Hi,
I told a Cancer man I was interested in back in Nov that there was a good possibility I may move to another city for a while. Since then the "chase" has been off, but he still emails me. He had to work extra hours and make up time for a trip he went on so I didn't see him nor did he ask me to go out but he'd still email me and tell me he was busy or just check in. So I haven't seen him for a month and a half. Recently he came to see me in a show and came to the cast party I h ad invited him to. Anyway, afterwards, we talked by my car, he gave me hug, said goodnight, then said that he'd see me soon, or see me around. I took this to mean (forgive me guys) guy speak for "it was nice but I won't call or write anymore." The next day I get an email from him with compliments on the show and thanks for the ticket, he'll pay me back the next time he sees me.. He said he enjoyed hanging out and to take care.
I guess what Im asking is how should I behave? He doesn't call me, just emails. We really haven't hung out as friends, only romantic partners. Im afraid that if we hang out as friends I may lose him but ...thats the way it goes I guess.
Should I stop replying to him? I know that Cancers are not that direct and I know astrology isn't everything but any advice would be great. Thanks so much!
Still Learning
Lizzie
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
it doesn't sound like he's trying to move forward with you. This may or may not have anything to do with you moving; it could be because he doesn't want to get hurt when you leave, but whether that's it or not, he simply isn't pursuing a relationship with you. Since I'm guessing he doesn't have a girlfriend, he's probably just enjoying the attention he's getting from you when he gets it. But from what you've said here he hasn't given you a reason to think he wants to be anything more than friends. There's a difference between being shy and just not showing interest. If you are friends then of course he's going to go to your show and then tell you how great it was - that's simple courtesy. If he were interested in asnything more he would have suggested going somewhere to celebrate - juust the two of you. It would have been a perfect excuse for the two of you to be alone without him making any kind of obvious overture because he had a legitimate reason to ask. He could have gotten what he wanted [I don't mean sex] and still be his indirect crabby self. He passed on the opportunity because it's not what he was looking for.
Bottom line - he's not acting like a man interested in pursuit - he's acting like a friend.You're just reading too much into it because you like him.
Thank you. Its what I think as well.
I guess I need to get him out of my system otherwise I'll be reading alot more into things.
Thank you for your help!
Lizzie
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Mar 11, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 2077 · Topics: 6
Cancer men are very cautious when he chooses a woman. You invited him so I have to agree here, you are asking him to be a "friend". When he invites HIMSELF or calls you frequently to INVITE himself then you will know. It takes some time though. You have to realize men have radar and they wean woman OUT of the equation really quick. If he is coming to your invites though, he may want you to realize that he wants more than a romantic friendship with you. If he didn't care he wouldn't have shown up. He just wants it to move at his pace and not yours. I wouldn't say he isn't in pursuit, just let him start doing the initiation, first.