After all that BS and he emails me now? Huh? WTF?

"Hey Cutie!
I miss the east coast already...can you beleive it?
Are you coming out to LA anytime soon for business?"

NOT REPLYING

LOL!

Why are you not replying?

He didn't sell you the box of rocks, his sister did

Here's a few reason:

1. come to find out that he was still here for New Years (flight was cancelled) and told my good friend at a NE Party (his sisters house) not to tell me he was still here, did not want to hurt my feelings.

2. texted me the day he was suppose to have been leaving asking me "since i was so amazing sexually if I was interested in girls cause he knows one who wants me"

*shakes head* I don't even know what to say about the whole NE party...talk about low

So are you saying he's still in town and he's pretending to be in L.A.? Please tell me he's not doing that

Tiki....he's not still in town now, no. He actually left the 1st.
Told me he was leaving Dec. 31st.
His flight was cancelled and stayed here in the east coast another day.
But to specifically say to friend "pls don't tell Sophie... don't want to hurt her feelings" and then write to me now?
Just don't get it.

"hmmm...he is trying to help his sis she wants him to call off the dogs"


YUP!!!!!!!

LK...I completely agree with you!!!

LOL

LOL!

Who let the dogs out...

sophie I never looked at it like that, gotta help sis not get sued, how sweet of him

DAYUM!

I thought he sent it because he REALLY wanted to see me again...hahahahaha!

LOL

Well sophie if your horny you could get one for the road

*shrugs*

jus say'n

LMMFAO @ one for the road...hilarious!!!

I'd give it the benefit of the doubt - except for that tacy, cam-handed enquiry about whether Sophie's in to girls or not. *eesh*

Sophie, normally I'd agree with you to not respond, but here's the thing about getting information from a 3rd person - you're limited to their projection and interpretation; even if that 3rd party is on your side. They are using their filter and relaying it to you. Did he tell your friend why he thought you might feel bad??

For example, "don't tell her I'm here, b/c I don't want her to feel bad" could mean that he really didn't want you to feel bad that he got stuck or he didn't elaborate with your friend - maybe he didn't have money left to blow on drinks for you for his last night in town. Or he doesn't want to deal with the drive in the traffic, or driving back after drinking -especially if there's a long flight the next day. That's the problem with 3rd party info. Maybe what others tell you is valid, he's trying to keep it open to smooth things over with his sister. All of it is a projection and inserting our own junk, experience in your exchange.

Sometimes the "lying" that sets us off on the deep end, isn't always done to denigrate or rob us of our value (it doesn't mean he's ashamed of or forgotten you). Often it's done for some other reason, to protect some other inadequacy they have about themselves. People lie to themselves, they'll lie to you inevitably.

If you don't want to respond b/c you feel you are done with the whole situation, I understand. If you are just ignoring him, b/c your pride is jilted that he was hiding that he was in town - but it may not be something he hid - to be sneaky, you know or b/c he doesn't like you. Again see above (broke, traffic, getting home, etc.) One year I just didn't want to drive to family for the holidays cause I was tired of driving, for example.

Though - You can always answer his text very business like and say, "No, I'm not coming out for business any time soon." You're answering a question. If he continues to press the convo after that, you just admit, that you feel awkward.

Being vulnerable is tough, but speculating isn't an answer. Good luck. Z.

WTF~ I appreciate your input. He's a player. "Don't tell Sophie I stayed, I don't want to hurt her feelings" I cannot take that as anything else but not want to make another excuse as to why he could see me.

He may have felt bad for blowing me off and does not want to burn bridges or have me sue sis or it's a complete EGO thing ...who knows.

The whole time he was here (literally staying w/in 10 minutes of my house), he kept texting me "What are you doing tonight, what are you doing tomorrow" to try and pacify me or something, because he blew me off/made excuses the last 5 days he was here why he could not see me even the nights we had no plans: "Would love to see you BUT". This was even BEFORE the rug issue.

Sis may have not known the value , all good, found out, sent it back and now want my $ $ back. Simple.

Found out yesterday from my friend who spent NYE w/ them...it was sisters FRIEND..not sister who wanted me. He could have been kidding, sure.

Zoezoe~ 3rd party info..yes. But it's pretty obvious he did not want to see me...my friend did not have anymore conversations w/ him.

My gut is telling me to leave it, there's a reason for his contact with me (for his own ego perhaps or whatever....) but it is not that he would want to see me if I was out there..I betchya that.

DAMN...what's up?

I get on with my life and cancer calls tonight...exactly one week after he left his note (email...whatever you call it) on facebook I did not return (for many reasons...)

"Hey you, It's____..just driving home from San Diego and wanted to call to see how your doing and need to get your email addy cause there is this song 'B8tch I'm in Miami', its a frigin riot, and I know you love Miami so wanted to send it to you"

Ufff...stop thinking about that whole episode and now it's all coming back.

Any thoughts on his actions., LK...is it still because sis owes me $ $ ?

Ha! Thanks VT!

I'm not surprised he called...ignore any man and their egos get bruised.

""ignore any man and their egos get bruised.""


- lol! Ain't that the truth...

Moon eyes...very wierd message, huh

SS~ I guess the same happens to us women when we are ignored ..LOL