Cancer men and women: i need your input

This topic was created in the Cancer Man forum by Rising on Tuesday, July 2, 2019 and has 3 replies.
met a wonderful Cancer man, 2 yrs ago. he showed interest from the start. to the point that i found it a bit embarrassing. we work together, we used to be on same team, now in different departments. he is Cancer, Scorpio rising, Cancer moon, i am Leo sun, Cancer rising, Cancer moon.

we used to work side by side and while i was keeping him at bay (i wasn't sure if the whole thing would work out or not), he kept very friendly and sweet and we became real close as friends. he kept professing his "love" to me, by messaging me on and off saying how much he cares for me. i told him, in the beginning, i was allergic to second hand smoke and he quit a week later. he also broke up with his then GF

last December i had a minor accident, smbd rear ended my car. as soon as he heard it he messaged me insisting that he took me to the emergency just to have a check up. he came from 30 km away. that night at the emergency was for me better than any of the many dates i've been on, because he made me laugh and he showed so much care.

after that i decided to give it a chance. we started going out, going for drives, laughing so much, going out to eat and he was always the perfect gentleman. he made sacrifices for me, he went out with me hiking while he was in pain from gout. Sad

this went on from december till april. last time we went out, he picked me up and went for a walk. we hugged and he held me so tight, kissing my hair. up until that point we never kissed. we held hands and while he would message me that he missed me (good morning txts, good night, and in between), he messaged me how he wanted me in his arms when we were apart. he made effort to meet my family and spend time with them over dinners, buying small presents and such.

in april, last time we met, i messaged him that i would've liked to kiss him. and from then everything started going downhill.

a big part was my own ego and misunderstanding him.

he literally said that he didn't want to go that far with me for that time, because he didn't want to mess up what we had; that as a friend he is confident he is doing his best, but as far as lover he needed to work on himself. before this, we also had talks about sex, and trying to figure out if i had any preferences, talking about sizes and what i thought about his friend who preferred "rough sex"

after he told me he needed to work on himself, i told him i needed to take a break and he said ok, that he will give me that break, but he continued to txt me as usual.

few days later i asked him if we can talk, unfortunately, i should've have had the convo in person, butwe had over txt.

he was very kind and kept saying how i was one the best women to walk into his life and he didnt want to mess it up. up until that point he never gave me reason to not trust him, as trust does not come easily for me. but that last time, i didnt trust him anymore. i felt led on. all the txts in which he was saying how he wanted to fall asleep in my arms and all that romantic stuff, all of a sudden didn't seem real enough. i felt insulted and told him i wanted to cut off communication at that point. he said he understood

few days later i contacted him and told him i felt bad how things ended - we had got to be real close, very intimate emotionally, and i apologized for my reaction, i asked him if we can talk

he said we can meet and talk for sure, and that he understood that emotions can be pretty strong; and that he had to travel to see family but when he gets back

that was first week of May. since then we ran into each other at work few times, each time he was very courteous (but i know he is polite by nature), every time he paid me compliments, especially on how good i was at my work and how i help implement positive changes.

considering he came out showing his vulnerability to me and me shutting him down, i gather he was pretty hurt. last i contacted him was late May and him saying once he has some time we can have that conversation. i know he is not a jerk and every time he said smtg to me he kept his word. but since then he hasn't initiated a meeting.

i already reached out 3-4 times and every time he answered very quickly, within minutes. i know, maybe im reading too much into it, but just recently he changed his fb profile pic to resemble mine, almost the same.

he is a strong person but i also know he is hurt, i know he is able to make a move if he wanted to - maybe he is taking this time for himself - but i don't mind if i have to make a move either. at this point ego has no place. but i also know that even if i try and try, if he is not ready he will not meet me.

i feel so remorseful over the way i handled the whole thing and sure, it takes two to tango, but if you have any input, would be much appreciated.
You're right to feel offensive, he was giving you signs that there might be more into the situation.

However, it is always best to discuss each matter in person.

A text could also be misleading too.

This situation reminds me of this Scorpio sun & Cancer Moon I work with, but he was in different departments.

We did all that, but he wasn't sure of what he wanted.

Usually situations like those, becomes friends with benefits
thanks smile