Cancer boyfriend still inlove with ex?

Hello, I'm new here and I've been with my b/f for 2 years now. He is 5 yrs older than me, he is 28 and I'm 23. we've never talked about past relationships but he did tell me before we got together that his last relationship was 4 years and he was single for 3 years and then we got together. I know he loves me and cares about me but I just can't stop thinking that maybe he is still INLOVE with her because on his myspace he has this love quote and it seems like to me it is about her breaking his heart. I mean I never really paid attention to his myspace before but it's been 2 years now and it is still there and he just added something new ?months turn into years and the memory of you forever remains lost in time? i'm not too sure what to think. I mean I love this man and I know he does care about me but it just hurts to think that maybe he still has that strong feelings for this person. Its just hard to explain but maybe I am being irrational about this. Do cancer move on?

I need to see the actual Myspace page or at least the full poem or whatever it is.

i don't think you're being irrational. i think that in general people who have been in love, hard, and have been hurt don't move on easily, especially if you spent 4 years of your life with that person. it's very possible and reasonable that he could still have feelings for her, or at least a longing for something that ended. not to make you worry or anthing. people often long for the things they don't have anymore. apparently, cancers are supposed to be experts at this.
does he have contact with her?

No he doesn't have contact with her.. he did tell me once out of the blue that he cares about me the most, we were talking about something in that area and he just said that out of nowhere... i only heard that once though.lol he isn't the type to say his feelings much,he just kind of show it.

I also have another question about cancer man. When they get upset about something, how can you make them feel better. He just stays quiet and nasty and i know he is mad at something and he said he isn't mad about anything but he's cranky when something is bothering him. i hate when he's mad cuz he isn't the sweet person that i know.

What Starsign are you?

''When they get upset about something, how can you make them feel better. He just stays quiet and nasty and i know he is mad at something and he said he isn't mad about anything but he's cranky when something is bothering him. i hate when he's mad cuz he isn't the sweet person that i know.''

He is being a typical Cancerian here. Obviously something is bothering him and hes not very good at hiding his emotions. Be Direct with him because he wont say it unless you coax him out of his shell. Be Direct but tactful at the same time. It will show him that you CARE and want to know what is bothering him.

The Cancer male in my life does this and Im just blunt with him and ask him straight out whats bothering him. He secretly likes it when I SHOW him that I care about his feelings/moods.

The worse thing you can do is just leave him alone (UNLESS he wants to be left alone).

Use your feminine charm and coax him!

i'm a leo.. i'm usually patient with him cuz i'm just learning to pick up on his moods but sometimes i'm not really good at it. lol we do have communication problems sometimes cuz he's stubborn and moody but anywayz i am direct and asked him about something i thought i did wrong but he said no and still asked him if he is still mad at me cuz i told him i hate when he is upset. he said nothing is bothering him but i could tell on his voice when we speak on the phone if he is upset w/ me.. so should i just let it go... and let him come to me? he's so complicated.. lol

Jbella, with my brother when he really wants to talk about something...if i ask directly (of course it'll be more than once) usually he opens up but he only started doing that when I stopped flying off the handle and wanting to solve all his problems...when he really don't want to talk about his problems I found that he won't...not until he's retreated and had time to think and now have a solution....

Word of advice, as frustrating as they may make you, in the future never tell 'em that you hate him...they are very sensitive and that hurts them to their heart and is never forgotten...even if it's only said in the heat of the moment...

Moodiness is part of their character, so saying that you "hate him" when he's just being himself, may be why he's not opening up to you ...he may feel like you can't handle it...I'm speculating ...I'm no expert...and I can understand that you're learning his ways so you'll make some mistakes, but i suggest to read some of the forums in here, ask some of these Cancer dudes, cause they are very helpful... It'll get better...

Thanks scrp1106 for the advice but one thing.. i think you misread what i wrote.. i didn't say that i hate him. i wrote i hate it when he is upset. i don't hate him, i've never said that to him. i hate the fact that he is upset. hopefully he'd return to his usual self.

Oh okay...sorry... as long as you don't say it the way I thought you'd be fine...

thanks, i will see if he is back to his usual self if not i will try and talk to him. i will keep you updated. lol

JBella,

This is one of the BIGGEST miscommunications about the Cancer/Leo combo. I know you love your Cancer man and he is aware of your love for him, however, it may be wise not to get yourself wrapped up in his moods. His moods belong to him and should not make you unhappy because he is not happy. He is just being HIM, a Cancerian man who is very moody but don't let his moods affect you. Eventually being so wrapped up into him and his moods will turn him off. You shouldn't take his moods personally at all, just distance yourself and find something else more fullfilling for YOU to do at that moment.

No, don't leave him alone. He may be in one mood one moment and in another mood the next and if he does not want to be bothered with you he will simply let you know indirectly of course. He will not answer his phone or call or text you back but he will at his own pace which is usually in a day or so.

I know I did take the Cancer man I was dealing with moods personally and distanced myself completely right out of his life and he even TOLD me not to take his moods personally. He moods can get very scary but he will tell you to quit worrying about him and not to take his moods personally. His last mood pushed me right out the door so don't let that happen to you if you really love him.