Can ex loves be friends with Cancer guys?

For all that have followed my posts, I beleive I left off distancing myself from my cancer guy and going on with my life. I don't anticipate he will call or I will see him, in fact if he never did I would totally be fine with that. To my way of thinking that is much better than spending time with someone who has so many ups and downs in their live on a daily basis.

So yesterday I got a voice mail from him inviting me to a local NFL football game ( I am a huge fan) His message was cute, and funny and I still like him, just because someone is emotionally imbalanced in the love department does not mean they are not a nice person. I also think it is a waste of emotion to be mad or upset with someone because they do not have the capacity to be who we would like them to be.

I called him back and we chatted a bit, told me he was getting his ex's name/tatoo taken off of his backside and a few other things. Told him I would enjoy going to the game with him.

I am totally over him in the emotional department and I am wondering from the perspective of a cancer man, can a cancer guy truly be friends with someone he once loved and contemplated a future with. I am really hoping that this is not some game to try to reel me back in because it simply is not going to happen. I am dating and seeing other men, I do not initiate contact with my cancer ex. Do I still love him, of course, but I have NO aspirations of a future with a man who is emotionally imbalanced.

So can cancer men be your friend after the "let's be in love and plan for the future" phase has ended. I hope so. Scorpio women can see the world the way it is, like I say, I live in Kansas City, not Disney World.

Kate

If the Cancer guy is emotionally over the ex ***AND*** the ex is strong enough to withstand any possible head games in the future they could probably be friends.

What I mean is that the Cancer guys I've been with, they'll still try to see if you'll get with them. To see if they can control you and sweet talk, guilt trip, or otherwise manipulate you into wanting to be with them. I don't give in to that, so we end up having a hard time being "friends". It hurts their egos and feelings that I won't act like I'm all in love with them after we've broken up.

It ends up being an on again, off again type of friendship based on how recently I rejected their advances.

Of course if your ex is not like my exes it could be a better situation with more possibility of friendship. 🙂

it depends on the people if they can be friends after a breakup... but in your case, i think it *MAY* be way too soon for him to jump into friend mode... i hope i'm wrong, but i find it hard to believe that a cancer, especially when we're in our clingy mode--such as what you've described with him, can simply cool their emotional jets and switch to just being friends this quickly. of course, i think you should see for yourself first, but that's just my two cents.

but as a general rule of thumb for *MYSELF*, i don't stay friends with exes. there are too many memories involved, and emotions are too easily triggered for me to deal with, and since i put everything into a relationship, it becomes quite a drain.

The Cancer guy that I know remains friends with his exes. To what capacity, I am not certain. I think that they like to hold on to past friends, ex-loves, etc. just for the memories. They like the past and sometimes live in it.

It's impossible for me to remain friends with the only woman I've truly been in love with. I still want to be with her and it's been two years. Talk about holding onto the past, lol. I don't mind being friends with any of my other exes.