Think Like a Man and Act Like a Lady

This is Steve Harvey's new boook. actually it's on the best seller list.

As anyone read it?

What do you think of it?

I don't agree all of what Steve has to say but I do agree with the title.

Actually I found the book real easy to read and very informative. It also highlighted alot of things us ladies think and the way men think differently. Def like the point about the 3 month period, great illustration!

When would anyone agree 100% ? What dont you agree with?

I completely forgot about this book until I saw this post so I found it online & read it.

I liked it alot. I agree sweethearts, I loved the 90 day probationary point as well, it makes complete sense. Funny because I was just chatting with a guy friend of mine a few days ago about dating & he said that he'd take someone out for 3 dates but if he didn't get any by the end of the 3rd there wouldn't be a 4th! LOL I was kinda (but not really) shocked by this & told him so, to which he replied that this is normal. This guy is also in his early 30's....you'd think he by this time would be growing out of that "player" mentality.

I was thinking 3 dates..... & how long does each date last? 2-3 hours MAYBE? which equals 6-9 hrs before your completely nude,open & vulnerable. that's a shorter period of time than some peoples work days! This is not the 1st time I've heard about this 3 date rule either but when I look at it in a 6-9 hour context it seems insane that one would expect sex after only knowing you for that length of time. If thats the case men should just cut to the chase & make it a whole day event, a 6-9 hour date LOL Needless to say I'm pretty discusted by that conversation with him.

I also found it really disheartening when I read the chapter about why men cheat. #1 stated...Because he can. Really? so basically you should just expect to be cheated on at some point in every relationship because men will cheat for no other reason than, they can....they could be completely happy (this is per steve) & they would still cheat because they think they can? SAD 😢

Posted by Starfish225
"I also found it really disheartening when I read the chapter about why men cheat. #1 stated...Because he can."

Thats not what he was saying, when he said bc I can, mostly was because women put up with it..Also when a man cheats who is he cheating with another woman..I don't think he meant just know your gonna be cheated on..btw..

Actually I went back & looked because I like to make sure that I read & understand correctly what I've read &....

1. Because they can
2. They think they can get away with it
3. He hasn't found who he wants & needs to be or who he truly wants to be with
4.whats happening at home isn't happening the way it used to
5. The biggest reason... there is always a woman willing

The reason why he said Because I can is because men do not view sex the same way that a woman does (emotionally) for men its just a physical act & release. As Steve says in the book, a man can have sex, go home, wash it off & it's as if it never happened. He also says that a man can be perfectly happy with his wife, children, their home, the physical relationship he shares with his wife & the life that they've built together & he could STILL cheat because to him, it's just physical. He says that if a mans wife is away on business, he may cheat & though women would find this completely unjustifiable, a man would find it perfectly fine because it's just physical & his emotions are with his wife. THAT is what I find disheartening. This is coming from a man so I would assume he knows how most men think, men would talk about that kind of thing with other men but never with a woman for obvious reasons & he has a mans brain, so I tend to believe that what he's saying is true.

Now he did say that the biggest reason is because there is always a woman willing & I do believe this to be true, we see enough of it around here on these boards. Personally I don't understand it, I don't get what the appeal is about a man who is spoken for & WILLING to cheat with you,as if you are so special that he would cheat With you but never ON you LOL dumb! But after reading the book, I do think that for as much bitching as we women do about men we certainly aren't very willing to look at the many problems that we create for ourselves & for other women.

If all women had standards & didn't allow men to treat us like shit & get away with it, they'd have no choice but to stop. If all women didn't allow a cheater a 2nd chance maybe they'd think twice about cheating, If all women wouldn't put out right away men wouldn't come to expect that & treat all of us like whores, because that's what they've grown accustom to.

I've always agreed with women screaming about how independent they are to be one of the stupidest things one could do. Why? because then men start to think "well what do you need me for" Then they stop acting like real men & start acting like little boys. Yeah we women are independent, we always have been. You think back in caveman days when the men went out to hunt that the women just sat there & starved to death till they came back? Fuck no! they ate... they just didn't scream about it to the men when they came back with THEIR kill! Men have roles...they want to fill that role...why don't we let them do what they really want to do, provide!!!! That's what the book said to me.

I read it and had to quote on it in my post. It was very informative for me as well. I liked hearing these things straight from a man, some common sense some not. I agree that you need to let a man be a man sometimes, make him feel needed. Not to the extreme, but let him fix the sink, carry the groceries, fix the car if he can or at least try, and open doors for you. Women were arguing this point about how Scorpio's need strong independent women distanced and aloof women. That may be true, but he needs someone who can show emotion, make him feel loved, and be devoted. If he wanted a man he would date a man.. which is why I feel Scorpios/Cancers go well.

Posted by PandorasBox
Wow.. Can someone lemme borrow this book 😛?

SOunds darn interesting!

very good



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I have actually watched movie based on this book and it is absolutely brilliant I would strongly recommend it!