Better to be single

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Leyla699 on Tuesday, January 20, 2015 and has 22 replies.
These days it's better to be single than deal with bulllshit. I'm a cancer woman and these men I've dated in the past are stupid. They should have been grateful to have a woman like me, because us cancer when we love we love hard. through the hard times and the good times we always stick by our man. Tired of these men saying they want a real woman and when they get the real thing they fuckk up! Can you tell I just got burnt.. Lol damn taurus man wasted my damn time. Sorry just venting. So who else is tired of all the bullshit??
I agree. Men these days don't know how to handle women. They are all over the place. They think they are spartacus or something. I blame fb, instagram, tinder.. It makes them think they have all these admirers and they can have a different girl every night but the truth hits them eventually that most of those girls are ugly and don't really love them, and there are not so many of them.. So then they want a real relationship. But after a while they miss their stupid single life.. And the cycle continues on and on..
Men are best as husband and fathers. They shouldn't ever be single smile most of them are disasters. They don't know how to date and respect a girl.
amen to single life, I have disrespected to many times, I rather stay single
@ beggarsblanket don't get me started on social media.. It's one of the reasons why I delete FB and my Instagram. It's like a soft porn website. Seriously. My previous man had quite a few ladies thirsty for him and they didn't give a shit that he was seeing me. Sending him private messages, pics etc.. Just dirty.
@generalizod you can still agree to this thread. I'll let you slide _??
You should have known better... I am sure there was signs... there where many astro signs... as well. There are good men out there... just woman look in the wrong places. I can agree alot of girls want the sex and the city thing... Life is just not like that. I will also say that women are finding out that maybe they need to treat there man over all better... maybe you will not quite on them but the emotional up's and downs of a cancer can be hard if a person does not really understand how to deal with it. I can see how a Cancer will like how a Taurus is but normally I would not see how a Taurus would put up with nor know how to handle the emotions of a cancer. You need more a fire water... or fire air mix... Can be some earth but Taurus are really like is she detracting me from my over all life and goals or is she supporting me to reach them...
With Mercury retro... and alot of action in Pisces with Mars conj. just Neptune... There was more then likely a bit of emotion.
I would say don't just point the finger... I know it is easy to say it is all the other person... but in reality we can't learn if we think it is all them and not us at all...
I am not trying to be mean but stay objective... I am not emotionally attached to your situation.
Best of luck
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They don't know anything about the Cancer fem-Taurus male connection. Ignore that.
I can burp and these men want to marry me we aren't something "they put up with" at all we're worth more than to them.
Back on topic, yes we do but you can't give your all to men up front like that and "hold them down". What men say and what they actually want are two different things. The way you love hard is the same way the next girl can love hard that's not what they need. Being spoiled is nothing new to men. They need excitement and someone that inspires them and offers something different into their life not catered to. Being always there for them is something men have come to expect but not respect & appreciate.
The last guy the Taurus I dated cheated on me does that say enough? I can be emotional but I keep that in check.

@pearls I understand what you are saying. That's why I always learn something new with each relationship I get into.
I think if being single had a less negative connotation, people would be more willing and accepting of it.
Why? Examples above.
I'm already fine with single status, but after dealing with some bs within dating, it makes me embrace it even more. Life is already too difficult to bring in some asshat who can't make up his mind or doesn't even know how to behave like a decent human being.
I'm sure guys have issues with some of the silly bitches out there raring to pair up because they think that's life's goal.
Overall, dating has tooooo many people out there that have no business dating. I think if more people were okay with singledom, then they wouldn't be out dating when they should be taking some down time to work on themselves.
It's good to hear you're not going to make the same mistakes over and over again.
Posted by GENERALIZOD
Posted by Pearls
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They don't know anything about the Cancer fem-Taurus male connection. Ignore that.
I can burp and these men want to marry me we aren't something "they put up with" at all we're worth more than to them.
Back on topic, yes we do but you can't give your all to men up front like that and "hold them down". What men say and what they actually want are two different things. The way you love hard is the same way the next girl can love hard that's not what they need. Being spoiled is nothing new to men. They need excitement and someone that inspires them and offers something different into their life not catered to. Being always there for them is something men have come to expect but not respect & appreciate.


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I agree with this for earth signs... it is when the ups and downs of the female cancer helps push them away if you don't get any of the...
They need excitement and someone that inspires them and offers something different into their life not catered to.
Then all you are left with is the BS.
I also agree there is nothing wrong with being single it takes a strong person to be single and not just jump into any relationship... Most people just want someone to be there so they don't feel alone but they don't find someone that fills that void because they are not right for eachother... then they are afraid of being alone and stay in a dead relationship... at this point they could have missed the chance at a karmatic relationship... which would be full of real meaning...
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I'm already ok with moving on. For a cancer I get over things pretty quickly. Once I'm done with somebody I usually don't look back. They always try to come back ALWAYS. I know what I bring to the table, they just can't handle it. That's fine and all but I don't like dealing with BS. Very low tolerance fir that. I don't mind being single. Just saying..
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I agree with this!
Posted by GENERALIZOD
i was going to agree with the title. except i'm a taurus man. @_@

hahahaha xD
Posted by CluelessCancer
Posted by Pearls
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They don't know anything about the Cancer fem-Taurus male connection. Ignore that.
I can burp and these men want to marry me we aren't something "they put up with" at all we're worth more than to them.
Back on topic, yes we do but you can't give your all to men up front like that and "hold them down". What men say and what they actually want are two different things. The way you love hard is the same way the next girl can love hard that's not what they need. Being spoiled is nothing new to men. They need excitement and someone that inspires them and offers something different into their life not catered to. Being always there for them is something men have come to expect but not respect & appreciate.

*Stands up and claps*
Cheers! for CluelessCancer's wise words.
WHIch is utter BS. If a man want's excitement and inspiration he can get that out of the home. Why is it the responsibility of the woman to make a man have an exciting inspired life. I mean damn another list item to add to the many responsibilities.
this is just way too much new age crap.

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^*Stands up and claps*
Cheers! for CluelessCancer's wise words.

"WHIch is utter BS. If a man want's excitement and inspiration he can get that out of the home. Why is it the responsibility of the woman to make a man have an exciting inspired life. I mean damn another list item to add to the many responsibilities.
this is just way too much new age crap. " -Cluelesscancer
Since I decided to not date anymore I notice I'm more happy.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Posted by Pearls
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They don't know anything about the Cancer fem-Taurus male connection. Ignore that.
I can burp and these men want to marry me we aren't something "they put up with" at all we're worth more than to them.
Back on topic, yes we do but you can't give your all to men up front like that and "hold them down". What men say and what they actually want are two different things. The way you love hard is the same way the next girl can love hard that's not what they need. Being spoiled is nothing new to men. They need excitement and someone that inspires them and offers something different into their life not catered to. Being always there for them is something men have come to expect but not respect & appreciate.


WHIch is utter BS. If a man want's excitement and inspiration he can get that out of the home. Why is it the responsibility of the woman to make a man have an exciting inspired life. I mean damn another list item to add to the many responsibilities.
this is just way too much new age crap.

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What are you going on about?
Just by being you is what inspires a guy. The End.
It's nothing new you just don't know it.
Posted by GENERALIZOD
Posted by Pearls
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They don't know anything about the Cancer fem-Taurus male connection. Ignore that.
I can burp and these men want to marry me we aren't something "they put up with" at all we're worth more than to them.
Back on topic, yes we do but you can't give your all to men up front like that and "hold them down". What men say and what they actually want are two different things. The way you love hard is the same way the next girl can love hard that's not what they need. Being spoiled is nothing new to men. They need excitement and someone that inspires them and offers something different into their life not catered to. Being always there for them is something men have come to expect but not respect & appreciate.


YESSS!
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Great observation.
Any men wanting to throw their two cents in? Better to me a single male?
Posted by CluelessCancer

Don't make men so complicated. They're animals with 3 basic needs.
Sex, food, and sports.
Now you're telling women to be inspirational like we don't got a billion + responsibilities. We have to be some persona that's inspiring.
wtf man, im already tired and im in my 30s...this is just too much.
Even women in the end are very BASIC and have very basic needs....
new age crap


Lol It's not complicated, you're frustrated.
Has a man you been with ever even given you that level of adoration before?
If they have then it shouldn't be hard to understand.
Posted by CluelessCancer

They say i'm smart, intelligent, competent, always asking me for advice,
i'm not a FUKING THERAPIST MAN...i don't want to be adored for what i can do and accomplish. i want to be adored for just being me....




That's manipulation not adoration.
That's like me saying "Wow you're so good at cleaning" then turn around and asking you to wash the dishes.
i can relate to that, but when i finally find the right person, he doesnt fit in my life..
:/ why life's so hard!