can i trust cancer? are they liars?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by libramon on Monday, April 17, 2017 and has 18 replies.
I will try to keep this story as short as possible,

Few years ago met this cancer man. We were attracted to each other instantly.

But we both were in on/off relationships. He broke up with her and were back together and it continued for years. She was manipulative, liar and cheater. Once he made a decision to break up with her for good to be with me, but she fighted for him.

We tried to stay friends all this time couse we worked together. He trusted me I guess couse he was never afraid to be emotional in front of me. I was always there for him with my advice. I never fought for him like she did, couse I knew he still loves her. And I just wanted him to be happy even if its means we will never be together. But i never lost my hope that some day he will be out of this toxic relationships and will see clearly how bad she is treating him. But we all know this saying - love is blind.

After few years he moved back home and I moved on, couse he wasn't around me anymore. It became a bit easier for me, but I was never truly happy with my life.

Then one day out of blue he just contacted me. They broke up for good. He said that he was just thinking about his life whole life and he made biggest mistake of his life for not being with me when he had a chance, couse he always loved me. He was blinded by love but now he sees clearly that I am the one who always cared for him and I am the most amazing person on earth. I am sweet and kind and so on.

There happened so much in past few years, but i tried to keep this story very short. I know he was always attracted to me and he never wanted to hurt me on purpose but he did.

I dont know if i can trust him now, couse I dont want to be hurt again by him.

Are cancer man like this? Should I trust him or Am I just a rebound couse he doesnt want to alone and dont want to start all over with new relationships? Am I just something safe and something he knows very well?
Ah the infamous crab walk. LOL
"can i trust cancer?"

LOL
The men can be amazing, but they are unreliable and erratic.
All crabs are lairs dont let them fool you ...

Right @secret ?


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Posted by libramon
Are cancer man like this? Should I trust him or Am I just a rebound couse he doesnt want to alone and dont want to start all over with new relationships? Am I just something safe and something he knows very well?
Men dont lie, especially cancer men.

Posted by Distilled
Lie....

...Men lie.

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If you are asking yourself this question, then don't just move on to someone you feel secure with. Otherwise, you will be asking yourself this question your whole life.
Posted by libramon

Then one day out of blue he just contacted me. They broke up for good. He said that he was just thinking about his life whole life and he made biggest mistake of his life for not being with me when he had a chance, couse he always loved me. He was blinded by love but now he sees clearly that I am the one who always cared for him and I am the most amazing person on earth. I am sweet and kind and so on.

I don't believe that he is lying to you.

He didn't hurt you, it was your choice not to pursue it.

Of course, with good reason.

However, I do think you should meet him for a cup of coffee.

Love can be subjective, therefore can have a myriad of interpretations.

His love for you can be equated to a safety net, a particular fondness, respect...but ask yourself this, is his love for you euphoric, unapologetic.

Euphoric and unapologetic is what he felt for his cheating girlfriend.

Not to say that he will/or may or not feel the same way for you, but only meeting with him in person will tell.

When do DO agree to meet with him, trust your instincts in regards to a possible future with him.


Posted by TaurusBull1977

His love for you can be equated to a safety net, a particular fondness, respect...


This may indicate that although he might love you, he might hurt you unintentionally....down the road.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Euphoric and unapologetic is what he felt for his cheating girlfriend.
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This indicates that his love for you is constant, any betrayal that compromises this feeling, will ultimately come from you.


Meet him for coffee and use your instinct to navigate the difference.

Posted by Freetobe007
The thing with Cancers is that sometimes, they can't even trust themselves. Some Cancers can't even trust their own mental mechanics to function efficiently. Therefore, you cannot trust their ability to control their own nature.

You can't trust this situation. Here you have a man who's brain is most likely still chemically attached to a woman. Whether it worked out or not, he was planting an emotional harvest with her for years. Who knows how much emotional bagge he's carrying behind those promising words. Now there's a sort of uprooting process that would have to take place for him to be able to deliver a healthy, trustworthy, harmonious relationship which can be difficult for Cancer sun signs because they tend to sink into their emotions.
I hate to admit this is true yet people who give up on Cancers rarely end up vastly happier with someone else unless the Cancer was just a complete psycho and most of the time you just misunderstood our intentions. We are the most personal sign of the zodiac. If we are attracted to you completely then you get our all for real. Good and Bad and we will take yours if you take our on genuinely. Some people can't handle that once they are in the depth of it with us. I don't know why, I guess people want love but only superficially but can't bring themselves to admit it. Some have even admitted to me that their love is conditional.. If you find a Cancer doing a disappearing act it is most likely because he has loved so strongly before and he experienced the fallout from it going wrong. What we do to people isn't as bad as what has been done to us in some cases so us ignoring you isn't really a knock on the person. We have to protect ourselves above all else and explain later once your in our circle. We have let so many undeserving people it has drained us emotionally over the years. Its not like we haven't been to battle before...

However,I don't get offended as a more evolved Cancer because alot of these people I gave my all too ended up finding fault with other people. Ive looked at some of my ex's and their continued problems over a 15 year period and realized they pull the same things on other people they did with me. They complained about my neediness or my overprotectivness but traded it for someone with a drinking problem that was physically abusive. I am convinced some people don't even know what they really want, that is why a Cancer can end up being player as what is the point after a while. I still find myself trying for romance but I don't open myself up nearly as fast as I once did.

Some people want the mystery with Cancer but don't want the substance...
I think cancers tend to stay with an ex lover more than a new one just because it is safe.. He probably was very emotionally attached to his ex and was afraid to be with someone new. I think it has more to do with the motional attachment.. I have experienced this as a cancer. It is hard to leave someone we have attached to, but once we do we don't go back anymore. smile That's me though..
Nope they don't lie. Never ever. Honest as Jesus.
Posted by Solesan
Nope they don't lie. Never ever. Honest as Jesus.
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Posted by HighTide
Posted by Freetobe007
The thing with Cancers is that sometimes, they can't even trust themselves. Some Cancers can't even trust their own mental mechanics to function efficiently. Therefore, you cannot trust their ability to control their own nature.

You can't trust this situation. Here you have a man who's brain is most likely still chemically attached to a woman. Whether it worked out or not, he was planting an emotional harvest with her for years. Who knows how much emotional bagge he's carrying behind those promising words. Now there's a sort of uprooting process that would have to take place for him to be able to deliver a healthy, trustworthy, harmonious relationship which can be difficult for Cancer sun signs because they tend to sink into their emotions.
I hate to admit this is true yet people who give up on Cancers rarely end up vastly happier with someone else unless the Cancer was just a complete psycho and most of the time you just misunderstood our intentions. We are the most personal sign of the zodiac. If we are attracted to you completely then you get our all for real. Good and Bad and we will take yours if you take our on genuinely. Some people can't handle that once they are in the depth of it with us. I don't know why, I guess people want love but only superficially but can't bring themselves to admit it. Some have even admitted to me that their love is conditional.. If you find a Cancer doing a disappearing act it is most likely because he has loved so strongly before and he experienced the fallout from it going wrong. What we do to people isn't as bad as what has been done to us in some cases so us ignoring you isn't really a knock on the person. We have to protect ourselves above all else and explain later once your in our circle. We have let so many undeserving people it has drained us emotionally over the years. Its not like we haven't been to battle before...

However,I don't get offended as a more evolved Cancer because alot of these people I gave my all too ended up finding fault with other people. Ive looked at some of my ex's and their continued problems over a 15 year period and realized they pull the same things on other people they did with me. They complained about my neediness or my overprotectivness but traded it for someone with a drinking problem that was physically abusive. I am convinced some people don't even know what they really want, that is why a Cancer can end up being player as what is the point after a while. I still find myself trying for romance but I don't open myself up nearly as fast as I once did.

Some people want the mystery with Cancer but don't want the substance...
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This is honestly why I still work with my cancer. It's a lot of work , a lot of hurt , a lot of patience . I'm a Virgo so I'm really patience . It's 4 years now but I learn new things about him with every disappearance and every fight . He tolerate my personality a little better too . Whether we ll one day get married after all this work is a mystery . The most important thing to me is trust . He's thrown everything at me but never broke my trust . That's how I've been able to continue

I have 2 cancer who never lied , almost so honest you can sense the hurt sometimes.

Then I know one who is a cheater and liar . Gets defensive defensive when anyone talk about liars and Cheater as if it was thrown directly at him . Kinda funny , kinda sad that he did that to himself. If he just came forward with the girl he cheated on who already know deep down that he cheated. He would feel better as I don't think they girl would leave
I agree with coldwateryvirgo,

But, I will do anything in my favor in a relationship(even lie). Everything actually not jus relationships!! Even if that means being so honest its hurts.
If a cancer has had their heart truly broken once before, you can trust them. If not, nope. They do not yet understand the importance of love.