this.
And post the story plz.

Posted by enfant_terrible
Respect is one thing, being "attracted to (unfortunately)" is something else. That "unfortunately" sounds moderately unhealthy, me thinks.

But hey, as long as he's not hurting anyone, lol.

didnt freud do a study on this? men attracted to their mum and girls their fathers

I wonder if the OP is looking for a probable mate who has attributes of his mother or in fact, a clone of what his mother is.
Unfortunately, if it is the latter, then poor thing, she will never meet up to his high high high pedestal.
Why on earth would she want to fall into such a predicament anyways because she will always fail, it is ridiculously absurd.
...either screw the mother (not promoting incest but being sarcastic) or look for a girl that is compatible, instead of placing her beside this ridiculous 'hidden' criteria which she will be marked against time and time again, only to disappoint herself and you.

My mom was also born in 1954 and yes..she still remains youthful in both appearance and character! (Aries/Pisces cusp)

LOL. What are you guys thinking? I'm an idealistic virgo, and that means I have strong standards for finding a mate. That means I have already excluded anyone 5 years older than me, which necessarily includes my mom. And no, I don't look on my cousins and other relatives either (that includes my mom). That's just ewwww...

It's just that my mom and I have this really strong connection and I really like most of her attributes. Astrologically-speaking, we are very compatible on both Western and Chinese zodiacs (She's Taurus-Sheep and I'm Virgo-Rabbit). That's why it was very easy for me to get along with my mum.

And to answer LadyScorpio's post, yes I do consider my mum as a standard, and it has been like this since 5 years ago... but maybe you can read one of my threads in Relationships. there you'll see that I'm actually open to meet someone I could grow with romantically without taking note of her looks, her intelligence, etc. 😉

Ay...and the Virgo Man winks.
As you put it, without taking note of her looks, her intelligence etc., very well then, what 'do' you take note of (besides your mother as the sub-standard)?

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I wonder if the OP is looking for a probable mate who has attributes of his mother or in fact, a clone of what his mother is.
Unfortunately, if it is the latter, then poor thing, she will never meet up to his high high high pedestal.
Why on earth would she want to fall into such a predicament anyways because she will always fail, it is ridiculously absurd.
...either screw the mother (not promoting incest but being sarcastic) or look for a girl that is compatible, instead of placing her beside this ridiculous 'hidden' criteria which she will be marked against time and time again, only to disappoint herself and you.

+1

I think a lot of men do this, whether they admit it, or not.

And you're right-- it's a setup for disappointment for both parties.

I pity the woman you'll marry someday... my mom is partly Filipino although asian feature on me is not obvious and we spent years living in Philippines and Hong Kong. I've nothing against Filipino culture, they are accommodating, genuine, happy people, very hospitable etc...

Moving back to the topic I think it will be very unfair for your future mate to be categorize with your mom. Subconsciously and consciously you will constantly compare her to your mom and you being a critical Virgo (thats what we are Virgos) that will be a hell for your woman. Just don't, don't do that. Your adoration for your mom should stay just inside your house but difinitely out of your head especially out of your heart.

Posted by virgosagscorpio
I pity the woman you'll marry someday... my mom is partly Filipino although asian feature on me is not obvious and we spent years living in Philippines and Hong Kong. I've nothing against Filipino culture, they are accommodating, genuine, happy people, very hospitable etc...

Moving back to the topic I think it will be very unfair for your future mate to be categorize with your mom. Subconsciously and consciously you will constantly compare her to your mom and you being a critical Virgo (thats what we are Virgos) that will be a hell for your woman. Just don't, don't do that. Your adoration for your mom should stay just inside your house but difinitely out of your head especially out of your heart.

Thank you for warning me, fellow Virgo. I should keep this in mind. 🙂

Made a little research on 1955:

SHEEP
1931, 1943, 1955, 1967,1979, 1991, 2003

Sheep people are elegant, charming, artistic, gifted and fond of nature. People born under this sign are also the most creative. They are also very delicate, their good manners and charms always bring many admirers and friends.

Sheeps are insecure. They need to feel loved and protected. They are easily drawn into complex predicaments. This being, so, they usually shy from confrontation, pull back when faced with heavy decision-making and blatantly refuse to take an unpopular stand in a conflict.

Sheep people are dreamers, sometimes, they are pessimistic, hesitant and over-anxious worriers! They can be lazy sometimes. If Sheeps have any choices, they would definitely choose to marry a wealthy person and sit back for the rest of the lives. Also, they are obsessed with their appearance. That, play an enormous part in their sense of personal stability. If they don't look their best, they may be afraid to go out the door to pick up the Sunday papers.

Due to their indecisive nature, Sheeps like to study the esoteric to know more about the unknown. They enjoy reading books about horoscope and fortune-telling. Therefore, it will not be unusual to find Sheeps working as astrologers or fortune-tellers.

Disorganized as they are , business is definitely not the strength in a Sheep. Instead, the Sheep will make a good craftsman or artist or writer and can confidently take up any career demanding artistic talents and creativities.

Sheep people are very romantic sensitive, sweet and darling. In relationship, they could be sometimes a little bit bossy and lazy, but with their gentle and caring nature, it will be hard to resist Sheep people.
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Now I know why I'm attracted to Sheep people. 🙂

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