Can a Cancer be a loyal flirter?
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Lady_taurus on Tuesday, June 17, 2008 and has 117 replies.
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I have been dating a Cancer for a year and a half. In that time I have experienced every typical trait of a true Cancer male whilst dating him. All you ladies who know, I know you can relate. But being the bull that I am, I stuck it out and slowly things are progressing. When we first met he was really quiet and reserved. He would go out and stick to himself, he would also sometimes be rude to other women, doing things like walking off from them and other gestures of being uninterested. However, recently I have caught him being more openly confident. He flirts a lot more and seems to think that he is just being ?friendly?, I know that a lot of Cancers are at fault for this. But it is surprising, because he came from someone that hid in the shadows to one whom is the life of the party. Maybe it's my fault because I like to boost people up and I am very materialistic and always go out of my way to buy him the latest clothes and shoes to go out with. Not that he had a problem with dressing before, but he just wasn't as fussy because he didn't want to draw attention to himself.
Admittedly, at the beginning when I saw him flirting I brushed it off. Now I feel threatened, and although I feel like we have a good relationship, I am very afraid that his confident level has been boosted so high that he may cheat. I know that Cancers are supposed to be loyal and sometimes things like this have more to do with a person's astrological sign. But from an astrological perspective I would like to know if any Cancer men could shine any light on this behaviour for me. Because Cancers are so complex, maybe I'm reading him wrong and probably have no reason to worry. But I am a bull and at this point I am seeing red so I am soon to blow my top on him, because I don't understand this behaviour. Cansir and Angelfish always have good points? it would be interesting to hear what you would say. My Cancer is Taurus Moon and Leo Venus.
Admittedly, at the beginning when I saw him flirting I brushed it off. Now I feel threatened, and although I feel like we have a good relationship, I am very afraid that his confident level has been boosted so high that he may cheat. I know that Cancers are supposed to be loyal and sometimes things like this have more to do with a person's astrological sign. But from an astrological perspective I would like to know if any Cancer men could shine any light on this behaviour for me. Because Cancers are so complex, maybe I'm reading him wrong and probably have no reason to worry. But I am a bull and at this point I am seeing red so I am soon to blow my top on him, because I don't understand this behaviour. Cansir and Angelfish always have good points? it would be interesting to hear what you would say. My Cancer is Taurus Moon and Leo Venus.
How old is he? You are being to good too him. He is basically playing you for face value. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but you are being to easy for him and you will soon see alot of red flags. Let him do for YOU, that is the only way a man can feel like a man. If you are spoiling him, he will get used to you being there and you will just be there. Will he cheat, UM, yeap probably.
Most definitely! I am very aware of this. But if you have been with a Cancer, they tend to spoil their lovers. As I am very independent, I don't really open up completely to enjoy his tendencies of pampering. But I can say that among many other things he done a lot including cooking and serving me every night. So to clarify, please do not mistake it and think that this is one sided and I am the only one giving. Having said what you did, in all fairness, a man cannot put in all the effort towards a woman and the woman expect to keep him. This can come across as an ungrateful woman. Men need love too. Therefore, I spoil him in ways that I know how and in ways that benefit me as well, because I have a man by my side that always looks good and this is very important to me.
You are making excuses for him! Cancer men are not the ONLY men who spoil their lovers! Any man will spoil his lover whether she brings things to the relationship or not. The point here is he is disrespecting you. I can see him talking to other women and but not be flirty. If he is committed to you and ONLY you, he will not want to FLIRT! Period. No other woman will even make him flirt. I am not trying to start a arguement or down you. Being independent is good, yes, for you it is very good to be independent. YOu are not the man here you are a woman and HE should do things like buy YOU clothes and keep YOU up with the latest fashions etc. You are making it way to easy for him. IF you know a Cancer man, yes, indeed, he will cheat if he feels the need to.
YOU are not being a challenge. Men like a challenge. YOU need to make HIM desire you, just like he has a desire to flirt with other women. If you hit him, head on, he wouldn't even LOOK at another woman let alone flirt with them. YOU are making the relationship too easy, he has to want YOU and you have to be the prize, not him.
He is aware you are doing the neccessary things needed to do "keep" him. It is no challenge in this and you are trying too hard. I am not trying to put you down, just in my personal opinion you are buying his affection and from experience this does not fit well with men too long, Cancer man or not, you are being a friend with benefits that is why he is on the prowl in your face and this is a big red flag. Stop! Let him work for you. You are worth it!
YOU are not being a challenge. Men like a challenge. YOU need to make HIM desire you, just like he has a desire to flirt with other women. If you hit him, head on, he wouldn't even LOOK at another woman let alone flirt with them. YOU are making the relationship too easy, he has to want YOU and you have to be the prize, not him.
He is aware you are doing the neccessary things needed to do "keep" him. It is no challenge in this and you are trying too hard. I am not trying to put you down, just in my personal opinion you are buying his affection and from experience this does not fit well with men too long, Cancer man or not, you are being a friend with benefits that is why he is on the prowl in your face and this is a big red flag. Stop! Let him work for you. You are worth it!
I am not trying to make excuses for him? but you are right about him disrespecting me by flirting. I will admit to this, and this is why I am upset and it's why I am seeking advice. However, it is not so much about the clothes issue, because maybe I worded it wrong, but it not as extreme as you're making it out to be. The reason I stated buying him clothes was to make a point. The point being, that he was very shy and uncertain of himself when I first met him. But I felt like I boosted his confidence, by reassuring him of certain things. So I mentioned this, as to throw it out there to see if maybe a Cancer could relate. But it's not like I go over and beyond and buy him things all the time, I am really not one of those chicks. I'll repay his good deeds to keep the relationship on a balanced level. I don't want anyone to have to say that they bought me all these things and I have nothing to back myself up. I would like to be in a position to say ? well um, I did this for you too.? That's how I look at my situation, everyone thinks different. I had been in a 8 year relationship with someone and that's how it was and that's how it worked. I was the one to actually walk out of that relationship and we didn't have any problems because I did things for him and made it ?easy? for him. We just had different walks of life and at the end he respected me.
There are mature individuals out there and their mind set is different when it comes to certain things. I completely understand where you are coming from, but it just doesn't sit well with me because I don't think that I am making anything easy for anyone. I am a very hard chick to deal with and any guy that I get with has to fight hard.
Thank you for your input, and I certainly didn't think that you were putting me down, you threw a good point and it may be useful to someone who looks at this post and is maybe in the same position, but it doesn't apply to me because I don't ?buy? anyone. I don't operate that way.
Not sure what your gender is Krobe but I have seen some posts that were replied by Cansir and he hits at an angle that I more so relate to. For some reason he doesn't generalise, he gives advise based on how he would react or how he sees things as a Cancer and this was what I was looking for. I really wasn't looking for a generalisation, because all men can't be categorised or compared to others. But some people have similar personalities and they can relate to certain things and would therefore
There are mature individuals out there and their mind set is different when it comes to certain things. I completely understand where you are coming from, but it just doesn't sit well with me because I don't think that I am making anything easy for anyone. I am a very hard chick to deal with and any guy that I get with has to fight hard.
Thank you for your input, and I certainly didn't think that you were putting me down, you threw a good point and it may be useful to someone who looks at this post and is maybe in the same position, but it doesn't apply to me because I don't ?buy? anyone. I don't operate that way.
Not sure what your gender is Krobe but I have seen some posts that were replied by Cansir and he hits at an angle that I more so relate to. For some reason he doesn't generalise, he gives advise based on how he would react or how he sees things as a Cancer and this was what I was looking for. I really wasn't looking for a generalisation, because all men can't be categorised or compared to others. But some people have similar personalities and they can relate to certain things and would therefore
(cut from the top) therefore...give advise on the topic.
Well, I talk to Cansir too! I am willing to bet he will let you know that you Cancer man is being disrespectful by flirting with other women and if he is satisfied at home, he shouldn't feel the need to get other women's attention. That is the point I am trying to make. Yes, some Cancer men do act like this because I know one myself who does the SAMEA EXCAT things you are taking about with the flirt and talking to other women in other women's face.
Will I buy this bad behavior, nope, I will let him go on about his business because in my opinion, he does not really love me if he has other women in his life. If he has other women in his life, flirty or whatever, he will cheat! Buying things is not the point, the point is he is flirting in your face. Just think of what he does when you are not around.
Good LUCK! I let one go for this same exact reason, I am number 1, the ONLY one or I don't want to be butter!
Will I buy this bad behavior, nope, I will let him go on about his business because in my opinion, he does not really love me if he has other women in his life. If he has other women in his life, flirty or whatever, he will cheat! Buying things is not the point, the point is he is flirting in your face. Just think of what he does when you are not around.
Good LUCK! I let one go for this same exact reason, I am number 1, the ONLY one or I don't want to be butter!
SAMEA EXCAT things you I meant same exact things you are talking about
I don't recall condoning his behaviour. I didn't say that I was sitting there and allowing this to happen and I didn't get down and explain to what extent he flirts. So you are in no position to say that I am not admitting that he is being disrespectful. You are making assumptions and you don't know my business to say that he is not satisfied with me. There are many ways to flirt and Cancer men are very flirtatious. I spoke to a Cancer man and he admitted that when he flirts with someone he has no intentions to be with them and when he likes someone he sits on the side lines because he fears rejection. I don't know why you feel so obliged to push this weak argument but in my previous post I was trying to indicate to you that your advice was no longer needed because it did not fit my situation. Because he is not flirting in my face and he does not have another woman. How stupid would I be to allow a man to flirt with a woman in my face. Do you think I would be on here asking advice? The obvious answer is no. He is just more confident now and whenever a woman says hi, (which could be our friend or anyone) he is not as rude as he was, he is more ?friendly? as I had stated. It is different, because he was more reserved before so I pick it up as flirty but someone else may interpret it as just being that, friendly. I feel like he would cheat because he seems more inviting, and there are a lot of conniving women out there ready to prove a point. But I could be wrong, maybe it's harmless. I asked a question, I asked for advice, I did not in any means state that I thought he was cheating. I just don't understand his behaviour. That is the purpose of my post.
This post was not intended to rub anyone the wrong way. But I don't appreciate your assumptions and the angle of your advice, so therefore, no comment from you would be just fine . You can read the post and move right along. I am not here to debate with anyone or to prove a point.
This post was not intended to rub anyone the wrong way. But I don't appreciate your assumptions and the angle of your advice, so therefore, no comment from you would be just fine . You can read the post and move right along. I am not here to debate with anyone or to prove a point.
And you know what... he is number one in my life and I flirt with guys that I work with but I mean no harm and I continue to stay committed. Everybody flirts, people flirt on here, DXP, flirting is a normal human interaction. Doesn't mean that I have to be like "oh ur out the door cuz ur talking to a girl." I use discretion and I am no drill sergeant and I ain't insecure. If you read my post thoroughly you would answer more appropriatly.
Maybe you need to read over your own posts. I am not making assumptions just reading what you wrote and commenting. I am not going to argue with you because you are being defensive to the point where it must have struck a nerve. I know alot of Cancer men and yes, they flirt (well the ones I know do alot) but it is NOT true that he only flirts with women he is not interested in because I slept with one that was a big flirt.
Did I pressure him or try to convince him of anything, um, no, he wanted ME. So, yes, the answer is he will cheat. YES, Cancer men will cheat just like ANY other man. It is no such thing as a loyal flirter.
I can relate big time to your situation. I know a Cancer man who will go out and flirt with alot of women in each others faces and they like you brush it off. His arse will run to the next bar and CHEAT as in go home with another women will all the other women he was flirting with will still sit down in the bar waiting on him.
YOUR answer, yes, he will cheat.
Did I pressure him or try to convince him of anything, um, no, he wanted ME. So, yes, the answer is he will cheat. YES, Cancer men will cheat just like ANY other man. It is no such thing as a loyal flirter.
I can relate big time to your situation. I know a Cancer man who will go out and flirt with alot of women in each others faces and they like you brush it off. His arse will run to the next bar and CHEAT as in go home with another women will all the other women he was flirting with will still sit down in the bar waiting on him.
YOUR answer, yes, he will cheat.
Struck a nerve! Haha that's funny. You're so into this, aren't you?... it's like a Cancer must have really done you bad.
No doubt! Men cheat. Who denied that? Your posts are just negative... I can hear in everyone of your posts that you're angry. There is nothing for me to be defensive about, I was clarifying myself.
Look it's just a thread... relax! For all you know this situation could be a fake situation. Good looking out! Don't hurt yourself trying to think too much about this though!
No doubt! Men cheat. Who denied that? Your posts are just negative... I can hear in everyone of your posts that you're angry. There is nothing for me to be defensive about, I was clarifying myself.
Look it's just a thread... relax! For all you know this situation could be a fake situation. Good looking out! Don't hurt yourself trying to think too much about this though!
What is a loyal flirter?
I know I am very angry, happy and in love and I guess that is the reason why my man doesn't look at or even flirt with other women. I must be very bitter to have a man love me longer than just one year.
You could nerve strike a nerve with me. I am happy and in love and good luck to you and your "friendly" Cancer man. I wish you the best of luck and I hope and will pray that he doesn't cheat on you. Now does that sound bitter.
You could nerve strike a nerve with me. I am happy and in love and good luck to you and your "friendly" Cancer man. I wish you the best of luck and I hope and will pray that he doesn't cheat on you. Now does that sound bitter.
You could nerve strike a nerve with me. You could never strike a nerve with me!
it's like a Cancer must have really done you bad.
Um, NO, I really done him bad. LOL!
Um, NO, I really done him bad. LOL!
You're so sweet!
maybe, you are acting more of a mom, and less of a sexy gf and therefore he is looking for sexy flirting from people who will give it and not pick out his shirt.
Leokitten it is not about the buying clothes! That is not the topic the topic is "friendly flirting. I don't know I don't take my man flirting lightly. Talking to other women and socializing is one thing. Friendly flirting is a different story.
Leokitten it is not about the buying clothes! That is not the topic the topic is "friendly flirting. I don't know I don't take my man flirting lightly. Talking to other women and socializing is one thing. Friendly flirting is a different story.
Yeah I have spoken to him about the flirting but he passes it off as "friendly". You know what... maybe it seems weird, but where we are from it is small. People are very into designer clothes and stuff and everyone is into going out and rocking the latest. As I am sure everywhere else is like. But because it's small, no one wnats to be caught wearing the same thing twice, so couples dress alike, in the same colors and stuff. Everyone's into it and if you lived in the Caribbean you would understand. That is where the clothes staement came in. I just didn't take the time to over explain.
Everyone's into it and if you lived in the Caribbean you would understand. That is where the clothes staement came in. I just didn't take the time to over explain.
Oh, well you live in a different part of the world, so yeah, maybe that is in style where you live. Here in America the "real" women who live here don't spoil men with clothing and we don't let them "friendly" flirt. I guess different life style s!
Oh, well you live in a different part of the world, so yeah, maybe that is in style where you live. Here in America the "real" women who live here don't spoil men with clothing and we don't let them "friendly" flirt. I guess different life style s!
Krobe I was not disagreeing with you about the principal of flirting, that's why my initial question was... "should I be mad or just leave it" I get very angry and my temper flares. So I wanted other opinions as to how they would take it. I am upset... I told you I am seeing red, but then there are other posts saying that they accept Cancers as just being that "friendly flirters".
Well excuse me! Since when does a different part of the world has to do with the moral of a woman. Am I less than a woman because I may have bought him a pink shirt that he would have never bought before or introduce him to a style that I thought was fly and he wasn't confident enough to try? Come on now... tell me that you haven't browsed in the mall and saw something that you wnated to get for a guy. Buying one or two items is not spoiling someone. Now you could say that if i bought him a car or a house.
I told you I am seeing red, but then there are other posts saying that they accept Cancers as just being that "friendly flirters".
They are friendly flirters. Each and every one I know is a friendly flirter. I don't know if they do it to see if you are going to react or to keep you up on your competition game. Some women on the boards think the flirting is cute. I just wouldn't take lightly to my man flirting but my man doesn't flirt. If he did, I wouldn't be with him. In my opinion, if MY man flirts with another woman(friendly or not) I wouldn't take it light and yes, I would go and be with someone else who didn't flirt as much.
They are friendly flirters. Each and every one I know is a friendly flirter. I don't know if they do it to see if you are going to react or to keep you up on your competition game. Some women on the boards think the flirting is cute. I just wouldn't take lightly to my man flirting but my man doesn't flirt. If he did, I wouldn't be with him. In my opinion, if MY man flirts with another woman(friendly or not) I wouldn't take it light and yes, I would go and be with someone else who didn't flirt as much.
Don't insult my intelligence. The statement you quoted me on was on the choices we make in dressing not buying clothes for our men or allowing flirting. Not everyone in American is the same, so just because you labelise yourself as not being into it doesn't mean someone else is isn't.
tell me that you haven't browsed in the mall and saw something that you wnated to get for a guy. Buying one or two items is not spoiling someone. Now you could say that if i bought him a car or a house.
Um, No I don't go to the mall and pick out anything for my man. LOL! I am not being cruel but I am not my man's mother and I don't intend of acting or being like one. If he wants a pink shirt and he wants to look good for ME, then he will buy it or he won't have a pink shirt or new shoes. Um, I think you took the different part of the world out of context. I don't spoil my man. I am his lover, not his mother. I don't buy his clothes for him to look good for me, he has to buy his own clothes.
I love him and I do what it necessary to do ONLY if he asks me to do for him. I won't just do for him because I want to do it. So, the answer is NO. I want a lover!
I want to be my man's lover! Not his mother. I can understand what you are saying because for some odd reason, some men want you to "act" motherish. I can see you are showing appreciation for him being your man. I show my appreciation through other ways.
Um, No I don't go to the mall and pick out anything for my man. LOL! I am not being cruel but I am not my man's mother and I don't intend of acting or being like one. If he wants a pink shirt and he wants to look good for ME, then he will buy it or he won't have a pink shirt or new shoes. Um, I think you took the different part of the world out of context. I don't spoil my man. I am his lover, not his mother. I don't buy his clothes for him to look good for me, he has to buy his own clothes.
I love him and I do what it necessary to do ONLY if he asks me to do for him. I won't just do for him because I want to do it. So, the answer is NO. I want a lover!
I want to be my man's lover! Not his mother. I can understand what you are saying because for some odd reason, some men want you to "act" motherish. I can see you are showing appreciation for him being your man. I show my appreciation through other ways.
Well he is classified as a friendly flirter then. It's just that he was really rude to other women before and now he actually strikes up conversation. That was all my post was really about. I hate hate flirting... but like u said some people find it cute. It just shows everyone is different. I Cancer guy could come on here and tell you something different as to why he flirts and that it's not a big deal. It didn't have to be such an issue.
Don't insult my intelligence. The statement you quoted me on was on the choices we make in dressing not buying clothes for our men or allowing flirting. Not everyone in American is the same, so just because you labelise yourself as not being into it doesn't mean someone else is isn't.
I don't HAVE to insult your intelligence. I think you are being in defensive mode and trying to defend the fact that your man "friendly" flirts. I am telling you ME, MYSELF and I won't ALLOW my man to flirt. Truthfully, he never has flirted with another woman.
I don't HAVE to insult your intelligence. I think you are being in defensive mode and trying to defend the fact that your man "friendly" flirts. I am telling you ME, MYSELF and I won't ALLOW my man to flirt. Truthfully, he never has flirted with another woman.
It didn't have to be such an issue.
It is NOT an issue if your Cancer man flirts. Not a issue at all some women find men who flirt cute. I even stated myself that I don't mind my man talking to other women. It doesn't bother me. IF he flirted, I wouldn't take it lightly but to each's own. My man has never flirted with another woman around me. I don't know what he does behind my back and truthfully I don't care.
It is NOT an issue if your Cancer man flirts. Not a issue at all some women find men who flirt cute. I even stated myself that I don't mind my man talking to other women. It doesn't bother me. IF he flirted, I wouldn't take it lightly but to each's own. My man has never flirted with another woman around me. I don't know what he does behind my back and truthfully I don't care.
My gosh... did I say I accepted his flirting. Did I say I buy his clothes? I thought I explianed all this already. Don't mothers cook as well... because you cook for your man it makes you his mother? Ladies please! I was really looking for a guy's response and I thought I made that clear. Why does it seem like a select few in here like to argue? Noone is supposed to judge anyone. Leo Kitten I have read some of your posts and I have never judged your reationship with your guy and there are things that you do that I would not... but it's not my business... u know ur man and u know ur relationship.
as a cancer who flirts 9/10 Im not aware of my flirting until somone brings it up.
So he might not be trying to intentionally disrespect you; but merely becoming more socila -or what he perceives as social but is misinterperted as flirting.
maybe you are used to him being shy and reserved and the *new him* will take some time to get used to.
Btw ; i dont see a problem with buying clothes from him from time to time as long as its reciprocated and not expected.
So he might not be trying to intentionally disrespect you; but merely becoming more socila -or what he perceives as social but is misinterperted as flirting.
maybe you are used to him being shy and reserved and the *new him* will take some time to get used to.
Btw ; i dont see a problem with buying clothes from him from time to time as long as its reciprocated and not expected.
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might I suggest that perhaps he is feeling confident and happy? What I mean is first of all, he is feeling good about the two of you so he is a happier person now than he was before and that reflects in how he treats the woprld around him - he thinks he is just being friendly because that is what he is being, but to others [including you] it seems like more because he has....mmm...a certain glow about him? not sure of a better way to put that.... but I tyhink he is just excited and happy. Second, it is also possible that he is so confident in your relationship that he no longer feels the need to go out of his way top be rude to other women because he loves you and believes that you know that and are just as confident in your relationship as he is. I.E. he thinks his behavior won't bother you because you KNOW he is yours and yours alone.
oh and remmeber that leos like attention. His venus may cause him to be overly friendly, but I wouldn't worry about it too much - leos like attention but can still be loyal while seeking it, and he is still a cancer at heart.
and yes - if you spoil a cancer they will spoil you back - trust me 
I probably should have saved my comments until I finished reading..;. but oh well.... but wanted to mention one thing - I am a taurus as well! I know I've confused a lot of people with my screen name....
hmmmm....I wonder....you haven't exactly said WHAT he says to these other girls... now some people might consider one thing flirting while as you said [he does] others consider it friendly.... if he thinks he is only being friendly then I ask you to consider this:
I used to be a waitress and when I waitressed there were certain people who came into the restaurant the same night every week to sit in my section and talk to me - people of all different demographics; one of which was an old couple, from Israel I think, and the man likes to chat in forums likes these and post wisdom as "mr. X" and he would sometimes leave me notes or tell me things, sharing his wisdom with me. One time I was telling him about a guy I was dating and he asked me how the guy treats other people besides me - he told me that it is not only important how a man treats you because he will do anything to get you, but what is just as important, and maybe more so, is how he treats OTHER people.... because here you see what he is really like when he is not trying to impress someone.... so my question to you is - if you really think long and hard about it, is he flirting? or is he being a good man to you AND people in general?
I used to be a waitress and when I waitressed there were certain people who came into the restaurant the same night every week to sit in my section and talk to me - people of all different demographics; one of which was an old couple, from Israel I think, and the man likes to chat in forums likes these and post wisdom as "mr. X" and he would sometimes leave me notes or tell me things, sharing his wisdom with me. One time I was telling him about a guy I was dating and he asked me how the guy treats other people besides me - he told me that it is not only important how a man treats you because he will do anything to get you, but what is just as important, and maybe more so, is how he treats OTHER people.... because here you see what he is really like when he is not trying to impress someone.... so my question to you is - if you really think long and hard about it, is he flirting? or is he being a good man to you AND people in general?
xangelfishx has a good point, and don't forget that cancers love to socialise and talk to just about anyone, they are very friendly and that is what makes them comfortable.not everybody is the same and maybe that is why you see this differently, i am the exact oposite but i trust my cancer 100% , so it may be that you are a bit insecure....please don't take this the wrong way, he may not even realise that he is doing it...i know we tend to be very jealous and possessive but like leokitten was saying accept him for who he is!!!!if the flirting goes over the board then call him on it and i am sure that it will not happen again if he cares about you.
don't look too much into it, just try and go with the flow!!!
don't look too much into it, just try and go with the flow!!!
Lucky Star: LOL yep I am very possessive, that's why, before I called him out on it? I wanted to be sure that I wasn't over reacting. I will mention it to him again and be more watchful of his actions to see how far he would take it.
Kel19: I think he would take a step back, but I haven't really pushed the issue with him? because I didn't want him to think I was controlling him. But you Cancers are harmless and sometimes we bull headed people read you wrong.
Cute Crab: Good Points! I don't see the problem either with buying one shirt here and there. It's not like I go out and buy his boxers and socks. But oh well?some women view things different.
AngelFish: I just have to say that I really appreciate your advice. I have never read where you gave biased advice. I guess because we are Taurus and we know of Cancers, we understand. Everything you said has been in the back of my mind, but I needed confirmation that it wasn't just in my head. Thanks for confirming certain things, like ?it seems like more because he has....mmm...a certain glow about him? not sure of a better way to put that.... but I tyhink he is just excited and happy.? And ?but what is just as important, and maybe more so, is how he treats OTHER people....? . It feels better to hear someone say what I was thinking. I try to understand Cancers so much and I don't take everything he does in a bad way, I try to look at it in a positive way. Certain people may look at this and think that I'm just a woman being submissive and fool, but I feel like when you want love you give love and that includes understanding and trusting. Thanks again, because I think that you and I really relate to each other.
Scorpio978: Thank you? that's exactly what I have been trying to do, go with the flow. But I just wasn't certain if this was the right thing. Glad to hear that this would be your first instinct as well. J
Thanks guys!
Kel19: I think he would take a step back, but I haven't really pushed the issue with him? because I didn't want him to think I was controlling him. But you Cancers are harmless and sometimes we bull headed people read you wrong.
Cute Crab: Good Points! I don't see the problem either with buying one shirt here and there. It's not like I go out and buy his boxers and socks. But oh well?some women view things different.
AngelFish: I just have to say that I really appreciate your advice. I have never read where you gave biased advice. I guess because we are Taurus and we know of Cancers, we understand. Everything you said has been in the back of my mind, but I needed confirmation that it wasn't just in my head. Thanks for confirming certain things, like ?it seems like more because he has....mmm...a certain glow about him? not sure of a better way to put that.... but I tyhink he is just excited and happy.? And ?but what is just as important, and maybe more so, is how he treats OTHER people....? . It feels better to hear someone say what I was thinking. I try to understand Cancers so much and I don't take everything he does in a bad way, I try to look at it in a positive way. Certain people may look at this and think that I'm just a woman being submissive and fool, but I feel like when you want love you give love and that includes understanding and trusting. Thanks again, because I think that you and I really relate to each other.
Scorpio978: Thank you? that's exactly what I have been trying to do, go with the flow. But I just wasn't certain if this was the right thing. Glad to hear that this would be your first instinct as well. J
Thanks guys!
I agree with you Firecraker. It really wasn't everybody bashing the clothes issue is was more so Krobe. She was going crazy like we had a personal beef or something. Then LeoKitten jumped in and thought it was cute to say that I was acting like his mother and not his sexy chica. Both of them have issues. A mature woman would know what to do with a man and they both seem like they are into foolish games by playing hard, trying to get a man to do everything for them. It's the modern world, what kind of real woman would allow a man to "do for them" like Krobe mentioned. Anyway. I ignore people like that, they literally got me exhausted replying to there useless posts.
But he doesn't go that far as to call others baby and stuff and I would definitly call him up on that. But it's just strange that he was very stand offish before and now he's open. But like it was mentioned in the other post maybe he's more happier and he can't help now but to put his guard down to everyone that he is around. It's just something I wasn't used to and i wanted advice on whether it was a warning sign. But you're absolutly right Cancers have that outgoing personality and can be friendly, its just something I should not look into too hard. Thanks
But he doesn't go that far as to call others baby and stuff and I would definitly call him up on that. But it's just strange that he was very stand offish before and now he's open. But like it was mentioned in the other post maybe he's more happier and he can't help now but to put his guard down to everyone that he is around. It's just something I wasn't used to and i wanted advice on whether it was a warning sign. But you're absolutly right Cancers have that outgoing personality and can be friendly, its just something I should not look into too hard. Thanks
well done, you got it now, you found out exactly what you needed....it is normal to be worried a bit since you don't know him very well yet....to be honest i think he even likes it that you called him on it as it is a sign that you care, don't worry that much, once a cancer is into you h will only have eyes for you....
i don't know what other people think but i think that it is very nice that you buy him dear Lady_taurus, shirts and little "attentions", that doesn't mean that you are his mum, but in his eyes it means that you care.....i buy things for my cancer too, and he is a body builder it is very difficult to find shirts that fit his arms, one day when he was trying out one shirt, it didn't fit and i said "that is it...i give up!!!", he got so upset and said, "oh, no baby, never say that, that means you will never buy me nice things!!!!", so these are gestures that are very valuable in their eyes!!!!and of course he makes sure that i am rewarded in every meaning of the word!!!
please do not get offended about what other people write, we are all different and we see things differently, we all try and help each other which is very nice!!!
all the best to you and your cancer and keep us posted, please!!!
i don't know what other people think but i think that it is very nice that you buy him dear Lady_taurus, shirts and little "attentions", that doesn't mean that you are his mum, but in his eyes it means that you care.....i buy things for my cancer too, and he is a body builder it is very difficult to find shirts that fit his arms, one day when he was trying out one shirt, it didn't fit and i said "that is it...i give up!!!", he got so upset and said, "oh, no baby, never say that, that means you will never buy me nice things!!!!", so these are gestures that are very valuable in their eyes!!!!and of course he makes sure that i am rewarded in every meaning of the word!!!
please do not get offended about what other people write, we are all different and we see things differently, we all try and help each other which is very nice!!!
all the best to you and your cancer and keep us posted, please!!!
Thank you... I agree... Cancers love little gestures that show that you care and that's why I don't have a problem with doing anything for him... because I know that he'll repay me.
LOL... yeah I'm sure when your BF heard that you give up, he got so sad! They are really sensitive like that... he probably played your words over and over in his head. I am at fault for saying things to get my Cancer all emotional. He feels like I'll abandon him.
I know people give advice in different ways, but I don't appreciate people coming at angles that point fingers and insult. It's never appropriate for anyone. If you can't come across nice or if you feel like you'll be misunderstood then it's best to not say anything at all.
Thank you and good luck with your Cancer as well!
LOL... yeah I'm sure when your BF heard that you give up, he got so sad! They are really sensitive like that... he probably played your words over and over in his head. I am at fault for saying things to get my Cancer all emotional. He feels like I'll abandon him.
I know people give advice in different ways, but I don't appreciate people coming at angles that point fingers and insult. It's never appropriate for anyone. If you can't come across nice or if you feel like you'll be misunderstood then it's best to not say anything at all.
Thank you and good luck with your Cancer as well!
please do not get offended about what other people write, we are all different and we see things differently, we all try and help each other which is very nice!!!
all the best to you and your cancer and keep us posted, please!!!
Very nicely put Scorp978, what other women do for men, some women don't. It doesn't mean that we don't love or appreciate our men, we just see things differently. Only simple minded individuals get defensive and ignorant. I wouldn't actually care what another woman had to say about my man. I KNOW he brings home his all to me and that is really the only thing that matters.
all the best to you and your cancer and keep us posted, please!!!
Very nicely put Scorp978, what other women do for men, some women don't. It doesn't mean that we don't love or appreciate our men, we just see things differently. Only simple minded individuals get defensive and ignorant. I wouldn't actually care what another woman had to say about my man. I KNOW he brings home his all to me and that is really the only thing that matters.
I know people give advice in different ways, but I don't appreciate people coming at angles that point fingers and insult. It's never appropriate for anyone. If you can't come across nice or if you feel like you'll be misunderstood then it's best to not say anything at all.
I really don't see any finger pointing to anything you stated. Me and Leokitten gave our opinions and if it doesn't fit well with you, don't read our posts. It is plain and simple. No one said anything mean to you, that is just how you took it. Oh but we are so bitter and mean. No, we are not bitter or mean we are just letting you know how we feel about certain things and we don't like mothering men. e don't have to be nice or sensitive, if advice is to harsh oh well don't read it.
I have a life, no time to argue. Hello Scorp 978 glad to hear you are doing so well. I am so happy for you! Good keep your Cancer man and buy him all the clothes you want. I hope he is happy with your taste.
I really don't see any finger pointing to anything you stated. Me and Leokitten gave our opinions and if it doesn't fit well with you, don't read our posts. It is plain and simple. No one said anything mean to you, that is just how you took it. Oh but we are so bitter and mean. No, we are not bitter or mean we are just letting you know how we feel about certain things and we don't like mothering men. e don't have to be nice or sensitive, if advice is to harsh oh well don't read it.
I have a life, no time to argue. Hello Scorp 978 glad to hear you are doing so well. I am so happy for you! Good keep your Cancer man and buy him all the clothes you want. I hope he is happy with your taste.
thank you Lady_taurus, always think positive,push the negative thoughts away they will only be in the way of the straght thoughts and happiness...oh, and thank you for your nice wish!!!don't be a stranger, and i am glad to give my input anytime!!!
hello krobe03, i hope my doing very well is catching all through out the dxp board, thanks for the nice thoughts and all your input, it is nice to have people that see things differently help you, it helped me detach from being subjective!!!!all the best to you too...
hello krobe03, i hope my doing very well is catching all through out the dxp board, thanks for the nice thoughts and all your input, it is nice to have people that see things differently help you, it helped me detach from being subjective!!!!all the best to you too...
You know what? I'm the type to buy things and baby my man too - and I'm very proud of it. It's who I am and I need a man who is happy with me that way. So no matter what anyone else thinks of your behavior the bottom line is you don't need to act a certain way to get a good man...a good man is one who will love you the way you are 
Any time and thank you too Scorpio!
Exactly Angel! But i guess we are not "real" women because we think like that.
Krobe: "I really don't see any finger pointing to anything you stated. Me and Leokitten gave our opinions and if it doesn't fit well with you, don't read our posts. It is plain and simple. No one said anything mean to you, that is just how you took it."
Are you for real? Then what were your intentions when you said this?
"He is basically playing you for face value."
"Let him do for YOU, that is the only way a man can feel like a man. If you are spoiling him, he will get used to you being there and you will just be there. Will he cheat, UM, yeap probably."
"You are making excuses for him!"
"Cancer men are not the ONLY men who spoil their lovers! YOU are not being a challenge."
"I know I am very angry, happy and in love and I guess that is the reason why my man doesn't look at or even flirt with other women. I must be very bitter to have a man love me longer than just one year."
"Oh, well you live in a different part of the world, so yeah, maybe that is in style where you live. Here in America the "real" women who live here don't spoil men with clothing and we don't let them "friendly" flirt. I guess different life style s!"
"I am his lover, not his mother. I don't buy his clothes for him to look good for me, he has to buy his own clothes."
Having said all this, you then turn around and say:
"I am telling you ME, MYSELF and I won't ALLOW my man to flirt. Truthfully, he never has flirted with another woman."
You are a joke and I don't have time for little kids. Little kids need to learn to shut up and get out the room when grown ups are talking! Ah... wats that? Ah I said we don't need to hear you.... grown ups are talking!
Exactly Angel! But i guess we are not "real" women because we think like that.
Krobe: "I really don't see any finger pointing to anything you stated. Me and Leokitten gave our opinions and if it doesn't fit well with you, don't read our posts. It is plain and simple. No one said anything mean to you, that is just how you took it."
Are you for real? Then what were your intentions when you said this?
"He is basically playing you for face value."
"Let him do for YOU, that is the only way a man can feel like a man. If you are spoiling him, he will get used to you being there and you will just be there. Will he cheat, UM, yeap probably."
"You are making excuses for him!"
"Cancer men are not the ONLY men who spoil their lovers! YOU are not being a challenge."
"I know I am very angry, happy and in love and I guess that is the reason why my man doesn't look at or even flirt with other women. I must be very bitter to have a man love me longer than just one year."
"Oh, well you live in a different part of the world, so yeah, maybe that is in style where you live. Here in America the "real" women who live here don't spoil men with clothing and we don't let them "friendly" flirt. I guess different life style s!"
"I am his lover, not his mother. I don't buy his clothes for him to look good for me, he has to buy his own clothes."
Having said all this, you then turn around and say:
"I am telling you ME, MYSELF and I won't ALLOW my man to flirt. Truthfully, he never has flirted with another woman."
You are a joke and I don't have time for little kids. Little kids need to learn to shut up and get out the room when grown ups are talking! Ah... wats that? Ah I said we don't need to hear you.... grown ups are talking!
oh yes, I've been told I'm not a "real" woman before on here.... I know of at least one cancer man who would completely disagree
Angel I think that's the peoblem with you and I, we are just real. We don't have to come on here and pretend like these little girls. I saw your man defending ya today Go CJ!
LeoKitten: I was mainly speaking about Krobe.... but since you wanna start with me let's have it! You laugh at me?!! Laugh at yourself little girl, because you're the one coming up in here and posting your fantasy life. I have never heard so much duyum shiat in my life. Not even in the real world. You may think you have the best relationship in here... but anyone can make up a perfect relationship. I can see through your posts and you're always ranting on about your Cancer guy. If someone asks for advice... you're like "oh well my cancer guy this.... and my cancer guy that." That's all good for you... glad everything is perfect... but don't be coming on here and putting other people down because they choose to do things in a different way. It doesn't make you a better or stronger woman and it sure as hell doesn't make a difference to me what the hell goes on in your life.
I have been on here for a while... I am no stranger here! I read the posts and I am up to date with other's on here... but I choose wisely when I comment. I come on here when I get bored... it's not a hobby and it's not my life. You on the other hand seem to think this is your personal blogger.Do as you wish but please effing relax! Maybe if you were so concerned about your boyfriend you wouldn't come on here all the time and post every single moment that goes on in your life. Who the eff cares? People come on here for advice... not to compete with someone else to prove who has a better relationship.
I told you little girls to go and play with your dolls! Grown folks are talking and it's past your bed time! I ain't insecure... everybody has there little tiffs... and if you are for real, you and your boyfriend wouldn't be all perfect all the time. Feed that BS to your class mates. I don't know why I am even wasting my time with you! My dear... don't fuss yourself over other people's problems... if you're so happy and your relationship is so lala... then you should be floating in air all the time in cotton candy land. Stop getting all heated... your plastic might melt! Stay in school... keep your head in the books and out of the computer... it's fogging your brain!
Go CJ!LeoKitten: I was mainly speaking about Krobe.... but since you wanna start with me let's have it! You laugh at me?!! Laugh at yourself little girl, because you're the one coming up in here and posting your fantasy life. I have never heard so much duyum shiat in my life. Not even in the real world. You may think you have the best relationship in here... but anyone can make up a perfect relationship. I can see through your posts and you're always ranting on about your Cancer guy. If someone asks for advice... you're like "oh well my cancer guy this.... and my cancer guy that." That's all good for you... glad everything is perfect... but don't be coming on here and putting other people down because they choose to do things in a different way. It doesn't make you a better or stronger woman and it sure as hell doesn't make a difference to me what the hell goes on in your life.
I have been on here for a while... I am no stranger here! I read the posts and I am up to date with other's on here... but I choose wisely when I comment. I come on here when I get bored... it's not a hobby and it's not my life. You on the other hand seem to think this is your personal blogger.Do as you wish but please effing relax! Maybe if you were so concerned about your boyfriend you wouldn't come on here all the time and post every single moment that goes on in your life. Who the eff cares? People come on here for advice... not to compete with someone else to prove who has a better relationship.
I told you little girls to go and play with your dolls! Grown folks are talking and it's past your bed time! I ain't insecure... everybody has there little tiffs... and if you are for real, you and your boyfriend wouldn't be all perfect all the time. Feed that BS to your class mates. I don't know why I am even wasting my time with you! My dear... don't fuss yourself over other people's problems... if you're so happy and your relationship is so lala... then you should be floating in air all the time in cotton candy land. Stop getting all heated... your plastic might melt! Stay in school... keep your head in the books and out of the computer... it's fogging your brain!
omg. i must laugh at you. you cannot even recognize your own foibles. you post about your problem, but then we have problems.
i have one of the best relationships going on this board...and you insult...based on what? i don't buy him clothes and concern myself with image all the time and tell him what to do....
look at yourself to find the answers to the insecurity that you are obviously displaying.
Thank you, Leokitten you should know, don't waste your time, it is catty!
i have one of the best relationships going on this board...and you insult...based on what? i don't buy him clothes and concern myself with image all the time and tell him what to do....
look at yourself to find the answers to the insecurity that you are obviously displaying.
Thank you, Leokitten you should know, don't waste your time, it is catty!
LOL! She listens to to much rap music! Her man wants a independent dime on his mind who spoils him. She doesn't trip all she wants is DI@@!
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