Cancer Breakup
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by juliesgarcia on Wednesday, March 20, 2013 and has 9 replies.
Hi everyone.
I've been with this cancer guy (moon Scorpio, Leo ascendant) for a few years now, and we get along great. We have huge history, his family is like my family, we have a godson and a dog together.. We do not live together yet, but I see marriage in our future, for sure. He is everything a girl could wish for: financially stable, sweet, intelligent, he cares about me, well, he's a cancer guy, and very happy about his mom, so you get the picture.
BTW, I'm a Cancer myself, moon in Gemini and Virgo ascendant.
But lately I've been having feelings toward this other guy (Cancer again, wtf), and kinda wishing I was single, so I could just be with him. I've had major crushes in random guys before, I guess it's my moon in Gemini that makes me so unstable, but this time I got tired of wanting someone and not having just cause I'm in a relationship where, although everything seems perfectly in place, I ain't happy and satisfied anymore.
Me and my guy hardly have sex, I can't remember what an orgasm is like, but he is my best friend and I care about him, so I never cheated on him. He turned into this great friend and everyday I wish he could find someone and just be madly in love already so we could all move on. But he seems so in love with me, it's scary.
So, I have two questions:
- How to breakup with this Cancer guys and get outta this mess?
- Is it really over or, since I was always afraid of commitment, my crazy Cancer-Gemini-Virgo self is just trying to destroy something just to get out of it?
Shut, I need help.
Please?
I've been with this cancer guy (moon Scorpio, Leo ascendant) for a few years now, and we get along great. We have huge history, his family is like my family, we have a godson and a dog together.. We do not live together yet, but I see marriage in our future, for sure. He is everything a girl could wish for: financially stable, sweet, intelligent, he cares about me, well, he's a cancer guy, and very happy about his mom, so you get the picture.
BTW, I'm a Cancer myself, moon in Gemini and Virgo ascendant.
But lately I've been having feelings toward this other guy (Cancer again, wtf), and kinda wishing I was single, so I could just be with him. I've had major crushes in random guys before, I guess it's my moon in Gemini that makes me so unstable, but this time I got tired of wanting someone and not having just cause I'm in a relationship where, although everything seems perfectly in place, I ain't happy and satisfied anymore.
Me and my guy hardly have sex, I can't remember what an orgasm is like, but he is my best friend and I care about him, so I never cheated on him. He turned into this great friend and everyday I wish he could find someone and just be madly in love already so we could all move on. But he seems so in love with me, it's scary.
So, I have two questions:
- How to breakup with this Cancer guys and get outta this mess?
- Is it really over or, since I was always afraid of commitment, my crazy Cancer-Gemini-Virgo self is just trying to destroy something just to get out of it?
Shut, I need help.
Please?
Hellooo, no insights?
I just want to understand if I'll always be this way (not the first time I would breakup just cause the relationship got boring). It sucks being so moody.
Is it a Cancer thing?
How to breakup with my Cancer man without ripping his heart?
He is going to get mad, isn't he? Cancer plus Scorpio is a dangerous combination.
I just want to understand if I'll always be this way (not the first time I would breakup just cause the relationship got boring). It sucks being so moody.
Is it a Cancer thing?
How to breakup with my Cancer man without ripping his heart?
He is going to get mad, isn't he? Cancer plus Scorpio is a dangerous combination.
Hey, thanks for talking to me. 
Nope, he always iniciate sex, but I never feel like doing it.
Truth is, I think we are so over, so done. I sure am.
But he is still hung up on me, so I know it will break his heart. I just ditched him telling him I was sick, which Im not, so I can be alone tonight.
This other Cancer guy is driving me insane, I'm obssessed with him. It sucks. He lives in the same building i live and I cant stop staring at his windown to see if he is home, what he is doing... It feels like I'm stalking him. Serious, I even started Pilates classes near the place he works.
I never did this kinda stuff before. I'm a pretty normal person. He is driving me nuts.
I hv two questions, how to break up with my current Cancer without him flip out and I wanna know if its a Gemini thing or its a Cancer thing to get this obssessed with someone, outta the blue.
Nope, he always iniciate sex, but I never feel like doing it.
Truth is, I think we are so over, so done. I sure am.
But he is still hung up on me, so I know it will break his heart. I just ditched him telling him I was sick, which Im not, so I can be alone tonight.
This other Cancer guy is driving me insane, I'm obssessed with him. It sucks. He lives in the same building i live and I cant stop staring at his windown to see if he is home, what he is doing... It feels like I'm stalking him. Serious, I even started Pilates classes near the place he works.
I never did this kinda stuff before. I'm a pretty normal person. He is driving me nuts.
I hv two questions, how to break up with my current Cancer without him flip out and I wanna know if its a Gemini thing or its a Cancer thing to get this obssessed with someone, outta the blue.
Monologue, again. But anyways!
I did it, run upstairs and made out the whole afternoon with the other Cancer guy, the one I'm obssessed with.
Oooommmyyygoood, it was soooo good.
Havent felt this way in years.
Now, more than ever, I need to breakup with my Cancer BF, an easy breakup. Not because I wanna be whit this other guy, but just cause it doesnt feel ok cheating on my BF.
Any insights?
How do I make this easy on him? Cant tell the Cancer that Im in love with someone else, he is going to flip out.
I did it, run upstairs and made out the whole afternoon with the other Cancer guy, the one I'm obssessed with.
Oooommmyyygoood, it was soooo good.
Havent felt this way in years.
Now, more than ever, I need to breakup with my Cancer BF, an easy breakup. Not because I wanna be whit this other guy, but just cause it doesnt feel ok cheating on my BF.
Any insights?
How do I make this easy on him? Cant tell the Cancer that Im in love with someone else, he is going to flip out.
ok... I'll bite
You're an emotionally selfish bitch who wants an easy out of her relationship. So, instead of being mature about it and ending your current relationship, you cheated on your bf as an "out"
Now you want to pretend to be concerned about his feelings... when actually all you want is to avoid confrontation and have someone validate your fickle behavior.
Your question is more, "How can I make this easier on myself.. so I don't have to take accountability for my actions/emotions."
It's not a Cancer thing... you just suck
You're bf is a Cancer Sun/Scorp Moon? I'm sure he'll get even with you but you'll probably like the drama
You're an emotionally selfish bitch who wants an easy out of her relationship. So, instead of being mature about it and ending your current relationship, you cheated on your bf as an "out"
Now you want to pretend to be concerned about his feelings... when actually all you want is to avoid confrontation and have someone validate your fickle behavior.
Your question is more, "How can I make this easier on myself.. so I don't have to take accountability for my actions/emotions."
It's not a Cancer thing... you just suck
You're bf is a Cancer Sun/Scorp Moon? I'm sure he'll get even with you but you'll probably like the drama
Posted by shellshocker
ok... I'll bite
You're an emotionally selfish bitch who wants an easy out of her relationship. So, instead of being mature about it and ending your current relationship, you cheated on your bf as an "out"
Now you want to pretend to be concerned about his feelings... when actually all you want is to avoid confrontation and have someone validate your fickle behavior.
Your question is more, "How can I make this easier on myself.. so I don't have to take accountability for my actions/emotions."
It's not a Cancer thing... you just suck
You're bf is a Cancer Sun/Scorp Moon? I'm sure he'll get even with you but you'll probably like the drama
+1.
Karma is a Bitch is all I can say!!
thanks, I probably needed to hear that.
U so gonna regret this. Cheat! :/ damn u for doing that crap to a cancer.
Julies Garcia.. just tell your bf you dont want to be with him anymore. I relate with you bcs I am also a Cancer dating a Cancer guy. I felt like breaking up with him many times because even though I love him to death but I am not happy... Sex has been almost gone for almost a year, I was always too available for him and he often took me fro granted, he can also become clingy and then tell me I am being his shadow (wtf?) If you ever dated a cancer you know they tend to act like women... so yeah..So after many attempts to make things better I broke up with him and he hasnt called in weeks. Obviously he is hurt and also too proud to agree with me over the things he did wrong in our relationship... but if you just give him the list of reasons why you are not happy he will keep his distance from you. You dont have to do it face to face, since cancers are not good dealing with that. A text message will work. I hope you dont regret doing this if he is as awesome as you describe. Because there is no guarantee this other cancer guy is really into you. Hope you the best!
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