A stupid memory with a Cancer that I can't get over
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by AriesFireKnight on Wednesday, March 15, 2017 and has 6 replies.
Hey guys, 18 yo Aries sun, Aries moon, Cancer Rising and Aquarius Venus here.
I have a story and a question about a Cancer girl. The whole thing is pretty stupid, but it's been 2 month since then and I still can't get over it so I've came here searching for a little bit of insight.
The story: Last year before Christmas I've met this 18 yo Cancer girl on Tinder. At that point our conversation was casual and because of the fact that she lived in a place a little bit far she remained one of my Tinder matches.
Until my parents decided to rent a house in her town for a weekend right after Christmas in her town. I got there together with my family and I thought it's just the right time to set up a meeting, and who knows, maybe make a new friends (or get some action).
We met in the first day and we clicked instantly. Close personalities, same taste in movies and books, we talked a lot, we ice skated together, visited the whole town, she met my family (and everyone liked her) and all the dates were so good that we actually spend the whole weekend together, like 7-8 hours every day for 4 days... All of that was just magic... I mean the place and everything, and this girl gave me the sensation that I know her for ages... I mean, it was totally different from the girls I've met before and it actually felt like home (sounds like Cancer, heh?). The strange thing was that I wasn't really sexually attracted to her, but I really liked the idea of friends, and because of the distance we decided to keep in touch.
We talked on facebook on a weekly basis, talked on phone a few times (for hours) and when we got the chance we set up another meeting. I was available to go to her town for a day and then come back. All was fine I got there and I had one of the best dates ever.
The atmosphere was the same as the month before. We've been to the coffee shop were we spent most of the time in the last trip, the we ate at a fancy restaurant and we talked about our lives and our best times and it was clear that we both felt great together. Then we smoked a joint, had a great time walking stoned trough the town, cracking jokes, again it was great. All of the date was great until this moment, and now I wish I just have left there, at that moment.
You see, I only smoked weed at parties with my friends when I was really drunk. I didn't know what kind of effect weed has on me then, and I found out later when I started smoking alone on a weekly basis that that the trips are stronger and last longer on me than on normal people (like hours with side effects the day after) from small doses (yeah, regular doses for 15-20 minutes of fun !?)... But then.... Well, I really thought I was fine even if after I realized that I was acting strange af...
She was a stoner smoking on a regular basis so after like 20 minutes she was fine. I thought i was too, but my mind was in over drive and, even if I didn't really felt like it, I thought I really need to make a step forward and show this girl that I like her. So I took her hand and walked like that for like 30m.. It was cringy af... She just slipped her hand out of mine and we just continued like nothing happened.
We went to another coffee shop and stayed there for like an hour. I was wasted and i couldn't focus on anything beside I was screwing this up if I didn't kissed her. First time it was outside when we were smoking a cig, I just came up with a cheesy excuse to get close to her and just touched her on the lips (it was really cringy again) but she told me it was fine and we joked about it (but it gave me the feeling that I screwed that up). The weed hit harder and harder. The second time I just told her, 'I have to kiss you right this time' out of nowhere and gave her a great kiss, she didn't do anything to stop me or tell me she didn't want that, and she looked really happy after that (this fact makes me wonder the most). Well, at that point I was just walking strange and I don't remember what followed really well.
She just showed me a mall and she seemed really happy and stuff and in my dizzy head I was happy too because I thought I didn't screwed things up at last. After we left we kissed on the cheeks and I placed a sloppy kiss (remember, no tongue or any saliva in all of the 3 times) on her lips and just said goodbye and left. She told me to message her when I got home, I did, she responded briefly and it was the last time I've heard of her. I messaged her twice, once the day after and once after a week. Didn't even got a seen.
I was damn angry and I focused on something else, I started talking to other girls (right now I'm really involved with a taurus for more than a month, but is not the same)... I've go on with my life, but after 2 months of 0 contact I still remember her and it hurts, idk why. I mean we didn't talked that much and most people could say you can't build up a connection that fast. All I know is that are nights when the memories of those days just storm me out of nowhere and it take me a while to get over them. Right now I really wish to be just friends, but I know it will be just worse if I try to get in touch again (with my given condition of this inexplicable broken heart).
I want to know your opinions on why I'm feeling like that (in order to get over this stuff) and why she left.... I mean we had such a great time and at least as friends we were an epic match-up, all ruined by this awkward mistake.... Damn and all my friends told me they don't understand the situation either after I've told them the detailed story, everything was just fine, I didn't expected her to leave like that. She just vanished. Poof, gone. I don't really understand this Cancer behavior...
P.S. Thanks for reading this far
I have a story and a question about a Cancer girl. The whole thing is pretty stupid, but it's been 2 month since then and I still can't get over it so I've came here searching for a little bit of insight.
The story: Last year before Christmas I've met this 18 yo Cancer girl on Tinder. At that point our conversation was casual and because of the fact that she lived in a place a little bit far she remained one of my Tinder matches.
Until my parents decided to rent a house in her town for a weekend right after Christmas in her town. I got there together with my family and I thought it's just the right time to set up a meeting, and who knows, maybe make a new friends (or get some action).
We met in the first day and we clicked instantly. Close personalities, same taste in movies and books, we talked a lot, we ice skated together, visited the whole town, she met my family (and everyone liked her) and all the dates were so good that we actually spend the whole weekend together, like 7-8 hours every day for 4 days... All of that was just magic... I mean the place and everything, and this girl gave me the sensation that I know her for ages... I mean, it was totally different from the girls I've met before and it actually felt like home (sounds like Cancer, heh?). The strange thing was that I wasn't really sexually attracted to her, but I really liked the idea of friends, and because of the distance we decided to keep in touch.
We talked on facebook on a weekly basis, talked on phone a few times (for hours) and when we got the chance we set up another meeting. I was available to go to her town for a day and then come back. All was fine I got there and I had one of the best dates ever.
The atmosphere was the same as the month before. We've been to the coffee shop were we spent most of the time in the last trip, the we ate at a fancy restaurant and we talked about our lives and our best times and it was clear that we both felt great together. Then we smoked a joint, had a great time walking stoned trough the town, cracking jokes, again it was great. All of the date was great until this moment, and now I wish I just have left there, at that moment.
You see, I only smoked weed at parties with my friends when I was really drunk. I didn't know what kind of effect weed has on me then, and I found out later when I started smoking alone on a weekly basis that that the trips are stronger and last longer on me than on normal people (like hours with side effects the day after) from small doses (yeah, regular doses for 15-20 minutes of fun !?)... But then.... Well, I really thought I was fine even if after I realized that I was acting strange af...
She was a stoner smoking on a regular basis so after like 20 minutes she was fine. I thought i was too, but my mind was in over drive and, even if I didn't really felt like it, I thought I really need to make a step forward and show this girl that I like her. So I took her hand and walked like that for like 30m.. It was cringy af... She just slipped her hand out of mine and we just continued like nothing happened.
We went to another coffee shop and stayed there for like an hour. I was wasted and i couldn't focus on anything beside I was screwing this up if I didn't kissed her. First time it was outside when we were smoking a cig, I just came up with a cheesy excuse to get close to her and just touched her on the lips (it was really cringy again) but she told me it was fine and we joked about it (but it gave me the feeling that I screwed that up). The weed hit harder and harder. The second time I just told her, 'I have to kiss you right this time' out of nowhere and gave her a great kiss, she didn't do anything to stop me or tell me she didn't want that, and she looked really happy after that (this fact makes me wonder the most). Well, at that point I was just walking strange and I don't remember what followed really well.
She just showed me a mall and she seemed really happy and stuff and in my dizzy head I was happy too because I thought I didn't screwed things up at last. After we left we kissed on the cheeks and I placed a sloppy kiss (remember, no tongue or any saliva in all of the 3 times) on her lips and just said goodbye and left. She told me to message her when I got home, I did, she responded briefly and it was the last time I've heard of her. I messaged her twice, once the day after and once after a week. Didn't even got a seen.
I was damn angry and I focused on something else, I started talking to other girls (right now I'm really involved with a taurus for more than a month, but is not the same)... I've go on with my life, but after 2 months of 0 contact I still remember her and it hurts, idk why. I mean we didn't talked that much and most people could say you can't build up a connection that fast. All I know is that are nights when the memories of those days just storm me out of nowhere and it take me a while to get over them. Right now I really wish to be just friends, but I know it will be just worse if I try to get in touch again (with my given condition of this inexplicable broken heart).
I want to know your opinions on why I'm feeling like that (in order to get over this stuff) and why she left.... I mean we had such a great time and at least as friends we were an epic match-up, all ruined by this awkward mistake.... Damn and all my friends told me they don't understand the situation either after I've told them the detailed story, everything was just fine, I didn't expected her to leave like that. She just vanished. Poof, gone. I don't really understand this Cancer behavior...
P.S. Thanks for reading this far
Its possible that she was weirded out by something, Life took a course and shes focused there.....Or shes into someone else.
I disappear when I am weirded out.
I disappear when I am weirded out.
Posted by Ssasy....
Its possible that she was weirded out by something, Life took a course and shes focused there.....Or shes into someone else.
I disappear when I am weirded out.
So if I did something stupid while stoned she decided to never talk to me again. Nice. Now imagine if would be the other way around I guess I would be the insensitive jerk
It makes sense to try and talk to her after like a few months after this moment if she's feeling awkward about me? Like come on... I was a full time gentleman with her, I think it could tell me what's wrong and gave me a chance to do something.
It make sense to apologize? I feel stupid and clingy if I try to explain stuff, and i have my ego. Does it worth the effort to step on my pride at some point and do this or it's just a waste of time in this situation?
She seems to like you, otherwise she won't get closer and make an effort to really know you. The fact that she responded to your text is a good sign I guess.
The thing is she could be busy involved into something and really wanted to focus 100% in it. You could seem to her like an emotional distraction, yes she likes you, yes she want to be with you, but also doesn't want to hurt you so disappearing was her only option. Although two months is quite a long time to be honest, but if you really BELIEVE and FEEL that her feelings for you at that time was true!! then you need to be more understanding and give her more time to sort her things out, and she will come back, again if you do feel the sincerity of her emotions, she will be back!
The thing is she could be busy involved into something and really wanted to focus 100% in it. You could seem to her like an emotional distraction, yes she likes you, yes she want to be with you, but also doesn't want to hurt you so disappearing was her only option. Although two months is quite a long time to be honest, but if you really BELIEVE and FEEL that her feelings for you at that time was true!! then you need to be more understanding and give her more time to sort her things out, and she will come back, again if you do feel the sincerity of her emotions, she will be back!
Posted by Saggal11Well, we are in a terminal year and I have a ton of stuff to do... So I really understand... But it eould be nice to talk about a movie or smth from time to time... I will try to get in touch with her with the next ocatsion tho.
She seems to like you, otherwise she won't get closer and make an effort to really know you. The fact that she responded to your text is a good sign I guess.
The thing is she could be busy involved into something and really wanted to focus 100% in it. You could seem to her like an emotional distraction, yes she likes you, yes she want to be with you, but also doesn't want to hurt you so disappearing was her only option. Although two months is quite a long time to be honest, but if you really BELIEVE and FEEL that her feelings for you at that time was true!! then you need to be more understanding and give her more time to sort her things out, and she will come back, again if you do feel the sincerity of her emotions, she will be back!
Something made her uncomfortable and we hide when we feel uncomfortable. We also don't really like to break up or tell guys we just aren't interested because we don't want to hurt their feelings. If you keep reaching out to her, she might eventually tell you that. So either way, it's not going to make a difference.
You feel this way because you thought the date went really well and you thought your chemistry was good. But you were high so I think your perception was way off.
You feel this way because you thought the date went really well and you thought your chemistry was good. But you were high so I think your perception was way off.
Leave Your Feedback
We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.
Related Topics
I'm posting here because i feel like Scorpio energy people will get this. I may be wrong, though.
When someone is behaving rudely or saying something false, why is it that the people who call them out are considered the bad guys?
Why is it the rest
@WinifredSanderson
Joined: Nov 07, 2016 · Topics: 8 · Posts: 57
..iridology? i saw some youtube videos of peoples varying success. if youve heard of it, have you ever attempted? how long for and did you suceed in getting whatyou aimed for?
@Diora_Capri
Joined: Nov 08, 2008 · Topics: 45 · Posts: 414
Dear Heart of Jesus. In the past I have asked for many favours, this time I ask for this special one. Take it dear Jesus and place it with your own broken heart where your Father will see it. Then in his merciful eyes it will be become your favour, not mi
@Mellyhiggins
Joined: Mar 05, 2017 · Topics: 1 · Posts: 1
alright, i'm not going to lie.
i got a little thing for my cute neighbor-lady.
i just heard some shouting and of course i peeked through my blinds like a creeper.
her lady friend was shouting and dove on the hood of the car as she was driving off
@twinkletoes
Joined: Jan 30, 2017 · Topics: 55 · Posts: 1549
Hi all,
Recently I had been talking to someone I was highly interested in and had gone on several dates with. Well one day he went cold... Never heard back from him until today... I thought him going cold was because he was a Libra and that's a comm
@MilaniKisses
Joined: Mar 07, 2017 · Topics: 93 · Posts: 487
I actually found this interesting. From all the things I've been reading about Taurus while trying to become a better version of myself, I found this perspective enriching my own opinions and thoughts about Taurus:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvwXk
@Mered1th
Joined: Jan 14, 2017 · Topics: 2 · Posts: 212
Any Virgos experience a relationship with our own kind? If so, how was/is it? I've read that no other sign really gets a Virgo except for another Virgo. Is this true?
@MilaniKisses
Joined: Mar 07, 2017 · Topics: 93 · Posts: 487
A lot of my time is spent daydreaming about this kind of stuff so I'm interested if you guys have any cool takes on the subject ..
So for my Utopian future it's a little bit like Alduous Huxley's Brave new world novel where in the future bioengineering
@The_eleventh_sign_11
Joined: Oct 08, 2009 · Topics: 313 · Posts: 6313
This Virgo was super chatty with me via text for like 2 weeks straight but also told me she was in grad school. We met up for a gig and held hands throughout the show, and I kissed her a few times, but held back cuz her friend was there and didn't want to
@earlorg16
Joined: Jun 21, 2016 · Topics: 39 · Posts: 1963
Please help! I need to know what are the small/little thing that Leo's like about girls!?!? Like things thy say? Things they do? The little things!?!?
@Saramjonhson
Joined: Mar 15, 2017 · Topics: 1 · Posts: 1