A Very depressed Cancer

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Cancer2448 on Monday, January 19, 2015 and has 42 replies.
I give up with this world. I'm a 27 year old Cancer. I've been single my whole life. I'm a virgin. I've heard it a thousand times from everyone that I'm handsome. And yet I can't seem to attract the girls I like, only girls that like me with missing teeth and out of my league. It's painfully frustrating to me. I've tried dating friends and they end up not being friends in the future. All I want is to be loved by a pretty girl, is that so much to ask? Apparently so. I never went to prom, I've always been known to be shy but for the last 5 years I think I've grown out of that. I watch my cousins and best friends get engaged, while I have my parents and grandparents asking if I have a girlfriend yet? I lost a great libra friend I wish I never made a move on. Been trying to get over her. Been trying for the last week trying to ask out this Cancer girl. She agreed to go out with me tmrw night but I didn't have the plans set because I was waiting on someone helping me get tickets to a hockey game. I have them now. And now she won't answer her phone. I really feel sucicidal right now. I just can't take this anymore.
This sounds like my boyfriend. I'm his first girl and he's 17. It's all about attitude my cancer fellow
heyyy don't forget.. for every suicidal cancer out there, there is a suicidal scorpio girl..
I know a cancer guy just like you. He is very handsome but he never had a girlfriend-and is not gay. But he is very focused on his career and hobbies and friends and he is a very cool guy. If he wanted he could sleep around with girls or have meaningless relationships. It's a choice. You say that you are a little picky and you are very young so why worry so much about getting married now ?
Focus on your career for now. Who could resist a rich handsome bachelor in his 30s ? Winking
But I really truly feel for you big time. It sounds really painful and it hurts me reading that. I'm very sorry. But it'll all be better, I promise smile
You just sexually frustrated that's all but sex and relationships are over rated..Just take your time to choose the right one and don't rush into anything too fast with anyone...Take your time, slow is better and play your cards right.
Posted by beggarsblanket
heyyy don't forget.. for every suicidal cancer out there, there is a suicidal scorpio girl..
I know a cancer guy just like you. He is very handsome but he never had a girlfriend-and is not gay. But he is very focused on his career and hobbies and friends and he is a very cool guy. If he wanted he could sleep around with girls or have meaningless relationships. It's a choice. You say that you are a little picky and you are very young so why worry so much about getting married now ?
Focus on your career for now. Who could resist a rich handsome bachelor in his 30s ? Winking


Exactly, and a very depressed pisces girl. And you are meant to find us. If you do, magic sparks up.
Yes, you have very deep emotions which can feel you are drowning...but you just have to be strong and know someone is out there for you. Just find the things that are positive in your life and dwell on that. There's power in our thoughts. Although it may be dark and stormy the sun always come out in the morning smile
It will honestly be ok... there is a reason for everything...
PM
AWW.
bunny power to the rescue!!
Boy if you dont stop playing and go get you some ass. Where ya live at? I might throw it at you one good time!

Like is so much more than how you're feeling right now. You sound superficial and whiney. Go travel somewhere and be a round new people. Try speed dating. I dont know, but for God's sake dont kill yourself. Itll be okay. There's more to life than a woman's crotch.

Did you try Tinder? I hear the slutty women are putting prostitutes out of business.. And you don't even have to pay! Lmao what society has become...now, where's my wine...:p
It will be ok, don't be too hard on yourself. Just take the time to better yourself and the right one will come along eventually. Dating is hard for everyone, hang in there smile Hugz
Yeah in all seriousness dating is a challenge but when you find that one, all the past hurt and difficulties will fade away.
Life isnt always easy and if thats all youre worried about, then I say youre winning! smile As long as youre living there will be better days ahead. Ive been raped, homeless, abused, etc. but Im happy to be alive and well, and now enjoying life with all its ups and downs. Cancers are strong and resilient.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
There's more to life than a woman's crotch.




No, there REALLY isn't.
Oh! ...I'm not helping, am I?
It gets better. Just have faith and the confidence to meet more complete strangers and mingle
Don't listen to the oversexed Scorpio Winking
Thank you everyone for the comments. For goodness sake I didnt mean to say I'm a virgin because im hungry for sex. I just said that in relation again to my cousins and friends. I dont know why, but I always compare myself to people like them and feel I'm behind. That's all. Cancer girl responded saying "that's awesome!!" WTH is that? After one day she responds with that.
Posted by SilverScorpio
Posted by Magenta_Azure
There's more to life than a woman's crotch.




No, there REALLY isn't.
Oh! ...I'm not helping, am I?
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Bwahahahaha! ~high five~
Ahhhhhhhh, sex........when it's great, it's damn near divine!
Never compare yourself to others, or your life situation to everyone elses. Just go with the flow and be yourself. It could be worse. You could be saddled with a nagging bitch who cheats on you and is verbally abusive.
What did you say to the Cancer girl that she responded with "that's awesome " ??
Posted by fullwaterpisces
I know is cliche!! but otherwise is hard for me to believe that God has forgot about me... is just our deep emotions that make us feel this hard everything around us.... believe me once everything reach its level... you'll be laughing about this post... don't private this world from you gorgeous being, there is not that many out there... remember that is people out there that is having worst than us... think about people that have absolutely nothing and they still think life it worth living it.... it just for some more than others.... besides social media and internet create this big illusion that everybody is happy and fortunate... while is just a simply illusion!!! if you are alone right now! try to travel, if you could it what has keep me feeling that this live, ironically here I am mopping and when people see me they tent to tell me OMG you hare so lucky you get to travel so much and go to those awesome places, Im so jealous and so and so... when they don't know that I secretly just want someone who can be my life partner..... it worth being patient... besides you cancers are well know for that!!!


Soo true. +1
This is good stuff-- -- do something different than what
you usually do, whether it's travel, finding new hobbies,
or TRAVEL (lol... I like that idea).
And maybe you will get something different than what you've
been getting... it stands to reason.

smile

I don't like to tell people what to do, but this is a person who emotionally fragile that is even considering taking his life away because he can bare the pain... so if were you I will more careful with the way we address and empathize with him...
"MAN UP", "GROW A PAIR" and stupid shit like that is simply not caring about this persons pain... and I don't know him but no one should take his life away for this, we all been there and this kind of stuff only invalidate his feelings and make him feel like he has no right to feel this way... which is not true!!
If you don't have a good advice, might as well save it to yourself. this guy is looking for help to understand his emotions and it might be stupid you but is important for him and his life... RESPECT!
Posted by SilverScorpio
Posted by Magenta_Azure
There's more to life than a woman's crotch.




No, there REALLY isn't.
Oh! ...I'm not helping, am I?
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Lol terrible!!

In all seriousness, though. You'll be okay. Life throws us water-spirits some emotional stumbling blocks sometimes. The best thing you can do is reflect, dissect, and learn from your pain.

Its okay! You'll find someone to cling to oneday soon.
have you try painting, drawing, sculpting or writing? this is actually something that you might discover during this period... I draw and write.. and my best work is when i feel deeply depressed... I let all my feelings out on paper... some of my work is scary but is like purging the deep hurting emotions, to let the world know how I feel inside... we water people tent to be very talented due to a great flow of emotions and feelings... we just need to use them instead of letting them killing us!!
Posted by MoonArtist
Posted by SilverScorpio
Posted by Magenta_Azure
There's more to life than a woman's crotch.




No, there REALLY isn't.
Oh! ...I'm not helping, am I?


Bwahahahaha! ~high five~
Ahhhhhhhh, sex........when it's great, it's damn near divine!
*High fives back!
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Life always gets better never give up.
Cancer2448 .. what do you want in this life?? You have something that you want?? something that you fight for?? You want a girl ??? Found one, but one that you want not 1 that she want you...Noone found one for you .. And if you don't adapt the life , you will suffer .. I think that it is time to make something.. You have 27 year ...what are waitting for??? I think that your friends and cousins don't have that much emotion and they are more practical...So don't listen to fullwaterpisces, sorry girl , but put your mind at work, found something to make . and go in to the world.. There you have to live not in your sorrow or dreams ... And the girl you want like practical man for live in this life.. because if you never will one , you have to find one girl practical .. and your life will not be ease..and you suffer again ...
Posted by Arki
Cancer2448 .. what do you want in this life?? You have something that you want?? something that you fight for?? You want a girl ??? Found one, but one that you want not 1 that she want you...Noone found one for you .. And if you don't adapt the life , you will suffer .. I think that it is time to make something.. You have 27 year ...what are waitting for??? I think that your friends and cousins don't have that much emotion and they are more practical...So don't listen to fullwaterpisces, sorry girl , but put your mind at work, found something to make . and go in to the world.. There you have to live not in your sorrow or dreams ... And the girl you want like practical man for live in this life.. because if you never will one , you have to find one girl practical .. and your life will not be ease..and you suffer again ...



What the hell kinda advice is this???
Listen good night..go to sleep..
Posted by crabRiot
Posted by Arki
Cancer2448 .. what do you want in this life?? You have something that you want?? something that you fight for?? You want a girl ??? Found one, but one that you want not 1 that she want you...Noone found one for you .. And if you don't adapt the life , you will suffer .. I think that it is time to make something.. You have 27 year ...what are waitting for??? I think that your friends and cousins don't have that much emotion and they are more practical...So don't listen to fullwaterpisces, sorry girl , but put your mind at work, found something to make . and go in to the world.. There you have to live not in your sorrow or dreams ... And the girl you want like practical man for live in this life.. because if you never will one , you have to find one girl practical .. and your life will not be ease..and you suffer again ...



What the hell kinda advice is this???
Listen good night..go to sleep..
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Lmfao
@fullwaterpisces actualy I have 41 and I have cancer moon and my man it is cancer, ... and I know a little about cancer. Cancer man or woman , have a strong caracter,But this man are libra ascendant and venus cancer , and for there are problems.. He is depress because of this, not because of cancer. Libra want relantions at all cost and venus cancer it's not confident to make a move to build a relantion..So when he find a girl he will be happy .So, he don't have a real problems.
So I want to make analyze his text "she agreed to go out with me tmrw night but I didn't have the plans set because I was waiting on someone helping me get tickets to a hockey game. I have them now. And now she won't answer her phone.""
So look here .. he had the girl, so was happy but he don't have the plans because he is waitting... and waitting that somebody else give him the tickets... I am strong feeling that he don't call the girl in this time.. and the girl give up.. So.. it is a not big deal it is just that he stay to much to think.. about everything.. and think.. and think.. If it not the girl to make the move .. he will waitting ....and will find him 35 years in the same place. So if you want to be a part of the choir that stay with him in the Valley of the Sighs, ok.. be there .But this it is not my attitude..
Posted by Arki
@fullwaterpisces actualy I have 41 and I have cancer moon and my man it is cancer, ... and I know a little about cancer. Cancer man or woman , have a strong caracter,But this man are libra ascendant and venus cancer , and for there are problems.. He is depress because of this, not because of cancer. Libra want relantions at all cost and venus cancer it's not confident to make a move to build a relantion..So when he find a girl he will be happy .So, he don't have a real problems.
So I want to make analyze his text "she agreed to go out with me tmrw night but I didn't have the plans set because I was waiting on someone helping me get tickets to a hockey game. I have them now. And now she won't answer her phone.""
So look here .. he had the girl, so was happy but he don't have the plans because he is waiting... and waiting that somebody else give him the tickets... I am strong feeling that he don't call the girl in this time.. and the girl give up.. So.. it is a not big deal it is just that he stay to much to think.. about everything.. and think.. and think.. If it not the girl to make the move .. he will waitting ....and will find him 35 years in the same place. So if you want to be a part of the choir that stay with him in the Valley of the Sighs, ok.. be there .But this it is not my attitude..



My dear this is what I mean about not having a clue... at this point is not about the menusia of the girls or which sign he is... this is a guy that is sad and depress regardless how big or silly his problems seems to you, pain is pain regardless the size some people deal with it better than others and he is going through a rough patch in which bunch of things are happening to him at the same time, and the only way he is expressing that he feels alone and need someone to lean on... his dilemma is relating to the fact the everybody seems to be doing better than him, that everybody has another person, and his not being able to find one for himself.
For him not being able to find someone real and honest either a friend or a girlfriend for support make him think he is the one with the problem. which I hardly doubt it... people nowadays is just selfish, vain and awful regardless..
Someone has told me that in order to get others to love me I will have to love myself first, and I guess just the fact of wanting to give up is a sign that he
Someone has told me that in order to get others to love me I will have to love myself first, and I guess just the fact of wanting to give up is a sign that he need to work on the person who matter the most in his life that is himself
Meh! Dont be a pussy.....mmmmm pussssssyyyy. Anyways dont listen to ur watery heart dude. And STOP letting women walk over you! Lemme give you a lil advice... in fact listen to this Ahem!!! Ladies love edgy UNPREDICTABLE men.

And we cancer men know how to use our tongues BRRRRRRTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!Dick game insane!Oh my ....pussy came.
@Arki Im trying to be a professional golfer. Ive had major back problems the past 3 years. This offseason I decided to hire a personal trainer and go hard at it. I've been training for the past 3 months.
I agree with you on the libra rising, cancer Venus doesn't help me, but I still need to find a way to be successful.
Fullwaterpisces is also right that I had a lot of stuff happen all at once and I couldn't contain the frustration and depression anymore and had to let it out. I do have good friends but afraid to talk to them b/c of possiblly being judged. I've worked very hard to get where I am, got to keep going and I'm trying hard as I can. Just worry it's never good enough.
I've lost 5 family members the past year as well.
I'm sorry to hear your recent losses Sad and also struggles but as cliche as may sound I believe to be true: God never gives us more then we can handle and always will make up for what we have lost. I believe you have an amazing life in store for you because of all your hardship. In fact, I'm downright excited for your future! I truly believe this and you should too smile what we think is what becomes.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Posted by SilverScorpio
Posted by Magenta_Azure
There's more to life than a woman's crotch.




No, there REALLY isn't.
Oh! ...I'm not helping, am I?



Lol terrible!!
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Not all the time! Winking I'm a very GOOD person!
Posted by fullwaterpisces
Someone has told me that in order to get others to love me I will have to love myself first, and I guess just the fact of wanting to give up is a sign that he need to work on the person who matter the most in his life that is himself


Now THAT is one of the most uplifting posts on this thread that can help him. Good job!
@fullwaterpisces, because it is a forum of astrology I give my answer from this view not pshyhological perspective or heart perspective.And from this view insist I say that Cancer2448 problems are from the energy at the planet not because he has bad luck or it is not good. He had bad moments , that all. If he may try to understand his natal chart , he will find some clue about flow of energy of his problems.

@Cancer2448 -from a perspective of astrology, your sign will move in Leo sign.. believe me..you are on good road..Keep on the track and you will end up where you want to be.
I agree with Arki, and I am generally accurate when I feel something profound Winking great things are in store for you.
Yeah that moon in Scorp doesn't help with moods either. Can be very intense and dark but your Leo Mars should give you good drive and pride for your career.
Come to the UK and I'll give you a 'happy slap'!! Winking