Cancer best friend hurting me

My female cancer best friend (who i love to pieces) has these times when she goes all cold on me for no reason and ignores me for a while. It always takes me to patch things up. She has real trouble admitting she's ever wrong about anything. Any advice on how to deal with this without hurting her (glass) emotions?

Geez! It seems to be a pattern around here. There are alot of dxpers having troubles with friendships. What's the deal?

London... You say you are always the one to patch things up even if you don't know what you did wrong? *sigh* Been there. I feel for you. My advice is to let her sulk and to step back and put this friendship into perspective. Would a true friend really do this to you or make you feel this way? It sounds like a one sided friendship to me. Only when it's on her terms.
I can tell you from experience it's not going to get better unless you address the issue with her or just let her sulk and back off from the friendship. If you are really doing something to hurt her she, as a friend, should feel comfortable enough to tell you ... "hey you hurt me by doing/saying...." She can't and shouldn't expect you to read her mind. Therefore IMO she's being overly dramatic/sensitive and punishing you for it. That's not fair and that certainly doesn't sound like something a "friend" would do.
I really wouldn't worry about HER glass feelings as she isn't even considering how she is making YOU feel by her actions.

Sorry if I come across as ranting. I've recently "broken up" with a "friend" and it got WAY out of hand. I've been burnt in the friendship department 😛
But really you should speak up and stand up for yourself.

''Any advice on how to deal with this without hurting her (glass) emotions?''

She doesn't care about your feelings so why you care about hers. Don't be a mug.

Ive known Cancer woman to be far more selfish - only caring for their own needs. If it came down to it - she will put herself first.

If your relationship with her doesnt improve, find yourself worthy, good natured friends.

Hi london libra you look so much addicted to cancer .libra rarely does go with cancer .i am also a cancer and liked 4 libra girls till now but never dated a single due to incompatibility phobia.what is the astrology behind the attraction betweenthese two?

lou.m - thanks so much for your advice. i think i am going to call her and tell her how she sometimes makes me feel. i think you're right that it is childishness and moodiness on her part.

gingerscorp - you're right, i should stand up for myself. none of my other friends can stand up for themselves with this girl either because she makes you feel like the cruellest bitch in the world if you ever confront her. she always paints herself as the innocent, it's really hard to deal with. thanks for the advice!

scorpion sting - thanks, i think you're right, i'm being too nice!

lovelibra - you're very right, cancers and libras are often drawn towards one another. this is because they are both cardinal signs so the attraction is very strong. other cardinal signs are capricorn and aries. these 4 signs are often drawn together. my two best friends are cancer and capricorn and my crush is a cancer too! i also have scorpio rising and scorpio and cancer are one of the strongest matches in the zodiac. i think this contributes to it a bit.

libra women and cancer men seem to mesh pretty well together. libra girl loves cancer boy's soft, sensitive, romantic nature and cancer boy loves libra girl's femininity and grace. it's a strong and unique attraction.
don't be put off by so-called incompatiblity! remember that sun signs are only a part of it, you need to take the whole chart into consideration. where are these libra ladies' moons, venuses and mars? these are also important factors.
go for it with your libra girl!

Hi london libra how to know the particular libra has heavy water influences ?since i do not know much about the stuffs of astrology i need to know by some of their behaviour and characteristics .

London Libra,

She's going to blow you off sooner or later.

This happened to me with a Cancer friend. She'd go all cold on me, and our kids couldn't play together. She got some notion I was jealous of her, and doing underhanded things to hurt her. Huh?

Wouldn't even bother patching it up. Whatever you've done (and you must have done something horrendous like coughing when she was speaking, or not remembering her second cousin's address) she won't ever forgive you for it.

Move on.

maybe u did something to trigger to act cold because when my friends does things i don't like or that is offensive to me i tend to act cold and call,text, nothing.

My cancer friend requires a LOT of space and withdraws frequently. The first few times he did it I took it personally as I found it very confusing (okay one day, disappear the next).

We talked about it and he explained that he can only deal with so much in his life at one time and, given he had a lot of emotional things to deal with when he was most active in his withdrawal stage, after listening to him I could understand that he wasn't doing it as a personal slight. He was getting away from everyone.

He didn't see the impact of his withdrawal and I explained it to him, he was quite shocked. He still does it but when he goes quite now (and he still does frequently) I leave him alone for a few days and flick him a text with something light hearted. He ALWAYS responds. It's almost as if he feels he's made some sort of animosity- style mistake and he waits to hear from me, which is an indication I'm okay with his silence. And I am for the most part, it's just who he is and what he does. No amount of chasing him to come back out will work.

It does come across as coldness but I don't think it actually is. He also has a problem with critisiscm but I'll still call him an idiot if he's being one and after a sulk, he'll usually admit he was being an idiot. "sorry" is not a word he uses often and yes, when he's in withdrawal, it IS all about him. Just as it's all about me hen I'm having a hard time.

Space, lots of it/ Everyone has their own way of dealing with things and hers may be silence.