Cancer bff

Ok so I've been best friends with this girl for 11 years. Sometimes we butt heads but majority of the time we have the most fun together! I feel like she is definitely my long lost twin.

However there is one thing I noticed about her that bothers me and it's her not showing empathy towards me on my personal issues

See me I understand she's emotional so when she goes through her moments with her bf, or family I'm always there in a blink of an eye. Listen to her, comfort her, give her advice I'd want someone to tell me, and always make her forget about the situation. But with me whole different ballpark. I'm not the most vernuable person. I don't enjoy crying as much as she does and don't express my feelings but when I do know that it's a real and I need someone to vent to

The few times I have vented to her about how I was unhappy with life and my relationships. And every time I expressed myself to her she doesn't say anything. No advice. no comfort. I mean the most she's ever said was "that's fucked up, wow can't believe that" . Like wow how sweet. I've expressed to her like it's hurtful when you don't say shit about personal issues I go through like I'm not asking for a pity party but I'm asking for encouraging words from my "best friend" wtf. And her defense is I don't know what to say or how to react.

So my question is are all you cancers like this?! The most emotional zodiac sign but doesn't know how to react or console their loved ones feelings? Doesn't make sense.

She gets really defensive fast and I hate arguing. That one time I brought it up to her it has never been brought up again. But my thing is I shouldn't have to hide certain emotions from my best friend because she doesn't know what to say.

Wow of course they censor the curse words sorry

id say she probably does not know how to respond as she said. cancers feel very deeply, not just their emotions but yours. its possible she absorbs your emotions and feels them as if they were her own. I agree with what someone else above said which was to express in detail how it makes you feel when something is bothering you instead of just explaining what happened.what happened may be something that bothers you for reasons others may not understand fully because they have not worn your shoes. certain events impact people differently. although it may be an uncomfortable conversation id try and tell your best friend what you need to hear....example:

you: " im upset about x,y,z...it made me feel a,b,c because d,e,f "

friend: " im sorry...sympathizing words..."

you: " i just need to hear....1,2,3....and 4,5,6 "

i hope this helps

I honestly think it’s just because she don’t know what to say even though she feels it. There are time where I am the same too. I don’t know how to responds. And it pisses my friends off. I think you should talk to her about it or else she wouldn’t know.