being jealous... what to do—

Okay Im starting this post because I am very jealous. And I want to gather other people that go or have gone through it too.
I need some guidance and wise people to come forth and tell me how the best way to handle jealousy is.
I dont want to be like this and I dont want to ruin anything with my boyfriend.
so please join this forum if you feel me here and have any personal thoughts about JEALOUSY.

Thanks so much,

Rachel.

I saw on the last thread where you said you are 150% sure your boyfriend is faithful and loves you.... if that is true then I don't understand why you are jealous...you would definately have to be less than sure. But if it is just a twinge of jealousy like you get jealous of someone like say a sister who gets his attention for the simple fact that it is not you and not because you think he's doing anything wrong - well a little of that is okay. Just not outrageously jealous like you're getting angry about it.

but then, I am a taurus, it doesn't matter how jealous I get I keep it to myself, so maybe what you need to work on is not SHOWING every shade of jealousy you feel.
If he's chatting up a cute girl - be a little possessive, maybe that's what he's looking for, if you just want his attention, try to get it without showing that you're jealous, but simply that you miss him, but if he goes overboard flirting, whether it is just to make you jealous or not, that is not healthy, or if he ignores you to make you beg him for attention, also not healthy.
what you really need to do is gauge how jealous you are and at what - and determine if it is an appropriate level of jealousy. Maybe it would help you to keep a journal if you think it's a real problem - write down the times you feel jealous, how strongly you feel, and how you reacted - then you can go back later when you're not in the middle of those emotions and decide if you're over-reacting.
You didn't give any examples or anything so it's hard to say what you should do - but there is some advice that can possibly help you no matter how big or small a propblem it is for you :0)

I handle jealousy, by simply not being jealous. Astrology says Leo's R jealous, but I am not jealous. I find men react better when U simply act like U can just don't give a whuck about them. If they try 2 make U jealous, brush it off like U don't care and let them have their freedom. They usually want 2 know Y U just don't give a flying whuck and try harder 2 please U. Don't let it bother U. Let him talk, flirt and go ahead on. But, if it hurts your feelings don't hold it in. Say in a gentle voice, that U hurt my feelings. If he continues ditch his arse for more than 30 days. No contact. He will quite doing that BS!

Yes, Redrovertoo,
I agree with U. Tell him how it makes U feel. If he is not respectful of your feelings. Cut him aloose until he is. He will eventually get the msg. But, I have noticed myself, if U just don't give a flying whuck, they wonder Y? And try 2 please U more, because they don't understand Y U don't care.