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Cancers.......have you ever like someone but then start feeling vulnerable, so you cease communication with them because you like them? make sense?

lord yes... *hangs head*

Just had such a situation recently and was ready to shell for... who knows how long.

Instead, I took on the vulnerability... owned it and went to talk to the person face-to-face. Kind of a first for me.
Surprisingly enough I didn't burst into flames, my head is still attached at the correct angle and things went rather smoothly.

Felt damn great actually. I'd do it again.

I never understood that in you Crabs.
It happened to me when my crab started getting involved he backed away..became cautious, measuring how much he gave me...he even admitted it himself..became defensive. After a while and a lot of patience he started warming again but boy...it was difficult to understand, it still is...are you afraid of becoming too vulnerable? of being hurt??

I understand all of you completely. I dunno, its freaking me out because I don't want to jump the gun. I always say I am ready for a relationship but when a worthy suitor comes around I get scared, and its like a feeling thing, not a logical mind thing. I push them away because the fear of commitment and the up and down of relations scare the crap out of me. Arrrrggghhh. I wish I could be more normal or airy.

My guy I've been seeing for 2 months did this just the other day!!! We had a great talk at night and he was being open and everything. I had asked him if he could tell me a story before I went to bed, and he made one up and mentioned how enjoys telling me stories because he used to tell them to his kid sister all the time. I complimented him on his story telling skills and I love hearing them! He also asked my advice on what to get his mom for her bday, and that he'll make a point to see me really soon before the end of this week.

The next day I called him and it took him forever to return my call, so I called him later on again to say hi and see how his day was going. We spoke very briefly and then he just rushed off! What's up with that? I figured he needed some space and whenever I leave him alone for days he comes back and initiates plans with me. It's aggravating because I don't want to be close with him one day and he pulls away the following day with no reason. It seems like he chickened out. I don't know what to do with this?! insights would be greatly appreciated.

Posted by justSophs
I understand all of you completely. I dunno, its freaking me out because I don't want to jump the gun. I always say I am ready for a relationship but when a worthy suitor comes around I get scared, and its like a feeling thing, not a logical mind thing. I push them away because the fear of commitment and the up and down of relations scare the crap out of me. Arrrrggghhh. I wish I could be more normal or airy.

whoa justSophs, get out of my head...

i wish I could change
i wish I could change
i wish I could stop
doing the same old things

i wish I could be
who you want me to be
i wish I could stop
being the same old me

sung by a pisces but he's channeling a cancer, i swear

Posted by cancersunleomoon123
do any other cancers hate being asked a lot of questions by people you don't know well yet or are getting to know? I hate that,it is overwhelming and slightly irritating,makes me suspicious. Just wondering if that's a cancer thing. my ideal for me,is for a guy to talk about himself a lot and ask me some questions but not too many and give me time and chances to respond to him in convo. But,to act like you're interviewing me..wow..i don't like. 😢

You expressed this perfectly. dead on for me.

When I listen to someone who I'm starting to like, it can feel like I'm reliving their experiences with them and it is imprinting in my memory and I??ll never lose it. It can be like a feeling of consumption. Of taking them all in and I'm entwining and fantasizing within their heads.

This is freaky and scary as all hell = back off and stop communicating.

Logically, i know that it is highly unlikely that my words are effecting them, they way their words are effecting me. But still, there is no way I can feel comfortable giving them too much information about myself.

This is only ONE reason to keep things private.

How can you explain something like that to someone and have them understand? = it takes forever to trust someone.

Tried the quiet thing and he still calls so....im simmering a little now. I generally like someone too much in the beginning but it eventually fades.