Am I at fault here?

Just to give you a quick run down. started talking to a cancer man in september or so, we started dating in January things got pretty serious fast. then he started to ignore me and never followed though when he said he would call me or when we set up plans to see eachother he would blow me off. I expressed to him on multiple occasions how this bothered me and asked if there was a way we can fix it. Things got worse and so I ended things. he comes back and says hes sorry that I didn't do anything wrong that it was him who was confused on what he wanted took him back and he started to do the same thing again. I asked him to leave me alone becuase I was tired of the manipulations and the games he was playing. recently he contacted me and was apologizing again for his actions and asked to see me this weekend to talk. Like a sucker that I am I agreed to it. i had asked him what was a good time and he said he would call me later on in the evening to figure it out. So here I am waiting ands waiting and never got a call. his excuse was that he had a headache and that his eyes were so teary that he could hardly open them to txt or call.. sou nds like bs to me but I gave him the benefit of doubt and told him that I was sorry he was not feeling good that maybe we should not meet up this weekend. He blew up on me and pretty much cursed me out saying that i never believe him and I said what do u expect from me when he never follows through with is actions. how am I suppose to believe him and I told him how on numerous occasiosn he has let me down that i was tired of trying. he said for me to leave him alone and to fuck off and nover to txt or call him again i said i wished i had never met him and that he broke my heart that he will never hear from me again. why is it that he blamed me for all of this? Sorry for the typos

1. You are not at fault.

2. Cancer men (myself being one), are sensitive, yes, sometimes this comes out as defensive - and crosses the line to protect our own emotions of placing blame/guilt on someone else.

3. We Cancer generally like things to be easy ( not to be read that you are easy, to be read that we are lazy) so, if you are over him, ignore him because he will likely come back to you and ask you again. - If you want him back, ignore him, and he will come back and likely ask you again. Although he sounds like he's not worthy of you.

I'm sorry to say but the problem here has nothing to do with zodiac signs. He's just not that into you and may well be looking for simply a booty call. When a man really digs you, he doesn't disappear on you. You need someone who will love & place you first. If that's what you really want, you have to let this man go completely. You've been trying since Sept. It's time to move on. Every time you email or text or meet with him, the hopes revive only to be disappointed. Cut bait and swim.

No its def not for booty call we only had sex once and he stated how he wanted to be good and do things right. Ever since then we just hung out with out having sex which I thought he was being a gentleman and really wanted to make things work. I know what you mean about completely moving on, I admit I am a fool for him. The only thing his communication sucks and he gets all defensive when I point things out that bother me and starts to get all nasty with me. One thing UI forgot to add was that he said his ex did come back into his life and confused things for him, he told me he wanted to e with me.

sorry got cut off... To make this short He said nothing happened and I believed him and I went back to him.. yes yes I know I should be stronger than this. But at least he is a lesson learned

I don't believe it's a booty call. I would never invest that long in a booty call unless you have the body of a goddess. To answer your question it's not your fault, Crustacean is right 100% . I'm a cancer and it may just be that he's seeking a change of pace, him calling you back may have been seeing if anything changed during the small break. Don't chase him, he's going through something that's making him very emotional. End of the day, just do whatever makes you happy, us cancers are weirdos so play it safe.

Sorry but even after reading the comments of all the young adults who responded, I still think you need to split. He might genuinely care for you. It might not be a booty call. He just doesn't feel enough for you or he would be active and consistent in your life. I would understand if this were the beginning or something unexpected happened but that's not the case. He's just not that invested and with men actions speak louder than words. Since this has been going on since September, you'd be wise to cut bait and swim. Wait for a guy who will care enough.

Posted by Este8
Sorry but even after reading the comments of all the young adults who responded, I still think you need to split. He might genuinely care for you. It might not be a booty call. He just doesn't feel enough for you or he would be active and consistent in your life. I would understand if this were the beginning or something unexpected happened but that's not the case. He's just not that invested and with men actions speak louder than words. Since this has been going on since September, you'd be wise to cut bait and swim. Wait for a guy who will care enough.

your right

I wish I were wrong. You're young. Love will cross you path again for sure. Just be a little patient and know you are worthy of love. We all get disappointed in the love game. Been there, done that, have a few commemorative Ts in the closet. 🙂

Head bumps, Este

I agree with Estele, this is not a Cancer thing, my father was a Cancer, I had a Cancer boyfriend, they can be sensitive, unfaithful, lazy but your situation is abuse. It's not you, it's him! Run Away!!

Jeez He is such a psycho!! continued to txt and called me at least 12 times yesterday... I am a cancer too and I know letting go is hard but this is too extreme. I have to block him form my pnone now.