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I'm really got tired of my overemotional insecurities..I fell in love a libra girl..Unfortunately I don't have any shield to protect myself from her mind..She really read my mind and easily manipulate me..
I sense what she's trying to do and act like as if I didn't understand..But it's not enough to protect my dignity, I'm trying to be what I'm with her but I can't do it..
I need to think hard about this relationship. The problem is I can't focus on myself and always think about her..
I need some advice how you (cancers) control your emotions and get rid of your insecurities..I talked one of my sag friend, she told me that you souldn't be worry something you can't change..Whatever you do can't change the inevitable consequence..I felt relieved and it changed my thinking style a little.
We, cancers (at least me), don't like to share our weaknesses but it's obvious I need some advice..
I really wonder how you deal with your emotions

It's quite annoying..I really hate when this happens to me..

Posted by CluelessCancer
Boring azz annoying libra controlling your mind and manipulating you.

please give back your cancer card.

Lol. Did you date a Libra before or something? You seem to have a lot of animosity towards the sign.

It's not insecurities if there's manipulation going around. It's common sense.

not a Libra, sorry.

But... Dude! It seems that you are getting really hurt with this "relationship" .
Librans don't have deep feelings.
I bet she's not able to understand your emotions.

Try to learn to play an instrument... or start singing. Cancers are really good for that 🙂















PD. I'd like to say "do some hard workout". But only a 40% of cancerians love the gym
After you get stronger enough in body and mind, you'll realize that she doesn't worth your time and effort.

Maybe you should look for a Virgo, Taurus or pisces girl.

What are the insecurities with which you are dealing?

Posted by miha
are you sure she's manipulating you? and if she is, isn't it in your best interest? you cancer guys do have a tendency to self-distruction.

maybe she just observes things about you and communicates them to you for your own benefit or the benefit of your relationship.

i am an aqua, air sign as your libra, and i am experiencing some similar clashes with my cancer guy. he seems to be very collected and balanced when it is about he as a businessman, friend, etc...but as a lover...he is so insecure, sensitive, emotional, etc. i can't say "you know, i don't like it when you...." without an emotional tragedy following....

i have 2 choices: 1. i'll either let him be without any comments[very un-aqua] or 2. i'll let it go

time will show.

It's obvious that she dosen't love me back as a lover does..She just give me chance to see what will happen..
Libras will understan well..Sometimes she talks a lot about herself and what she's done her casual day and give some hints about what she want in a relationship, then she stop communicating..Not entirely but you easily understand something is wrong..When you question it, there is always a reasonable excuse for it..I can't push her when this happen cause it makes me selfish as if I always thought about me not her..

Anyway I don't question why this happens..It's probably my fault..

I don't want to push her, I don't want to think about what she's doing right now..I don't want to give her a chance to pick a quarrel..I also want to see what will happen..

I just need some advice what I can do to clear my mind..

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Posted by MissLibra
What are the insecurities with which you are dealing?

that they are not loved enough, praised enough, treasured enough, good enough, wanted enough, desired enough, etc etc etc enough

am i wrong cancer guys?!

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She thinks and says that I'm emotional which is right..She dosen't show her appreciation or love enough and thinks that I'll be spoiled if she's done it..A few times I had to behave as if I'm spoiled cause she was trying to manipulate me and it's like the only thing I can do that time..I hadn't come up with any other idea..When she talks about me, she says how she love to be loved this way (no intenion about her feeling about myself) and talks about what I can do for her..I think she wants to see her boundaries..When she can't get what she wants, I'll became a lover who dosen't love enough..And I act spoiled brat even if I didn't feel that way..I start to praise myself and it makes her stop talking..(That's my way to manipulate but I don't like it)..I know that I have to talk about everything that bothers me but I can't think rational..

I need some advice how to get rid of my insecurities..

I know a Cancer Male - Aquarius female marriage.

Married for a lot of years..have a Libra Son who's 30.

He's way too volatile, she just drifts off into her little world. They make it work somehow

Libras need communication. You need to be direct with her and share your needs in this relationship. My dad and brother are Cancers. I am direct, they are not, until they get angry or hurt. I am trying to understand how their feelings work in order to communicate with them better, but in turn, they should try to understand how I work as well.

Usually a Libra does not communicate with ill intent but Cancers are so vulnerable (thinking the other person is somehow intending to slight them) that they internalize what is said and perceive it as being patronizing. Too many times I have had to say "no, I didn't mean it that way" and then explain it further, to only receive that icy glare of "now I don't trust what you're saying" (because it makes sense now, but cancer initially perceived it as a slight and can't get past that).

Bottom line: Take a chance, tell your girl how you truly feel, breath, give her a chance to respond, listen to the words, breath, don't emotionally block her true intent by your insecurities. What have you got to lose? You can get your answer, move forward with or without her. On the plus side, if she didn't have an interest in you, more than likely, she would not give you the time of day.

Posted by miha
you know what? you stay away from this air sign. i think i'll stay away from my cancer man because now, reading your posts, i see air and water are so different that there is no way for them to get the other's way of being.
i hoped his moon and mercury in venus will make a difference, but of what you are saying i can figure out what my cancer man really thinks/feels like..

That's what I'm talking about..We think different..As cancers we think this is not something bad if we love you and you think that we're not compatible..Don't judge your man according what I wrote because I wouldn't do..I don't act what people say, I'm just trying to understand me, her and relationship we have

Posted by miha
can't you imagine that people can take their time while falling in love——————?

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We cross that line..We were together but we couldn't manage stay calm when we argue..Now I want her love back again and she resist..I want her became more clear about her feelings..If she dosen't want me, I expect her to tell me that or vice versa..Cause when I ask what she think, she says that I'm pushing her and being selfish..

I'm not trying to make a drama..For cancers it's really hard talk about our emotions but once we did, it's not problem anymore to talk..

What do you think?

Posted by MissLibra

Usually a Libra does not communicate with ill intent but Cancers are so vulnerable (thinking the other person is somehow intending to slight them) that they internalize what is said and perceive it as being patronizing. Too many times I have had to say "no, I didn't mean it that way" and then explain it further, to only receive that icy glare of "now I don't trust what you're saying" (because it makes sense now, but cancer initially perceived it as a slight and can't get past that).

Yes, this is one of the problems. But it's not entire story..When you didn't take it personally, she can use it for another thing..When similiar thing happens, she says that I've already told it before..And you think it wasn't the case then, what happened now?..

Posted by MissLibra

Bottom line: Take a chance, tell your girl how you truly feel, breath, give her a chance to respond, listen to the words, breath, don't emotionally block her true intent by your insecurities. What have you got to lose? You can get your answer, move forward with or without her. On the plus side, if she didn't have an interest in you, more than likely, she would not give you the time of day.

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I'm just trying to find a way to talk about it without becoming emotional. I just wonder how you would you react the person you like/love when he start to behave different and less emotional.. would you think that he's not loving you anymore or he's being selfish..

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Posted by MissLibra

Usually a Libra does not communicate with ill intent but Cancers are so vulnerable (thinking the other person is somehow intending to slight them) that they internalize what is said and perceive it as being patronizing. Too many times I have had to say "no, I didn't mean it that way" and then explain it further, to only receive that icy glare of "now I don't trust what you're saying" (because it makes sense now, but cancer initially perceived it as a slight and can't get past that).

Yes, this is one of the problems. But it's not entire story..When you didn't take it personally, she can use it for another thing..When similiar thing happens, she says that I've already told it before..And you think it wasn't the case then, what happened now?..

Posted by MissLibra

Bottom line: Take a chance, tell your girl how you truly feel, breath, give her a chance to respond, listen to the words, breath, don't emotionally block her true intent by your insecurities. What have you got to lose? You can get your answer, move forward with or without her. On the plus side, if she didn't have an interest in you, more than likely, she would not give you the time of day.

I'm just trying to find a way to talk about it without becoming emotional. I just wonder how you would you react the person you like/love when he start to behave different and less emotional.. would you think that he's not loving you anymore or he's being selfish..

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I would think I've done something to cause him to think that he can't trust me with his emotions. I would need him to talk to me about the problem so we could work it out together. Even if it's hard for you to share your emotions, it is what she needs from you.

Aqua a Cancer don't make a high-tension aspect in the sky, because there will never be a 90?? orb aspect between them.

Posted by aquavita
libra is my teacher to being cold and unemotional. however emotions and feelings are diferent things. after 20 year sof deeply loving my mom and alwasy being disappointed and hurt by her and ignored( sh loved giving my the "silent treatment" for weks at a time and i was only a child...till i was 16 and stopped paying attention to it...even enjoyed it..then she started manipulating me by threatening with as usicide if i dont do as she wants...ect ect... i support her with $ $ $ whenever i can... to this day...this is how it is ..i am a sag woman with a libra mom..and i dont have a mom..she s my child.

I am so sorry you had to experience such coldness. Do you know your moms placements? This doesn't sound like a Libra trait at all. I am a very loving and attentive mother, raised two kids by myself and we work like a team. My kids are my life.

Posted by aquavita
cancer men so sexy... women too... they re such tricksters :////

I don't think cancers deal with libras by manipulating them..They eventually find out what happens and will end in a bad way 🙂 Libras are very unique on their way of thinking..They can analyze very well and nothing can change their way if they're dedicated..Your emotions or emotional press can't affect them..But cancers are easily influenced by emotions..When a cancer reject someone's will, and see the change of their emotions it affects cancers..We feel guilty and have hard times to deal with it..It's much easier for libras to deal with guilt..

Posted by aquavita

yes so true....they ll achieve their goal no matter what,,,if possible at all..regardless of other people s emotions... and reactions. does not mean they dont love u...just love themselves a little more. or may be it is the right way to love? ...

Nobody can say the right way to love? But you must be very patient..We've known as patient people..When we realize that we're manipulating in a way we don't accept, we stand..You seemed to me submissive as it does my relationship with my girl 🙂 and I'm trying to change it..

That's why I start this topic..I just need to stay calm and think..

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Posted by CharlieSlaughter
Aqua and Cancer don't make a high-tension aspect in the sky, because there will never be a 90?? orb aspect between them.

blah blah blah blah blah...

by the way....what orbit is there between aqua and cancer?

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150??
This aspect is called quincunx — also known as the inconjunct.