Call him Cancer

Looking for a cancer's perspective in a scenario like this........You the cancer! Always keep in touch with this one person....call everyday or every other day....you never quite make your feelings clear to this person...why? The other party feels something very real for you and shares...you run away but always come back. This one day I the scorpio realizes it hurts too much to keep in touch with someone so undecisive, so confusing so I ask to be left alone like many times before, but he always came back....This time cancer tells me "your wish is being granted" and it seems he meant it too! He's gone.....I'm left heartbroken....You the cancer...is there a chance you'll come back around....Would you prefer the other party to not contact you and when they don't take it as they don't care or would you like to hear from that person to know they do care. This one cancer just so complex....I'm always in the drivers seat, but this cancer makes me feel like the passenger on a rollercoaster ride.....😢 feedback............=)

if you ever cared at all....would you make contact at some point somewhere down the line. I've picked up the phone many times and each and every time I talk myself out of it....if he wanted to contact me he would or would he?

That cancer has also real feelings for you. But there is something serious that comes in the way of you two. So this cancer's heart wants to come to you but his head understands that it is wrong. Hence , it is not only you being tormented by his indecisive nature but him in the first place in a constant dilemma with himself.


If that scenario kept happening and this time's break up seems to be very serious wait wait wait take to the climax then give it your last shot and call. But make sure to make this time's "break up" look real, the ultimate one...take it to the peak. This time cancer thinks 'i am done' can not go back to her and keep this circle happening....later, why she is not calling me? I can not believe it , she does not care about me! She forgot about me...i wish she called me...if she calls this time that is it, game is over!...only if she calls this time... Call him, say him that you took your time , thought and realized that you can not live without him...you tried everything but could not do anything about your love...Cancer "she indeed loves me...fuck the issues which are on our way, i won't experience such love with anybody...so i take a risk and be with her"


This is my wild wild fantasies, give it a shot and live without regrets at least...but make sure to take your time and make him feel that it is almost over...a rain to the desert after a long drought

@Cancer1986....I genuinely felt something strong between us in the beginning, something tells me he is the one and no matter what! That something don't go away. It just got to a point where it seemed to be a never ending circle between us to the tune of 2 years! He informed me in the beginning how he just wanted to take things slow and I loved that about him. And we did...take things very slow....but it felt like it was going no where beside the circle. I've given the "constant dilemma" with himself some thought as well....I love him, it don't go away. My heart loyal to one that's not in my life anymore.It's been 3 mos and I still hope to hear from him, but nothing...is that wait, wait, wait long enough? I want him in my life long term but not to play in that circle anymore...Hahaha! I want your wild,wild fantasy to be my reality!!! lol! Where I call him and he thinks just that! I'm scared of him not answering and the damage it will do to my heart....😢I told him not to contact me unless he missed me and wanted more then what we had and nothing...3 mos. I can deal with it not happening...I'm a big girl and I will have to but I cannot seem to deal with the not knowing. He opened up to me once, like really opened up and then he pulled away?......Im thinking if he felt the same way, he would have tried to get in touch with me by now......left sad and choosing to be alone while still loving him 😢

Come on..girl, you have 2 year experience of those "break ups"...you should know/feel already how long the extreme/fatal break up is 🙂
Actually, do not call bust him in his place/street/work show him the passion of scorp 😄


In fact , if he cares he will come himself but usually cancers are not that stubborn they give up at some point. As long as he is not breaking down so far, it indicates there are some issues in the relationship...therefore, i am pushing you to make the final strike

Welcome to the crab walk.. an unfortunate thing when someone cares so much and yet, the Cancer feels so unsure.

Rest assured, Cancers don't forget people. Good or bad... they are always on our minds. We especially don't forget about those that we cared about nor those who have helped us learn and feel. With that in mind, he has not forgotten you and I would bet my last penny he has thought about you a great deal, has flipped flopped a thousand times about calling you, how he feels about you, all in his best effort to remain hidden in the safe little cocoon of a shell. It works for a little while and sometimes it works forever if given the correct situation. From what you said, that is NOT what you want. Mind you I'm a female, so I don't know if it compares to a male Cancer or not, but if someone I cared about came roaring back, gave me an "in your face" type of emotional plea to remain together, and did so sincerely and with confidence... I would literally melt.

Of all things not knowing is aweful. So my suggestion is to put on that wonderful Scorpion hat, pull your heart out just a little, tell him exactly what you feel and how and then.. move forward from there.

I wish you luck. I hope he is a smart Cancer man and falls to his knees for you. 🙂

@Deb963..Thx =)This IS true! I can be very stubborn as well as he..I want to call him but feel silly, afterall I am the one who told him to stop contacting me...He's the one granting my wish! I guess I'm trying as hard as it is to give him time and maybe he will contact me...I will eventually contact him I'm just unsure of my approach and I'm kinda starting to think..if he wanted to pursue anything I would have heard from him by now....

@JusMe

Honestly, have you dated smb during these 3 months? You did , right?

I am just curious how it works, i mean sometimes people move on and date smb else and realize that their 1st date was wonderful after comparison...

@Moondagger...hahaha! The crabwalk...I've never heard of that one!....I thought I was doing the crabdance! But now feels like the crab-stand-still!Thank you for the input...I'd like to think he's thought of me...I didn't see him as often as I like but he always,always contacted me and now nothing 😢 I miss him...I'm not easily distracted and my heart speaks the truth. Rejection is not something I'm use to dealing with and so I think I'm afraid to make that initial contact with h in fear of being rejected..instead I'm waiting patiently..he's a constant on my mind...that difficult crab left his claws in my heart...

@Moondagger...hahaha! The crabwalk...I've never heard of that one!....I thought I was doing the crabdance! But now feels like the crab-stand-still!Thank you for the input...I'd like to think he's thought of me...I didn't see him as often as I like but he always,always contacted me and now nothing 😢 I miss him...I'm not easily distracted and my heart speaks the truth. Rejection is not something I'm use to dealing with and so I think I'm afraid to make that initial contact with h in fear of being rejected..instead I'm waiting patiently..he's a constant on my mind...that difficult crab left his claws in my heart...

alright well given that I just started talking to a scorpio female, I'll give you my two cents. It seems that mr crab is pissed that you told him to piss off and not contact you anymore so he's gonna stick to his word. Its not out of spite or anything like that. He may be hurt and undecided himself at this point if he wants to continue this "circle" with you or not. One thing about these rollercoaster relationships is that eventually if neither is enjoying the ride, it gets very tiring, especially for two sensitive water signs. You guys have been talking for 2 years and are still having these issues. I don't know what kind of level of intimacy you guys had prior to this but it doesn't seem like it was deep enough.

I see you've got a few potential scenarios going down:

1. he contacts you "casually and nonchalant" but he's really trying to test the waters and see if theres anything left there. You play your part whichever way you choose
2. you contact him and he's nonchalant and casual- hes watching to see if you really mean what you say and if you're truly worthwhile
3. you come back and give him your story and he brushes you off
4. you come back and give him your story and his heart melts right in front of you

Any of those can happen. Whichever approach you take is up to you. Given we don't know the cancer guy's disposition that well, you've gotta decide what works best. I will be honest, it does seem like both of you are a little immature about this..given 2 years of circling is plenty long time to learn about another person and if you want anything to do with them. I know for myself when I say I'm done with a person, I will cut off contact but jus like others have said prior..we'll never forget those who were close to our hearts and who we cared about.

One thing you don't want this cancer man to do is lose respect for you, so you may have to act fast before you're emotional dust to him and he moves onto something else. Most cancer men I know, including myself, if scorned in one situation will pursue another openly and freely.

Jus me...as a fellow Water sign girl inlove with a Crab for almost 10 months now and having ridden (and riding ) the rollercoaster, let me tell you what I think.
If you were the one who told him to stop contacting you, is is improbable he will contact you again. We water signs are proud and if the other is pushing us away, we won't give in, even if we are dying inside and our hearts are breaking. None of you wants to be exposed and vulnerable to the other.
If you were the one asking to stop the contact, it is you who should reinitiate it.
First, with a light approach, to test the waters, but once face to face, tel him WHAT YOU WANT, directly.
This is your last chance at happiness with the Crab. You honestly can't go on with this cycle anymore if you deep inside want an mature, happy relationship.
tell him what you want, and then wait to see for his reaction. But be CLEAR and SPECIFIC so as not to have any other misunderstandings.
If he continues his immature behaviour, his games, you know the relationship will be stuck to what it was before. And you will get disappointed and eventually, tired . I guess then you will start using your mind rather than your heart and move on.
But play your card , and play it a last time. You have nothing to lose, it is a win-win situation.
If he ignores you, you win, because you will see the truth...get disillusioned and see reality. Move on.
If he reacts, you can be happy with him, finally...
If he goes back to his old ways, you will also see harsh reality and eventually move on..

You can't be stuck in this situation forever.
Sometimes we idealize the person we have with us, thinking how he will change, how things will be different. It is mostly a Fish thing, and we get very disillusioned..but it is GOOD to feel dis-illusioned, and to see REALITY. only then we can really choose what we want...pink glasses aer lovely but when you take them off you see the truth.
You are the one who can move the pieces of this chess game now...do it!!!!!
Good luck!!!

Crabs and Scorps are astrologically blessed 🙂

@MoonBunny....I sometimes think too that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but battling with how long to stay away before absence makes the heart forget.....He always said he liked that I knew what I wanted...but toward the end....I flipped-flopped back and forth with him, telling him to leave me alone...it's not what I wanted...I just couldnt handle the one step forward...2 step backward or the crabdance/walk so to speak anymore. They say that cancer will always come back if they care....I'm just not sure how long I should wait it out....Missing still...everyday....😢

@Marcus713...So! How is the crab/scorp thing going for you thus far? What are your thoughts on the match? at this point in time...your 2 cents seem priceless =) Thx for your input. I think your right and I've been thinking I may have hurt his pride/ego....He called me bright and early on a friday morning...both of us in good spirits...he was always my early morning wake up call and I miss it 😢 Anywho he asked what I was doing that eve and then kind of made himself unavail. I think to be honest MY feelings were hurt that he did not ask to see me and thats when I requested he not contact me anymore. I realize I did it because I was hurt and not because I truly meant it. He has always come back around in the past...This time I may have hurt his feelings/pride. About the scenarios..I guess I am afraid of being the one to make contact and him brushing me off! I like your other scenarios much better! hehehe =) I think I know this about crabs too....about being done. I can assure you I am the same way...when I'm done there is no turning back....but this crab gots me and I'm not even sure he knows how bad I have it for him. My heart loyal....it's only him. Dont like the emotional dust part so much so yes definitely something to think about....hmmmm....Thx again =)

so far we've been progressing slowly but surely...its only been a month but it helps to be raised by a scorpio mom 🙂 we've been getting on pretty well..its definitely an intuitive and instinctive relationship where I don't have to second guess myself or think about what I say is gonna be perceived. I see we move along best where we're both jus being honest and open with eachother...if anything it seems like that's what we've both been longing for in a relationship. I think its a great match so far, shes definitely somebody I can see myself having a long term relationship with. and being we're both water signs, we react to things fairly similarly. we both have cool, sorta detached demeanors but when its just us two, the passion definitely comes out. I absolutely LOVE the fact that we're both hip to subtleties in communication, be it verbal or physical, we just "get" eachother.

Given what you just said, I say just keep it simple. It seems like he's still toeing the line so I say you jus go n get him back n be over with it. He'd appreciate that more than anything. Its one thing to have your pride and to keep your word. Integrity is definitely important when dealing with a cancer. But so is humility and sacrifice..because that is the reality for a lot of cancers too. When we're loyal to you, you're always in our thoughts and we're willing to give it our all. You need to clean this up.

@ArgiePisces....thk you for your input =) your right about the being proud thing....I know! And its the reason I have not made contact...I was afterall the mastermind behind what seemed to be a great idea for "the moment"Its true about exposing vulnerability, I've done it with him already..he has too once..I'm afraid to do it again. I know it should and will be me to make initial contact considering the circumstance..I'm not sure enough time has passed?...I'm unsure about everything with this except about the feelings I have for him..this I'm sure of =)...😢 yes! When I make my move it shall be my last....his response should entail what I need to know..my heart may end up wounded but at least I will know...He has this wall...and it seems when he starts feeling vulnrable it goes up way high...I wanna get to the other side of this wall...I just don't know how....

—Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.??

@cancer1986....yes after feeling really hurt about the entire situation, I met someone who showed a genuine interest in me....as far as the attraction it was totally there on both parts, but my heart don't lie and I realized I was not only wasting my time with someone I just did'nt feel "it" for but also wasting his. Ultimately I stopped seeing him. I have plenty of suitors honestly and right now I am just feeling heartbroken and have no interest in anyone else at the moment. Just him.....I am not trying to replace him but rather get over him before I pursue anyone else.

@piscesargie....I like that thing about the wall.....but if he does'nt get it by now...I just don't think he ever will, or maybe he does and does'nt want to.....

Posted by JusMe
@cancer1986....yes after feeling really hurt about the entire situation, I met someone who showed a genuine interest in me....as far as the attraction it was totally there on both parts, but my heart don't lie and I realized I was not only wasting my time with someone I just did'nt feel "it" for but also wasting his. Ultimately I stopped seeing him. I have plenty of suitors honestly and right now I am just feeling heartbroken and have no interest in anyone else at the moment. Just him.....I am not trying to replace him but rather get over him before I pursue anyone else.

Interesting...so the point here is : after a fulfilling relationship (perhaps between water water) one keeps searching for a similar experience.I mean, even if the person is wonderful but not "pushing your buttons" properly.he fails ? And if she/he does not find "the one" he/she tries to re-create the first love?!

PS thanks for the honesty

Hold on a minute Cancer1986! That is not the point at all! I feel like I have been waiting for this crab forever..and sometimes feel as if Im just being taken for a ride with his evasive, undecisive demeanor....I told myself I had waited around long enough and it was time to move on hence "I tried" but when your heart is in love there is no swaying...so I gave up. I once told him I would be single for a long time and I probably will be until I feel what he makes me feel again...that feeling, the butterflies, the constant on my mind even after this time has passed he still makes me feel that way...everything about him, his mind-set, his demeanor, his way of thinking...his beliefs, I could go on! It's the uncertaintly that kills it, the lack of communication so to speak. No even if Mr. Wonderful showed up at my front door and pushed all the right buttons it would'nt matter cause he kinda did! It would'nt matter cause I'm in love with someone else STILL at the moment! Dammmmit!!I am not trying to re-create...Im trying to get this one crab back in my life without pushing him away even further! When I say I am not trying to replace him but trying to get over him....being alone and time is the only way I know how to do that....I hope it's not too much longer!!!its not fair!!! hehehe

Posted by JusMe
his mind-set, his demeanor, his way of thinking...his beliefs

Sounds like he was one step ahead of you which got you to passenger's seat...

butterflies...that's what i often read in srorps' comments🙂

@Cancer1986..He's actually two steps ahead of me...I've never played this game...

What's smb? I am not familiar with what it means?

Posted by PiscesArgie
—Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.??

Post of the year right there.

Rite!I've been trying to break down that wall for so long and obviously against my better judgement....I am still trying just trying to figure out how....everyone here has been so helpful...=)I still want to know what smb means?!!hehehe

Posted by JusMe
I still want to know what smb means?!!hehehe

I guess smb=somebody

Gottcha! Dpxnet terminology? On top of my Crab issue I need to learn this?! Hahaha =) Thx