burning bridges Cancerian style
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by tiltedmoonshadow on Friday, May 11, 2012 and has 19 replies.
Any fellow Cancerians resort to burning bridges with someone you absolutely adored but betrayed you?? Do you try to take it back later or ponder regret and then still don't feel like taking it back? (you know cuz we always seem to be on a limbo with things...)
Just wondering how you do it.. burn a bridge
Just wondering how you do it.. burn a bridge
I don't burn bridges I just disappear.
There is only one person I ended up breaking up contact with. It was a good friend whose ego got too big and blinded him. Became a super jerk, and I had to let him know what was up. I miss the shit out of my old buddy, but life has moved forward. I get tempted from time to time to look him up but sometimes you just have to leave the past in the past.
I try not to let it get to that point but if it does, it will be like you never existed in my world, everything and anything to remind me of you, or that was yours is gone. Eventually I'll kill the memory, and life goes like you were never there.
When I was younger. I'd burn the old raggedy no good bridge. Destroy the trail to the bridge and then bury the ashes to the bridge and crap on it but not now. I just keep it moving and appreciate the lessons learned.
Posted by cancerlovestaurus
When I was younger. I'd burn the old raggedy no good bridge. Destroy the trail to the bridge and then bury the ashes to the bridge and crap on it but not now.
I'm 26-years-old.. when the heck am I gonna stop doing that? Most of the times, after some time have passed (like a week to a month or so depending on how much I really liked the guy), I would have a change of heart and wish I could take back what I've done.
It is so confusing whenever this happens and I get very disappointed in myself for not "knowing" myself better. Makes me feel like I missed or ruined a great opportunity for myself because I let my imagination/emotions get the best of me. I swear many of our strengths are also our weaknesses....
I swear many of our strengths are also our weaknesses....
so true.
so true.
I don't burn bridges, I burn bitches 
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.Im a cancer woman, I am loyal I do not cheat, juggle or hurt people. But If you hurt me, then that is another story. I will make it very known to you, that your second place to me. I have everything else to think about. $ $ $ $ creating a great home. Being there for my home and family. My husband is a taurus and we have a daughter together. I love him & I know he loves me . We were amazing for each other . But when he stepped out of our marriage . I changed. He is no longer a priority for me. I still have feelings for him. But they aren't are as intense as they once were. Its been 2 yrs and we are separated now. I just cant bring myself to forgive his choices. I'd like too but I can't. We do communicate as friends, and he is heart broken , because even though I havent moved on physically , I have moved on emotionally , financialy , and spirtually. He hates that, but he knows why I burned that bridge . He knows that if I wouldn't of caught him having a sexual mate other than me . I would have stayed with him because I still love him. I just won't let him close to me ever again.
my cancerian buddy wrote her ex bff a letter explaining why she was cutting things off. and that has been that ever since..
I've burned a few bridges. A few have been rebuilt over the years. But there's a handful that I refuse to let be rebuilt. It's that mentality "fool me once shame on me, fool me twice shame on you".... except because I'm a cancer it's more like "fool me once, twice, three, four times shame on me, try to keep getting away with stuff and watch that bridge burn!".... I'll give people 3,4,5 chances but if they KEEP doing things to hurt me I will finally put my foot down.
Heres an example: This girl I knew we use to be SO close. When we became friends it was like overnight. Instantaneous. We were latched onto each other for a couple of months. And then we both happened to be together when we met a new group of guys. I had my eye on one of them because he was cute. Of COURSE she did too. But he latched onto me (another instantaneous relationship but this one was romantic with a guy). She did EVERYTHING to try and keep us apart. She told me that his friends told her that he was a player. She threw temper tantrums about me hanging out with him. She HATED it. Well when she started to sabotage things for me at work (we worked at the same place) that's when I'd finally had enough and stopped talking to her. But being the water sign that I am I reconnected with her a few years later and hung out a little bit with her. Well after celebrating her birthday with her I kept trying to make plans with her. She would make them and then totally reneg on them the day of. The straw that broke the camels back was when I made plans with her to meet at her house and when i was driving THERE she wouldn't answer calls or texts. I was outside her house for a few minutes when I'd finally had enough. I left and then of course an hour later she leaves me a voicemail with some excuse as to why she wasn't there, yada yada. I snapped. I went off on her about being a fair weather friend. She never apologized, never called me back. Never heard from her again. She was one of those types of people who would "chameleon" to the people she was around so that she would fit in at the time. She had NO identity of her own. She didn't try to just steal my boyfriend either. I also found out that our boss at the company we had worked at together had slept with her WHEN HE WAS MARRIED!!! She also tried to steal another girls boyfriend. ALL this time by the way, SHE had her own boyfriend! Just absolutely toxic person. BRIDGE BURNED and never looked back!
Heres an example: This girl I knew we use to be SO close. When we became friends it was like overnight. Instantaneous. We were latched onto each other for a couple of months. And then we both happened to be together when we met a new group of guys. I had my eye on one of them because he was cute. Of COURSE she did too. But he latched onto me (another instantaneous relationship but this one was romantic with a guy). She did EVERYTHING to try and keep us apart. She told me that his friends told her that he was a player. She threw temper tantrums about me hanging out with him. She HATED it. Well when she started to sabotage things for me at work (we worked at the same place) that's when I'd finally had enough and stopped talking to her. But being the water sign that I am I reconnected with her a few years later and hung out a little bit with her. Well after celebrating her birthday with her I kept trying to make plans with her. She would make them and then totally reneg on them the day of. The straw that broke the camels back was when I made plans with her to meet at her house and when i was driving THERE she wouldn't answer calls or texts. I was outside her house for a few minutes when I'd finally had enough. I left and then of course an hour later she leaves me a voicemail with some excuse as to why she wasn't there, yada yada. I snapped. I went off on her about being a fair weather friend. She never apologized, never called me back. Never heard from her again. She was one of those types of people who would "chameleon" to the people she was around so that she would fit in at the time. She had NO identity of her own. She didn't try to just steal my boyfriend either. I also found out that our boss at the company we had worked at together had slept with her WHEN HE WAS MARRIED!!! She also tried to steal another girls boyfriend. ALL this time by the way, SHE had her own boyfriend! Just absolutely toxic person. BRIDGE BURNED and never looked back!
nope...i never get back to that person. its over! take a hike!
What the heck. I burned another bridge! This time this nice guy Virgo. I was intrigued at first too bc we seemed to communicate at ease and bet along well. He does this eye staring thing that i would normally find creepy, but i just do the same back like nbd lol.. we are both Scorpio rising. .......It's just that he has this Moon in Cap that just about ruins it for me eventhough my moon is in Virgo so I figured earth and earth should be dandy right?? Well He doesn't believe in monogamous relationships (he's only 23...) and sex is just that to him, sex. He made a mistake of describing himself as a manwhore to our coworker and this news got back to me and I just had the sudden urge to have him disappear from my life! So I was cold to him suddenly and given his emotionless moon, I bluntly gave him a piece of my mind, I mean critical Virgo style and all I was blatantly mean to him and then told him to leave me be at work from now on. ............But.Its not like we've had sexual contact already so yeah guess you could say I overreacted. But what was supposed to do with a moon in cap considering I'm an emo cancer, you know?? ...he did all the signs of flirting with me (super compliments, always asking if I needed help, hung around me for quick chats here and there, the intense eye contact when we are talking, asking me questions about me, says I'm such a sweetheart, smiling at me when he walks by, and the touching the subtle arm or shoulder touch thing!!!!) ...... I fell for all that, and as soon as I heard him say manwhore about himself, I just felt SO betrayed (like some d?j??vu from past jerks) and was convinced that he is not a sincere person at all. He said that he figured that I wasn't that kind of person (to just do FWBs) so he never said anything. And I just huffed at him: "Oh good! I am happy to know that I present myself properly that it successfully deters the dirty manwhores of the world!!!!" ....I can't be physical with a guy without emotions! That's what sex goes with!! Otherwise we are just wild animals having primal sex!! Ugh just empty and shallow, right??!!! So I admitted to him that I did have a small innocent crush on him bc we had a mind connection, but that now I'm glad I found out this info bc now I'm turned off and as I should be since I don't shit where I eat. So I told him to leave me alone at work unless its work related bc I will still act professional and cordial. He said ok he will respect that. ......I mean that's it, if I show i
....I mean that's it, if I show interest in you and even confirm it with the admitting words of "i had an innocient crush on you" ----boy you better do something bc that was like pulling teeth for me just to admit and I am so embarrassed to stand on the vulnerable spotlight that I will resort to being mean just so I can burn bridges and tell myself you've disappeared. Ahhhhhh what the heck CRAZY CANCER CRAZY CANCER CRAZYYYYYYYY WHYYYYYY WHY WHY 
I was so cold and said so many things to him and told him it doesn't matter anyways bc his emotionless moon in cap will just breeze through my words like nbd. I wanted to emotionally hurt him so bad all bc I was disappointed. Poor guy :,(
I was so cold and said so many things to him and told him it doesn't matter anyways bc his emotionless moon in cap will just breeze through my words like nbd. I wanted to emotionally hurt him so bad all bc I was disappointed. Poor guy :,(
I don't burn bridges.
Karma has a way of hitting you back when you do that.
But I'm not adverse to handing the the person the gasoline and matches to do it all by their self.
Karma has a way of hitting you back when you do that.
But I'm not adverse to handing the the person the gasoline and matches to do it all by their self.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Hmmm i was just talking to my cap friend about this, i have a very bad habit of cutting people off without notice.
I used to do it quietly like that, without a fight, without notice. Just quietly disappear and not return calls. But over time, I've developed this urge to betch out the person and let person know what changed in my opinion towards that person that led me to wanna end the contact. This is with guys and only began after I dated a Scorpio and a Cancer because they never had a problem crawling back no matter how bad the fight was before. It was like there was no permanent falling-out with them. So now I've developed a habit of really stirring up a shet storm to make sure I mean business and in the hopes that my emotions are taken seriously like let it be know that you hurt me so hear my wrath! ...... Did I just get angrier over the years or something? I'm all about going out with a loud bang these days! Geez.
Posted by LunarMaiden
I don't burn bridges I just disappear.
yup.
I let go of a friend last month after being friends with them for 17 years. After she began a relationship with this person last year she forgot I even existed. 2012 was the worst year for me I was going through alot and never did she even try to txt or call to see how i was doing. 2013 came along and thank goodness this year has been so much better. I reached out to her but kept telling me she was busy I think i've only seen her once this year for her college graduation. Finally made the decision to cut it off last month when I realized i don't need someone who is not there for me when I have other better friends who are. Anyways I agree with Arielle I tell them upfront and move on if you just disappear people will never know what they did wrong or why you felt upset in the first place.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
I don't burn bridges.
Karma has a way of hitting you back when you do that.
But I'm not adverse to handing the the person the gasoline and matches to do it all by their self.
Is this when the short, hurtful, sarcastic comments start? Withdrawing? Limited communication? All, until the other person gets to the bridge burning point? So it can appear to be their fault?
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