Breaking the shell
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Fresco on Wednesday, June 19, 2013 and has 27 replies.
How do I penetrate a female cancer's shell, and win her heart?
You have to first manage to ask her out
I failed asking my current target to out though ... lol
I failed asking my current target to out though ... lol
Okay...is that the only way?
Lol funny 
.. is that the best advice you have for me?
.. is that the best advice you have for me?Okay..I'm also really shy...I tend to get tongue tied, when I'm put on the spot with someone i'm not use to conversing with.., but for her i'll definitely try.
do you know any of her friends? Information collection is important
on what she like & hate ... Cancer girls are sensitive so it might be better if you know
what not to say
on what she like & hate ... Cancer girls are sensitive so it might be better if you know
what not to say
Getting a Cancer to take a personal interest in you will require a LOT of patience and time.
Even when you are extremely patient and good about giving her time, this doesn't necessarily guarantee that she will come to you.
Also, many of them hold onto secrets that you will probably never know about. IE, she and her boyfriend broke up a year ago and she still wants to date him instead.
Beware of this kind of thing, because it will most likely end up causing you emotional frustration in the process.
Can you talk to any of her friends to find out if she has a boyfriend or if she is still hung up on a previous relationship? Finding that kind of information out is key to knowing whether or not you have a chance.
Even when you are extremely patient and good about giving her time, this doesn't necessarily guarantee that she will come to you.
Also, many of them hold onto secrets that you will probably never know about. IE, she and her boyfriend broke up a year ago and she still wants to date him instead.
Beware of this kind of thing, because it will most likely end up causing you emotional frustration in the process.
Can you talk to any of her friends to find out if she has a boyfriend or if she is still hung up on a previous relationship? Finding that kind of information out is key to knowing whether or not you have a chance.
She told me she was single and that she could not be in a relationship with someone who does not train MMA..
Posted by Fresco
She told me she was single and that she could not be in a relationship with someone who does not train MMA..
Train MMA?
You mean like those guys who punch and kick the hell out of each other?
Posted by Poisson
Sooo... she wants a manly man?... or a stone-cold killer?
Well, one can be a man without being an MMA fighter. Not knocking the sport, as it is cool, but there are serious psychological and physical problems for those guys in the coming years.
I know a guy who did MMA fighting. He got kicked so hard that his jaw got broken and his mouth had to be wired shut for the broken bones to heal. He was hurt for a few months, too.
Not really wise to do that stuff, IMHO.
Posted by Poisson
No, I understand what you're saying.
I'm just trying to figure out if she's joking or indirectly refusing him... that's if Fresco doesn't enjoy grappling with men on the ground.
Yeah.
I like my teeth too much to unnecessarily risk destroying them entirely.
I am willing to fight if it's in defense, but I don't go around looking for trouble.
Posted by PurrrrrHisssssPosted by ScorpioFish
Getting a Cancer to take a personal interest in you will require a LOT of patience and time.
Even when you are extremely patient and good about giving her time, this doesn't necessarily guarantee that she will come to you.
Also, many of them hold onto secrets that you will probably never know about.
I agree with all of this, but not the secretly wanting to get back with an ex-bf part.click to expand
Well, it doesn't mean that ALL of you are like that. Some of you are, though.
Posted by Fresco
How do I penetrate a female cancer's shell, and win her heart?
Fresco, be patient, very very patient. Also be sensitive and caring. Do not push at anything. Depending on her love experiences she will probably have a strict boundary which you must recognise and never try to breach and in the long run things will begin to smooth out, but as i said, patients is something you must have. Dont shower her with gifts or flowers as this will make her begin to question your motives.
I could be completely off, but maybe her ex was an MMA fighter and she wants somebody who is exactly the same in some sense. It could be that she is comparing a past love with all the future potential partners. Who knows.
Posted by PoissonPosted by incandescentcancerPosted by Poisson
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Posted by Poisson
LOL Oh. How do you prefer to be cracked?...
I personally like my crabs with a soft shell.. and deep fried. No cracking and hammering. I will eat you whole!
You got to pry me open while you sing...I am kinda like kobe beef...the shell gets softer with some singing
Posted by elaine67Posted by Fresco
How do I penetrate a female cancer's shell, and win her heart?
Fresco, be patient, very very patient. Also be sensitive and caring. Do not push at anything. Depending on her love experiences she will probably have a strict boundary which you must recognise and never try to breach and in the long run things will begin to smooth out, but as i said, patients is something you must have. Dont shower her with gifts or flowers as this will make her begin to question your motives.click to expand
I felt a kind of 'shield' when talking to the cancer girl
perhaps as you said may require time & patient
i felt like charging to her though but i still holding my bull charge... lol
Lol I also do MMA...that's why I didn't know if she was trying to give me a sign or not! we are the same zodiac, but her shell makes her hard to read.
Also the reason she says that she can only be in a relationship with someone who also does MMA is because..they understand how much work goes into doing..she spends a lot of her time in the gym..and most guys don't understand..
She's gorgeous, but her work ethic is what really attracted me! we're both striving for the same dream.. why not do it together.
And I appreciate you all for the advice 
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Posted by Poisson
hahahaha!!!!!!
If she is into mma tell her you wanna roll some time. Put her in a rear naked choke then whisper
Show her that you have your own life and that your life is so much fun. She'll want to be a part of your life only if it's worth joining, right?
Don't be desperate, needy, and don't be too aggressive either. Be frank, kind, helpful and open with her. Don't always try to contact her, let her miss your company and come to you sometimes. Let her feel safe to share with you her secrets. When a Cancer trusts you, it's a good sign. Try flirting to see if she actually likes you or you're just another best friend. Cancers can confuse people with the best friend/potential mate thin line.
Don't be desperate, needy, and don't be too aggressive either. Be frank, kind, helpful and open with her. Don't always try to contact her, let her miss your company and come to you sometimes. Let her feel safe to share with you her secrets. When a Cancer trusts you, it's a good sign. Try flirting to see if she actually likes you or you're just another best friend. Cancers can confuse people with the best friend/potential mate thin line.
Posted by Fresco
She told me she was single and that she could not be in a relationship with someone who does not train MMA..
This sounds like a test. But I think this is her round about way of telling you she like athletic guys.
Keep pursuing, she may be throwing out obstacles to see if you trip over one and give up.
Aggressive athletic males are my weakness.
Shy and passive are friend zoned.
Are you involved in some sport? You don't need to train in MMA, she will jump on board in whatever you do if you have a passion for it.
I train with her..she reached for a handshake yesterday..and when I shook her hand she hugged.. me also..at my gym everyone calls me by my nickname..she was calling by my actual name.
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