Cancer/Aries

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by ZenBear on Sunday, August 26, 2012 and has 16 replies.
I've seen this pop up a couple times in threads recently, but never read anything about it on astrology sites. I've read up on Aries a little, and have a general idea of who they are.
Is it perhaps the inherent honesty in everything Aries do? The complete lack of hidden agendas in an Aries very innocent and upfront mindset?
From what little I've read, I think I could fall for an Aries. Someone with the drive to pursue her passions, and to sweep up those around her with her energy and enthusiasm. Someone who is so genuine and honest that I never have to doubt their motives, or how they feel about me. The "selfish" attitudes could become a problem, though I hope a mature Aries would be self-aware enough to take care of that problem herself.
I may be wrong about these people; I only know one Aries, and only so well (he's VERY quiet, so it's hard to get to know him). Still, if they're anything like they're advertised, I'm interested in getting to know a nice Aries woman! smile
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@xxnightbynight:
Will you marry me? lol jk
Seriously though, you Aries Sun/Scorpio Moon peeps sound amazing!
I've always been into older women; 2 best relationships were with a 23 & 26 year old when I was 19. Tongue Finding an older Aries/Scorp who is into younger men sounds fitting!
Check this out and let me know if you think it describes you:
http://universal-tao-eproducts.com/mp/files/sun-moon_aries-scorpio.pdf
@LeoVirgoGirl
OMFG YOUR KITTIE IS SO CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@All:
So would Cancer/Scorpio be compatible with Aries/Scorpio or would the two Scorp signs but heads too much on dominance?
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Zen, from my experience with a cancer sun/scorpio moon who's other placements are similar to yours, mercury in leo, venus in virgo and mars in capricorn. Our energy levels and fun factor definitely matched considerably. Things were always exciting and new for the both of us.
Essentially, though, what had me attracted to him also caused the self-combustion of the relationship. Him and I both had a huge drive to 'one-up' everything, he brought this into the relationship, and continued to excessively out do me in everything. I could never understand why he had such intent to 'put me in my place' in that way. For me, it is an awesome dynamic to have a partner that carries himself so well, but not so much to steal the limelight from his partner.
Maybe it is my scorpio ascendant, maybe it's my other aries placements. Looking back, he would be one I'd say was husband material. None of us are perfect, but that is one aspect I could not over look.

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Cancer and Aries as a friend can do really well but as a lover, I would say a BIG No, No. I am quite an Aries in my ways and let me tell you my experience.
1.He was very slow to my pace.
2. Aries are all about having fun and good time. They take things very lightly and like uncomplicated things and people. I saw that he was all about feelings. His world was revolving around romance. Aries are not good about talking feelings. It makes them feel that they are weak. I personally hate the poor me feeling and never want to admit and accept it even when the days are rough.
3. Aries are honest and spontaneous people with VERY thick skin. They don't mean to offend you when they say things. They would not mind when someone says the exact same thing to them but they are a bit too much for Cancer. Frankly, every other day I was apologizing to him because I said something which made him disappear. At the end, I was so careful that I can barely talk. It was so hard for me not to speak my mind. Just as you want to find someone whom you can share your feelings with, they want to find someone they can say whatever they have on their mind.
4. It's hard for Aries to understand cancer's mood swings. I felt that even though I was always there when he needed me but when I needed him, he was hardly ever there.
5. Slight things made him VERY depressed and sad, whereas I have a mentality of lets not even think or talk about it. Lets go have some fun. I felt like someone sucked all my energy. Aries are quick to move on. Cancer are slow.
6. In short, Aries are all about fun and Cancer is all about feelings. They might do fine short term but eventually they would know that they want different things from life.
7. I have an Aquarius friend and I can't even tell you whenever we two talk, we laugh so much and we are always in a good mood when we are done talking. I just cant compare it to anything.
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Another very important thing that I forgot to mention. Aries have a really BIG ego. There are times when he does this disappearing act on me because of something, deep inside I took that as an insult and somewhere inside I am accumulating these feelings only to return them to him at some appropriate timing just to hurt him so that he can feel what he does to others. That's a bit Aries and Scorpio thing about me that I remember all the bad things he ever does to me(intentionally/unintentionally) and then return the favor to him whenever I get a chance.
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Posted by sanoritaaaa
Cancer and Aries as a friend can do really well but as a lover, I would say a BIG No, No.


I can understand this. I am a Cancer + Aries(Moon, Mars) and I'm a cusper.
I love Aries people in general, for many of the reasons listed already. I think it really does depend on the synastry between the two people. I have 3 amazing Aries friends who I was instantly drawn too. 1) Aries/Pisces cusp 2) Aries/Taurus cusp 3) Aries sun /Cancer Moon. I was never romantically attracted to any of them.
I once had an Aries co-worker. Ascendent in Scorpio and Moon in Libra. Talk about a disaster! The negative qualities of the 3 signs just seemed to stand out in this person. The Ego(scorpio) came first triggering the selfishness of the Aries sun, that then triggered the drama seeking insecurities of the Libra Moon.
So ya... you never really know
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Posted by Lady Aries
Zen, from my experience with a cancer sun/scorpio moon who's other placements are similar to yours, mercury in leo, venus in virgo and mars in capricorn. Our energy levels and fun factor definitely matched considerably. Things were always exciting and new for the both of us.
Essentially, though, what had me attracted to him also caused the self-combustion of the relationship. Him and I both had a huge drive to 'one-up' everything, he brought this into the relationship, and continued to excessively out do me in everything. I could never understand why he had such intent to 'put me in my place' in that way. For me, it is an awesome dynamic to have a partner that carries himself so well, but not so much to steal the limelight from his partner.
Maybe it is my scorpio ascendant, maybe it's my other aries placements. Looking back, he would be one I'd say was husband material. None of us are perfect, but that is one aspect I could not over look.




I don't think I'd have that problem. I never really try to 1-up people; quite the opposite I try to encourage the people around me to excel. It's part of what makes me love teaching, I get to see others grow into their potential in ways they never knew they could. I HATE it when people 1-up me though. A few friends, any time I tell them about something that's bothering me, will instantly go into how they've been through something very similar but SO much worse... GAH!!! It's like I'm not allowed to EVER be unhappy because someone else has ALWAYS gone through worse and I should quit bitching...
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Posted by xxnightbynight
@ZenBear, That does sound like me... I have been blessed to have recently opened myself up to a few relationships that have helped me begin to understand myself a bit more. - I realized how selfish I was coming off when at the end of the day I would only worry about what these men were bringing into MY life instead of what I could bring into their's as well as mine. - After meeting a very special scorpio... I was able to understand in depth how he viewed things... and in time I was able to begin to understand the cancer who has broken my heart on several occasions... but now I can be more assertive which was something I lacked before meeting the both of them. - Now they've helped me to understand there is more to life than FIGHTING to get to where you want to be. Agression isn't always the answer... and sometimes... slow and steady really does win the race. - And in order to get there... we have to take our time and smell every rose, and enjoy every note of music being played... otherwise things become sloppy and the outcome is never right. (Am I making ANY sense here??!!)
Anyway... I have a question for cancer men: When you're sleeping with a woman... Do you look into her eyes? What if it's just some random girl, or a 1 night stand? - Is 1 night stand in your vocabulary? - I'm just curious.


I think I get what you're saying. The big issue I see with the Aries/Cancer combo is the difference in positive/negative focus. Aries seem very positive and happy all the time, whereas Cancers get moody and depressed on a regular basis. If the Aries is patient enough, and the Cancer strong enough, it could be great for getting the Cancer to be a happier person in general. Then the Aries gets out of it someone who can look out for them, protect them when they overextend themselves, and help guide them through their own feelings where normally they'd try to ignore them.
The aggression and assertiveness would be a huge turn on for me, I think. I'm shy, don't open up easily, so I don't like women who have the attitude of "sit back and let them chase me." I LOVE it when the woman makes moves on me. Partly ego-boost, mostly comforting that I don't have to "game" her (I suck at game Tongue).
To answer your questions: Yes I look her in the eyes, assuming our position allows (hell even doggy, she'll turn her head around lol). Even 1 night stands (in theory, only e
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(in theory, only ever had 1), I still do. I tend to look people in the eye all the time though, so I don't even think about it.
For the Scorp/Scorp part: Control issues... I suppose. I don't try to control the woman I'm with, but I do get clingy. I might want to accompany her around the bar/club/whatever. Not the bathroom though, that's private time lol. Comes more from my Cancer sun. Scorp moon might make me jealous if she starts chatting dudes up when I'm not with her, so that's a no-no.
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It's funny, I can be really good at lying but I hate doing it. I have a good poker face, and since I'm almost always so honest about everything, I know how to SOUND really genuine.
That being said, my default setting is the full truth every time. Gets me in trouble every now and again, but I believe it to be the best way to live.
Waters signs are all capable of manipulating others, its very true. Tbh, most times we don't mean it as "manipulating" so much as, "I feel terrible about this and I want you to understand that feeling, so now I'm gonna do stuff to get you to feel it too." I've never manipulated anyone to get what I want, but I am guilty of withdrawing/acting cold when someone close hurts me, so that they'll feel hurt at my distance. I suppose that's emotional manipulation too?
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Posted by xxnightbynight
Do you believe in past lives, ZenBear? I just did a past life regression through youtube and I was astonished. - So get this: I was 20 year old girl in Athens, Greece... my name was Salina and I was with my brother... I was a huntress, and a thief. - (now known as a hustler haha) - What I learned from that lifetime: The need to fend for myself at all times... and not to trust anybody, but myself. - The love I had for my brother was strong too.. I wonder who he is now? - hmmm... anyway... so I looked up the name Salina online and the name is of Greek origin. - Salina/Celena/Selene - it means "the moon" !!! - ok so it gets weirder: The name is identified with the Greek goddess, Artemis. She was a huntress... she carried a bow and arrow. In my regression, I had a bow and arrow. Obvi I wasn't a greek goddess, but I suppose I took after the idea of her. - Or wanted to be like her. - lol - anyway not sure if you believe in that stuff but if you do, you should look into doing a past life regression therapy session... It could answer things that have been troubling you in this lifetime! -
Aaaand I'm done.
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You're making sense, yes. The thing about Cancers, and all Water signs for that matter, is that we are powered by EMOTION. Emotion is inherently irrational. It's subconscious, and defies all logic. It's what makes us so difficult to understand, for ourselves and others. So don't blame yourself for having difficulty describing it; it's difficult for everyone.
There are a lot of interesting things I want to talk about in your post, but I can't really go into it now... I'm a bit drunk (Tongue), and perhaps it would be better discussed via private messaging. So I'll ask you later!
@ Past lives comment: Never looked into it myself. My Scorpio woman (dirt off shoulda thread) believes in occult stuff, Wicca and all that. I'm completely insensitive to it. I've never had a paranormal experience; she once showed me a tapestry she bought that she claims in haunted, friends of hers will freak the fuck out when they see it... I don't feel a damn thing.
Past lives... I'm open to the idea but not sold on it. Again, never looked into it, but I'm down to try. Send me the link to that youtube thing and I'll get to it when I can!
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SHIT! Quotation fail... Tongue
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I'm a pisces sun/aries moon.. so I can be subtle/blunt delicate/strong. Totally emphatic, sympathetic. My happy go lucky mood can nose dive if someone I care about is down.. but I try to bring them out of it if I can. I embrace the Cancer clingyness and give lots of attention.. unless I don't like you, then pfffft. lol
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I (an Aries women) have been in a relationship with a cancer for over a year. We have moved in together and are in a pretty serious relationship at this point. We spend a lot of time together, 24-7 for several months when both of us were unemployed and just going to college online.
I have to say that I am addicted to my Cancer. He is my rock. I can trust him. He is so assuring that he will always be there for me and I never have to worry about him suddenly leaving me. I just don't have to worry about that, and it's so nice. I also love that I can obsess over him. Like when we first dated, I was at his house whenever possible, or texting him, etc. Most guys that I chased off didn't like that obsession lol thought it was creepy. But he loved it. He knows that my focus bounces around, and basks in it when it's on him.
The worst parts of the relationship, for me, is the negativity. Whenever I have a new idea or dream, it's almost always instantly "no that won't work for this reason or this reason or this reason". It can be really stifling sometimes, especially since I love to talk about my dreams. However, this does get better for dreams I pursue. As I get more successful with something I pursue, the more he's likely to support it. Before then it isn't realistic to him and I understand that; but it's still hard for me.
I'm also an extremely honest person, but a lot of the time he doesn't believe me when I'm telling the truth. That's also something we have to work on.
He does manipulate me with his emotions. Our only real fights have been centered around them (we've had maybe three real fights). Fortunately, he talks to me about it. Most of the time I think he's just trying to make me feel bad, but I don't understand the root cause of that. As soon as he explains it to me our fight almost instantly stops. It's almost always centered around him not getting enough attention from me.
Our relationship always goes in ups and downs. But the ups are always longer then the downs. And they are amazing. The amount of love I feel for him when our relationship is "up" is indescribable. Our relationship is a constant challenge, but that's in both our bloods. It's worth it! *but this is just us, your experience may vary LOL
Feel free to ask me questions if desired Tongue
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I have Aries Sun. 33% of my chart is Fire and 25% is Water. I'm very emotional and sensitive. My crab has Cancer Sun. His chart is 58% air and only 17% water. He is also very emotional and sensitive but also very impatient and impulsive. He often acts before he thinks. This is one of our biggest obstacles. We both have Moon in Virgo.
The fact that we're both really emotional and sensitive can be both an obstacle and a strength. An obstacle because we both get our feelings hurt too easily. A strength because we feel genuine empathy when the other is hurt - and remorse if one of us is the cause of the other one's pain - with a strong desire to immediately rectify the situation. We both need a lot of attention but we're quite good and providing that for each other.
Like others mentioned, the negativity and pessimism also create some obstacles. I often tell him that he is tainting my positive aura, lol.
Our strong points include: we're both super affectionate, we're loyal to each other, we communicate well, we support each other, we admire each others' strengths, we show pride in each others' accomplishments, we support each others' dreams, we show each other gratitude.
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I have been attracting Aries men like magnets lately, which I adore them. I realize there is more to compatibility than just Sun signs, but it heavies my heart that as sun signs we're not supposed to be a match!! Booooo! I can handle their 'everything about me' attitude, because really it isn't always about them. Ya just have to get to know them, they are lover bunnies smile
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