Breakup with a Cancer Man, and I want him back.

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by strangeillusions on Saturday, April 11, 2015 and has 7 replies.
I'm going to give the full story, and I apologize this is so long.
I'm a Pisces woman who was in a relationship with a Cancer man, and we recently broke up. When we met I was immediately drawn to him and we had a weird friends with benefits relationship for about a year, occasionally not speaking or seeing one another. It got to a point about 10 months in where we realized how serious we felt about each other and he eventually asked for a committed relationship. This of course took so much time due to trust issues between the two of us. Our relationship wasn't perfect, but we always found a way to mend our problems and genuinely love one another. We got very attached, very connected, shared everything together. I may be young, but I know in my heart he is the one. It's a gut feeling. So our relationship lasted about a year, and then I screwed up royally. As a Pisces I tend to have trouble being honest and upfront with people. I was always very honest with him, but there was one thing I lied about, involving an ex, and my Cancer man caught me. I want to make it very clear, I never cheated or had any romantic interest in my ex. It was just a particular situation where I had to meet up with my ex, and I lied to my Cancer man about it because I knew he would be mad if I had met with my ex. I now realize how foolish it was, because we probably could have talked about it and sorted it out. But I made a huge mistake. When he found out he was furious, I broke his heart. I broke the trust we had built. I let him cool off for a few days before we spoke after the incident and he broke up with me. We took some time to get space, and then about a week later we started hanging out as friends, eventually admitting to each other we were very in love, and maybe we just needed time to try again. But there was a lot of sexual tension, and eventually we became intimate again for about five days. After this I was texting him one night, and he said he had went on a date with a girl and called her my name. I was shocked as I didn't think we were seeing other people, but I didn't freak out I just tried to talk to him. That conversation ended with him saying he couldn't have our weird sexual relationship happen, and he needed space. He also said he still was filled with love for me, but his heart was hurting and he needed time alone.
It's now been almost a week since that conversation. I am losing my mind over this man because I basically destroyed the best relationship I've e
Sorry I ran out of space....
Continued: I've basically destroyed the best relationship I've ever had. We love one another very much. I know that to be true. Even the stuff I've left at his place is still where I left it. I have a gut feeling we will get back together but my anxiety is driving me crazy and I'm so worried.
Please any advice on the matter would be appreciated. Thank you smile
This what you described here was EXACTLY the situation that happened with me and my Pisces ex.
Posted by crabRiot
This what you described here was EXACTLY the situation that happened with me and my Pisces ex.


So it didn't work out I'm assuming? Ugh I'm so in love and I just want to be with him and this is awful. I feel terrible about what I did. And now it's like I have no idea how to get my Cancer man back into my life.
I'm so sorry for you...
But I think he needs a lot of time & you have to work on rebuilding his trust in you & you have to really show ur genuinity in this matter.
Cancers are very emotional and trust based. Your story resembles so much to an experience I had last summer where a cancer man left me just because I was laughing too much with a friend of his. I didn't cheat either and he knew that but he still wanted us to break up.
Now I'm in another relationship with a cancer guy and from my own experiences I can tell you that if a cancer looses trust in you, it's very hard to get it back. Since he said that he's still "filled with love" for you, it means that he's really struggling inside between the feelings that he has for you and the broken trust that may (more than "may" actually) stop him from returning to you.
Space is also the most important thing for a cancer. Go too close and he might drift away even more.
Make it clear that you're really sorry and you truly regret what you did (or didn't, aka telling him about meeting with your ex) and then just give him time. Give him space. I know it may take a while. Don't over discuss it with him especially since he told you exactly how he feels.
Stay with your gut feeling.Patience is a MUST with a crab guy. In the meanwhile, focus on yourself smile Try to let of this anxiety because ultimately it's not good for YOU.
Posted by strangeillusions
Posted by crabRiot
This what you described here was EXACTLY the situation that happened with me and my Pisces ex.


So it didn't work out I'm assuming? Ugh I'm so in love and I just want to be with him and this is awful. I feel terrible about what I did. And now it's like I have no idea how to get my Cancer man back into my life.
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No it didn't...I always remembered what he did no matter how hard I tried to forget. After he did that, that was the beginning of the end..The hurt of the betrayal was too much for me crab heart. I felt like he could not be trusted and often wonder if he would do it again(that thought right there is what I would think about whenever he would try to come back)
We're friends now (but not close)