cancer and scorp

i once dated a scorpio and he was very abusive to me.. It was almost like he had two different personalities on one side he was confident,very sweet,loyal,and charming on the other abusive both physically and emotionally, secretive and very weird.. I got out of the relationship right after he smacked me i wasnt gonna give that a chance but i was wondering if anyone else had that problem..

on the good days we had a great time and understood eachother 100% i was the only one who knew what he was thinking before he told me but on the bad days it was really bad..

Im now dating a cancer and he is much kinder and light hearted .. i have an amazing time with him (im also a cancer)and if things get tough we deal with it.

Well I Cancer who was involved with a Scorpio...I would say his on again off again behavior was abousive..but not physical.,,and I love him like I have no other and in a way that I can't explain..s*ghhh........I feel like he is so transparent in a way that I can only see,,

I, a Cancer, have been with my Scorpio for 4 yrs. Softy...you're so right.

"I feel like he is so transparent in a way that I can only see,,"

It's a bit odd. He can really come off like the macho, arrogant type. Maybe even a tad selfish. I sometimes find myself wondering what others may think of certain behaviors, etc. (not that it matters what they think in the first place) But, my point is that there is something about him that only I can see right through. I understand who he really is, I guess. But, I'll tell you what, if I didn't...I'd go CRAZY trying to figure it all out with him. The mystery isn't my favorite.

acp - I can relate to the two different personalities (not physical, but emotional), but thankfully you got out of it. It is not always easy trying to figure out what page he is on from one day to the next. I'd say in a nutshell, a Scorpio man requires a GREAT deal of patience and optimism.

On the other hand, I am not always very predictable either. I have that typical Cancer moodniess about me that I'm sure isn't all that thrilling to him either. But, at least, our Cancer moods are somewhat "soft" if that makes sense. Theirs can be so harsh. Or maybe as super sensitive Cancer, I just take everything as harsh. LOL

Thank you,,,I think I dress well and look good,,,(:

Awwww Thanks KRIS!

Softy...>

Recently stopped seeing a Scorpio. He wasn't abusive, except for the fact that he changed his mind so suddenly and I ended up hurt and bewildered, wondering what went wrong and how it's even possible to turn off your feelings like that. So I agree it's a kind of emotional abuse. He seemed really controlling (we dated less than two months), so much so that one of my friends asked me if I thought he might be a hitter...which kind of scared me. I don't think he is, and while I'm still sad that it ended so abruptly like that, I realize that in the long run maybe I'm better off. I don't need a guy who can change his mind overnight...we Cancers are too sensitive for that...I let him in, and he hurt me...

Has anyone had a good experience with a Scorpio after a falling out like that? Like where he freaked out but eventually calmed down and maybe even apologized? This one isn't coming back--it has been too long--but now I fear dating a Scorpio ever again because I don't want to get hurt like this again...I really thought we had something...

The changing his mind thing is by far the worst part. I have actually asked my scorp how it's possible for him to "turn his feelings off" before. Over the last couple fo years, I just started to see that it wasn't that he was turning his feelings off, but rather jut needing time to himself sometimes. (usually at the wrobg times, too)

As a painfully sensitive Cancer, that hurt me, time and time again. It took too many fights for us to understand how it really affected us.

So yes, I have had a good experience after a fall out. Lots of them, after fights that I thought were ending things. So, you never know. But, I would definetly put on your "thicker" skin. You'll need it! What is your rising sign?

Take a look at what Emeraldgem explains on the scorpio board. Go the topib below, nobody can explain it any better. It's perfect.

"Surviving (and thriving) with a scorpion"

Wow, that's a great thread...wish I'd read all that while I was dating that Scorpio. 🙂

He hasn't contacted me at all in a month now, so I don't think it's a matter of time. I think he's done. Wish I understood what happened because I thought we were getting along so well--and he seemed to like me soooo much. We had a fight and didn't see each other for five days, but then when we got together again, he seemed really happy to see me and told me he missed me and said he may have reacted too harshly...but then that was it. Then he ended things again a few days later. It really puzzles me. But now that it has been a month, it seems final.

Anyway, now I know in case I ever meet another Scorpio! I'm not sure what my rising sign is--how do I figure that out?

you can figure out your rising by where you live, tell me and maybe i can help 🙂

btw, Scorpios are big fuckin jerks lately. I'm not happy with them, they give me a bad name. Whoever just picks up and leaves like that deserves a 44 caliber....anyway....yea let me know the state and the longitude tells you where your rising is.

Yep, Scorpius is right. You need the city and exact time you were born. If you don't have the exact time, you will not get an accurate rising, but you will be able to get the placement of the planets(almost always).

And Scorpius....YOU HIT IT DEAD ON....Scorpios have been big fuckin' jerks lately! What gives?!?! Although...you're being pretty fair, I like it (and appreciate it, too!)

OK, I was born in Kansas City, Missouri, at 8:20 p.m. Do you know what my rising sign is then? And what exactly does that mean, anyway?

Can't believe I'm getting so into all this...but I've never met someone who matched his sign as much as this Scorpio did, so I'm totally curious now...

cancerchic, when is your birthday?