Any successful Cancer/Aqua relationships?

I recently reconnected with an Aqua I knew years ago, he drives me wild in good ways and bad ways! His mind is such a turn on but he is so aloof!

Any successful Cancer/Aqua pairings here? any tips?

It's an incredibly difficult pairing. My sig other is a an aqua and we communicate and deal with emotions in very very different ways. When it's good it's great when it's bad it's pretty bad.
Don't expect him to show affection in the same way you would. They value a logical approach rather than an emotional one. Not so easy for cancer. Don't be offended or hurt when/if he needs to be alone.
I have a hard time dealing with that when we have an argument I immediately want to make up and be close and he needs time alone.

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
It's an incredibly difficult pairing. My sig other is a an aqua and we communicate and deal with emotions in very very different ways. When it's good it's great when it's bad it's pretty bad.
Don't expect him to show affection in the same way you would. They value a logical approach rather than an emotional one. Not so easy for cancer. Don't be offended or hurt when/if he needs to be alone.
I have a hard time dealing with that when we have an argument I immediately want to make up and be close and he needs time alone.

We haven't ever had an argument yet but I have noticed if he initiates any emotional intensity or open-ness he then backs off for a while! This is so weird to me as I think "ah here we are becoming closer" but then he puts the brakes on. Do you have this experience with yours?

Aquas are known for being extremely independent and they don't like to be tied down. If this is going to last, you're gonna have to give him a lot of space. Still you might not get your emotional needs met. It's like we're operating on two different wave lengths. Tough combo but any one can work with enough love & commitment. You'll need patience with this one and lots of it. Only you can say if you're getting enough out to make it worth it. Good luck.

A good friend of mine has a cancer for a Dad and an Aquarius Mother. Her parents have been married forever.

Thank you for the replies, he's very caring and affectionate when we are together but the communication in between seems to be dwindling, in fact I have seen much less of him too, in my world this means a guy is losing interest, suddenly he blindsided me with a very serious talk then distanced again. I wrote about it in the Aqua forum. Honestly don't know whether to cut this one loose now or continue being patient.

Also there seem to be conflicting views around here, some people say be patient, others say call them out if they are being aloof, any thoughts?

Posted by Este8
Aquas are known for being extremely independent and they don't like to be tied down. If this is going to last, you're gonna have to give him a lot of space. Still you might not get your emotional needs met. It's like we're operating on two different wave lengths. Tough combo but any one can work with enough love & commitment. You'll need patience with this one and lots of it. Only you can say if you're getting enough out to make it worth it. Good luck.

I am already sensing this might be the case, although he came on very strong initially so clearly he is capable of being more romantic and less distant

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
A good friend of mine has a cancer for a Dad and an Aquarius Mother. Her parents have been married forever.

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See I always heard that an aqua's man's actions might be different to other men, but you can count on his words, the opposite of traditional advice about men. So much conflicting info out there!

In reality I have known a few, one I was with 14 years ago and I know would still re-uninte with me in a heart beat even now.

Another who drop kicked me to the heart by sweeping me off my feet then vanishing

and another who's heart I broke, he was so hung up on me but somehow I could never get beyond friendship.

Think I have a thing for Aqua's but I still don't understand them!!

unless you are independent yourself, like have a job and make money and just be there for eachother, (generally speaking of course) then you're gonna be fine with a typical aquarius man.

Ronald Reagan was married to Nancy Reagan (cancer sun) and she was the first lady of the U.S.,
but you see, she was SECURED with him, because cancer in general likes security, a man who makes money, or at least has his own financial strength. Because there's NO way you want to be poor. you NEED a home and security. That's what feeds your ego, and unless you have a fickle moon, and stellium in signs that will want otherwise, you will need home and hearth (in general of course)

oh and what worked alot with Ronald Reagan and Nancy Reagan was that in their memoirs, he NEEDED her EMOTIONALLY because he was always so stressed out with work/politics and she was always there nurturing his needs. so, if you look closer, his moon was pretty strong. Don't remember his venus/mars ect.

Posted by Claro
I am in one, we are in our 11th month and things are great. Neither of us have had someone understand us so well in the past and we are really compatible on every level. Also, we have never argued. We do have discussions when we need to though.

This must be because he is a very watery aquarius and I am a very airy cancerian. I wouldn't describe him as aloof; he is more prone to emotional attachment than I am. He once said that he likes how I give him space but I never realised I did, as he there most of the time, if not in person then on the other end of the phone.

I would look at the rest of his chart, as I was quite pleasantly surprised at how warm and sensitive my boyfriend is and he has sun, venus and mars in aquarius. I think one thing about them all is that they will be independent, at least very much so to begin with and they will make their own decisions. Also they may have a plan already in their minds and not be easily swayed from it. They have their own minds already made up about many things and will only really change it if you show them a very good argument or sweep them off their feet.

On the one hand, communication is really important and to know what each other's intentions are but on the other, as a cancerian female it is difficult. we like the man to make all the moves and bring up all the talks to begin with. well, I know I do/ did. but I would definitely have some kind of chat about what he wants in life etc and what he is looking for. It doesn't have to be anything too heavy either, they are open to wrapping friendship and romance on the same twine and are usually generally open, in my experience.

Thank you Claro! great post and I agree with everything you said.

His chart is: Sun:Aqua Moon:Taurus :Venus Capricorn Mars: Scorpio and Mercury: Aqua

He contacted me yesterday to say he knows he's been quiet lately and it is because he is terrible at "gray area's" he was worried he'd go to the other extreme and be around me all the time and I would be scared off by it, but he found himself then feeling like he was ignoring me. He wants to take me out this week. I told him to relax and stop worrying so much.

His response was "hello? have we met?" hahaha

So I said "I like your energy, we're past the first few dates so I'm more relaxed"

I was happy that he actually called me to discuss it all, it made m

me like him even more

Watch this space!

Really glad to hear you're so happy with your Aqua guy, it gives me a lot of reassurance that it can work out 🙂

Posted by Claro
my aqua man worries too. I have had the odd day, especially right in the beginning when I was worried, only to find out that he was worried about exactly the same thing.
I like that about him also, that he is very perceptive and notices when things are even slightly off between us. He is very communicative too and unafraid to reveal his true self.
we are different in many ways but we appreciate those differences. In fact we do challenge each other in some ways but it is nothing major, they are healthy challenges.

Don't believe the hype, you have a chance at being great together. 🙂 I just read your other thread on the aqua board, btw!

How did you handle it in the beginning Claro? I would love to see more of him, but I don't want to come across as too eager either. Like he called me yesterday and gave me this big heartfelt speech about how much he likes me and doesn't want to screw it up, then today he is quiet again. I want to believe what he says and he does keep coming back again and again, but I have had some bad experience with guys and don't want to "be patient" just to find he wasn't that in to me afterall.

aww thanks for the reply guys!!

Things have really taken a turn since I last posted. He took me out to dinner on Thursday night, it was amazing, he had me laughing so hard I actually disturbed people at other tables, he paid for everything, held doors open, pulled my chair out for me.

He asked if he could come and spend the weekend with me too. I cooked for him and we hung out, he told me all about his interests in depth. I was feeling a little indifferent though due to the full moon and He wasn't all that affectionate until it was time to leave and then he held me like the world was about to end.

Since then he's been acting very boyfriend-ish, loads of texts, some quite racy, others very sweet and considerate, he wanted to see me again today but I had plans with a friend.

Crazy, all I did really was play it cool but really let my personality shine while we were together and all of a sudden I'm not left wondering if he's interested. He has pretty much text for 12 hours straight today, never known him do that.

Thanks for helping to keep me sane 😄