Can some one help with this cancer guy?

Hey
Can some one please help as I'm very confused about this cancer guy.
We went on are first date and it was terrible!
I live a fair bit away from this guy so I traveled up to go on a date with him..It was kinda a blind date he is a friend of a friend and we got chatting on Facebook.. We meet and that was it I was so shy I couldn't even talk, He tried his best to get me talking but nothing was coming LOL He was very shy aswell and it was getting uncomfy..Anyway he made his excuses and went after 2 hours! ( I don't blame him) Anyway the following night he contacted me and said I'm sorry I wasn't what you was expecting...Hello I thought Id been well blown out ..So he was texting me everyday and being so sweet..anyway we sorted that out and went on a 2nd date:

So the 2nd date was a lot better!! I was still very shy but not as much as the first time, he was total different to the first time i met him he was laughing and joking and playing about with me...I ended up staying at his house that night..The next day he took me to the train station carried my bags, sent me a text while i was on the train saying text me when you get home so i know you got back safe........ he is so sweet!
Then I started to hear less from him he would only text me every other day when b4 it was all the time and then some days I would hear from him more than others.. so 2 weeks after the date I thought right Jim going to get to the bottom of this and I asked him : right whats going on your being distant is that cos your not interested? he replied to me ...Of course Jim interested You've been alittle distant aswell I was waiting for the more chatty you to come out... anyway a couple of days later he sent me a text asking if he was going to get to see me before he goes traveling for a month...So now I'm confused is he only asking cos i put him on the spot??

How often do you seek him out compared to how often he's been texting you?

I don't really text him a great deal, I only really reply to his texts.

Thanks for the advice..Tried to contact him today but no reply, So that's it I'm washing my hands on this guy.....Think I'm going to stick with my fellow fire signs (wink)...

Posted by Aries82
I don't really text him a great deal, I only really reply to his texts.

So, remind me again why are you surprised that he's becoming distant? You don't really look to call him, but you expect him to keep doing it? Isn't that hypocritical? I don't understand why you're confused. It's very simple. You don't seem interested. When people are interested in one another, they seek to call, text, communicate in some way with one another. You're just sitting back and expecting him to keep doting on you. A cancerian won't do that.

Thanks for the advice..Tried to contact him today but no reply, So that's it I'm washing my hands on this guy.....Think I'm going to stick with my fellow fire signs (wink)...

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Did you ever consider that he cannot respond? Aren't you being a bit dramatic?

It's probably a good plan to wash your hands of this whole thing, it isn't going to work, I can see that already, you seem a bit too selfish from what I can tell.

Posted by Aries82
Thanks for the advice..Tried to contact him today but no reply, So that's it I'm washing my hands on this guy.....Think I'm going to stick with my fellow fire signs (wink)...

You said you been acting coy and shy? That doesnt even SOUND like an Aries to me!!! I'm a Cancer with an Aries. I Love how he makes me laugh all the time, listens and is not shy about what he wants. The key to a Cancers heart (besides food) is laughter. We have a tendency to KNOW when someone is REALLY interested. And if your so quick to wash your hands to him, you obviously were not that interested anyways... So best you move on, good for you and GOOD LUCK!

Don't get me wrong I have Tried to make contact with him...But a lot of the time his not very chatty I found him to be more chatty when he contacts me..Thats why I waited for him to make the contact with me. Plus I didn't want to come across as coming on to strong seems as he texts most days..

Cancergodess, I'm very shy when it comes to men Lol it don't last long! Ive read that many post on cancers being sensitive Im scared to death of offending him with how blunt I am so I think that plays a big part in me being shy.

Anyway he returned my call last night and it seems I have been a little selfish ...I just didnt know I was doing it!!..
Date 3 is going ahead and at least now I have a lil inside info I'll try and put it to good use :O) xx

"do not think before they speak, I think their mouths open first and then the mind thinks lol" < That is so true and it gets me in to loads of trouble lol...So I made the contact today and not only do we have a 3rd date but a 4th as well rather pleased with myself :O) lol

my comment is im an aries if you want a cancer (i am with a really great cancer gurl ) be strait with him some thing like "damn boi i like you but where did you go?"

ask ?'s

and talk i think hes prolly not feeling the he text you more than you textin him

~MrCeribdis

I don't know I guess it depends on the Cancer man. Some I have met like you to be a bit fiesty. Quit enough to listen to them and not judge or criticize their thoughts. Just listen without interuption. Plus initiation. You will get the best out of ANY relationship with any man if you let him do the initiating. It will keep you out of friends zone and he will constantly have a desirable passion for you.

I will say let the man pursue, let him pursue you. If he doesn't pursue, he doesn't want you bad enough. He can only feel love if he is doing the work. He will lose interest very quickly with you pursuing him. Men like to work. I will tell you whether a Cancer man wants to admit it or not, he will be more happy with you pursuing you. You will keep him from being lazy in the relationship. Keep him on his job. Let him pursue.

I meant quite enough to listen to them without interuption. They love a quite woman who will nod her head with agreement because this makes him feel understood.