Bizarre Behavior
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by confusedlibra78 on Thursday, July 21, 2016 and has 23 replies.
I've posted about this Cancer guy I'm seeing before. Things are going ok. We've been together 8 weeks, no exclusive talk. He's done something strange 3 times.
First, he was at a golf tournament and there were scantily girls there who were flirting with the men. He told me all about them and said he was disgusted by their behavior. He then sent me a pic of two of the girls, lying on their backs, legs spread next to the hole they were shooting for.
Second, he told me a story about a girl who came into the bar he works at who thought she deserved free drinks. He made it a point to go on and on about how hot she was.
Third, he sent me a pic of him and his brother with two barely clothed women telling me to check out the reaction of a passerby in the pic. These women were pretty gross and he told me one asked him what he was doing later that night and he said, not you.
Anyway, I find this to be really weird. Why would you send the girl you're seeing pics like this or talk about other women in that way? I don't get it. I'm fine with him looking at other girls because I'm secure in who I am, but I don't need it thrown in my face. I was at his place waiting on him and some super hot, muscular guy (everything he's not) was walking around shirtless next door. I could have texted him and told him but I wouldn't want to make him feel insecure.
Any insight?
First, he was at a golf tournament and there were scantily girls there who were flirting with the men. He told me all about them and said he was disgusted by their behavior. He then sent me a pic of two of the girls, lying on their backs, legs spread next to the hole they were shooting for.
Second, he told me a story about a girl who came into the bar he works at who thought she deserved free drinks. He made it a point to go on and on about how hot she was.
Third, he sent me a pic of him and his brother with two barely clothed women telling me to check out the reaction of a passerby in the pic. These women were pretty gross and he told me one asked him what he was doing later that night and he said, not you.
Anyway, I find this to be really weird. Why would you send the girl you're seeing pics like this or talk about other women in that way? I don't get it. I'm fine with him looking at other girls because I'm secure in who I am, but I don't need it thrown in my face. I was at his place waiting on him and some super hot, muscular guy (everything he's not) was walking around shirtless next door. I could have texted him and told him but I wouldn't want to make him feel insecure.
Any insight?
girl..you never know this guy had sent u these pictures to be on the safer side..because he was actually doing something wrong...so before you find out from somewhere else he made up a story and told you..so that even if u get to know something...he makes his puppy phase and lies to you with the story he already gave you...cancer men...been there seen that !
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I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
Posted by brandypPosted by CancerOnTheCuspIn second scenario OPs guy went on and on about hot girl at bad so....?
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I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
OP you should ask him. "Why do you keep throwing other women in my face??"
Maybe he is insecure ( what cancer isn't) and trying to make you jelly.click to expand
Did he give her free drinks or blow her off?
Personally, my thought would be "sure she's hot, but no drinks from me. Work it while you got it honey, because it doesn't last forever."
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspI didn't react much to the first two stories, but honestly the girls in this last stort were seriously disgusting. I told him that girls that look like that should wear burlap sacks to cover their whole body. He said, haha, and then said the one asked him what he was doing later that night and he said, not you. I can almost believe that because I've seen him be an ass to women many times. I told him he should go for it since ugly women are usually great in bed to make up for what they lack in looks (yes, a bit childish of me) and he said, but you're not ugly and I said, yes, but I'm not your typical woman, to which he said, damn right.
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
Posted by brandypMy thought was that he's insecure and wants me to think he's wanted or something. I guess you could say I'm a bit out of his league. Not being egotistical. I'm very humble about my looks, but he's not the best looking guy out there and he is always saying women don't find him attractive and don't like him.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspIn second scenario OPs guy went on and on about hot girl at bad so....?
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
OP you should ask him. "Why do you keep throwing other women in my face??"
Maybe he is insecure ( what cancer isn't) and trying to make you jelly.click to expand
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspAccording to him, he told her she had to open a tab. The girl turned around and got some random guy to pay for the drinks. The story is funny and I'm cool with hearing it, but I don't need to hear how incredible hot this girl was over and over. That's not necessary, especially when you're newly in a relationship.Posted by brandypPosted by CancerOnTheCuspIn second scenario OPs guy went on and on about hot girl at bad so....?
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
OP you should ask him. "Why do you keep throwing other women in my face??"
Maybe he is insecure ( what cancer isn't) and trying to make you jelly.
Did he give her free drinks or blow her off?
Personally, my thought would be "sure she's hot, but no drinks from me. Work it while you got it honey, because it doesn't last forever."click to expand
Posted by confusedlibra78He's probably still chuckling about your comment about "go for it" while shuddering in distaste at the thought.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspI didn't react much to the first two stories, but honestly the girls in this last stort were seriously disgusting. I told him that girls that look like that should wear burlap sacks to cover their whole body. He said, haha, and then said the one asked him what he was doing later that night and he said, not you. I can almost believe that because I've seen him be an ass to women many times. I told him he should go for it since ugly women are usually great in bed to make up for what they lack in looks (yes, a bit childish of me) and he said, but you're not ugly and I said, yes, but I'm not your typical woman, to which he said, damn right.
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.click to expand
I wouldn't get too wound up about it. Although, you could tell him those pictures of the last story are scary enough that they're keeping you up at night......
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspHaha!! Maybe that would deter him. I guess I'll just let it go. I just find it kind of odd behavior. It's more like something an 18 year old would do. He's 33.Posted by confusedlibra78He's probably still chuckling about your comment about "go for it" while shuddering in distaste at the thought.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspI didn't react much to the first two stories, but honestly the girls in this last stort were seriously disgusting. I told him that girls that look like that should wear burlap sacks to cover their whole body. He said, haha, and then said the one asked him what he was doing later that night and he said, not you. I can almost believe that because I've seen him be an ass to women many times. I told him he should go for it since ugly women are usually great in bed to make up for what they lack in looks (yes, a bit childish of me) and he said, but you're not ugly and I said, yes, but I'm not your typical woman, to which he said, damn right.
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
I wouldn't get too wound up about it. Although, you could tell him those pictures of the last story are scary enough that they're keeping you up at night......click to expand
Posted by confusedlibra78Its noise. Tune it out.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspAccording to him, he told her she had to open a tab. The girl turned around and got some random guy to pay for the drinks. The story is funny and I'm cool with hearing it, but I don't need to hear how incredible hot this girl was over and over. That's not necessary, especially when you're newly in a relationship.Posted by brandypPosted by CancerOnTheCuspIn second scenario OPs guy went on and on about hot girl at bad so....?
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
OP you should ask him. "Why do you keep throwing other women in my face??"
Maybe he is insecure ( what cancer isn't) and trying to make you jelly.
Did he give her free drinks or blow her off?
Personally, my thought would be "sure she's hot, but no drinks from me. Work it while you got it honey, because it doesn't last forever."click to expand
He obviously wasn't having any of it. it's just stuff he sees.
Posted by confusedlibra78Crabs can be funny that way. And usually, it builds into a pretty good story if you egg it on.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspHaha!! Maybe that would deter him. I guess I'll just let it go. I just find it kind of odd behavior. It's more like something an 18 year old would do. He's 33.Posted by confusedlibra78He's probably still chuckling about your comment about "go for it" while shuddering in distaste at the thought.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspI didn't react much to the first two stories, but honestly the girls in this last stort were seriously disgusting. I told him that girls that look like that should wear burlap sacks to cover their whole body. He said, haha, and then said the one asked him what he was doing later that night and he said, not you. I can almost believe that because I've seen him be an ass to women many times. I told him he should go for it since ugly women are usually great in bed to make up for what they lack in looks (yes, a bit childish of me) and he said, but you're not ugly and I said, yes, but I'm not your typical woman, to which he said, damn right.
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
I wouldn't get too wound up about it. Although, you could tell him those pictures of the last story are scary enough that they're keeping you up at night......click to expand
That he's sharing that with you indicates he's comfortable with you.
If its too much, let him know without coming off as chastising him.
8 weeks is nothing to a crab. We don't know u & prob trust you 0-2%
We are repulsed by ppl that act "easy" we want dirty people in the sheets not the streets.
Him talking about chics. We are asses bc I get how that feels but at the same time he's just being open & honest.
Probably feeling your openness out on 3somes tbh
We are repulsed by ppl that act "easy" we want dirty people in the sheets not the streets.
Him talking about chics. We are asses bc I get how that feels but at the same time he's just being open & honest.
Probably feeling your openness out on 3somes tbh
Posted by starloverNot sure. I'm not seeing or sleeping with anyone else. He asked me the other day (not related to us) why people cheat and I said that's a good question. I asked him when it was considered cheating, like if y out haven't had the exclusive talk, and you slept with someone else, would it be cheating. He said no. I say it's not cheating like if you were married, but it's breakup worthy.
When you say no exclusive talk, does that mean you are both free to sleep with whoever you wish as in an open relationship?
Posted by leowwwHe's not an ass for no reason, necessarily. Usually when they are acting like they are owed free things because they are attractive. But I hear what you're saying.
Uhhh. I would be turned off by a guy who's an ass to women for no damn reason. He sounds childish AF. Red flags don't ignore em.
Posted by CalmCrab22He seems to have problems with women. He always makes comments like "that's just like a woman" or "typical for a women", stuff like that. I always say that I'm not like that at all and he smiles and says, that's why I like you. But I'm still a woman, albeit not a typical one.
8 weeks is nothing to a crab. We don't know u & prob trust you 0-2%
We are repulsed by ppl that act "easy" we want dirty people in the sheets not the streets.
Him talking about chics. We are asses bc I get how that feels but at the same time he's just being open & honest.
Probably feeling your openness out on 3somes tbh
I'm someone people usually trusts very quickly. Not sure why. An investor at his bar met me and announced to everyone at the bar within 15 min that even though he just met me, I was someone he would trust. My guy heard that, which I thought was good.
I'm totally a good girl in public and a freak in private. My sex drive is actually way higher than his and I'm 5 years older.
Haha!! Definitely not doing a 3some. I don't share.
Posted by brandypExactlyPosted by CancerOnTheCuspIn second scenario OPs guy went on and on about hot girl at bad so....?
Ok. The quotes didn't work.
I think he's sharing with you things that he does *not" find appealing.
He's not throwing it in your face, he's just showing the crap he encounters, at least that's how I see it.
Try commenting on the gross girls about how unappealing they are and see what he says.
OP you should ask him. "Why do you keep throwing other women in my face??"
Maybe he is insecure ( what cancer isn't) and trying to make you jelly.click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaaAgreed. Its a man thing. Some men want to feel desirable.
I certainly would be put off by that. Who knows. Guys do dumb things.
Just ask him why are you sending me these pictures?
But its immature behavior. Mentioning girls infront of a girl you really like. Tacky.
Alas. If hes worth it to you, tell him to cut it out. But dont be surprised if he starts a new way to guage your interest.
33?? Issues
Probably feels comfortable enough to tell you. That or he just might want to see your reaction. I wouldn't read that much into it.
All the people who are promoting this whole "perhaps he was gauging your reaction" need to shut up and grow up. It's annoying and childish to do that nonsense, especially at the age of 33. This is the one problem I have with my cancer friends where they try to gauge my reaction by saying stupid nonsense or even general things and then I punk them off and it's like "aww you hurt my feelings". STFU and get over your childish crap. I tell them it's like punching someone and then sitting there to see and visually examine if they are in pain or not.
Men who put down other women on their dress sense or talk shit about random people who they don't even know or engage in idle gossip are total red flag worthy. Tell him to get a sex change because he will have more luck as a woman with that behaviour.
Men who put down other women on their dress sense or talk shit about random people who they don't even know or engage in idle gossip are total red flag worthy. Tell him to get a sex change because he will have more luck as a woman with that behaviour.
I'm seeing a cancer man and when we first started talking he pointed out how some chick in the movie we were watching looked just like his ex. I looked at him and said why would you tell me that because I don't give two sh!ts what your ex looks like. ( I like you am very confident in my looks, personality, career path & moral compass to know that I am a catch.) He immediately apologized and said your right that was insensitive of me. He even acknowledged that he wouldn't like it if I had done that to him. Fast forward a month or so we were joking around taking photos, looking at photos and he said look at my ex she looks like an alien (who is a "model") I glanced at the photo and said want to see something even more funny. I showed him a video from social media of how my friend and I were at the bar. There were 6 guys around us, 3 of which we came with and 3 of which came over to talk to us when they went to the bar for drinks. The guys we came with (my friends boyfriend) came back and the 6 of them were just standing around us talk to us. The video was labeled "cock fight". Needless to say he didn't think it was funny. My assumption was he was trying to show me how hot his ex's were & that he can't get "women like me". Again I don't care.
Long story short mine does that too, and I just give it right back to him. It shuts him up pretty quickly & we move on. I will say he does say a lot that he likes me because I dont take his crap and I give it right back.
Long story short mine does that too, and I just give it right back to him. It shuts him up pretty quickly & we move on. I will say he does say a lot that he likes me because I dont take his crap and I give it right back.
Posted by Luckylibra930Lol, that's good to know. I went to a show called the Great Love Debate and was asked to get on stage to see if a guy could hit on me and get me interested. I told him about it and I could tell he didn't like it. Do you think it's an insecurity thing on their part? Like, look what I can get or how many women are interested in me? I'm sure to some women that makes a guy more attractive, but to me, it's a turn off because I hate insecure men.
I'm seeing a cancer man and when we first started talking he pointed out how some chick in the movie we were watching looked just like his ex. I looked at him and said why would you tell me that because I don't give two sh!ts what your ex looks like. ( I like you am very confident in my looks, personality, career path & moral compass to know that I am a catch.) He immediately apologized and said your right that was insensitive of me. He even acknowledged that he wouldn't like it if I had done that to him. Fast forward a month or so we were joking around taking photos, looking at photos and he said look at my ex she looks like an alien (who is a "model") I glanced at the photo and said want to see something even more funny. I showed him a video from social media of how my friend and I were at the bar. There were 6 guys around us, 3 of which we came with and 3 of which came over to talk to us when they went to the bar for drinks. The guys we came with (my friends boyfriend) came back and the 6 of them were just standing around us talk to us. The video was labeled "cock fight". Needless to say he didn't think it was funny. My assumption was he was trying to show me how hot his ex's were & that he can't get "women like me". Again I don't care.
Long story short mine does that too, and I just give it right back to him. It shuts him up pretty quickly & we move on. I will say he does say a lot that he likes me because I dont take his crap and I give it right back.
Also, do you guys ever do stuff out? Mine is a total homebody. Drives me nuts.
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